Dating

[Janetmarie]

Any of you out there ever date while dressed en femme? I have dreams of it and when awake I really want to be on a date with a man and experience being a woman while on a date. I have had dreams about him having his way with me and find that I really want it to happen. Anybody have any experience with this?

[PanteeQueen]

I have never been on a date, but on occation I find myself having the same fantasies.

[tricia_uktv]

Careful what you wish for JanetMarie! I have been on numerous dates with men. Some are really nice but most don't work. They are often as scared of us as we are them. Definately worth you getting to know them as well as you can before the date.

[krisinpink]

The only experience I have in this arena is that I've had some of the same fantasies too!

[Billijo49504]

Oh Heck, You just want to see a movie and get a good meal :drink:with out having to pay:tongueout....BJ

[Donna tv]

I have to be honest I have had the same dreams, thoughts fantasies what ever you want to label them , I'm all in

[ladybirdloves]

I have the fantasy's but dont think I would go as far as an actual date.. heavens I havent even ventured outside yet!!

[Deborah Jane]

My dreams of meeting an accepting partner came true on this forum.

I started chatting with a GG here [Sheila], within a month we met each other and she spent Christmas with me :)

Long story short.......
We are now engaged and plan to marry in October

So yes, i guess dreams do come true :daydreaming:

[Alicia_lynn419]

Same here.. have had the fantasy, but never had the reality (somehow I think the fantasy may be better). the few times I "went looking" to meet a nice guy, I've always been disappointed.

[julie w]

I have a cd friend that has been drab and me as Julie on a couple of day
trips ,its much easyer to pass than two cd s

[buffchick]

. I have had dreams about him having his way with me and find that I really want it to happen.

I found the above quote very interesting. What does it mean to a CD to have a man "have his way with me"?

[geri-tg.]

I have often had the same dream only to awake and find the dream in hand.:o

[docrobbysherry]

That's the only "man" I can stand to be with!:D

And I make HIM dress up, so I can't recognise him, before we meet!:brolleyes:

[TommiTN]

I found the above quote very interesting. What does it mean to a CD to have a man "have his way with me"?


It means approximately the same thing it means when a GG says it. Use your imagination.

[windycissy]

Yes, my first date (reported here in my now infamous "I've been dating a guy" thread) was a CD'er I met on this forum, we met as girls but he was totally unpassable, but he started taking me out with him as the guy and me as the girl, the first time we kissed it rocked my world! He's gone now, but I was hooked, and eventually I went the Craigslist route, not for the faint of heart: most of the guys who connect with you there are wannabees, sickos or worse...so I had to be ruthlessly selective, and I had my hits and misses, before I met a really cool guy who made a woman out of me. Since then, I've continued to play the field, very carefully, my latest beau is a handsome divorcee who treats me like a lady, and let me tell you: being the woman on a date is the best! And the bedroom stuff is fun too, don't knock it till you try it...

[dilane]

If you are a closeted CD, and don't at least have experience handling men in clubs, etc, you are getting way ahead of yourself, imo.

[BrittneySmith]

I've done the cragislist thing and it was fun. not to sound like a *****, I've done it on multiple occasions. As long as you play a little bit of tag and commnicate, and play SAFE it is fun. I've fulfilled some fantasies and have even made some friends, but you have to be wary. I'm single, no kids, and live alone btw.

[Gwendolyn]

Oh Heck, You just want to see a movie and get a good meal :drink:with out having to pay:tongueout....BJ

I realize that BJ is your initials...but still...that reads funny.

[DemonicDaughter]

As a strong-minded, independent, self-sufficient GG, I've never had the fantasy of a man "having his way with me". I'm in charge of that... I know what I'm doing and it works better when someone just learns to deal with not being the one in control. :devil:

[prene]

Any of you out there ever date while dressed en femme? I have dreams of it and when awake I really want to be on a date with a man and experience being a woman while on a date. I have had dreams about him having his way with me and find that I really want it to happen. Anybody have any experience with this?

Only when I dress. And it is about me having my way with him.

As Windycissy said " my latest beau is a handsome divorcee who treats me like a lady, and let me tell you: being the woman on a date is the best! And the bedroom stuff is fun too, don't knock it till you try it... "

I can't believe I am writing this if I wasn't in my forms, makeup, panties, bra.
I don't think I would even consider writing this.

