What is it about crossdressing

[AngelDelight]

Why does it make us feel so good, why cant i live without, and will I ever learn to get my make up right

[Julieanne]

It's natural, it's good, and probably.

Julieanne

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

Why does it make us feel so good, why cant i live without, and will I ever learn to get my make up right

Why are some guys football fanatics who have to paint their faces the team colors, decorate every inch of their house with football themed everything, watch every single football game on TV, spend all their money and time on their love of football, and make football references to everything in life? Just try and make a true football lover give up football - it ain't gonna happen. It's built in to them. They're usually a fan from very young and remain that way for life.

Crossdressing is pretty similar. The only major difference is that loving football a not a social taboo and crossdressing is.

Why does anyone love anything that they love? It's just who they are. This is who we are. I love who I am. :)

[Samantha43]

Why are some guys football fanatics who have to paint their faces the team colors, decorate every inch of their house with football themed everything, watch every single football game on TV, spend all their money and time on their love of football, and make football references to everything in life? Just try and make a true football lover give up football - it ain't gonna happen. It's built in to them. They're usually a fan from very young and remain that way for life.

That describe me perfectly!!!


Crossdressing is pretty similar. The only major difference is that loving football a not a social taboo and crossdressing is.

Why does anyone love anything that they love? It's just who they are. This is who we are. I love who I am.

That descrices me perfectly also!!!

[Alice B]

Borrowing from Julieanne's response. It makes me feel good. It's natural to want to dress and feel like a woman and the act of trying and practice makes it more fun because you get to experience different looks and feelings.

[tamarav]

Welcome the to forum!

You should be able to get lots of tips on makeup and answers to your other questions. Most of them are rhetorical anyway, I mean, who really expects an answer to any of them?

Your makeup will come along with practice, or a live-in makeup artist...

Take lessons from a professional makeup artist and practice what she/he teaches you. If you see a drag queen that really looks good, I mean that has the type of makeup you like, ask her how she did it?

Your new sis,

Tami

[gwen cd]

Hi.
I see the girls have already hit the nail on the head.

[sometimes_miss]

Why does it make us feel so good, why cant i live without, and will I ever learn to get my make up right

Because for a brief time, we get to escape the problems of our real life. We get to focus on being 'someone else', and no longer think about all the problems in our 'male life'; we can focus on the clothes, the make up, the shoes, maybe reading Cosmo or Glamour or something, and feeling part of a world different from our own for a while. When I'm dressed as a gal, I don't think about work, or politics, or fixing the car. I do some simple traditionally female things that I can accomplish completely and feel that I have completed something (clean, laundry, cook, iron, dust, rearrange stuff in the house, read, look through catalogs or online about how to decorate the home, etc.). I can brush my hair, spend an hour on polishing my nails getting them exactly right, and not feel the least bit guilty about doing absolutely nothing while letting them dry other than enjoy a soda and watch TV. Crossdressing, or, 'how to de-stress'.

[Karren H]

I just like to look pretty!! :)

[trannie T]

I dress because for some unknown reason I have to. With study and experience your makeup skills will improve, after several years of practice my makeup has improved from horrible to merely bad.

[Vicky Perry]

I just like to look pretty!! :)

Me to look and feel pretty :)
I am still not good with makeup thankfuly my Bonnie is but I do need to learn to do my oun.

[Rebecca Sue]

Because women are so pretty and it feels so good to look pretty.

[CarolynM]

I just like to look pretty!! :)

Hard to argue with that logic!

No, seriously, you can't...and Karren you have succeeded SO well :)

[suchacutie]

For me there came a realization that there was a part of me I didn't understand. I had 50+ years to figure out the guy part of me, but this other part remained a mystery until my wife helped identify this feminine side.

Now there is Tina. She is real. She has her own opinions, her own ideas, and her own set of likes and dislikes. She is left handed (he is right handed), and she adores high heels. I need to know who she is. She makes it easier to know who my wife is. I think that helps our relationship.

Tina has made everything better. It is a bit dangerous, I guess, to follow this exploration if people who are less than pleasant were to find out, but that's an abstraction whereas Tina is a reality that needs exploration.

Maybe I can say it this way: I like Tina!

:)

[Tora]

It means different things to different people. Generally it is a unique satisfaction, thrill, comfort,, that is special. It is a CD thing, you would not understand. Well those here understand. My wonderful wife chooses not to understand, totally. It is fun, so do your own thing. Like Karren says "to look beautiful", I strive for that.

