Wow,That Was Unexspected.

[Sandygal]

I've been wanting to write this for awhile, but not sure how to say what I'm thinking. I came out to a married couple who are friends of my wife and I. It's been about 2 years and no problems. But lately my freind has been telling me that he just loves to wear his wifes panties and has been trying on other things of hers. Yes I know he shouldn't be wearing her clothes. He started to experiment after learning about me. Was this deep inside of him without him knowing it? Did I steer him into crossdressing? Most of us started as children and didn't even realize what we were doing. When someone starts at a latter age, does it just need someone or something to trigger it? Its nice to have someone to talk to and its fun to see him so excited about the feeling of wearing womans clothes. But I wonder if he would have ever started this if I never came out to them. His wife has no idea.

[Marissa]

holding the gun to pull the trigger.. :)

okay, not sure what i meant by that but I would not put the blame on you.. did you trigger a deep desire to be a cd/ts?..no.. maybe you made it an interesting topic..so maybe he decided to try a pair on and found out how nice it feels.. will he go further..who knows..is it because of you?..no.. its his own thoughts and desires.. some are happy with just panties..others add bras.. and some..go all the way.. :)

but want to thank you for influencing someone to be a 'girl', you keep going and the world will be all 'girls'..lol okay..just kidding on that part..

lets see what others think..

[docrobbysherry]

I didn't start dressing until age 50+. Even THEN, I assumed any guy wearing ladies clothes MUST be a perv, or gay!:eek:

If someone I knew, that seemed fairly "non-pervy or gay", dressed, would I have experimented earlier?

I really DON'T KNOW!:brolleyes:

[marny]

Don't blame yourself. it has been simmering for years. You just gave him a way to explain it tiohis wife,which I suspect will happen soon.

[Sophia de la luz]

I started at age 40. Making up for lost time I guess, but during those 40 years I would have never guessed I would develop in such a direction. Although my wife wasn't surprised.
Anyhow, he sounds happy. Hope it works out for his wife in a way full of grace and pleasure.

[gretchen2]

Whether you influenced him or not, I say take the credit. This world will be a happier place with more of us in it.
So eat, drink, and be Marry

[Shari]

That has got to be one of the coolest stories I've read here.

Having a friend to talk to who embraces what we all love has got to be so fulfilling, and to think, you were the catalyst, the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back.

When he comes out to his wife, he has a better excuse than most of us.

All he has to say is........Sandy made me do it

[Ashlyee Paige]

Has he been in your house? I heard cd can be passed from toilet seats! Great thing though, at least he is curious and you can talk to each other! :)

[RylieCD]

Maybe you sparked some intrest, but as some have said, the desire would have already have been there. Be a friend and be their for advice. Like advise hime not to use his wifes things without her knowledge.

[Sammy777]

Where you tied him to a chair for 72 hours until he broke and gave in
I highly doubt it was your "fault".

No one ever really does anything they don't already want to do.

For all you know this is something that has been going on longer then 2yrs but it has just taken him this long to admit it to you.

Or it is something he can now do that he though he could not before.

Either way, like I said, I highly doubt you sparked the interest.
It has probably been there all along.

I can see it now.......
Conversation last week:
What do you think of the Marlins this year?

Conversation next week:
What do you think of boyshorts vs hipsters? :lol2:

[Teri Jean]

If he's curious or not pick up a package of bikinis for him. You probably know his size or can guess. That way his wifes stuff is safe and not ruined. Just make sure they are pink, Hahaha. Keli

[Sherry-Stephanie]

I think every healthy hetrosexual male has an attaction to woman's underwear...and I'll state it for this reason....

Guys like women in sexy underwear and the sexier the better..why, because that's jsutthe way men are "triggered" so it's really not that much of a leap for a man to want to try on or wear his's wife's underwear panties whatever....after all how many hetrosexual men have gone and bought panties, bra, garters for their wives and they generally have picked out what they (the man) likes, what appeals to them and what turns them on...so why wouldn't they want to take that next step and try/wear them?????

Case in point....I rest.

[Beth-Lock]

When a former boss, who had been a senior NCO in the air force, told me he put on his wife's bathing suit, when on holiday, I did not rush out an buy one, or get into CD'ing right then. I think you have to be ready, or something.

[ColletteCD]

That's a pretty cool story, but as others have mentioned, he needs to get his own things. I was wearing my wife's underthings on occasion. She found an old friend on one of the social sites, and turns out that he liked to wear panties and lingerie. The more she talked to him, the more things started clicking in her head.
I ended up talking to him one evening online, and yep, we had a lot of things in common. That night, my wife and I talked at length, and she told me that she was fine with me having my own girly underthings. It only took me to the next day to go out and buy some pink bikinis. She has given me my favorite thing of hers, since she didn't like to wear it, a white corsolette that she wore on our wedding day.
Since then there is a whole lot less stress in the house, which is really weird that it was causing that much tension. She can tell when it is time for me to get some dressing in, so we plan a night without the kids. That is enough to chill the urges, that accumulate beyond my wearing of panties each day.
We are lucky to have spouses that allow us, and even participate in our dressing. I could only wish that everyone could have someone to love in both our male self, and fem self.

[Angie G]

Maybe not but If he started because of you and he's happy the you've done he a faver.
What better gift can you give someone then to make them feel good.:hugs:
Angie

[Sissy_in_pink]

I'd be carefull here, he may have been doing it long before you came out to him and his wife and has only worked up enough guts to tell you now. The trouble is, if his wife finds out what he is doing and does not like it, it may cause their marriage to brake up and then they could blame you and your wife for him starting to crossdress. :2c:

[Jennifer_Cross]

I saw a simple photo in a mens mag... That was it! Just had to try it...

It's a 'LATENT' thing

Jen

[Karen564]

Maybe it's like catching the flue, and he needed to find a remedy to cure it, which just so happened to be wearing some sexy panties..:heehee:

So don't blame yourself..you didn't point a gun at his head to do it, did you.

Karen

[Sandygal]

I don't think he will ever come out to his wife. I can see that fear in his eyes of her finding out. I believe she is the type of person who accepts what goes on around her,but don't let it happen to me. It only took me 30 years to tell my wife, so I can't expent him to come charging out. He is in that experimental stage.

[Cassiecd]

Sandy

I canot add much to what the others have said, and I do agree. Do not feel bad about this. Love will find a way, and it did for him!

I am glad to see others here who were late bloomers! I started when I was 50. It would not have been "triggered" earlier because of all the things in my life that formed me and changed and brought me to this point. Right place, right time.

[Alice B]

I did not start until 60, so you are not the trigger, just a friend that he can safely come out to. The question is - does his wife know?

[JoAnne Wheeler]

He might just be experimentng trying to find out what it is that you get out of

it. If he is truly a crossdresser, then my opinion is that he was born that

way. You are not responsible for his choices.

JoAnne Wheeler