[JoannaCaroline]

That's the only "man" I can stand to be with!:D

And I make HIM dress up, so I can't recognise him, before we meet!:brolleyes:

This quote was hilarious!! Love it!

I dated men women, TG's before I got married. I have no problem being attracted to any gender as long as Im attracted to the person. I'll be honest, a few of the men were sweet, several were not and I couldn't get over the way they felt or smelled. I'd never really noticed it before, but I hate the way beard hair feels when you kiss someone, and men have a certain smell that is not pleasant to me.

You'll have no problem finding men for sex, but Im betting you'll be disapointed in most of that. You'l have a harder time finding someone who will want to truly date. It's not that different than any other dating but the pool of acceptable will applicants is much smaller and a lot of them are as timid about it as you are.

I quickly gave up and not too long after I met my wife.

[Desiree2bababe]

In my younger years, yes. It was always wonderful!

[JaneWilliams]

Hi JanetMarie. Have you tried Stockings-Dating.com? They have men who want to date CDs and TGirls. Might get to meet the man of your dreams. Just a suggestion.

[MsJanessa]

Dating as a TG is a lot like dating as a GG---sometimes the sparkle and snap is there and sometimes absolutly not---what you want to make sure of, darling, is that you always remain in control---one way to go about that is make sure you and the guy know what to expect before meeting each other for a date---best way is to initially meet him in a TG freindly public place usually a gay bar that at least accepts, if not actually caters to, the TG crowd. That way, if you don't like the way he looks or acts or you feel anyway at all uneasy about it, you can back out gracefully with no danger to yourself---a man "having his way" with you would be fun if it was the right guy---the wrong guy who did it would be a horrible experience--- if he refuses to meet with you in such a place, simply write him off--he is just a fantasy seeker---with Me, its easy because I'm the one Who gets Her way---if he can't accept that going into the relationship, then a private date isn't going to happen.:dom: And if he does accept it, then W/we generally have a good time. Anyway good luck and be safe.

[cindym5_04]

I've never actually gone on a date with a guy, but I've had fantasies about doing that.

I used to escort, so the "having his way with me" thing, was fairly normal.

I'm married now, to the most wonderful GG, who has known me for a long time and has always been accepting and supportive.

[ria_ts]

I had my first ever date with a guy just over 9 months ago. I had first met him at a book club and then at an art exhibition in another part of town on the same day. When he saw me the second time on the same day, he pointed out that we seem to have similar interests. I agreed. We chatted for a bit, but then decided to meet again another day on a date. I had figured out during our conversation that he worked at the same company as I did (but he still does not know that). I felt safe going out with him.

I had just returned to my city after being away for a year in a place where I was afraid of going out as a girl. So I was a bit desperately trying to regain my lost ground as a girl. I have lived all of my social life as a girl since I returned back here, although I was never out at work (before I got laid off). I was not on HRT then. I was effectively just cross dressing in those days. However, I dress like any woman my age around this area, which is usually jeans, t-shirt and sneakers, with a coat added on sometimes. So that's how he saw me the first time.

Before my date, which was 6 days after our first meeting, I wrote to him that I am transsexual. He said that he has known transsexuals but not dated any. He said he really likes my calm and composed nature, and he enjoys listening to everything I say, and he thinks I look so passable that he had no clue. I told him there won't be any sex. He was fine with that too. I guess I trusted him a lot. I have never agreed to go out with any other guys before or after. I had though about the possibility of dating men, but I did want want to even try dating anyone whom I doubted even slightly. This was the first guy I felt like I could go on a date with. I don't enjoy dumping my date or getting dumped. I am a sucker for long-term relationships.

So, on the day of my date, I woke up at 10am and began to get prepared for my date which was in the afternoon, at a science center. We were both geeks anyway. I wanted to feel perfectly right on my first date. Well, I got dressed wearing brown polka dot blouse, black capris, sling-back shoes, and a black jacket, with a black bracelet. Essentially the only skin he could see was around my ankles and my wrists and arms. I wanted to get to know him and I wanted him to get to know me.

