Jeans v Skirts and dresses

[Barb123]

I am needing some advice.
Can us girls "pass" as easily in jeans as we might all dressed up to the 9's?

I have always set a goal to look femme since pretty as too lofty. I try to fit in with my environment but it is hard to find places and settings where being all dressed up fits. I would prefer to dress up because it is more fun. Dresses are the most fun but I also like the whole skirt look because it accommodates the my top being a little larger than my bottom. I am now relatively confident all dressed to go shopping, to restaurants and I have even traveled by airplane.

I have noticed recently that some of you look great in jeans and high heels. This may open a whole new arena.

But my question is: does it pass as well?

I am persuaded that the dress / skirt thing works because people make a flash assumption when they first see someone, they identify the gender and the rest just reinforces it or it doesn't. And so, if everything else fits, the odds are we pass.

Is the same true with a gal in nice, maybe even tight jeans and high heels or boots? Still taking care to look your best.
If she has nice hair and a top and the whole look and if your in the right environment, does she pass as well?

It would be easier to go out and would give one more flexibility in getting out.

What is your take? Have you ventured out like this? Can it be as fun?

[mjryo]

While not as adventurous as you...not even close, I've tried a few jeans , those bought for myself and those 'borrowed' and I've never thought they looked as great on me as on a female. Now, a short skirt or cute dress, with a fresh pair of shaven legs and some high heels...well if I had the ***** to come out and go out, I am sure I would be able to pass way more than a pair of jeans.

[Staci K]

Your question reminds me of an old joke. How do you spot a crossdresser in a room full of women? He's the one in a skirt or dress.

Unfortunately, with the rain Seattle is known for, the above joke is true in my neck of the woods. More often than not, you'll mostly see GG's dressed in pants here - you'd be more likely to pass in pants like most GG's wear here in Seattle.

Nicole

[Celeste]

You know it's a matter of personal opinion,I love them and especially tight.Pulling them off would be a matter of how you accessorize,how well they fit and how you move with them.I like them because 1)they are comfortable and that helps with confidence 2)they're a gauge to watch my figure by,when they stop fitting I've got to exercise to get back in to them.

[tamarav]

Oh believe me, as much as I love tight skirts and dresses, I have learned that fitting into my environment is much easier wearing what everybody else wears.

As you just read earlier a few posts above me, the Seattle area is not known for dresses and skirts. They just look out of place. I work with women daily and wear what they wear, jeans and a top. They can be very attractive, they just don't fit many people's impression of what a really feminine look is.

So, you are torn, wear a really nice feminine dress and heels or fit in and wear tight jeans and a cute top. Since I try to fit in as much as my definitions allow, I still get outlandish in my hair and makeup.


These are some of my work outfits from last week. They made me feel just fine...


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[Peka TG]

I got Mame'd all day yesterday. Ronnie and I spent the whole day Shopping.
I was in jeans, a nice top, my everyday flats, no forms and some light makeup. From the young girl seating us for lunch (right this way lady's) to the SA at Payless( you ready to check out Mam'e?) to the girl at the make up counter ( you lady's need some help?) I was treated just like any other woman out for a day of shopping.

The mall was packed and there were very few GG's wearing skirts or dresses, I felt like I fit right in.

This was the first time my wife has gone shopping with me dressed. She puts all the acceptance down to A) I blended well. B) How comfortable I was, and C) My very Feminine hair style. :heehee:

Your right on the flash assumption, but in my case I think it's the hair more so than the way I was dressed. It dosen't matter if your in jean's, a dress or a skirt, the main thing is to just get out there and have fun!!

Huggs
Paula

[Deborah Jane]

Look at what the GGs are wearing where you go out, if most of them are wearing jeans, then you probably have a better chance of passing/blending if you wear the same.
If where you go the majority are wearing skirts or dresses, again dressing the same way would bring less attention to you.

[Barbie1970]

If you got the Leggs ...Show them off :eek::D

[Melissa Charlotte]

Mix the both together. Works really well for me x

[Sarah...]

Yeah, I would say don't worry. I go out in jeans/trousers a lot and my golden rule is the same as when I'm in a skirt or a dress - be confident in who you are. Yes, people make a snap judgement based on what they see, but if you're confident in your natural femininity you could wear anything and still be the woman you are.

Often the addition of just one or two accessories is enough to send out that subliminal "woman" message. Your confidence will do the rest :)

Sarah...

[Beth Wilde]

I do love my skirts and dresses but I also have jeans which are sometimes a much better way to fit in. They go well with my heeled boots and if you want the femme feeling then there are patterned jeans out there, I have a pair with patterns on the top half of both legs and the rear pockets, they look really femme and are so comfy. When worn with a nice top it is more than possible to pass in jeans. As others have said, it depends on what others are wearing and the environment (and weather) you are going out in.

