Sal - aww thank you so much, that means a lot. A lot indeed. *big hugs*
Cap - yeah they are real nice people but they certainly didn't get me and are definitely a little pushy (which doesn't gel with some people like me). Hey thanks for all the Cappy hugs mmmm thanks
Kieron - you know me... I'm greedy for everything good... muahaha!
Tristan - awww thank you. Cheers for the lovely hugs too! Mmm Tristanhugs
Zen - thank you. I'm sorry you have this frustration also. But.. you're right... correcting them is probably the way to go! I actually took your advice in an e-mail I replied to him/her. (See next post for that). Thank you *hugs Zen*
Hehe John! thank you
Ms Donna hehe oh yeah hehe don't worry I won't do that! But it does indeed bear repeating. Sometimes it feels like I have to just to shut foolish people that don't "get" it up lol! (But I wouldn't... ... ... I don't think... haha no I wouldnt ).
Oh yes, I can see from your tale that you share the frustration of not being seen right. Awww for that I am sorry... may I offer you a pochug? *hug*
1 good thing is... I think that slowly but surely this world is loosening it's grip on "gender"... so take heart dear Donna.
And thank you for good advice! (Hehe yeah I agree Kieron, twas good).
Hey Joy - yeah it's soo no worth getting upset about, you're right. But... you know... even the most chilled out of us get riled up sometimes hehe. But yes... it's not worth it. Thank you. Btw... brand spanking new you? Sounds nice! I'm glad you are feeling much better these days *hug*
Haha Das yeah I didn't explain that bit too well.
Erm ok well... I wasn't like forced at gun point. But it was in the week when I finally shed my shell of not travelling... and we visited my Mum's new friend (this guy/gal... doesn't mind being either... is my Mum's friend's son/daughter you see). I had spoken to them a few times on msn (again... because mum wanted me to lol). So I wasn't FORCED, but I felt very obligated. Mum just wishing so much I had a nice friend in real life, and (to mum) he/she seemed very intelligent and kind and good looking also and has gender issues.
That was when I was still being pushed around a lot (yes a mere few weeks/month ago). I don't let myself get pushed around like that now.
Anyway, I agreed to go out (as MATES ONLY) for a drink with him/her because s/he kept saying would I go for a drink with him/her and I said I didn't want to ... couldn't we all go out together as 2 families instead? And s/he was like
*pouts* "oooh [female name] won't go for a drink with meeee" in front of everyone and made me feel so mean and everyone - his/her mum especially - was like "Oh go on... " and I made my reasons like "I'm shy... I won't know what to talk about..." and she was like "Oh he can talk for hours... you'll be ok"
So... because I knew it would make my mum happy, and because it was my week for being brave/doing challenges, and 'cos I felt mean, I thought I would.
It was quite fun...we both got to talk about our annoying alcoholic stepdad/dads which we have in common (how our mum's met...) and tough bits of childhood. And joke around about tv shows and stuff. And gender issues which s/he hasn't really been able to be open with much people about before.
But s/he came back to mums and it was fun watching tv and havin a laugh.
But I saw him/her a few more tims that week and his/her texts were getting very intense and really really lovey dovey, when all I wanted was to be friends...
Anyway, then they were all depressed and "thinking death thoughts" because of that and because of their Dad for the next week or so.
So yeah. That was nice lol.
I can tell that this person doesn't quite see the real me either.
And even though I repeatedly tell them that "I'm not a girl" they seem to keep calling me female stuff and comparing me to famous females and using my female name and treating me like they are a man and I am a girl.
And it p*sses me off... 'cos that's not how it is or should be.
(Which shows a lack of respect if you ask me, especially from another transgendered person).
So yeh. I thought it didn't feel quite right, from now on I will trust my instincts a little better. It has actually been a good lesson for me.
*stops waffling*