Comments? Do ppl even notice??

[Ashlie Marie]

Ok so me haven't started a thread in a while and I was just reading something on one of the only Yahoo groups left that is worth it. and the group is filled with a bunch of closeted really funny shy old hairy guys, mostly out west or in England, who paint there nails on the weekends and at night after work. Some of the stuff that we talk about it is great other stuff is just odd. SO I wanted to drop this by you Gurls and see what we all think here. So here it is.. for us girls that either keep our nails and hair long and colored and styled 24/7 or might dress only on the weekends. Does anyone really expect GG's and guys to run up to you from across the street or mall and say things like OMG you have clear nail polish on or hey is that a pantyline. maybe this is just me, and if it is Karen u can hit me with a slapshot lol. But if our goal is to pass and be accepted. do we really care if people notice things. I mean I lovee compliments from waitresses and cashiers. But I am not going to loose sleep if people at work or the mall dont come up too me and say hair dude is that a bra strap lol..

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Ashlie :-) --<<--@

[Shannen]

I mean I lovee compliments from waitresses and cashiers. But I am not going to loose sleep if people at work or the mall dont come up too me and say hair dude is that a bra strap lol..

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Ashlie :-) --<<--@

I'm not sure if you do, or do not, want fem features to stand out while in drab... ???

Do people notice? Some do. Most don't.

Do people take the time and effort to interact with a stranger that they've noticed has something "out of place" about them? I would have to think that would be very rare, at least among sober people.

Just the other day someone mentioned the "rule" of not letting on when you knew another person was a crossdresser. I didn't know that was a rule. I almost started up a conversation with someone I thought for sure was a crossdresser flying on the same plane as I a few weeks ago... after 5 minutes I couldn't be sure, and thought if I was wrong.................................. yikes!

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[Phyliss]

Do People Notice?

I really don't think so. Heck, I don't even notice other people. When I'm in a mall or at the grocery store, I'm usually there for a reason and intent on getting my task done. Unless I intentionally "people watch" I barely notice others except to not bump into them.

The next time you're at a public gathering, sport event, mall, grocery store, movie theather, etc. look at other people and see if they're "checking out" the rest of the crowd. I'd say that about 99.999% are more interested in the show, or getting their fresh veggies than the rest of the crowd.

Unless there is the occasional "orange spiked haired" with large bolt in their nose, person, most go unnoticed. Even then the "odd" one isn't bothered unless their conduct is unsafe or socialy not right. ( think half naked )

[Sheila]

yup some of them do, they may do a double take, but very very rarely are they even rude enough to stare, and if they do a smile usualyy embareess them ..... they don't like to know they have been noticed staring ........ very rarely will people engage you in conversation about your dress ... and it is even rarer that they will make any issue of it ............ most peeps that notice are wayyyyyy to embaressed to say a damn thing :heehee:

[deja true]

Yup...Every one of us is pretty much "all about us".

So you stood in line at the market last night. Remember what the person who stood in front of you for 10 minutes looked like? What they were wearing? Heck, even what sex they were? No? Didn't think so.

How about the car next to you at the gas station yesterday. Bet you can't rememeber it even if it was an orange hummer?

Sorry, babies, unless you look like one of the "Girls Next Door", one of Hef's playmates, nobody noticed you. And that's fine with me.

:)

[Sammy777]

The answer is NO.

And I'm not even talking about strangers!
I mean Family, close friends, friends, acquaitances, ect.

Here is some of the things I have done or have started to do in the last month or so.

Dyed my hair from "shades" of dark brown to jet black
Pierced my right ear [left was done] & wear matching sets now
Wear 2 to 4 rings & at least one type of bracelet daily
Shaved my arm hair off & I wear a lot of short sleeves
Trimmed my eyebrows [more then enough to be noticed]
Worn very dark blue or black nail polish
Regularly wear womans jeans & womens boots or sneakers

Now you could say that any of this could go unnoticed if done alone.
But add them all together & someones gonna notice right? WRONG.

With all of that being done - I have received 1, yes ONE comment.

A GG friend said that my hair looked shiny. Thats it.
And I have not tried to hide or play down any of it.

