I'm still closeted, and as I consider expanding my feminine world, I'm wondering: who have you come out to? If you're out completely, think of your earlier days (and also that you still might be outing yourself to some people). If you have a circle of confidants, who are they? And of course, there's the question of the SO, the family, the best friends.
I've told: in boarding school, an occasionally intimate (never dressed) gay friend; years ago, a friend with favors (my first time being intimate with somebody when I was in a teddy); fewer years ago, a new girlfriend (never wore women's clothes with her, though); a year or two later, post-girlfriend, a gay male friend (I slept alone in nightie when visiting him while traveling); six years ago, another girlfriend (she freaked out but tried to understand, but it didn't last in part because of my dressing); and about four years ago, current girlfriend now in another town (never wore more than panties with her). Oh, and in college, I did have one line as a female in a one-act student production, but that doesn't count.
Now I'm thinking about telling some classmates, but in this small school, while they'd be supportive (students and administration), it could make things awkward and jeopardize future employment prospects, so I'm thinking about confidentiality and the potential for word to spread. Might be better if Thea kept to herself.