My wife found some naughty things..

[Melora]

My wife found some naughty things the other day..
I Really like looking at other TGs...
The picture that she found, was of a Brazilian ******* who is Soo Totally Cute! = Ana Paula Botelho.. She is soo perfect!! This picture that she found was XXX!!:eek:
Anyways..
My wife found the picture.. She let me know in a strange way..
She said.. You left the computer On.. I had to restart it.. My background was of Ana.. I know that she saw it..
Anyways..
My wife is still Soo Great in our relationship...
This was about 4 days ago...
She still tells me that she loves me.
And she knows that I CD!!
She does not want to be a part of it right now..
She might change though!
Maybe I should show her some more stuff from Ana Paula???
Katie/Melora

[Karren H]

I'd hazard a guess that showing her more, with her not wanting to get involved will probably not have a positive effect! Let her come along at her pace... Not yours..

[Shari]

Karren is right.
Don't go there.
The next move is hers.
And if she chooses to ignore it, just let the sleeping dog lie.

[Kate Simmons]

Yikes that is up to you but my personal opinion is that you are pushing the envelope my friend.

[Tasha McIntyre]

That would not go so well. Try showing her some flowers instead, they look llike this :love:

Tash

[PrettyFlowingGown]

I had a bad experience with a brazillian she-male in Hollywood in 2004, so I dont look at them anymore.

[Sandra]

And she knows that I CD!!
She does not want to be a part of it right now..
She might change though!
Maybe I should show her some more stuff from Ana Paula???
Katie/Melora

She doesn't want to be a part of it, yet you're thinking of showing her more pictures.

The poor woman is probably having all sorts of things going through her mind and seeing more pictures is probably the last thing she's thinking about.

Show her more and
She might change though might never happen.

[Dannie Lefae]

When my SO and I began exploring Emilie, I waned to share everything with her. Once it come out in the open, I wanted her to know everything, but I also realized that the struggle I had lived with all my life was still very new to her and I could not expect her to come to terms in a short time with something I was still not at ease with myself after many, many years. Some of the things I did to help her feel a little better but not push to hard was to show her some pictures of some very beautifully dressed cd's. I started with showing her very passable cd's. I am not one who is into the whole "bra and panties with your male parts hanging out" pictures, nor do I wish to have woman parts. So, as I began showing her photos of very hard to tell gurls, she became more interested in what I wanted to accomplish by dressing. The more she became interested, the more I explained and the more excepting she became. This was and still is a process, I don't want to pretend to know you or your SO, but if I had started showing my SO "chicks with dicks" pictures, I can honestly say that we would not have the relationship we have today.

Just my 1 cent (can't afford 2 cents, sorry :) )

Em

[ggtracy]

AS a GG, I definitely think you should move slowly. Finding ******* pics on your partners computer that you didn't know about can raise many questions/concerns for a GG. If she seems ok with it now, I would just let it go and wait for her to bring it up again. if she is interested in knowing/seeing more, she will let you know.

[Angie G]

Back-off hun. the ball is in her Court now let her make the play.:hugs:
Angie

[Sheila]

When my SO and I began exploring Emilie, I waned to share everything with her. Once it come out in the open, I wanted her to know everything, but I also realized that the struggle I had lived with all my life was still very new to her and I could not expect her to come to terms in a short time with something I was still not at ease with myself after many, many years. Some of the things I did to help her feel a little better but not push to hard was to show her some pictures of some very beautifully dressed cd's. I started with showing her very passable cd's.
Em


Hun even as ana ccepting GG if my partner started oggling ******** I would seriously begin to question where our relationship was heading ........... showing her pictures of ******** will in my opinion not make it any easier for her to accept your cding ....... in fact it is more likely to make it easier to either walk or throw your sorry A$$ outta the door.

all the peeps prior to me in this thread have given you good advice ........... be wise take it

[Jess_cd32]

Remember the phrase 'curiousity killed the cat'? Don't kill your relationship with your SO over this.
I'd back off and not show her any more pics, if she wants to see them she'll let you know as said above.

[nikki47]

I agree with the others,just back off and let her take it at her own pace.It took me and my wife years to be where we are now.Even now i still have my moments when i wonder is she truly happy with me when i dress, and then i look for reassurance,and she tells me everythings ok.
I hope it all works out for you 2.

Nikki

[valenstein]

Katie, I wouldn't. The fact that she knows about you and that tgirls are an interest, don't push her. It's a lot to absorb. She will certianly let you know if she wants to know/see more. You are in a good spot, take things slowly.

[janet1234]

To what extent are we CD's chicks with dicks?

[Tamara Croft]

Maybe I should show her some more stuff from Ana Paula???What part of this...
She does not want to be a part of it right now..... did you not understand?