[foxyjj111]

i think it just depends on how observant they are. i guess i wanting to find out and while making a long drive home i stopped at a coffee shop with my flip flops and pink toes. no one around there knows me so of course i didnt care what they thought. two high school aged girls were in there and both noticed but didnt even change their facial expression and one guy saw them when i sat down and just looked up at my face, probably for reconfirmation that i was indeed a boy, lol.

i also sometimes keep my nails longer than i should and while most dont notice, one guy at work saw them while i was drinking my coffee. he said nothing but looked again.

i guess my feeling is that people do notice but dont care that much. most are to wrapped up in their own lives to care. the reason why we think everyone cares and notices is because we ourselves notice them since of course we are looking for it.

[jruiz]

Not telling is not the same as not noticing...

I guess that some notice, but don't tell.

[cheryl anne michaels]

last summer, i started wearing feminine shorts and pastel t tops with sandals while running errands, grocery store, bank, etc. no wig or makeup. never recieved a comment, nor did i ever get the impression that anyone even notcied. i have continued doing that thru the winter, with jeans and sweaters, and still nothing. cant wait for spring. most folks do not see, and those that do, don't care. we should enjoy!!!

[MJ]

yup some of them do, they may do a double take, but very very rarely are they even rude enough to stare, and if they do a smile usualyy embareess them ..... they don't like to know they have been noticed staring ........ very rarely will people engage you in conversation about your dress ... and it is even rarer that they will make any issue of it ............ most peeps that notice are wayyyyyy to embaressed to say a damn thing :heehee:

i could not have said it any better Sheila is right on.

[StaceyJane]

I shave my legs daily and wear shorts all the time. (You can do that in Texas) Nobody notices. I really don't think anyone even cares. The important thing is how I feel about it and I feel great.

[susann_gardener]

I went skiing Tuesday at Waterville, wearing bra and forms. Well, even under ski clothes you couldn't help notice my bustline. Did I get any comments? No. I checked all the other women there and my bust was more promanent that any other. Still, if anyone noticed, then gave no indication.

[anna kate]

The only time I know I was noticed, I was at the mall and a young girl (with her mom) yelled out, "Mommy, why is that man dressed like a lady." So now, I go out of my way to stay away from young kids. That same day, I had a guy circle me three times, apparently he couldn't make up his mind. He said nothing though.

[Gisele]

Out of all of the time only ONE GG noticed that I had on clear nail polish that I work with. She was kinda like what the hell? I just told her that my DR suggested it cause I had weak nails. Never another word from her and we get along just fine. I'm just glad they haven't noticed my thiner eyebrows that I am now slowly working in an arch into them.

[Shikyo]

No one has ever commented me about my polished nails, no matter what color they were. There is no way my working colleges would not see that they are painted, but they do not comment on them, nor do they even look strangely at me.

The same goes for the cloth, hair, thinner eye brows etc. Nothing I've done seems to make them comment on me. The only thing I got someone to comment, was the way I do my hair. Even then it was only how do I do it, do I really use only that one chopstick to make it? Also tried to over talk me to give everyone(every girl) that hair style, but I kindly denied as I did not want to hurt anyone, which is easy with this hairstyle if you can't feel how tight it is.

[Annesah]

I'm normally quite conservative but once in a while a get the crazy bug.
One day I put on a light green above the knee skirt, light yellow cap sleeve tee, sandles and white baseball cap, feme watch and ankle bracelet. No wig or make up. I rode my bike across the city to our HUGE Wegmans super market, spent about 20 minuits shoping and checking out. No one besides the check out girl seemed to notice. She smiled sweetly. Then I went to Wal Mart looking for a real dare! Same deal! Then to the farmer's market.
Dito. Go figure. People don't notice; at least in crowded situations.

[sharli61]

some do notice-- the other day i was dressed in bra, forms, top, gg jeans, tights and penny loafers, no makeup or wig. my stepson drove up out front and i ditched the forms and thru a jacket over my top. from the way he kept looking i knew he had spotted the shoes. oh well. later my wife told me he asked her if i was wearing womens shoes. maybe spotting the shoes kept him from noticing anything else. it was kind of funny.

