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Maggie Kay
03-15-2009, 10:28 AM
When I was in the throws of my transition, my emotional state ran the gamut from elation to despair. Most of my anguish came from the reactions of my family towards me as I transitioned. It was not pretty. Many times, I could not stand the pain that I had to endure somehow. I turned to writing my feelings down. I was not much into writing in those days and actually hated writing my entire life. But when I found how much better I felt to see the words on the computer monitor, I wrote more and more. As my therapy progressed, I was increasingly driven to examine my life from a transgender perspective. I began to write down stories of events in my childhood and adult life that lingered in my memory. Suddenly, many of the confusing episodes of my life made sense. I was writing about 3000 to 5000 words a day for quite a while during the most difficult periods.
One day, it occurred to me that I had enough material that could be rewritten in a fictionalized format and put together in a book. At first, I thought it might be a simple transgender autobiography but there are many of these already. I decided on a fictional story arc that would incorporate some of the events of my life but with many changes to make it more satisfying for me personally. I also wanted to change some of the events to protect innocents and also to not make direct accusations of real people.
I soon found myself in the process of writing a novel. It had many twists and turns including friends who read part or all of it. My family won't read any of it nor give me more than the bare minimum of help with it. They are not happy that I have written a novel.
The result of all this machinaction is my book, Dorothy's Boy

It is now available on Amazon.
http://www.amazon.com/Dorothys-Boy-M-K-Bengtson/dp/1441409289/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1236975523&sr=1-3

I can't imagine I will sell more than ten copies but it was so nice to be able to publish my book. For that, I am very happy. Now, I am working on two more books and have written a dozen short stories. I probably will publish them too. The reason is that I still desperately need to escape into the words on the screen.

Lisa Golightly
03-15-2009, 10:34 AM
Awwwwww congratulations :) I hope you sell thousands! That's what I call positive self-help :)

Lisa x

Zenith
03-15-2009, 10:50 AM
That is sooooo cool...and a real paper copy with pages...:)...any promo copies to hand out to your sisters here?...:hugs:...maybe just for Safe Haven if you have limited numbers? :D

Sharon
03-15-2009, 10:57 AM
Wow -- very cool, Maggie! Congratulations! :)

LaurenS.
03-15-2009, 11:07 AM
Getting a book published is no easy task, nevermind writing it.
You must feel quite a sense of accomplishment as well you should. Congratulations to you and I wish you many successful sales!
Lauren:)

Kayla Shadows
03-15-2009, 02:30 PM
That is awesome.Writing does help to get things out and look at them differently.Instead of just going around in your head,you have something infront of you to go over all the pieces that now fit together and create a much different picture than you imagined.Theres just something about the outward capture of thoughts that makes it more real and understandable to us.You get to physically see it,link events together and create some light by realizing a lot of things about yourself.

Carole Cross
03-15-2009, 03:15 PM
Congrats Maggie, I hope you do well with the book. I don't normally like writing but I find writing posts here helps to relieve the stress that I feel at this time. I am currently writing an account of my life and why I need to transition.
Good luck and I hope you make the best sellers list. :love:

Maggie Kay
03-15-2009, 03:23 PM
Thank you all so much for the kind words. Writing the book and then rewriting and editing it has been really a lot of work. I could not afford an editor and most publishers are not accepting manuscripts unless they are totally non fiction so self publishing was my only outlet. It is a very personal book and frankly, I never in my wildest dreams, really imagined that I would ever get it published.

My family is NOT pleased at all and do not feel that it will sell, then again, they won't read it.


That is sooooo cool...and a real paper copy with pages...:)...any promo copies to hand out to your sisters here?...:hugs:...maybe just for Safe Haven if you have limited numbers? :D

I self published on CreateSpace so I don't have any promo copies. I have to buy them too!
Oh you can also buy it there and they ship internationally.

https://www.createspace.com/3364912

Maggie

Kaitlyn Michele
03-16-2009, 09:19 AM
Maggie...that's great for you ...i've always thought we all cope with this so differently and for you it helped you find your "muse".....good for you!! :drink: