Am I out or Not???

[Paula Siemen]

I just had an interesting phone call from my sister in law????

My wife has known of my CD'ing since before we were married. She is tolerant of it, but does not really participate or encourage it much. Occaaionally she will buy me some heels or we will go to Ulta together, but we do not go out with me inf em together, nor do I outwardly dress in front of her. To my knowledge my wife has not told her sister or anyother family members of my CD'ing. Our closet, however, has as much of my (Paula's) clothes obiously stored as my wife has. An overflowing box of bras, another of panties, a separate rack of heels, and quite a few feet of hanging clothes of Paula's. When her sister visits, I usually cover as much of Paula's stuff as possible from view in case her sister should get into our closet as you know GG's like to do.

Anyway to get to the issue. My sister in law has a thing for birthdays where she will call the person on their birthday and sing the Marylin Monroe "Happy Birthday Mr. President" song to them. Well today is my wife's birthday and she is off at work. The phone rings here at home as I'm scanning this web site. I answer it and its the sister-in-law.
She asks.."I want to get my sister something very special for her birthday. Will you do a favor for me?"
I reply, "Maybe?"
She continues, "Will you dress up like Marylin Monroe and go to your sister's workplace and sing Happy Birthday like Marylin? I'm sure she'll get a special treat from that."
I'm breathless?!!!
Does she know or is she just making a joke that is hitting an unknown target?
I reply, "Well, I don't have a blonde wig! It wouldn't be the same." Knowing that I do have several blond wigs and wanting to see where this "gag" is heading.
Anyway, I agree...jokingly that my wife and EVERYONE would certainly get a kick out of that one.
To which she replys, OH, Darn...seemed like a good idea.

Soooooooooooo??????? I would have loved to have done it, but, I'm sure my wife would go balistic and Paula would really be out of the bag...Oh, I gues that's CLOSET.

[DonnaT]

Yea, there could have been big trouble in Big D.

Have you talked about this with your wife? It would be interesting to know how she would have reacted. It would also be interesting to know if she knows whether or not your SIL knows.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Well, if I had the dress, the voice, the figure, the hair, and the face, etc, I would do it !

JoAnne Wheeler

[beenherelongtime]

your sil might suspect and this was a feeler, but i don't think your wife would appreciate it.

[Paula Siemen]

Well I took my wife out to dinner for her birthday last night. She mentioned that her sister had called her and sung the Happy Birthday song (ala Marylin Monroe). My wife then noted that her sister told her about calling me and asking me to dress up like Marylin and go to her work to sing to her. So I asked my wike if her sister was aware that I was a cross dresser?? My wife assured me that she had not told her sister, but may have heard it from her son, my wife's nephew. Her nephew is close in age to our son and they played together anytime they were in the same town.

On one occasion, I noticed that some porn VCR's I had hidden in my personal closet were missing. I pretty well suspected my son of taking them (then about age 13-14). The incident was never discussed until my son and his nephew mentioned a scene in one of the tapes involving a midget!!! I was floored....those little shits had been rumaging through my closet and I'm sure seen Paula's stuff. Again no mention of any of this by anyone.

So back to yesterday evening, it seems that the nephew has probably spilled his beans to his mother about my crossdressing.

I think, that I may just dress up for her when she is next in town just to see her reaction and get this all out in the open. The problem with this is that her husband is a Tom Selec look alike, oil field worker!!! This won't do well in the family! I'm pissed!!!!

At the conclusion of the conversation with my wife on this subject she remarked, "You know being married to you is like being married to an alcoholic."

Happy ****ING BIRTHDAY!!!

[mykhelee]

When daughter #2 was 19 she confronted me about both my crossdressing and the various toys and bondage gear stashed in the master bedroom. She asked if I dressed and did mom dom me. I knew she knew and came clean about it, she didn't really care. She is a wee bit dom like her mom so I think she was just wanting to know she was not abnormal.
When I finally came out to my other three girls about "Khelli" they all said they had known for years.
Unless your stuff is locked and stowed your kids will search through your stuff, it is just something they do.

[Jacky Aikou]

When I came out to my wife before we got engaged I gave her free reign to share the secret with whoever she chose, on 2 conditions: 1) the confidante had to be trustworthy and 2) she had to inform me who the confidante was. I figured that having to hide such a secret would be a big burden for her, and she would want somebody other than me to talk with.

It turns out she confided in her sister down in Houston! So my sister-in-law has known for over a year now, but we haven't spoken openly about anything yet. I have to keep Jacky from my father and grandparents, but if word leaks here and there I guess I'm comfortable with that.

