The girl that just made herself known

[Kayla Shadows]

This thread might have been done before but,I'm sure there are a lot of new people here since then.

What have any of you done to out yourself or show your other side without realizing it?

This can be anything and everything.If you laughed after catching yourself walking a different way,..started talking more freely,..got caught peeping something in a store that guys wouldnt normally have a interest in...When your not "out" and then you see your male or female friends give that weird look that you cant help but turn and quietly die laughing.Or did you panic?

So...I was on my boy mode myspace the other day and kinda did a oops.I ended up signing my first message when I got on with "talk to ya' soon.*hugs*,Kayla"..No thought about it and just clicked send.I was writing a GG friend of mine.About 20 seconds later I went,"uh,oh..did I just.....". Yes I did...I have been doing it so long,and dont think of myself in a different way that,it just slipped.

That is my most recent "did I just do that". Anybody want to share?

[JoAnne Wheeler]

I have typed my female name on this FORUM so much in the last 4 months that I am truly afraid that I am going to start siging my checks and letters as JoAnne

JoAnne Wheeler

[PretzelGirl]

I have typed my female name on this FORUM so much in the last 4 months that I am truly afraid that I am going to start siging my checks and letters as JoAnne

JoAnne Wheeler

Or you can go in your profile and make it your signature. Then you won't be creating a habit out of typing it at the end of each message.

[Christie ann]

I am thinking about the times wearing panties to the locker room, or the faint strappy top tan lines or forwarding a message to someone from my "girl" email account.

[Jess_cd32]

They only 'did I just do that' came when I walked out of Payless with some nice pairs of heels recently:)

[RitaCD]

Jess, I did that last week in Ft. Worth. I can't resist a Payless. I was wearing a pair of flats and fem jeans. I found a pair of 3' black pumps that I just had to have. When I went to pay out there were two young girls running the store and no other customers. I paid, put my flats in the box, put on the pumps and walked out. The girls just looked at me and smiled.

[Tina B.]

I've told this one before, but the worst one was getting half way to work and realize I still had the cutest pink fingernails, no time to go home to fix it, had to walk into a small neighborhood grocery, filled with a bunch of construction workers getting there morning coffee and donuts, I grab polish remover and tissues and get in a long line, trying to be inconspicuous, and keep my hands out of sight. It was a rough morning! And I have changed back to drab, after a day dressed, jumped in the car, and looking the mirror to find a pair of button earrings looking back at me.Tina

[deja true]

Oh Lordy, yes!

I live in a very small, very conservatie community.

I returned home from SCC last fall, got out of my traveling clothes, put on a pair of flip-flops and drove to the big grocery store for supplies. Walked in the entrance, saw three friends coming out. Stopped and chatted awhile and noticed they kept looking at my feet.

Ooops! My toenails were painted, but it was sorta okay. They were iridescent green and blue...so I told my friends I had been playin' dinosaurs with my friends' little kids and they had painted me green all over. Don't know what I woulda told 'em if my pinkies had been pink or red...

Whew!

:)

[Kayla Shadows]

Sounds like nobodys ran into too much trouble so far.

Well,I knew there would be some result from my message,lol.That came in the form of,I cant wait to hear about this one.I've known her just about 15 years or so now.Havnt seen her in a while but,back then,there were some pretty wild days.She knows I was one to kinda push things over the edge when it came to what is supposed to be expected.I just hope I explained things ok today.We shall see.

[Bethany38]

I cannot count how many times I have almost sent out e-mails to people and had love Bethany at the bottom. I am kind of analretentive about proof reading anything I type though, so as far as I know I have caught myself every time. At least none of my friends or relatives have said why did you sign that, that way. So I guess I have been lucky so far. Knock on wood:).

[Teri Jean]

Ther have been a couple of times, one leaving eye liner on when going to work and the other answering the door and having a gal co-worker see me dressed fem. Oooops

Keli

[Kayla Shadows]

Oh Lordy, yes!

I live in a very small, very conservatie community.

I returned home from SCC last fall, got out of my traveling clothes, put on a pair of flip-flops and drove to the big grocery store for supplies. Walked in the entrance, saw three friends coming out. Stopped and chatted awhile and noticed they kept looking at my feet.

Ooops! My toenails were painted, but it was sorta okay. They were iridescent green and blue...so I told my friends I had been playin' dinosaurs with my friends' little kids and they had painted me green all over. Don't know what I woulda told 'em if my pinkies had been pink or red...

