finding an understanding companion for dressing

[debbie409]

hello all:
i have been dressing alone in private for years and allthough i still wish to keep my dressing confined to my bedroom i would like to find a understanding female companion to share occasional dressing games with. any ideas on where to find such a lady?

thank you

[Shikyo]

I doubt there is going to be any way for sure to find a wonderful person like that. The only way I can think of is becoming social and trying to get into contacts with all the people one can. Sooner or later you will be able to find a match for you, no matter the way, no matter the distance.

From my own experience I can say that the internet has a good chance of bringing people together. Beware it is not the safest way though. Meeting with people over the internet is and will always be potentially dangerous.

Being honest is something all girls are going to like, no matter their age. Do not lie, do not pretend, do not try to get into their pants, etc. See them as what they are, not as object or anything one should desire. Both you and her should be able to enjoy the time you spend with each other, which is only possible if both sides co-operate(ATTENTION:my opinion).

Final word of advice: Do not rush the situation nor put her under pressure. Just be yourself and everything should work out well with the right person.

[JoannaCaroline]

In public! Unfortunately your going to find it difficult (or at least very slow) to find online unless you are willing to pay for it. i.e. professional mistress/Dom. Not that I find anything wrong with that.

Many years ago, I did meet a GG on line that I dated briefly. She was a wonderful woman but the relationship was short-lived. I highly recommend you just meet/date/hang out with cool openminded people. It's been my experience in the last 20 yrs (since I was 18) that when you do this, the whole TG/CD thing is really no big deal.

I say this drinking coffee, typing with 2-inch long nails, sitting next to my wife.

[Shikyo]

In public! Unfortunately your going to find it difficult (or at least very slow) to find online unless you are willing to pay for it. i.e. professional mistress/Dom. Not that I find anything wrong with that.

Many years ago, I did meet a GG on line that I dated briefly. She was a wonderful woman but the relationship was short-lived. I highly recommend you just meet/date/hang out with cool openminded people. It's been my experience in the last 20 yrs (since I was 18) that when you do this, the whole TG/CD thing is really no big deal.

I say this drinking coffee, typing with 2-inch long nails, sitting next to my wife.

It also depends of the luck. I met my wife via the internet. There was only a small distance of over 10 000km between us, but we met, we started dating, we moved in together, we got married and are still married. My uncle is also married to someone he met over the internet and he has been for many years already. It can work out, but it can be dangerous or difficult.
Though in my case it was all luck, that ever got to know her at all. All because I once had joined an internet forum years ago...

I say this not drinking coffee(I could never learn to drink it, I had a smoothie earlier, does that count?), sadly not with my usual 2 inch nails(the physical work at my working place damaged them too much, so I had to cut them), but instead I'm wearing a nice skirt while sitting next to my wife.

[sometimes_miss]

The very question that the vast majority of us ponder every day. So far, there doesn't seem to be an answer. They are out there, but there's no sure way to find them without outing yourself, and even that's no guarantee. Like everywhere else, if you're beautiful you have a much better chance; I suppose that there are women who might find a gorgeous CD'er interestingly attractive, but most of us never approach that.

[Teri Jean]

Like others I have not been successful in this area and being older than some I think if I have friends who are supportive are more important. And one never knows where that approach will go. You may accidentally find someone who is supportive as well as someone you want to be more than friends with. But if you do make sure she has a sister, Heehee. Keli

[Josephine 1941]

