How many times have you had a Purge!

[Miss Charlotte Lacy]

Hi Girls.

I expect this is a suject/thread that's already been posted but for the new arrivals.

How many times over the years have you Bagged/Boxed up all your 'girlie' things and 'Purged' yourself of them thinking that was the OLD me and this is the new me...:doh:

Twice I've done it and even to this day I think of what I threw away thinking I've grown out of this foolishness...:doh:

So Girls do tell.
Hugs Charlotte x

[JoAnne Wheeler]

About 4 times - HOWEVER - the worst occurred in 1995 when at the

insistence of my spouse, I "purged" 25 years of accumulation of feminine

clothing which took years to accumulate and which I had invested a hugh

sum of money - I still haven't gotten over it

My advice - DO NOT PURGE - you will be sorry if you do - you can never,

ever give up crossdressing, "IT" won't let you - trust all of us on that.


JoAnne Wheeler

[stacee2008]

Too many times to count I'm afraid!:thumbsdn: I think back on all of the money that I would have saved. The last purge was by wife, but I'm currently in the process of re-stocking. Ya it sucks!

[Phyliss]

I wouldn't say that I've purged my stuff ( purge by definition means toss everything, like the wanna be reformed drunk who pours out all the booze down the drain )

As I began to outgrow my stuff, ( funny how it shrinks just hanging there in the closet ) and it got too small for me, I got rid of it. Now that I've shrunk back to a decent size, I kinda wish I'd kept it. Lots of money to replace in smaller sizes what I used to have in plus size.

Did I learn from this? Nope, tossed out all the big stuff. Have to stay thin, too cheap to buy bigger clothes.

[StaceyJane]

I once threw away a really nice leather skirt. This was just before I got married and I was trying hard to be a man.

[TxKimberly]

I can't count that high even if I take my shoes off and use my toes. Often when I was young, not at all since I was in my mid 30's

[rachel_rachel]

At least 3 times.. Once i went back to the charity bin i put them in and got them back, plus some more so that was a posititve thing. When i moved house whilst still living at home, i had to get rid of everything... I still regret that one.

[Noxvictum]

One partial purge... Was about to leave Japan for good... Didn't have much room. All I didn't toss were my forms, and my green dress. Love that dress...

[TerriM]

Two Times. The 1st time I threw everything out. The 2nd time I put everything in a big box and put it in the attic. Im a fast learner.

[ArleneRaquel]

3 times - NEVER again - I'm Arlene 24/7:):battingeyelashes: :hugs: :love:

[tamarav]

At least 4 times when I was younger. Since 1980 I haven't purged anything, I have given a lot away, but no purges.

[erica12b]

3 times but never again

[SamanthaX]

Twice, and I've only been doing this for six months or so. :bonk: I'm just worried about family members finding my secret stash!

[Jenniferpl]

One major purge after that nothing. I do give a lot away though. If do not wear for at least 6 months to a year. it is history.

[Sherry-Stephanie]

Zero times....but I'm to new at this anyway....plus wife has give me the either or yet.....

[Rachel Morley]

Twice ..... but none in the last 10 years!

[MaryAnn40c]

had to purge 3 times,I was getting to much stuff,some would not fit,ect:doh:

[Prissy Linda]

Never!!!!!!

[Linda Laman]

Never ever. In fact I even have trouble throwing out the stuff that I should throw out.

[MartineXdrs2]

As others have said, too many times, 10,,,13 first time cause my mom made me,, then she changed her mind. not for the last 30 years though... this is not something you can stop,,,, you must dress,,,,

Love
Martine

[CD Susan]

I have purged everything three times. The last time was 25 years ago when I was still in denial of who I was. Back then I thought that by getting rid of the clothes that I could quit this "strange hobby" of mine. Of course this does not work and it took me three purges to figure this out. I have since learned to accept who I am and will never purge again. I recently went through my closets and donated many things that I no longer wore or liked but this is not a purge. I did purge all of my men's underwear about a year ago and still feel good about it.

[MissConstrued]

Never. I'm a pack rat. It's hard enough to bring myself to get rid of stuff I don't wear any more.

[amyj]

My first purge was my last. I've gone a month without dressing and just left the stuff in the closet. I had it in storage for a while, but that made my desire stronger. Having it in the back of the closet was somehow easier, if that makes any sense. It's a funny thing.

[julie t]

Twice for me. God knows how much the stuff was worth, but you're right in saying don't waste your time and money. You will always revert to type.

[Lisa Golightly]

Three times... On the first two I thought 'I can be a real man'.... On the third the woman threw out the man... Now that was a very liberating purge :)

[Marshchild]

...and I didn't even want to! Unfortunately, at the time, my CDing (and various other "deviant" activities I engaged in) had a head-on collision with some religious scruples that had been plaguing me, and came off the worse of the two. (These scruples had been brewing for quite some time, since back then I had a most unfortunate tendency to suffer that kind of thing, being rather superstitious, fearful of the unknown etc. Thankfully, however, I've not been troubled by them for many years now: mainly because, at the first sign of them threatening to reappear, I tell them to kindly "F**k off!") Anyway, I got rid of my entire collection of women's clothing (which fortunately only consisted of three pairs of satin pyjamas and a satin nightshirt back then), which I gave to my mother. She ended up being the lucky recipient of the items in question because, after discovering I'd had them a couple of years earlier, she'd said I could always give them to her if I ever tired of wearing them myself. She even gave me a little money for them, although I was unfortunately quick to blow that on various bits of junk.

Unfortunately, my female "wardrobe" wasn't the only victim of my purge, for my scruples also impelled me to get rid of a pair of nipple piercings, and all the "Satanic" heavy metal albums in my record collection (and, yes, I ended up replacing all those things pretty soon thereafter as well, so a fat lot of good that stupid purge did me!). Funnily enough, the OP's comment about thinking, "That was the old me, this is the new me" while purging echoed my mother's feelings about my own purge. While tolerating them, she'd never been terribly enthused about the various "deviant" activities I engaged in, and she saw my own purge as a hopeful sign that a "new me" was emerging. Even when she told me this, though, I felt rather cynical. To me, the phrase "the new me" conjured up positive images of someone trying to better themselves, yet I couldn't see how the "new me" was in any way an improvement on the "old me". Quite the contrary, in fact; whereas the "old me" was someone who wasn't afraid to do interesting, "far out" things, the "new me" was someone who was just trying to be like everybody else - God, how I hated him! Oh well, I was young and dumb at the time (God help me, I was only nineteen!), and I've thankfully not made that mistake since. Indeed, it was only a couple of years ago that I actually heard of the "phenomenon" of purging for the first time!

[Senban]

Mmmm, deviant activities :D

Never purged, never will. By nature I'm a hoarder anyway although I'm gradually beginning to stop filling my life with clutter. I'll throw stuff out if it's worn or torn or whatever but I've never felt the urge to try and deny or exclude that part of my life because it would be like cutting an arm off.

[sally1980]

Twice!
Last time made me feel great................for about two minutes.
Now having to start all over again.
Bless my wife for helping!

[Shinya]

Many many times.

Last time was 12 years ago after the big D.

[Raychel]

Twice in the distant past, But NEVER again. :battingeyelashes:

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Twice but none in the past five years Im Jennifer 24/7 now.

[Dawn Marie]

Probably at least 10 times, most of which were in my twenties, once or twice in my thirties, and twice in my forties. Now I've learned not to purge but to just pack it away out of sight until I get the urge or that old feeling comes back again.
Like right now I just put everything in storage, since my wife gave me an ultimatum (quit dressing or get out). If things change at least I haven't lost anything.

[TGMarla]

I purged once, when I was young and still foolish enough to think this whole thing was just going to go away. Now I only purge things that I really don't wear much or don't fit me well, and I only do this to make room for new stuff.

Gotta have new stuff!

[JuAnn]

Charlotte
I have purged too many times over the decades. i have lost so many beautiful bras, forms, shoes etc. I discarded my pics and videos as well.