Whew!

:)

lol,dinosaurs.It worked though I guess.That was great.


Ther have been a couple of times, one leaving eye liner on when going to work and the other answering the door and having a gal co-worker see me dressed fem. Oooops

Keli

lol,oops.I remember falling asleep with eyeliner still on,having to rush in the morning cuz Im late and then realizing on the way to work

The only other thing I can think of in this area of things is when I had a problem with internet.The guy messed with some stuff,started my computer and there pops up my messenger tab with my picture on it,lol.I thought,OMG,for a couple seconds..but then I just laughed so hard inside.I walked into the kitchen and started doing stuff cuz I could not keep a straight face.

lol,I almost forgot about work.I thought nobody was around and was trying to change my voice.I was singing and the guy I work with pops his head around the side of my truck with this look on his face that I will never forget,lol.I just played it off,started laughing and kept singing while he shook his head,laughed and walked away to go do whatever he was doing.

[dilane]

Here's a few instances:

One when I sent a workmate an email from Diane.

Another when a couple of guys I was working with were in my office, and I imitated a woman at work. I have developed a good femme voice over the years and can switch back and forth instantly... The two guys just stared at me with their jaws dropped :-)

Coming to work on Halloween in perfect business femme doesn't count, does it??

[tifftg]

My issue is usually in the other direction. I try to keep a nice separation between my drab side and my femme side. I write e-mails all day long for work and always sign with my first name.

I can't tell you how many times I am staring at the screen ready to hit the submit button and am staring at my real (somewhat unusual first name)

It wouldn't be the end of the world but also wouldn't be ideal either.

[Robynts]

After I was busted by my daughter, one of the clues she told me she had experienced was an instant message from someone named "Robyn" who was talking to her like her Dad. The instant message also had Robyn's photo as an avitar. At the time she did not say anything to me but when she finally did bust Robyn this was one of the puzzle pieces she had trying to put together and understand. When she busted me it was a huge "Aha" moment for her.

I also sent an IM to my brother from Robyn.......he later asked me who Robyn was. I told him I was helping a friend see if her husband was having an on line relationship.

These days I have NO friends or family (who don't already know about Robyn) on my Robyn buddy lists. Just too darn dangerous!

[Amalia]

I quite often find myself getting into conversations with my little sister and happening to know waay to much about makeup and she give me a wierd look and I usually give the quick exuse, "oh i'm just REALLY REALLY bored so i read anything and everything i get my hands on" (which is kinda true) and she brushes it off. So far no one has caught me peeking at womens shoes and clothing in stores when i'm out shopping with my family when i visit with them over holidays.

[StevieTV]

I've said "like the other girls" way too many times. It just slips out. One time I was on the phone with a so called friend and said it. There was a long silent pause on his end. I never heard back after we hung up. Strange.

[Rachel Morley]

Hi Kayla,

I haven't actually hit "send" yet but I've caught myself signing emails at work with "hugs, Rachel" several times now.

I haven't actually directly outed myself where people totally know (yet) but people/friends have found earrings and scruchies in my car. I just said they belonged to my wife, except they know she hardly ever drives my car as she prefers hers, and we always go out together in hers.

The last time anything happened at work was when I was in a meeting with my boss, the Director of Plant Operations, plus some other managers. After the meeting as everyone was walking out of the room, he said to me .... "oh, one more thing, I just gotta ask .... what's up with your nails?" I have very long fingernails (for a guy) and they are painted shiny clear. I just said "oh, these .... I like to have clean hands and nails, plus my wife kinda likes them to be longish". He says, "Really? ... does she manicure them and stuff?" ... I said "no, she doesn't paint them or anything (that was a lie) ... does it bother you? I can cut them if you want?" .... he just said "no, no, that's ok, I was just curious that's all".

Hugs
Rachel

[SherriePall]

Nothing really has happened to me. However, there are many mornings at work when I'm trying to log unto the system and I get to the password part and I stop because all I can remember are the femme ones I use here at home.

[Kayla Shadows]

Coming to work on Halloween in perfect business femme doesn't count, does it??

Thats great :) It deffinately counts for something.If its intentional or accidental,it all works here


... what's up with your nails?

The nails do give away.Ive gotten a lot of looks and questions.A women at the post office tried to helo me get a label off a box.She says something like,"It'll be easier for me.Your a guy,you dont have nails.Then she looks down and is like,"ok..maybe you do".lol.And the girl at the makeup counter at walgreens.She noticed then.I told it in another post but,she gave me the "these are for your girlfriend,right",smart answer.She knew exactly who they were for.

