Confidence and Grace

[MichelleP]

I was in a Barnes and Noble having coffee in drab last Sunday when I noticed a long mane of flowing hair gliding above the book racks. I paused to see a beautiful tgirl casually reading titles. She was at least 5' 13" or 5' 14" and looked as if she was dressed for church in a nice spring, floral-print dress and red pumps. No one paid her the slightest attention except to smile at her (including me) to which, she smiled back. However, I watched her casually from a distance for a few moments more because, to be frank, I was awed. I must admit I had fleeting thoughts to go say hi but, I know to NEVER break that golden rule.

In retrospect, the reason for my interest apart from recogizing a kindred spirit was because of her tremendous grace and confidence. She didn't move from place to place - she flooowed. Her feminine deportment was better than the GG's shlumping around there (not out of place or over-the-top, just better). Her head was up and engaging people, she was well dressed, well put together and she was no doubt having fun.

I've really come to believe that showing confidence and feminine grace when you are out and about are perhaps the two most important assests a girl can possess regardless if you are a TG/TS/CD or GG.

Be happy with yourself. Just glide by and smile like you own the place, honey.

Michelle

[Vicky Perry]

Thank you for shareing this Michelle, the general public can be amazeing sometimes, when I am out in public and if I am haveing a good time and look people in the eye and smile and dont act like I am out of place I hardley ever have a negative experience and most everybody seems friendly and accepting of me.
When I first started going out tho I was timiid and shy and would always look doun or try to blend into a wall I was always getting negative feed back then .

[Karren H]

That's so neat.... I love going to Barnes and Noble enfemme.... seems that more inteligent people... ie:those that read books... appear to be more tollerant, imho....

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Confidence, poise, grace, relaxation are the trick to just being yourself (at least your feminine self)

JoAnne Wheeler

[kristinacd55]

Wow, would have loved seeing that, or have the guts to dress & go to Barnes & Nobles(love to visit there) :)

[Nicki B]

Wow, would have loved seeing that, or have the guts to dress & go to Barnes & Nobles(love to visit there) :)

Perhaps you should set that as your goal... :)

[scarlett]

" 5'13" or 5'14 ""? Do feet now have more than 12 inches?

[Sara Jessica]

" 5'13" or 5'14 ""? Do feet now have more than 12 inches?

C'mon, it's a nice way to say 6'1" or 6'2".

[Denise01]

Confidence and grace, is the biggest asset any one can have when out in the public

Just this afternoon, i was out shopping and for supper.

I have now achieved the point that i am very comfortable out totally femme, and with the several stores and restaurant that i was in I never got as much as a second glance.
In fact at the restaurant, I got Mam from the waitress about a half dozen times, and also a couple of the ladies that were there got chatting to me just the same as they would any other GG.

Makes one feel good.

Denise

[carhill2mn]

Excellent advice for anyone when out in public.

[Jodi]

Can you be 100% sure it was not a gg?

Jodi

[RachelDenise]

It's all about self-acceptance and confidence about who you are. This is exhibit A. It goes a long way to "passing" but it is hard to achieve that frame of mind.

[tamarav]

I know that most of you adhere to the "no contact" rule that you have imposed upon yourselves, but I don't. If I see a TG or TS or CD or even a GG that is gorgeous, I go over to them and compliment them on their attractiveness. Many times it is hair (my weakness) or their makeup or shoes or dress.

Being a hairstylist legitimizes any contact I have with anyone, even complimenting a guy on his obvious haircut.

If worrying about outing anyone is the holdback, would you like someone to come up to you and compliment you? I certainly would and will answer questions from anyone about dress, hair or why I am dressed like I am. But, that is just me...

[Michelia]

I was in a Barnes and Noble having coffee in drab last Sunday when I noticed a long mane of flowing hair gliding above the book racks. I paused to see a beautiful tgirl casually reading titles. She was at least 5' 13" or 5' 14" and looked as if she was dressed for church in a nice spring, floral-print dress and red pumps. No one paid her the slightest attention except to smile at her (including me) to which, she smiled back. However, I watched her casually from a distance for a few moments more because, to be frank, I was awed. I must admit I had fleeting thoughts to go say hi but, I know to NEVER break that golden rule.




Michelle

Sorry of my ignorance and naivete. I would like to know more about this golden rule. I am not conscious of it. I would hate to offend anyone...

I act almost the same when I am out in male or female mode. I might walk differently and that comes naturally if I am wearing heels. Therefore, I use heels all the time. When I try to be more graceful, I feel fake. But if I could pull it off, that would be my preferred style. Just like you say, flowing or floating. I bet that girl was something else.

I did see a GG float like this one day at a store. She was like nymph in a forest or a butterfly in a meadow. I could not help going over and talking to her. Later in the day, by coincidence, I ran across her at a restaurant. We ended up having lunch together. She turned out to be an awesome person. So if the same thing happened with a TG, I would have missed out following this "golden rule".