[Kerrylee61]

No way. They'll think "aging hippie" and walk on by.

Not that I care...

My wife calls me her "Retro Hippie" because of my long hair, ear rings etc.:D

Kerry

[Leslie Langford]

Do People Notice?

The next time you're at a public gathering, sport event, mall, grocery store, movie theather, etc. look at other people and see if they're "checking out" the rest of the crowd. I'd say that about 99.999% are more interested in the show, or getting their fresh veggies than the rest of the crowd.

Unless there is the occasional "orange spiked haired" with large bolt in their nose, person, most go unnoticed. Even then the "odd" one isn't bothered unless their conduct is unsafe or socialy not right. ( think half naked )

I agree with you for the most part, Phyllis, but don't forget that while most males (CDers excepted) go out shopping for a specific reason and focus on getting a particular item(s) and usually on little else, for GG's shopping is more of a social outing and often a group event - especially among the dreaded teenaged girls who usually hunt in packs, don't miss a thing, and take no prisoners.

I'm not so convinced that GG's don't take in more than they let on. If they were really as oblivious as we often think, then why the paranoia over VPL's (visible panty lines) and clothes that they think make their butts look big etc.

They are often hyper-critical of the way other GG's present themselves, and try to ensure that they themselves won't be the subject of similar catty remarks. If (when?) we CDers get picked up on that particular radar, it's missle lock for sure :doh:.

[Prissy Linda]

May the Pink Fog be with you.

People notice much more than you realize, just because they don't stare or faint people notice anything that is out of the ordinary. I have on occasions gone out wearing nail polish and it was noticed unless I kept my hands hid which I don't hide. I have also worn womans sandal with polished toenails, without a doubt people noticed.

My wife and I were at Walmart a few weeks ago, a guy in his 40's had a long ponytail with berrets on the sides, he wore eyeliner and his brows had a very feminine arch to them and wore red nail polish. He also carried a black purse, not overly fem but it was a purse. I noticed right away he was a guy, He had a medium build and a nice looking somewhat feminine face. He went about his business while many people noticed then went on their way. Well when he went to get in the checkout line my wife and I were done also, so I went in behind him (yes my wife noticed that i had seen a sister) I would say that most everyone noticed him, no big commotion, no comments. He looked at me a few times, we exchanged smiles like some women do and that was it.

I'm not saying it's wrong, I'm just saying people do notice. I actually think WE need to be out in public more so we become the norm instead of a novelty.

[Jacquilynne]

Wow, such great info. . . I have often wondered about this. . . and as has been stated I too think that some people DO notice but will not say anything, some people are too busy to notice at all, and some just don't care!

One thing I will add is that I think alot has to do with our attitude and our own self confidence. . . if we walk with the confidence that inspires us to even get out. . . and we just go about our shopping as if we were supposed to be there confident in who we are presenting, we will go virtually unnoticed. And if we are noticed, we won't even care! IMO self confidence is everything. . . it helps us get out the door and follows us while we are out.

Just as animals notice when others are scared, angry, or happy. . . I think people can sense the uneasy feelings in others, these feelings of uneasiness or our low self confidence can make us appear out of the ordinary thus "noticed".

So our pride and confidence is key helping us appear invisible to those we encounter when out. Maybe just a little. Again this is my opinion :)

Jaacie

[Melanie R]

Just coming off of a 7 day cruise with 16 other CD's and 13 wives I can say with certainty that we were noticed by many people. Each night before dinner we gathered for drinks in a lounge with many other passengers. We had many eyes trained on us as we walked to our tables in the dining room. During the week there were no instances of negative comments. There were many who wanted to learn more about our community and many who complemented many of the CD's in our group on how well we were dressed.

At the ship's guest talent show one in our group, Jill from Canada, brought down the house with her Marilyn Monroe Diamonds Are A Girls Best Friend song which she sang in a soprano voice dressed in a Marilyn type dress and platinum wig. Jill is drop dead gorgeous. She also performed the last act but this time dressed in a tux and singing as Frank Sinatra.

