I hope I don't offend anyone by asking this but it is such a nagging question in my mind.
I am a GG and my SO is a CD. I was friends with my SO before we started dating and I really had no idea that he was CDing. Once things started moving from friendship into dating, he opened up to me. Yes it was in small doses and he let me take the lead with when and what I wanted to know.
I am so greatful that he trusted me enough to tell me and it has only brought us closer. My question is, how could ANYONE hide a big part of their lives from someone and expect to have a healthly relationship with their SO?
I asked my SO and the response I got was that a lot of people think by being with a woman and keeping it from them would somehow make it stop. I guess that could be an explanation but I can't believe it is the only one.
Personally, it wouldn't matter if it was something I was hiding or that my partner was hiding, I just don't see how you could ever truely share your life with someone when a big part is missing.
Again, I'm sure there is a good explanation and I'd love to hear your thoughts.