I guess knowing way too much about something you normally shouldnt raises a eyebrow too,lol.I could not believe I sent the email.Im usually careful but Ive been really really tired and out of it so I guess I slipped up.Its ok though.Things went well and I was let in on a little something too.We all have had that little something that we keep to ourselves.This time things turned out fine.

I was talking to a friend once and she had just got new boots.She joked about how much I liked them and came out with the"if you like them so much I'll buy you a pair'.I said, " cool,I'd wear them".She just laughed and said you probably would.Lol,yes I would.I'm the "rebel under the radar" as she calls it.

Now that I started this Im trying to think what else...I really just want to live free so there will be stories to come without a doubt....We all know DD found me out.I really wanted it out but didnt quite know how to say it.She might give some insight to the clues but I dont know. I guess its the way I am and it shows itself.

[MsSamanthaErica]

Good Lord...some of the things that are told I get close to myself!!

I am usually pretty careful but I have so much stuff around I am always worried that something will give it away! :eek:

I have not had the issue with this at work, it's very different and not at all the same -- so not much danger of that, unless I am thinking about it and then I have to be careful to 'catch' myself in not sending something inappropriate!

Still, it's something you have to consider and wonder about! Some great answers here though!!

Hugs,
~Samantha

[Sally24]

I think I mentioned in another thread that I saw one of the Dad's I know and he was facing away from me at the mall. I "touched" his shoulder and said hi and he gave me a bit of a funny look. A guy would have grabbed his arm or tapped him on the back but not done the arm touch thingie.

My wife says she notices that my voice is normally higher than it used to be. I guess working to avoid the male monotone has gotten me to work my voice higher even in boy mode.

I've always crossed my legs at the knees but now I think my arm and hand movements are more girly too. Hard to relearn things but only use them at certain times.

[Tizabet]

The wrong email signature thing has almost gotten me more than a few times. Mostly, I'm out to everyone, but my grandparents don't know, and wow have I come close.

The part I've actually followed through on mistakes with is instant messengers. For a while, I had a bunch of "repeat friends". ie: people I knew separately under both my old and real identities. I use Pidgin, which lets me long into multiple accounts at once, and sometimes someone would message me under my old account and I wouldn't notice and use some awkward <3s and hugs.

I also did the "know too much" thing, but with hormones. I remember several times realizing a little too late that I was correcting or expanding on some TS friends' knowledge. They never said anything at the time, but definitely brought it up once I admitted my feelings. :P

[Kristen Marie]

I agree with "knowing too much". I recall telling someone that I liked the speaker's business suit and shell....(and pearls too) and the woman I was sitting with looked at me and shell?

Or when someone asks if you've lost weight and you say you're down a dress size....oh my.

[txrobinm]

I'm sure there are a few ladies at work, and maybe at church, who suspect. I'm rather free with the compliments and have twice received the comment "you know too much" about fashion, their changes in appearance, etc.

[Kayla Shadows]

Or when someone asks if you've lost weight and you say you're down a dress size....oh my.

lol..That would be a hard one to cover up."Dress size...what do mean dress size?" Umm...well...uhh...omg,look behind you *runs*...lol

The responses here were great.I really didnt want to get into anything with a SO because I believe they should know.

[Jonianne]

A couple weeks ago I filled out the application for a background check for the port ID (homeland security) and I may have accidently put FEMALE as sex.

When the secratery looked at me and asked me if everything was correct, as she was going over it, when we got to the sex part she looked at me and said MALE? I said yes and she said well someone must have changed it to female and then she changed it back to male.

I kind of chuckeled to myself and was suprised I didn't feel embarrassed at all.

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

In fact just last night I was talking on the phone with a friend of mine in NJ, who I've known for about 25 years. He asked me about the signature picture and asked if I'm dabbling into crossdressing. In a way how can you deny it.

I so wanted to tell him that I was probably TS and dress pretty much everyday, but chickened out. It seems so hard to tell friends who you've known for so long. But at least he wasn't so adamantly against it, so in my time frame, when I feel ready, I will tell him, as I have told my kids and even my ex-wife. :battingeyelashes:

[Pink Person]

I had my ears pierced a little over four years ago and wear earrings all of the time. I regret not doing it much much sooner.

