Nosey Neighborly gossip!

[Jacquilynne]

Here's the rundown:

I was going out to run some errands today (in drab) . . .Sometimes we gotta ;) Well, when I turned around from locking my Apt. there was one of my neighbors washing his car. We exchanged the normal greetings and he said he hadn't seen me in a little while so I explained about my recent job loss and about my wife leaving. He was Shocked to say the least but he also said he was sorry that I was having a hard time I thanked him and said it has been difficult but I'm beginning to move on . . .slowly . . .

That's when he said that he had heard there were some unusual things going on . . .

OK now I was curious.

He said, " . . . some of the other neighbors thought they saw you wearing a dress and heels :eek: they saw you dressed like a woman" . . . he couldn't believe it and said "That sounds crazy" and he added that he thought I might just have been going out to a party or something. :eek: Yeah! well I was going out.

OMG I am outed to the neighbors :eek:

I was in such disbelief that I didn't confirm this gossip or deny it. I just restated " ... so they saw me dressed like a woman?" to which he said "yep, thats what the other neighbors said (and one of the neighbors is a county cop!). He made it sound as though they saw me dressed a few times.

UH. OK, Well I guess it could be worse. But I'm still just a bit shocked over the whole ordeal. . .but I went out dressed today too ( I came home after my errands and then decided to go out "dressed" as I was bored ... shopping clears boredom so shopping it was!). . . I hope they didn't see me again :o :praying:

The good thing is I'm only going to be in this apt. till the end of the month. And also its not like I had done anything illegal . . .just a bit different to them I suppose.

At least they have some fun to talk about ;)

[Ruth]

Well, your neighbor was fairly neutral in tone wasn't he. I think he was giving you a chance to explain but it didn't seem like he was outraged about it. Maybe a chance to come out.

[Annie D]

What are they going to do if you admit that it was you they saw? Then your neighbors will have some more to talk about! Why don't you put on a pair of short shorts and a feminine top and join your neighbor and wash your car the next time you get bored? Remember that you are moving and when you're gone, who cares?

[Lorileah]

Realizing that everyone is different, I would not do any more than you already have. If you want people to know you will find the right time to tell them. If you don't...let them MYOB.

I am at the point where in most cases I own up to it. So what? In the majority of those cases I ma met with either "that's weird" and they don't speak to me again or they say "Ok what ever you like to do" (sometimes I get a cool can I see?).

My neighbor came over unexpectedly a couple weeks ago nad I was in a sweater and skirt. I tried to hide originally but after a few minutes I let him in. I figured he already saw the skirt anyway. The worst he said was "Sorry I interrupted you".

I am sure that several neighbors have seen my in my robe or shorty getting the paper. It really sounds like your neighbor was more curious or he was subtly warning you about gossips so you would not be surprised later.

[Jacquilynne]

LOL that would be interesting indeed. . .True. I am not too concerned with whether they know or not . . .I just wasn't going out of the way to tell them ;)

[Ronni Seymour]

I know it's human nature to notice and talk about what goes on with others, but it can be annoying sometimes. Like Annie says, they will just have more to talk about. People love to critique others instead of themselves, because maybe they may not like what they see! It's more comfortable keeping the spotlight off of oneself and on others.

[tamarav]

Before every neighbor within ten miles knew about me, one of my noisy neighbors told me that her neighbor thought she had seen me in a dress and high heels and a wig. So I just turned to her and told her that I never wear a dress to work, but I do wear a wig, makeup, heels and tight jeans to work in a beauty salon.

I generally only wear a dress if I am going out at night to go dancing.... then I turned and walked away. Haven't talked to that neighbor in 3 years but make sure to wave if I see her.

[RWillow]

Makes me glad I live in the woods, I can't see the neighbors and they can't see me.

Renyta

[TxKimberly]

The good thing is I'm only going to be in this apt. till the end of the month.

I think I took away something different from your story than you did. It occurs to me that he knew about you and was still willing to have a friendly conversation with you. Odds are he has known about you for some time and it apparently didn't change his attitude about you. I think that with neighbors that already know, and continue to friendly with you, I wouldn't be in such a hurry to move.

[Sally2005]

If they all know...no reason to hide now. You could always just say it might have been your cousin or sister just over to help you. Otherwise, you might as well just be open and honest with your closest neighbor if he would be understanding.