[Sara Jessica]

You have to know that I must chime in on this one because I'm all about the jeans. They're truly just as fun. I wear them out a lot because of their blendability and style (most of mine have some sort of adornment, embroidery, jewels, etc). Jeans look amazing with the right heels as well as cute ballet style flats (there's such a difference in navigating while out and about in flats versus heels, it's so much easier).

[SweetCaroline]

Funny you should mention this since I just started a thread about wearing jeans en femme for the first time in the picture forum.

Unfortunatly, I'd have to agree with some others that jeans and slacks may be more passible in public these days, since sadly, most women don't wear dresses and skirts as much on a day to day basis. Except for a handful of business women, and maybe a few church goers on Sunday afternoon, I have to say I rarely see women at the mall in skirts.

[marie354]

When I first came out, I wore pants or shorts. Like most of the girls in the town I lived in.
But... I have a very tiny hiney, and it makes me look kind of odd. I switched to skirts or dresses because I can achieve a better shape.
A skirt and top especially, can hide a few figure flaws.
I suppose that high waisted pants might work, but to pull in my waist that small would be very uncomfortable for me.
Each to his own (er... her own.)
:)

[marla01]

I tend to wear skirts both because I have good legs and because I have no butt.

But.....

I just got dressed for church before I stopped in here. Guess what, I am wearing jeans. This is mainly because jeans or pants are what most women at church wear (it's a fairly informal congregation). Now I do wear skirts to church, but I felt I wanted to dress down today.

Marla

[Jolene]

It seems many people these days male or female do not dress up anymore unless it is a formal function such as a wedding. I wear my fem jeans everyday as my usual wear and sometimes push things as far as I dare with a nice top or a pair of fem slacks. I have many nice blouses and skirts but they are for around the house wear since my chances of going out in my small city and being spotted by someone I know are quite good and that would not be worth the grief.

[Brina Halloween]

I am letting my hair grow. Put it up probably a little high in a ponytail, girl jeans (as always) and started looking up the air filter I needed...."Ma'am can I help you". :eek: Someone asked if I needed help in a wally world? :eek: and thought I was a Ma'am until I looked at them? :eek:

People key in on many things. A dress or skirt is just an obvious quick one. I know many girls that dance and wear both. The tight pair of jeans gets my attention just as easily I notice. How they are worn can make you look very fem in my opinion.

Brina

[kellycan27]

My job requires that I dress in business attire. When I get home i love slipping.......well jumping up and down into my jeans. pretty much the standard for the weekends, except when I go to church.

[Sallee]

I try to dress to blend It depends on where I am going The mall,or other places that are general folks out doing there daily thing I usually go in jeans and flats whatever the majority are wearing. If it is out dancing it is glam, skirts with heels. That is not to say I wouldn't love to hit the mall dressed to the nines but I would get read like a book

[Super Amanda]

If you care about blending in, you will dress like the masses. I know as a guy, I ALWAYS take more notice when a woman is in a dress and heels. And that goes for my non TG friends as well. A skirt or dress will ALWAYS get more attention, period.

[windycissy]

Like most of the girls have already said, you're much more passable at the mall in jeans. As for whether they'll look good on you, it's the same as buying a dress: you gotta try them on! I spent a lot of time trying on jeans before I found the perfect pair that made my butt look sexy.

[Rachel Morley]

I have the same dilemma as you ... which is best? skirts and/or dresses or jeans? I guess like others have said, it all depends on where you live, where you are going, what you are doing, and what every other GG around you is wearing.

The problem I personally have with wearing jeans, is that I can't wear my usual hip and bottom padded panty as it looks too bulky under my jeans ... but not having anything at all it looks like I have boy hips :sad: What I usually do is take out the smaller butt pads and put them on my hips under my LLPG to give me some sort of shape but not my usual hip size.

The other thing is getting the right sort of jeans. Jeans that you look good in and of course, tucking well (which is another problem I have. I can't seem to locate my cavities :sad:)

I do wear skirts to the mall/downtown etc but they are either denim or they are thicker type material khaki skirts or skorts. You know, the ones that are a plain color and have a more "utility look" with pockets on them etc. I can also wear my regular hip and bottom pads with this type to give me more of a femme shape. This works quite well with low slides and a top of some sort as they are a very casual skirt and therefore are more in the "jeans ballpark" area. So, yes, I do wear jeans .... but it's not my preference and I have to be very selective as to what type of skirt I put on.

[Karen564]

I am needing some advice.
Can us girls "pass" as easily in jeans as we might all dressed up to the 9's?