You have pictures of her on your desktop, nice for you wife to see... NOT... then you want to slam more of it down her throat... do you have a death wish? If she's not ready, why the hell do you think showing her pictures of someone you think is 'totally cute' is going to make her anymore accepting? If anything, it will infuriate her. Start living in the real world, this is your wife you are talking about :rolleyes:

[JoAnne Wheeler]

For a totally HONEST answer - NO, NO, NO ! You are going to make things

a whole lot worse. Go very slow - at her pace - don't push - she may think

that you want to become a *******

JoAnne Wheeler

"An All American Bluegrass Girl and Proud As I Can Be"

[Shelly Preston]

My first thought when i read you idea of showing her more ******* pic is

Are You Mad

The last thing you should be doing is showing her more pics

As much as your wife allows you to dress this could be the last straw
I think you might have some explaining to do if the subject comes up in discussion

[gretchen2]

not a good idea! you should have pics of her.

[Melora]

Thanks to Everyone, who posted on this thread, and gave me the advise to "just let it be" and to just "not push it"..,
Advise well taken, in this situation. A situation which If I did what I suggested, would be a Verry stupid move For Sure!
And.. Also the Desk Top was a COMPLETE ACCIDENT! It was not intentional at all, to clear up the situation.
I am not crazy.. Just stuped in my train of thought At the time that I started this Thread.. As I was just thinking about my situation at the time.. And the thread came out.
Ultimately..
I would not have showed her any more piccies..
I am far to "Chicken" and smart to do that.

My wife IS Still soo Loving to me! She is STILL my #1! Though I "window shop" and Dream sometimes like Most Men do.
Now..
About ********...
They are a part of the CD world Too!......
Like it or Not! They are here and "CD" too.
The majority of the Good ones have lots of $$$ backing them and they are Here to stay, and they Just Might give CDing a bad reputation to the public, just because of what they Do and Are. Just like the Dragqueen Nuns that stormed a church service last year in California, and caused a big media ruckuss.. Bad publicity..

[MissConstrued]

Maybe I should show her some more stuff from Ana Paula???





Ya think maybe it's not doing your wife's psyche any good to find her dear hubby looking at gay porn?

[Ashlyee Paige]

How about changing the picture from this Ana Paula to your wife or the both of you together? :> THAT might make her feel better :> I doubt finding a picture would make her love you less but its still a point in the negative emotional bank. Replace it with something positive!

[Kate Simmons]

Be sure of your feelings with all of this. There is a huge difference between something you like to do and something that controls what you do.

[Marjory]

Crossdressing is about clothes, not nude pictures of transexuals. Get your priorities straight. You either want to be female or be a CD. Don't tell your wife you want to XD and then get an operation.

[Ashley Williams]

About ********...
They are a part of the CD world Too!......
Like it or Not! They are here and "CD" too.
The majority of the Good ones have lots of $$$ backing them and they are Here to stay, and they Just Might give CDing a bad reputation to the public, just because of what they Do and Are. Just like the Dragqueen Nuns that stormed a church service last year in California, and caused a big media ruckuss.. Bad publicity..

Surely by their behaviour, people who keep aspects of both sexes, then use that to peddle pornography, put themselves outside most normal experience.

That's not to say people can't do these things - but I don't think they, or the people interested in them, will find much to interest them on this site.

You sound to me like you are just trying to be provocative, but I don't think it does you any credit.

There are plenty of other places you can indulge yourself!

[ReineD]

I don't know who Ana Paula is but tread lightly my freind and figure out who you really are and what you want from your relationhship.


Crossdressing is about clothes, not nude pictures of transexuals. Get your priorities straight. You either want to be female or be a CD. Don't tell your wife you want to XD and then get an operation.

I'm glad you decided not to show your wife more pictures.

I'm with Kitty and Marjory .. this is way beyond the clothes. What is it exactly that you want? I'm surprised your wife didn't ask. You might ask if she is hurt by what she found.

Are you sexually stimulated by Ana Paula's images? And if so, why her and not some gorgeous GG porn star without the penis? Or is it the men she is with? Or do you fantasize about looking like her? It can't be strictly her femme parts since there are beautiful GG porn stars with great bodies out there too. Do you also want a ******* body? If I were your wife I would want to know how you feel and what motivates you to be attracted particularly to Ana Paula. And I would wonder how I fit into your fantasies.

[mykhelee]

I am in agreement with most of what is being said here. One thing I would ask is if you may have some "latent" issues. I have viewed "*******" vids. While they were a turn on I do understand also that they are gay porn. While I no longer view or own anything of that nature, my current GF knows that I have, no surprises.

If your wife finds these photos offensive and you just have to keep them around I would question your true dedication to your wife. A marriage is a "WE" thing not an "as long as she doesn't find out" thing.

good luck

[DonnaT]

How about changing the picture from this Ana Paula to your wife or the both of you together? :> THAT might make her feel better :> I doubt finding a picture would make her love you less but its still a point in the negative emotional bank. Replace it with something positive!

