If it doesn't hurt anyone, it's positive.

[pruella]

I read this today, in relation mostly to a theme of Homosexuality. But the words have been said many times before in many different ways. I figured I'd repeat this writers version.



Regarding masturbation, anal intercourse, fetishes etc.; if it doesn't hurt anyone (physically or emotionally), and you enjoy it, it's positive. Your intentions and beliefs are what are important. If we believe that something that is positive is 'wrong' (due to negative conditioning), then we have a problem.


This applies quite strongly to Transsexuals but also Crossdressers and other gender variants.

I guess the "doesn't hurt anyone" part is the part where one keeps a secret or is deceptive in behavior.

Lets face it, if you tell someone something that is untrue the you hurt them. If you stand in front of them in a dress and say "Look at me weeeee" you can hardly hurt them!

[Tizabet]

I think the big catch is that if you offend someone's sense of values/morals, they consider that harming them, whether they have any connection to you or not. So how can we make people realize we're NOT hurting them?

[billie earls]

We are not on this earth to please anyone else regardless what their values/morals are. I know its selfish to say this but the true is my happiness is first in my own thoughts. Now I'm married and have adult children and they don't know this side of and I have know intention of telling them because in order for me to be happy they must be happy and there isn't anything I would to hurt them.
I'll stay in the closet for as long as I have to and that makes me selfish so be it. I try to live life as I see it and not as someone else believes. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness and when we choose to love someone we some times have to give up some things, it doesn't matter what just so you can be with that person is what counts.

[deja true]

... Now I'm married and have adult children and they don't know this side of and I have know intention of telling them because in order for me to be happy they must be happy and there isn't anything I would to hurt them.


Need to know, I'm thinkin'.

In some cases there is a need to know...spouses, SO's, medicos maybe...

In other cases, there's not!

:straightface:

For some of us, though, there is a "Need to tell", and that's a different kettle of red herrings altogether...

[Jessinthesprings]

It's sad but true, but we do hurt people. It's all in their limited narrow point of view that allows themselves to be hurt. Parents and friends see it as the death of a son/daughter. Some don't see it that way, but I would think those that see it as the birth of a daughter/son is pretty small. But, I feel if we educate our families and friends it could lessen the pain and perhaps they could even see the good coming from it. Because this is a two way street. I don't think there is a single TS that would chose this way of life and for them to force us to be someone we are not hurts us too.

[Joanne f]

If it doesn`t hurt anyone its a positive ,
well that all depends on how you are looking at it , keeping a secret may not hurt anyone but that does not make it right so it would not be fair to call it a positive but more of a statice quo.




We are not on this earth to please anyone else regardless what their values/morals are. I know its selfish to say this but the true is my happiness is first in my own thoughts.

Well i am sure that there are a few here that will disagree with you , i am a married family person and my sole intention is to please and serve my family first , it might sound corny but that is just the way it is .