Hi Debbie, I guess I am one of the lucky ones. I met my present GG 3 yrs ago in May. My Wife started divorcing me in Oct of 04. finished up in Dec. of 05. She brought up the cross dressing but once they accepted even part of it was a mute point. I moved to Flordia because if I found out who she was messing around with I might have done something stupid. I found that meeting women was not that hard, I was very up front that I dress as a women, not 24/7 but that it was part of my life. Most accepted it ,the one thing that I put in my mind was never go to bed with anyone unless u tell them first about your dressing. I was, an still am amazed that most accepted it. I had to got back to Connecticut to finish up some paper work in May of 06. A friend of mine also a CD was also Pres. of a singles group, an ask me to come along to a dinner that they were having , it was a straight group. I went just to get out as it was a Wed. night an I was heading back to Fl. on Sat. After the dinner I had talked with a few people but was thinking about my life in General, had been married 30 yrs and I was a little long in the tooth 65. I had stepped out on the porch which was about 15 ft. above the drive way to the building, I saw this car come in an park. Up the the drive way comes Melissa. She is almost 6ft tall dark alburn hair and very pretty. She spots me an stops looks up at me , An said you are in a very advantageous position and I am a naturalest. I said to my self what dose that have to do with the price of beans. Not wanting to be a jerk I kept my mouth shut. She came in an, I went inside an sat down, she ck in with people she knew spotted me an come over an sat down. We talked for 4 hrs. I asked her for a date for friday an she said yes, got her phone number an we left for the night. On friday it was raining cats an dogs in New England. I called her up in the afternoon to tell her of my plans, 1 to go to the local casino's , 2 go out for dinner an a show, 3 I would come to her home with a pot of vension chill an a bottle of wine. She took 3. That night I got there about 7 ,we ate and drank seeing we were heading for bed I told her about my CD ing . She asked me what size I was, surprized I said 16, she said great so am I , how about shoes I said 10 1/2 to 11 me too she said. That was the start of this great love we have for each other. SEX is great too. Melissa an I go ever were together as girl friends and husband an wife. She even bought me a wig the same color as her hair an style. Her cloths were all black when I met her,as she was a widow. She wore more of my cloths to start as I have very good fashion style. Needles to say we now shop together for all our cloths, also when one of us bring something home I have to try it on. I found out later that she also owns this beautiful home in Venice Fl on the west coast, it is our home . There are women out there that will take you as is if you are up front an honest. Yes you will fail once in a while but you did as a man too. When you find a love like I got it sure make life wonderful. Good luck JOE/JOsephine

[MsJanessa]

it's hard for Me to tell who or what you are looking for? Are you seeking a GG girlfriend or another CD?TG? and are you looking for a romantic partner or just a friend? If the latter than probably could find somebody here at Crossdressers.com or some other internet site( try urnotalone.com) If you are looking for someone to dress and be sexual with and are looking for another cd---same answer and maybe you could also try alt.com--if you are looking for a GG just to be a friend and help you dress and make up then here or urnotalone---if you are looking for a GG to help you dress and be your lover--harder to find but they do exist.

Whoops I reread your post and I guess you are looking for a GG?

[PaulaSF]

Tho, "easier said, than done," I'd focusing on finding a GG that I hit it off with, and then broach the dressing, vs. the other way around...

Plenty of early clues (like, "I love a man with a hairy chest," cross her off the list :), as to whether she'd be accepting (and if you're already smooth & underdressing, will be easy to bring up the first time you're intimate, etc.)

Progessive attitudes about other topics, and accepting diversity, as well as her expose to divergent gender and sexuality expressions would all be factors, as well (i.e., suggest seeing the movie, "Milk," together, for example!).

Not sure how accurate of a stereotype this might be, but my experience is that GGs older than you might be more likely to consider you a "catch," and thus more willing to "overlook" things. 'Course, likely doesn't hurt "my cause," that I'm a narcissistic cougar/MILF :o On the other hand, younger folks more accepting of diversity. Her confidence, sense of self, will be important, and not feeling "threatened" by your en femme presentation/persona.

Also think a "Barbie"/fashionista sorta GG would be more open; a dowdy ole gal ain't likely to be into fashion, makeup, etc. :devil: Women can get jealous, if you're too much nicer looking, en femme, than they are!

Don't hide, or minimize the extent of importance your dresisng means to you; "changing the rules" down the road is a common cause of friction.

cheers,
Paula

[Karren H]

Good luck with that.... I think your just have to track down someone that has an accepting SO and steal her away! That's how its done in nature!! Lol.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Debbie - unfortunately they are few and far between - while you can read

about several absolutely wonderful GGs on this Foum, the sad fact is that

there are so very few out there


JoAnne Wheeler

[Ashley Lyn]

I have found, in my experiences, that you will know when you meet someone who will understand the CD'ing..

After my first divorce (not due to CD'ing, but the ex used that as ammo at the proceeding), I decided that CD'ing was part of my life, and I wasn't going to hide it or live without it!:)

Out of the GG's I told, they were all understanding, and only one said 'she could not deal with it'.. :straightface: My current (and last wife) is very supportive.. It makes life so much easier! :heehee:

Good luck.. They are out there....!!

[Bea A]

I'm one of the VERY lucky ones. She was asking me today while out shopping why I didn't want to rush home after church and get dressed. I try to keep things in perspective though. The good ones are out there, just quit looking and then you'll find her. My wife and I met at Dinseyland in 99. She went to see Mickey and brought home Goofy!:love:

[joann426]

that was so cool lisa mickey, and goofey

[JulieK1980]

For me it took just being open and honest about it from the beginning. There are plenty that are accepting, you just have to go through a lot of duds to find a worthwhile one. I don't think there is any one proven way, but with patience you will find one.