[CD Susan]

I dress because it just feels right for me. It is also my way of releasing that woman inside of me that is begging to be let out. If I did not let her escape the confines of being trapped in a body she does not wan't to be in then neither of us could survive. As for the makeup question it just takes lots and lots of practice and to learn from your mistakes. I think it is a never ending learning experience.

[Jess_cd32]

Why does it make us feel so good, why cant i live without, and will I ever learn to get my make up right

1. because we get to be ourselves during dressing.
2. see above #1
3. with practice yes you should.

[Rachel Morley]

Why does it make us feel so good? ... well, IMHO it's because we are doing something we like .... a lot! It's a bit like going on vacation ... a "gender vacation". We get to leave behind all those expectations of masculinity and spend time on vacation in the "resort of femininity" :) I love going on vacation! Don't you? ... and this is the best type of vacation of all :D

[Bravesoul]

Why does it make us feel so good, why cant i live without, and will I ever learn to get my make up right


I don't know, but when you figure it out, please let me know

[Ralph]

As you have seen, ask a dozen CDs why we dress and you'll get 13 conflicting answers. Some like to be, just for a little while, a complete woman; some just want to be comfortable and let their feminine side out to play; some get an erotic thrill at the way they look.

If we had to, we could live without it... but we'd be pretty miserable. Is it more or less of a compulsion than, say, smoking or heroin or gambling? I don't know, and I hope I never have to find out. There isn't a "patch" for what I've got!

The answer to your last question is another question: Do you WANT to get your makeup right? If that's important to you, you'll learn. Me, I don't do the makeup thing (or the wigs, or the upper balcony, or anything else needed to pass) --- I just want to wear stuff that makes me comfortable regardless of what it looks like. So first you need to figure out what your particular itch is, and then you can scratch it (within the confines of your local laws and personal morals, of course -- so if your particular itch happens to involve bank robbery or day care centers, you're pretty much out of luck).

Ralph

[emmicd]

crossdressing is something very personal to me. It occupies my mind just about everyday. I have a normal life, I am married and have a son. My wife and son are very important to me and I am very respectful and caring and never dress en femme in their presence. When I have free time to myself the girl in me comes out to dress and she loves to be a girl! It just is a part of my life that I have learned to accept.

I dress because I have to and because I enjoy it!

emmi

[Jenniferpl]

For me, it is about feeling good and looking pretty. Slip on a bra and the tension starts to go away. Lipstick, what can I say. Without it, life would be boring. Want to feel womanly, just slip on some 4" high heels.

[sally1980]

Great question Angel.
It is part of my whol;e being and always has as far as I can tell.
It is probably a mix of the 'taboo' and the sense of well being.
Generally I just love the feel of being feminine if only for a short while. Despite any mirror showing the lie!

[xAnne_Mariex]

It's fun and makes me who I am. I said to my mum once, if it wasn't for this side of me I wouldn't be who I am, and I wouldn't change it for the world. I'm proud to this part of me.

I just love making myself look as pretty as possible and even if it's just for a short while, getting away from reality and just being the real me.

[Toni_Lynn]

I have analysed it and others have analysed it and no one has ever come close to explaining the why. My mum said that it was because I didn't have a girlfriend (yeah -- as girlfriend when I was 13!) and so I made myself into my own girlfriend. I thought it was jealousy that my sister was allowed to play softball -- boy things as they were in the 70s -- but I couldn't do girl things, so if I became a girl then it would be okay.

There's grain of truth in all of it, but when it comes down to the nub of it, it is really just because I like to dress like girls do. I love everything about girls and I want to be like them. I see it as being no more or no less than any other fashion choice that a person makes.

It has added a whole totally wonderful dimension to my life and while I have never done psychotropic drugs such as LSD, I liken what crossdressing does to allowing me to experience life in a higher dimension similar to that of what they say those drugs do.

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

[Carly D.]

My question is why does it feel so right and yet everybody thinks it's so wrong??

[Joy Carter]

I'm a fake guy in reality.

[sarahNZ]

from what I can see your "Q's" have already been answered, so I will just add if it feals right then who am I to deny it? As for the make up, all new things take time to perfect just don't give up you'll get it.

[Rachel Lea]

I also dress because "I have to". Just last night I thought I would be done for the rest of the week, wrong. I am again before lunch, dressed but no make-up did not bring any with me. Back to the original post though, I believe a good part of dressing is placing that special time only on me. Girls get to primp and prep if they wish and then show it off, it's kind of a me focused activity which many of us need.

[AngelDelight]

Thanks for all your replies, good to know so many of us share similar feelings

[Pink Annie]

Womens clothes feel much nicer and there's a greater variety of designs. The bright colours are too much for me to resist. Being able to change the way I look & feel with a skirt, top or hose is fantastic. I get a little depressed when I can't dress up at least once a day. Cding is a part of me, wish I had more time for it.

[Kaz]

I got interested around puberty I guess and just experimented a bit. It seemed to feel "right". I fantasised about being a girl though I never wanted to give up being a boy. Married, three daughters. Throughout my life I have had "phases", stayed in the closet, and had the purges. About 6-7 years ago I realised I would never give this up for ever and found myself getting serious, bought my first breastforms and started acquiring my modest wardrobe. Now I am wanting to go out enfemme and look forward to dressing all the time. It'w just who I am! Why do I do it? Because I like it and I feel sooo good when dressed! :)

[StaceyJane]

I crossdress now for the same reason I did when I was 12, because it lets me feel like a girl. :)

[AngelDelight]

I couldn,t agree more, ps nice to meet a fellow west midlander

[Tasha McIntyre]

Nothing new to add here......just for me it feels so incredibly right, and sensual, and relaxing, and a dozen other very positive feelings.

Make up - advice and practice I suppose. I've only ever done make up a few times but I think I am getting better :)

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Because it is inbred and ingrained in out soul and our being - its who and what we are - it is a natural part of us - it is a part that has to be set free and expressed

JoAnne Wheeler

[Kate's at home]

JoAnne and Stacey Jane, together ladies, you've summed it up!

Girls will be girls...

Kate

[Marlena_Sparkles]

Why does it make us feel so good? ... well, IMHO it's because we are doing something we like .... a lot! It's a bit like going on vacation ... a "gender vacation". We get to leave behind all those expectations of masculinity and spend time on vacation in the "resort of femininity" :) I love going on vacation! Don't you? ... and this is the best type of vacation of all :DITA Rachel!!! I couldn't have said it better myself.:D One thing though...I would like to be on a permenant vacation!!!:heehee:

[Marlena_Sparkles]

My question is why does it feel so right and yet everybody thinks it's so wrong??Good question. I think people would feel better about us if they were more educated. People don't know enough about us & rush to judgement. Some are scared & think we are freaks! Any number of reasons why. I can say one things for sure. Society today is alot more accepting then say 15,20 & 25 years ago.

[sally1980]

I can't add much to the answers aleady proferred so will reiterate.
If it feels right then it probably is! If you enjoy it then do it! If your make up is wrong then so what....do it again.
Have fun...there is far too much time put into being serious in this life

[Kelsy]

I have analysed it and others have analysed it and no one has ever come close to explaining the why. My mum said that it was because I didn't have a girlfriend (yeah -- as girlfriend when I was 13!) and so I made myself into my own girlfriend. I thought it was jealousy that my sister was allowed to play softball -- boy things as they were in the 70s -- but I couldn't do girl things, so if I became a girl then it would be okay.

There's grain of truth in all of it, but when it comes down to the nub of it, it is really just because I like to dress like girls do. I love everything about girls and I want to be like them. I see it as being no more or no less than any other fashion choice that a person makes.

It has added a whole totally wonderful dimension to my life and while I have never done psychotropic drugs such as LSD, I liken what crossdressing does to allowing me to experience life in a higher dimension similar to that of what they say those drugs do.

Huggles

Toni-Lynn


Toni, I totally agree and relate to everything you have said
You're "spot on":)

By the way dressing is better than drugs by far!!

:hugs:Kelsy

[Omjessi]

It's natural, it's good, and probably.

Julieanne

well, she pretty much summed it up.

I may add that it's more satisfying, and if a girl can doll up then so can I.

There's no reason I can't be pretty too.

[shaun1]

not one cd can give you the answer as we all have different reasons.i for one just feel so at ease when im dressed up.i dont sufer any guilt when doing it but that could be my so instilling into me that it natural.we do it cause it makes us feel good about ourself an lets face it if everyone in the world was the same it would be a VERY boring place.what ever your resons if it makes you happy then it good.


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[shaun1]

Toni, I totally agree and relate to everything you have said
You're "spot on":)

By the way dressing is better than drugs by far!!

:hugs:Kelsy

i used nearly all forms of drugs over the years but since i have been openly cd,ing and with my partners help and understanding i havent been anywhere near them for about 5 years.nothing gives me a thrill or buzz like cd,ing and nothing ever will so why bother.

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