I have noticed recently that some of you look great in jeans and high heels. This may open a whole new arena.
I think it's easier to pass by blending into what everyone else is wearing at the place your in, for instance, I don't see many women dressed to the 9's in dresses & fancy spiked dress heels getting their groceries, so it's like anything and common sense to just dress appropiately to your enviroment.



Is the same true with a gal in nice, maybe even tight jeans and high heels or boots? Still taking care to look your best.

If she has nice hair and a top and the whole look and if your in the right environment, does she pass as well?

I certainly believe so, I had such a great time last weekend in jeans and I never had any feelings of being read at all by anyone, despite the terrible makeup job I did, and what I was doing was very up close & personal interacting with the general public in many places, I never had so many men go out of their way just to open a door for me before that day, and that made me feel very special, then went to Macy's to buy some bras and try them all on 1st, the SA even offered to do a fitting, and she never had a clue I wasn't a GG to whole time.., but I found it takes more than just getting the look down pat (that's only half the battle), but you also need to be sending the right vibes to people in your presentation as a woman and correct speech & voice helps too.


What is your take? Have you ventured out like this? Can it be as fun?
Yes!!!,Absolutely the best experience of my life happened in jeans with a sweater top & dress boots.

So go give it a whirl..

OH, I think my nails helped too, I saw many people checking them out and since there obviously all natural, I think they only assumed a woman would take care of her long nails that well.. so it's all in the tiniest of details that pulls it all together for success, despite me still having certain male traits, big hands, nose or high forehead, but was overlooked..

So if I can do it, anyone can.. This was how I was dressed on that day, as you can see, nothing that special..

Karen

[Scotty]

One thing I've noticed lately - I like how I look in a denim skirt, always in a regular skirt.

BUT - tried on a size 6 pair of jeans of my SO's, as most of mine are size 10 and I have to use a belt but they feel comfy..

NOT so - size 6 is a PERFECT fit......save for the size, I need long...

Make sure you size up your jeans correctly!!

Now I want a pair of size 6!!!

Not much difference between sizes, unlike men's sizing...

[marla01]

Now one thing I do to mitigate the fact that jeans don't look good on my butt is I wear a long sweater dress unbuttoned as a kinda duster. This covers my butt and adds a little class to the casualness of jeans.

Marla

[Karren H]

If you care about blending in, you will dress like the masses. I know as a guy, I ALWAYS take more notice when a woman is in a dress and heels. And that goes for my non TG friends as well. A skirt or dress will ALWAYS get more attention, period.

And that's a problem because??? Yeah you may think you blend in in jeans but the truth is that anyone wearing a dress or a skirt is automatically elevated to the female catagory where anyone can wear jeans!! So you have a leg up.. Or two.. :D On all the girls wearing jeans in the passing catagory!! In my humble opinion!! :)

There's passing and looking like everyone in the crowd... or there's passing and looking fabulous!!! lol

[Fabiana.rj]

If you care about blending in, you will dress like the masses. I know as a guy, I ALWAYS take more notice when a woman is in a dress and heels. And that goes for my non TG friends as well. A skirt or dress will ALWAYS get more attention, period.

That is so true! There's something about dresses and heels that I find particually atractive in women, so, obvously, I tend to take more notice when they're dresses this way. If my goal is not to draw attention, my choice would be jeans.

[Lorileah]

If you take as much time to look good in jeans as you do in a skirt, well that will work. However if you throw on a pair of jeans and flip flops, you will look like a guy. Most of us are rather round in the middle and small in the ...uh backside. So unless you camoflage those areas you will be a guy.

My opinion....Ok bring it on GF's :)

[Samantha43]

Your question reminds me of an old joke. How do you spot a crossdresser in a room full of women? He's the one in a skirt or dress.

Nicole

Very funny and very true!

[SherriePall]

It's not easy being a crossdresser, is it? I have always worn skirts out (well, one time I wore dress pants). But last month (see my thread Photo Shoot Pics) I wore a brand new pair of jeans. I tried to make sure they were tight and padded. I think it worked. Next time it will be back to skirts. I just love that.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

If you just try to blend in, you can wear most any female clothing out - just

blend in - try to look like the rest - don't try to "outdress" the GGs

JoAnne Wheeler

[linnea]

I have felt comfortable in both and have felt about the same level of acceptance and passability in both.

[TxKimberly]

On the contrary, your chances of passing increase if you are wearing jeans. Skirts and dresses are not terribly common these days and tend to attract notice and attention. Add to that the point that most of us like to dress a bit better than most women would when going shopping, and so again tend to attract some small amount of attention.
Jeans on the other hand are the standard uniform (in the United States anyway) and so your chances of blending in improve if you are wearing them.
I tried it a couple of times - HATED it! i felt like I had wasted perfectly good opportunities to wear a skirt! lol