[Annie D]

Kimberly, you are so insightful and after re-reading I think you are right on! Jacie, I think your neighbor was just being friendly and at least he was open with his question and seemed to ask it in a polite manner. The fact that you didn't deny the gossip may have already answered the question posed by the neighborhood. Do what you feel confident doing and good luck!

[Kate Simmons]

Neighbors don't miss much (especially the old lady window peakers) whether they talk about it or not. I'd be a fool to think they haven't seen me in femme mode( and put two and two together) even though they've never said anything to me. This is one of the potential hazards, or if we think about it in another way, a great opportunity. We can either skulk around in the shadows being ashamed of who we are or hold up our head and go about our business. The choice is ours it seems.:)

[Jacquilynne]

neat comments. . . the only reason I'm moving is this place is too big for just 1 person and its too much money as well :eek: If I didn't have to worry about that -- i'd stay.

True. he didn't seem too concerned about the fact that other neighbors saw me "dressed". Although his voice inflection did show that he was curious and maybe you all were right he just wanted me to prove the neighbors were correct . . .even so he didn't seem to care :)

It was interesting to find out that they noticed. . .As I didn't think anyone around here had seen me. Oh well :D

[Nicole Erin]

Couple things - that is why I don't go to much length to hide who I am, people find out anyways.
Also, most people don't care, they will gossip about it a bit and then move on...
In most neighborhoods there is always that one white trash family that might make more of a scene but even those people move on quickly.

Your neighbor that saw you, he is probably interested but he is not going to give you any grief.
And with washing the car, it made me think of the end of this old subway commercial where this mid-40's age guy waring a cheerleader outfit is washing his car and singing "Micky", he explains to the shocked onlookers, "It's OK, I went to subway for lunch!"

I would like to give an advance thank you to anyone who finds that hilarious commercial on youtube and posts it in this thread, it would be so in-context. :heehee:

[Angie G]

Jacie don't worry hun just keep being you. don't mind them girl.:hugs:
Angie

[mklinden2010]

Yep, that's how it goes.

People will see, or, not see, what they want to...

I had a neighbor chat me up about 15 years ago on the subject and it took me a while to figure out that she was telling me she'd seen me "the other day" and that was fine by her. Her husband and I have joked around about it and we have sometimes taken pictures before the "parties" I go to, but that's as much as we've ever discussed it.

Everyone seems happy enough to let things be.

Life goes on.

[kristinacd55]

True. he didn't seem too concerned about the fact that other neighbors saw me "dressed". Although his voice inflection did show that he was curious and maybe you all were right he just wanted me to prove the neighbors were correct . . .even so he didn't seem to care :)

Perhaps...........he's ONE OF US! :heehee:

[bimini1]

See, if this happened to me, I'd immediately think he wants to find out so he can go back and tell them yes it's true and they can laugh and rake me over the coals for it. He did say it was crazy and unusual.

There is somn seriously wrong with the way I think I guess I'm overtly paranoid.

[ArleneRaquel]

I think I took away something different from your story than you did. It occurs to me that he knew about you and was still willing to have a friendly conversation with you. Odds are he has known about you for some time and it apparently didn't change his attitude about you. I think that with neighbors that already know, and continue to friendly with you, I wouldn't be in such a hurry to move.

I think that Kimberly has it right! :hugs: :love:

[lingerieLiz]

Once we leave the house someone will eventually find out. In fact you don't have to leave the house. We had a peeping Tom one night. When I was moving into a new house (in the country) I was wearing a dress resting in the front room. My neighbor knocked and didn't hear me say I'd be right there. He came in to see if he could help me move some heavy things in the truck. He never said a word about it in the 4 years we lived there.

[Sallee]

sounds like the perfect opportunity to out your self. Especially since your moving any way. since you didn't when he asked . You could just approach him now and admit that it was you the neighbors saw in a dress and you were just going out and your hobby is cross dressing.
If you do it let us know a camera for his the look would be great :devil:

[joann426]

if my noisyneighbor wood see me dressed i really woodnt care what they think or see al i do is give them nore to look at hahaha!!!!:heehee:

[carolinewalker_2000]

I understand your reasons for needing to move. Seems a shame though. Now you are effectively outed by your neighbours - and they don't seem to mind - it would have been good to be able to move around more openly whilst dressed.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Jacie - just be who and what we are - don't sweat it - it is none of their

business - also, try moving - you are around too many nosey people

JoAnne Wheeler