Paula, your nephew may have spilled the beans but try to make the best of the situation. Maybe your SIL isn't totally freaked out by the news and was just trying to feel you out with the Marilyn b-day request. Just try to be yourself around her next time and have fun. :)

[Paula Siemen]

Well.....My wife's sister is coming to visit this weekend. My wife and her sis are very close and as I've previously mentioned, my wife has not shared my CD secret with her sister....although I'm sure that her sister knows?????

Anyway, I'm a bit tire of hiding this as its always an issue when she comes to visit that Paula's things in the closet (an extensive collection of lingerie, dresses, purses and shoes) be descretely cover with "dirty clothes".

I've thought about turning the tables on my wife's sister by just appearing as "Marilyn Monroe" at our house.

I've investigated finding the white, flirty halter dress and a platinum blond wig. Electric Boutiqueactually had the dress and wig as a costume. I went and the let me try it on. The dress being a M/L and me usually wearing a size 18.......well, I looked like 8 pounds in a 5 pound bag. Not a pretty sight and certainly not Marilyn Material. Additionally, if you are faminliar with the dress.....there is really not too much for the imagination and I could not do the top justice. I don't think there is a way to wear a bra with it and I don't have the girls to fill it out. I've found several internet sites that have similar dresses and even up to 1X and 2X which I may yet order and do another time.

So, I'd still like to "Pop outta the Cake", in essence for my wife's sister and just be done with the the secrecy. Also I think it would be fun, but I don't think I have the "boys" to do it.

Its such a bitch not having enough "girls" or "boys" to do the things you want!

Paula,
aka. Marilyn Monroe

[gretchen2]

[QUOTE=Jacky Aikou;1604109]When I came out to my wife before we got engaged I gave her free reign to share the secret with whoever she chose, on 2 conditions: 1) the confidante had to be trustworthy and 2) she had to inform me who the confidante was. I figured that having to hide such a secret would be a big burden for her, and she would want somebody other than me to talk with.

I think this is a good idea Jacky, my poor Fiancée has no one to tell but me. It must be hard on her, though she probably would never say.

[Sammy777]

Coming out to your sis-in-law sounds like a good idea. Seems or sounds like she at least has an idea whether or not your wife told her.

But stupid question time [and just to be clear] ...........
You are going to inform your wife before outing yourself to your sister in law, right?

I think maybe having your wife break the news might go over better then let your sis decide if she wants to see you.

It does sound like she is at least open to the idea and will be just ok with it.
Plus this will take some of the burden off of you telling her.

I think it would go well, just make sure the kids are out for the day, lol. :D

[Paula Siemen]

Thanks girls for the words of encouragement.....a little more liquid courage and it all might just happen.

As I have not been able to come up with the white dress, I don't think Marilyn will make an appearance this weekend...but maybe Paula. My wife and her sister and I are all going out for dinner tonight and I'm trying to think of how to bring up the subject....and have paula invited to make an appearance. I know the girls LOVE martinis and so with a few liquid relaxers, I might just get the subject of Paula out in the oepen.

I'm just getting so tired of the double life and want to get Paula a little more mainstream. Of course with this would be the storey being passed openly to my son and his new wife as well as the SIL's sons and their wifes faster than a "speeding bullet". I just wouldn't want it to get passed up to the parent generations who would freak...and probably die of heart attacks?

[kellycan27]

Sounds pretty risky to me. I always try and encourage people to get out there and strut their stuff, but I'd think long and hard about showing up at the wife's place of employment. Doing so might get you further out than you expected.. LIke out of the closet,out the door and out on the street.
Does you sister in law like you?

[Lee Andrews]

My wife has known of my CD'ing since before we were married. She is tolerant of it, but does not really participate or encourage it much.


Soooooooooooo??????? I would have loved to have done it, but, I'm sure my wife would go balistic and Paula would really be out of the bag...Oh, I gues that's CLOSET.


Just with this two phrases I would clear everything with your wife first. Who knows maybe she has had a change of mind on the subject. Having something like this backfire could prove to be hard on the relationship. I know the keeping it secret from everyone else is a pain but your wife should have some say in it. Whatever you do has an effect on her as well as you.

Good luck with whatever you chose.

[KandisTX]

I do think you should first check with your wife and see how she feels about you coming out to your SIL. If your wife is "tolerant but not encouraging", she may not want you telling the SIL about Paula.

Kandis:love::rose2:

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

it can be done if you have the will to do it. In my case I had a friend help with the makeup. See attached picture.