I also frequently wear a light lip gloss and clear pink nail polish outside of work. I own about forty pairs of shoes and fifteen pairs of glasses (I blame Elton John).

I think my pink glasses, diamond earrings, lip gloss, nail polish, platform shoes, and Marilyn Monroe t-shirts may have caused some people to wonder about me.

[ruthie801]

well i was out in a resturant with my wife we had a very cute and sweet waiter. I got along well with him. After we left the resturant my wife giggle and said "so did you enjoy your meal" I said I did. She then laughted and said "I thought you did you sure flirted with the waiter like a girl would" I said i didn't her response was "take it from another girl honey you wear flirting, its ok I understand just watch your self the girl is coming out"

[SarahPerth]

I walked into a Payless Shoes and they had a 2 for 1 sale. So I purchased some joggers for "Rob" then got a nice pair of sandals for Sarah (Size 11). The girl at the till was very nice and said I bet they will look cute on. I just smiled and went on my way.

[CharleneT]

I was talking to a GG friend a couple of weeks ago, we were discussing some cordaroy's she purchased but didn't fit right. She held them up saying that they were 4's and should have fit. Unfortunatelyl I replied " I know what you mean, these are 6's, but usually I buy 8's"

ooopppss.....

There was a very surprised expression, so I explained that I thought women's jeans fit me better (they do actually). Lucky for me she already knew I wear women's shoes all the time for the same reason ( my men's size is 10 AA, I've had to buy women's running shoes most of my life). So she laughed and we went on with our conversation. BUT the damage was done for sure. She called about an plumbing emergency and I rushed over. I was still wearing an apron I use in my shop when doing wood working. We got to the plumbing immediately, I never took my coat off even. After we were done, she smiled and asked if she could see my "frock"? I realized she thought it was a denim dress ! So I opened my coat to show her it was just my shop apron .... but it was clear what she *thought* it was !!

[Intertwined]

Grocery shopping at major grocery store.

At the checkout, I was not wearing any earrings, but the almost 1/4 inch hole clearly visible in my ears due to I just removed my body jewelry.

The Bagging girl, asked what gauge my ears were, I told her zero gauge, she said she was thinking about stretching her ears, and pointed out she does not usually see people my age with larger gauge ears, thats when I just said without thinking " Your lucky im not wearing High Heels " :confused2: , in my head im thinking, i didnt just say that, the bagger not missing a beat, says, "thats OK, I almost never wear heels either " finishes bagging and asks if I need help to my car.

I just thought it was cool, no Shock, no Terror, no WHAT?, I don't know if it was because I was so nonchalant how I said it, or what. :w00t:

[Maddie22]

I have had two pretty good "outings"

The first one I came into my restaurant job after a night out. I didn't use any eye makeup remover, just soap and water. I thought that I had got most of the make up off with just that. Well a buddy of mine was talking to me, i've known him for a few years now, and looked at me and asked if I was wearing eyeliner... I said no, why, and he said it looked like I was, and then said "were you draging it up last night?" HaHa, draging it up, what a great quote, funny because it is true, and he had no idea!!

The second came just a week or so ago. It was a bit warmer, so I was not wearing any socks. Well I had my leg up on my knee, and my gg co-worker at the office noticed, and asked me if I shave my legs. I said, nope, just have very minimum growth on my legs.

Sooner or later some thing is gonna give, they all know I go tanning.

[Angie G]

Hasn't happend yet.:hugs:
Angie

[JeanneF]

Sometimes I forget which friends I'm out to and which ones I'm not.

I was out having a few (dozen) drinks with some friends a couple of weeks ago. Anyway, my friend Kevin grabbed one the girls' lipgloss and put it on as a joke. I looked at it and remarked that I hate the stickiness of lip gloss and how my hair always sticks to it (my boy hair is fairly short)...needless to say the friends who knew found it hysterical, while the friends who didn't look perplexed.

[Kayla Shadows]

It seems so hard to tell friends who you've known for so long.

I find it that way too.Just dont know the best way to approach it yet


I had my ears pierced a little over four years ago

I have one but I really really want my other one done a;ready


I think my pink glasses, diamond earrings, lip gloss, nail polish, platform shoes, and Marilyn Monroe t-shirts may have caused some people to wonder about me.

Quite possibly.Its great to feel free enough to do something like that.


