Sheila
03-11-2009, 05:20 AM
Not something that has ever happened with my wife, after all I am a CD so this is what I do. For my wife to tell me that she cannot deal with me in a dress is really stating she cannot deal with me as a person, in which case I would just leave her alone. I guess this comes done to whether you see crossdressing as a special hobby which needs permission or you see it as an intrinsic part of someone's personality.
I mean has any man ever told his SO "I cannot deal with you in jeans tonight, please change into a dress so I can relate to you as my wife/gf?" Just seems loopy to me.
rather than clog the CDR's only thread up I started I took this quote to explain where some of us GG's come from
Satrana, many GG's actually had no damned idea their partner did this and for many of them not for several years after entering into the relationship (some as many as over 20 years) ....... trust me it can take some getting used to .............. now what some of us can't (for me it used to be can't get ..... I do now) .... was when you have a supportive partner, and time is limited by kids, jobs, other obligations etc, you choose not to dress, so where sometimes you choose to dress, some nights we choose to have our partner in gender specific clothing .... no right or wrong just personal choices & trust me yes men do ask their partners to dress outta Jeans/slacks into skirts ... my Ex did frequently, sometimes I complied sometimes I didn't ....... it works both ways hun.
For my wife to tell me that she cannot deal with me in a dress is really stating she cannot deal with me as a person, in which case I would just leave her alone.
Sweetie it is not about not wanting to deal with our partneres as a person, sometimes we just wish/need to have the gender specific person in their gender specific clothes we fell in love with
I mean has any man ever told his SO "I cannot deal with you in jeans tonight, please change into a dress so I can relate to you as my wife/gf?" Just seems loopy to me.
rather than clog the CDR's only thread up I started I took this quote to explain where some of us GG's come from
Satrana, many GG's actually had no damned idea their partner did this and for many of them not for several years after entering into the relationship (some as many as over 20 years) ....... trust me it can take some getting used to .............. now what some of us can't (for me it used to be can't get ..... I do now) .... was when you have a supportive partner, and time is limited by kids, jobs, other obligations etc, you choose not to dress, so where sometimes you choose to dress, some nights we choose to have our partner in gender specific clothing .... no right or wrong just personal choices & trust me yes men do ask their partners to dress outta Jeans/slacks into skirts ... my Ex did frequently, sometimes I complied sometimes I didn't ....... it works both ways hun.
For my wife to tell me that she cannot deal with me in a dress is really stating she cannot deal with me as a person, in which case I would just leave her alone.
Sweetie it is not about not wanting to deal with our partneres as a person, sometimes we just wish/need to have the gender specific person in their gender specific clothes we fell in love with