I reached the science center, parked my car, struggled to find him, but I called him and he guided me to him. He bought the tickets for me. We watched the shows, walked around there a lot, talked a lot about every random topic. Then he drove me to a restaurant. On the way, we passed through some desolate area under a bridge. I asked him joking, "Are you going to kill me and dump me here? If so, please be gentle". He responded quickly saying, "Not today, I need to keep you alive longer, perhaps in my dungeon". I broke out laughing in his car all the way to the restaurant. He has a fantastic sense of humor. I love him. And no, he does not have a dungeon. He has a basement where we watch movies on a big screen. No dungeon, not that I would mind that anymore. I never thought I would love a guy, but now I am in love.

That evening of our first date, we spent the rest of our evening at the restaurant on a waterfront having seafood and talking about random stuff again while the sun set. He dropped me off near my car. I went home. He did not even kiss me. In fact, he did not even touch me much except gentle guiding touching on my elbow. He was very respectful and he cared about me. He wanted to see me again.

We did not even kiss until the 3rd date. We are still together 9 months later. We do not meet every day, but we write almost every day. He has been my huge pillar of support, in addition to one other friend I have online on this site, and he has helped me get through my first ever depression in my life last month by giving me courage to be myself. Oh and he recently started the lean with bend-me-backwards kiss. I absolutely love that. :o

He belongs to a different culture that expects him to marry someone from his culture. So we may not be together for ever and we know it. However, we are also fantastic friends. We understand each other very well, we are very supportive of each other, we love to listen to each other, etc. We have never fought, even though we respectfully challenge one another. He says he can listen to me for hours, and it is true - so many days, I have kept rambling about stuff from 6pm to 3am, and he still listens and understands and responds. I recently asked him if I sometimes say things that are so ridiculous that I should just shut up. He responded, "yes, once, right now". He never loses his sense of humor, which I find so relaxing. When I started HRT four months ago, he was very supportive. Now that I need to get off HRT, he is there for me. Sometimes I feel sad that we won't be a couple and that dating him is a dead-end, but I love having him as my friend too and I can probably be his friend for ever.

So, that's my dating experience, dating a guy. Long message, I know. What can I do? I am a girl ... :)

[marla01]

I've been dating guys some for a couple of years now. I've had good dates and bad dates and 'the guy is an idiot' dates. But I'm still looking for that great date :-)

All my great dates seem to be with women.

Marla

[JoAnne Wheeler]

NO - I have absolutely NO desire to be around men - its GGs only for me

JoAnne Wheeler

[kellycan27]

Matthew is my first serious boyfriend. I did date a couple guys in college, and actually did have some fun, for the most part. there's aways a couple knuckleheads here and there. As for the "letting him have his way with me" thingy....:heehee:

[marla01]

NO - I have absolutely NO desire to be around men - its GGs only for me

JoAnne Wheeler

JoAnne, I hate to come off negative here, but what was the point of your post?

Many woman here don't date men but that wasn't the topic.

Were you trying to say something about this topic and those of us that do date en femme?

Marla

The lady doth protest too much, methinks.
Hamlet Act 3, scene 2

[beckyturner]

hi i consider myself straight but when dressed ive been with a few men and really enjoy being there lady for the night, makes you feel whole.

[ArleneRaquel]

I date at least once a week,dinner & dancing mostly, and I have had great times with the various men, but there are may creeps out there so get to know the person well in advance of the date via e - mail, phone, ect and ALWAYS meet ( if you ever do ) in public places.The pervs would like nothing better than " to hang " one of us as a prize on the wall. :sad: :hugs: :love:

[Noxvictum]

I've fantasized often and will continue to, but dont know if I'll ever go that far... I find DD's comment funny, simply because I'm girlier than most of the girls I know. Like having someone else in control is new to me! HA HA! Now if I can get me a chick like that, no guy's ever gonna get chance with me. Like I've said before, I love boobs. Yes, I'm aware that this is a TG site, and everyone here has boobs. But thats besides the point :P

[Tracii G]

I have dated both sexes en femme but I must know the person first.
I will not use a dating sevice or CL I can find a date on my own.
Actualy went out Sat with my ex BF and had a very nice dinner date and a good talk after and cleared up our differences.
Always be in control is the main thing.There are a lot of perves out there.
Look for a trandgender group in your area and join you may meet a great person there.