Now only 3 more months until our next cruise enfemme.

[Prissy Linda]

Wow. I would love to go on a cruise with other crossdressers, my wife and I have discussed this a few times but I haven't been able to get any information. Do you have any links Melanie?

Yes I know this is off topic, sorry, lol

[Karren H]

LOL No one notices but funny... today being the day before Valentines day a couple secretarys came up to me and asked me what color underware I had on... I said why red of coarse and pulled my slacks down enough to expose the top of my bright red panties... They laughed and said "they had figured as much" and one said she had on the same color as I did... So that was completely out of left field.... No one cares... I certanly don't

[sometimes_miss]

Just because no one says anything, doesn't mean no one notices. Most people are polite, and don't want any trouble in their lives. That means no arguments, no confrontations. That means not saying anything controversial, especially to strangers, and of course, not staring; women have better peripheral vision than we do, and notice more than we tend to believe. And no, we don't remember people who were on line in front of us, unless there was something 'out of place' about them. But ask a woman if she's ever seen guys who were otherwise normal, but with eyeliner on, and I'll bet she can remember exactly where she saw him. Doesn't mean she said anything to him; but she 'noticed' him out of the crowd. Same with any other visual clue; if there's anything very different about you as opposed to every other guy out there, they will notice.

[Melanie R]

Wow. I would love to go on a cruise with other crossdressers, my wife and I have discussed this a few times but I haven't been able to get any information. Do you have any links Melanie?

Yes I know this is off topic, sorry, lol

All of our cruises are listed at www.pmpub.com.

[baby beluga]

Just because no one says anything, doesn't mean no one notices. Most people are polite, and don't want any trouble in their lives. That means no arguments, no confrontations. That means not saying anything controversial, especially to strangers, and of course, not staring; women have better peripheral vision than we do, and notice more than we tend to believe.

This is really the only reasonable post in the thread. I imagine most everyone notices when a guy is wearing feminine clothing.

[Ashlie Marie]

May the Pink Fog be with you.

People notice much more than you realize, just because they don't stare or faint people notice anything that is out of the ordinary. I have on occasions gone out wearing nail polish and it was noticed unless I kept my hands hid which I don't hide. I have also worn womans sandal with polished toenails, without a doubt people noticed.

My wife and I were at Walmart a few weeks ago, a guy in his 40's had a long ponytail with berrets on the sides, he wore eyeliner and his brows had a very feminine arch to them and wore red nail polish. He also carried a black purse, not overly fem but it was a purse. I noticed right away he was a guy, He had a medium build and a nice looking somewhat feminine face. He went about his business while many people noticed then went on their way. Well when he went to get in the checkout line my wife and I were done also, so I went in behind him (yes my wife noticed that i had seen a sister) I would say that most everyone noticed him, no big commotion, no comments. He looked at me a few times, we exchanged smiles like some women do and that was it.

I'm not saying it's wrong, I'm just saying people do notice. I actually think WE need to be out in public more so we become the norm instead of a novelty.



LOL that I great last week my nails were red and purse is black and I love my eyebrows. And I go to wally-Mart all the time I knew I had a twin LOL

[Sarah...]

They notice. They don't usually feel the need to comment. I was standing in a queue in a shop the other day and there were a couple of young girls hanging around. One of them kept looking at my jeans - they were skinny bootlegs and quite clearly designed for women. So, she noticed, she looked at me, looked at my jeans. And then did nothing. She didn't speak to me, laugh at me, smile at me, speak to her friend. Nothing.

Similar in London the other week. Any number of the thousands of people I passed that week noticed. Some smiled, some looked again. Some spoke to each other. No-one was nasty. No-one asked me about anything. Those I needed to interact with where as polite as usual. One offered to carry my luggage for me at the station.

So there you are. They notice. They're not really bothered. For the most part.

Sarah...

[Marjory]

I think it's reached the point where no one really cares. I lived with a woman for a few years and wore various articles of her clothing, shoes, pantyhose, panties, etc. She bought me some of my own stuff but the word crossdresser never came up.