:iagree:

[carolinoakland]

whoa up there girl, respect her boundaries and let her curiosity and desire to be included be allowed to run it's course. Just because she knows and you dont' have a secret doesnt' mean she's ready to be an active participant. Please, go slow, and really respect her boundaries. Carol

[Brina Halloween]

I have to wonder here....you think she "saw" something. Which is not guaranteed.

No password: open program might have covered screen or sections of it.

Password in windows and she re-booted: Probably saw nothng. Most computers show the start-up screen when locked. Does she even know your password.

Since you apparently have seperate login on the computer. I would guess that you "wanted" her to see it.

and I agree with the loud "NO!", if you watch adult movies together you probably know her thoughts and if not, I think it is unlikely she has any interest.

:2c:

[kathrynjanos]

Yeah, umm, eww? She's really NOT hot. Her boobs look stuck on, she's got a horse face (as a proud owner of one, I can make that judgement!), and, well, just doesn't look that femme. Uhh, no.

If you're into that, whatever, that's your call, but to say she's cute? Nope.

[Ashlyee Paige]

Does anyone else hate the word "*******"? For some reason it just seems really dirty to me.

[kellycan27]

Don't push your luck.

[Linda Laman]

My instincts say that your wife probably wants to see more of you rather than someone else. Four years ago I told my wife that I was crossdressing and initially she did not want to be involved. Later I emailed her some photos of me dressed and then she started to take an interest. Now she is totally accepting and I dress nearly every day. She even helps me with all the girly stuff but does not want to go out with me dressed en femme, but that is a small sacrifice.

[AmandaM]

Are you sexually stimulated by Ana Paula's images? And if so, why her and not some gorgeous GG porn star without the penis? Or is it the men she is with? Or do you fantasize about looking like her? It can't be strictly her femme parts since there are beautiful GG porn stars with great bodies out there too. Do you also want a ******* body? If I were your wife I would want to know how you feel and what motivates you to be attracted particularly to Ana Paula. And I would wonder how I fit into your fantasies.

Exactly! I was open and honest with my wife. She knows I had two same-sex interludes before marriage. She knows I think some ******** are hot and I share some traits with them. But she also knows I'm 99% straight. That means, if she thinks I'll cheat, it'll most likely be a woman, and since I'm not the cheating kind, no fear. If you can't read between the lines, it means "full disclosure".

[ReineD]

What other word should be used instead of *******? I don't like the term either.

Melora, I've just read my post again and it sounds as if I am berating you. This was not my intent and I am sorry. I attempted to give you insight into what may be going through your wife's mind.

[kathrynjanos]

Pre-op Transsexual would be my choice

Ah, but some, such as the Ana Paula or whoever above are truly non-op. I think though that she-male could even be a further subdivision of the TS category, namely those who acknowledge and embrace the penis they still have.

[Ashlyee Paige]

Then it should be non-op transsexual, she-male is just a bad slang term to denote transsexuals in the porn industry and seems very demeaning.

[kathrynjanos]

Let's put it this way - if they cared that much, they'd probably object. We may, but we're not necessarily the ones being subjected despite being in similar groups. Besides, what's really in a name?

I know some people who object to "queer" and others who embrace it. Change it or leave it? Well, that depends on who you ask.

[Jess_cd32]

.......I'm with Kitty and Marjory .. this is way beyond the clothes. What is it exactly that you want? I'm surprised your wife didn't ask. You might ask if she is hurt by what she found.

Definatly bring this back up, I'm sure she's thinking all kinds of negatives right now and just not letting you know, if she's hurt FIX IT!, start with these:love:


.......Are you sexually stimulated by Ana Paula's images?..............
Or do you fantasize about looking like her? It can't be strictly her femme parts since there are beautiful GG porn stars with great bodies out there too. Do you also want a ******* body? If I were your wife I would want to know how you feel and what motivates you to be attracted particularly to Ana Paula. And I would wonder how I fit into your fantasies.

I think everyone has some degree of curiousity what an attractive pre op TS may look like, but is it beyond just basic curiousity?....if so then you have a serious issue to deal with within your relationship. I personally don't want to know, thats your personal business.

I myself have looked at a few years ago for curiousities sake. When you see what appears to be an attractive female and then she's with male anatomy, it kind of screws with your head abit. To me its like seeing a 3rd type of human species, I simply thought it was intriguing what I saw, I kind of did a :eek: and my curiousity about them was satisfied and I moved on.

I also was curious about what is reffered to as a hermaphrodite, having both sexual organs. Yes they really do have both and both were fully developed, minus testicles. For me again it was just basic curiousity, I satisfied that but if it is more with some with an SO I can see it causing serious problems. And really causing your spouse to question her own femininity and your relationship.

Talk to her, calm her fears, hopefully you were just curious like myself to see this and thats the end of it for your SO's sake. Our SO's put up with alot of sh*t from most of us, don't take it for granted.
We all do stupid things BTW, we're only human, don't regret posting this topic.