I just said without thinking " Your lucky im not wearing High Heels "

Thats awesome :)

Its was a little different but,today something funny happened..I went to a store with a coworker because we needed better pants to go to a seminar tomarrow.He ended up wanting to get boots as well.So,he's looking at the boots on the wall in front of us when I pick up a pink heel from the display behind us and say,How about I wear these tomarrow?.He just starts dying laughing.So I go,"what?Ya know,maybe a skirt and some braids",while I'm thinking to myself,hmm,I wish I could.He just keeps laughing and says,"your crazy...How bout them and some spandex?"..lol.That wasnt much but,we start talking about what we really do have wear.I was wearing blue timberlands and I lift my pant leg up to say,I have a black pair just like these,they should be ok right?...I look down and there are my pink striped socks staring out,lol.I was just like,omg.I happened to lower my pant leg right before he looked down.Hes,like,"yeah,those should be fine".I could not hold in what just happened and start laughing.He looks confused and asks,what?.I just say,oh,I lost my balance for a second..lol...And that was it.Just thought Id share

[Prissy Linda]

Some people at work have asked me if I was wearing lipstick because my lips were red after wearing lipstick and forgetting to remove it and the eyeliner before going to bed (you know how it stains), or that my fingernails are rather long and shaped. Could be that I carry a purse occasionally or that I have effeminate mannerisms such as holding my arms up bent at the elbow with limp wrists without realizing it or that I hold a cigarette like a woman with my arm up and wrist bent backwards. When the girls go out for a smoke break I am invited or the fact that I know how to convert men's shoe sizes into a womans size. And since my wife is a beautician she shapes my eyebrows into a rather feminine arch, Oh the list goes on.

[ErikaLeigh]

Well nobody has ever said anything but my eyebrows have quite an arch to them now (see avatar<<<) and combine that withe my long hair you might get the picture. :)

[Raquel June]

... Well a buddy of mine was talking to me, i've known him for a few years now, and looked at me and asked if I was wearing eyeliner... I said no, why, and he said it looked like I was, and then said "were you draging it up last night?" HaHa, draging it up, what a great quote, funny because it is true, and he had no idea!!

That's funny. I'm out to most of my friends. I have a friend that always asks me if I've been "dragging it up" when I disappear on the weekend.

I made a thread a little over a year ago about some funny experiences I had getting caught. Oddly enough, I am now out to everybody in these stories (but wasn't at the time).



At the gym, lifting with Brian...

Brian: What's that on your shirt?

me: Sweat. I didn't wash this shirt last time.

Brian: It looks like foundation.

me: Foundation?

(I look down and notice that apparently I didn't successfully wash my makeup off after going out last night and now I actually do have foundation all over the collar of my workout shirt)

me: Yeah, I use it to cover up that big swastika tattoo I got on my neck in prison.

Brian: You're using it to cover up your Adam's apple, aren't you?

(Brian has commented before that I have no Adam's apple)



At my apartment, watching a movie with Matt...

(Matt is coming out of the bathroom)

Matt: You use a women's razor?

(There's a pink women's razor on the top of the trash in the bathroom)

me: Huh? No. Beth [my ex] left all kinds of stuff in there. I just threw away her razor and bath puff that had been sitting in the shower for a year.

Matt: OK...

me: Dude, look in the closet.



...That was actually true, except that I threw the razor away because I had just shaved my legs with it. The closet still has a bunch of stuff my ex left -- two packages of Venus razors, a box of tampons, some shampoo/conditioner for color treated hair (mine isn't), and some clips and things for hair much longer than mine.



At a Chinese buffet with Matt last weekend after we had smoked a joint...

(Matt is a little paranoid, and keeps talking about a redneck with a huge beard who keeps telling racist jokes to his wife. Matt keeps spacing out and staring at them accidentally.)

Matt: I think that guy over there called us a couple faggots.

me: That ZZ Top-looking guy?

Matt: Yeah.

me: Well, from there he can only see my right earring. He probably thinks that means we're gay. That and my pretty blouse.

(I'm wearing a T-shirt under an unbuttoned black shirt that has palm leaves and lillies)

Matt: You got your ears pierced?

me: What, are you blind?

(I had small gold hoops in each ear. I had just gotten my ears pierced that afternoon on my lunch break. Matt kinda spaces out again staring at me)

Matt: You look pretty... feminine.

me: Well, I am pretty, unlike your mom. Am I turning you on?

(another weird pause)

Matt: Do I come off as gay?

me: I told you I'm never getting high with you again if you act gay or start crying. Stop being creepy.