Club I went to last night in Northampton, MA -
There was a sign, right outside the women's bathroom, and in hindsight I wish I had taken a picture of it, but it goes something along the lines of: 'The owners of this club wish to express our concern for transgendered members of our community [...]' and I'll paraphrase from here to say simply that it would not deny a person's right to be able to use a particular bathroom based on their biological / externally visible gender, however that they ask for respect, courtesy, and understanding for all - ending with something along the lines of 'Behave yourself..'
Since I was with other GGs that night, I turned to them and asked - I heard that there was signs posted IN the women's bathroom about rights of transgenders, etc... and what I basically got from them was - they've almost all, more than once, seen people that they might 'tell' are TG/CDers, and generally treat them with utmost respect and it's returned generally. Previously when I've gone to that bar I've generally used the mens room anyway - just because.. though I sometimes get the stares from the men when I do.. so I decided to bite the bullet and go.. at least two different girls commented on either my hair or my outfit.. even ended up getting hit on by one of them before I walked out!
He he.. but hey, they have drag nights there every other Wednesday, and besides that, I talked to the daughter of one of the head managers.. and she told me if I EVER was given crap for CDing in their place, to just talk to any manager.. and they'd 'take care of it'. I know her father, who I know is gay, and he's not one to take much crap for people being harassed in his establishment.
Just a little happy thought to brighten your day.