I had a cancer scare and thought the time had come so everything went BUT I survived and my female persona emerged stronger than ever. I am slowly rebuilding my lingerie, make-up, jewellry etc. but need to get a wig, corset, heels, scooters, tops ..........
I will not purge again!!
JuAnn

[BillieJoe]

Had to purge when I left to go into the army. What a bummer. I had so many neat outfits and very feminine lingerie that I just hated to part with. I think of some of those things from time to time. A lot of those clothes were bought with very deep embarrassment and shame. (don't forget it was int he late sixties when I thought I was the only one in the world that liked dressing up). Thats certainly not the case any more.

[Sharon B.]

More times than I care to count, I get tired of being alone and try to be the male that I was born as but as soon as another relation starts to go wrong I revert back to dressing as a woman. Then I have to buy all new clothes and swear that it will never happen again. I wish I had back all of the woman's clothes and shoes that I had over the years.

[Selene EV]

NEVER. I can't imagine getting rid of my stuff. Even the thought of it makes me feel very uneasy.

[Leanne2]

Twice for me. Each time I burned everything. The last time I did it (years ago) I had a cd friend that said," You didn't burn your blue formal, did you? Yes I did and I still miss that dress. I couldn't fit into it now but I still miss it. Leanne

[bimini1]

I'm not proud of the things I've stolen down thru the early years from girlfriends, sister & mom. That contributed to my guilt.

I've burned up clothing in the fireplace. My mom took some stuff in my early 20s and burned it up. What's fascinating in the commonality alot of us share I recal thinking I was the only one who did this kind of thing during those purges.
The most pitiful memory is taking some hose to a dumpster once about 20 years ago only to return the next morning and climbing over in there to get them out. The mind-boggling insanity of the whole thing.
Now I have a closet full of my own things no more stealing.

[Sarah_GG]

Judging by the size of my SOs wardrobe I'd say he's never purged. However, he assures me that he's done it at least three times. Personally I've always found a good clothes purge is a good excuse to go shopping. I try to do it at least annually!

:)

[freeindress]

Twice, first time partial because I was moving and had too many items that I did not feel like wearing again, and second time more complete because my (now ex-) girlfriend stopped supporting my CDing and made me feel guilty (but selfishly kept the most interesting dresses :sad: )

[Leelou]

I've purged several times, and my biggest regret is that some of the lingerie I've thrown out you just can't find anymore--must not be "in style". I used to have some fabulous teddies that you just can't find anymore.

[ChrissieM]

I have done it once. That was when i first started CDing. I tried to convince myself it was only a experimental phase I was going through. Of course I know now that it is part of who I am so I will never do it again.

[Veronica Lacey]

Judging by the size of my SOs wardrobe I'd say he's never purged. However, he assures me that he's done it at least three times. Personally I've always found a good clothes purge is a good excuse to go shopping. I try to do it at least annually!

:)

Great approach, Sarah! This sounds like a very natural process, to remove the old so that the new may grow and prosper. Very nice.

Have purged two times both in my late teens. Felt dirty racing out literally in the middle of the night on my moutnain bike with a garbage bag full of lingerie. Would take them to a local industrial site and toss the bag in the dumpster of a business there. The shame felt while riding out was pretty heavy while the (temporary) sense of liberation after the drop was complete felt great. In less than a week I would be out trying to replace those items, of course.

Rather than purge now I am trying to find wardrobe space for my clothing as they take up three large drawers and a box in our home. Maybe one day... :daydreaming:

[carolinebrookes]

I've purged only once...around 18 years ago when I moved house.

I got rid of everything, waiting for the bin truck to come and running out to toss the lot in the back.
I was young and stupid back then.

The only minor purges I go through now are sending stuff to the charity shops that I don't like any more. As always, I try to stay with fashion!

[erica31]

I have purged twice over the years the last time (about 3 years ago) I trashed everything that fancy, lacey and feminine. Oddly enough I kept plain panties to wear but all the cute expensive stuff I destroyed and threw in the garbage. I am vowing it will not happen again but will not make any bets on it.

[saraleehanes]

I am not sure of how many times. Likely too many. I would be open to getting rid of things that aren't quite right if I knew I could go get things that did fit right or looked right for my body type.

The problem is that for many of us we can't just pick up an advertisement or go online and expect to shop and have things arrive unnoticed.

Closeted CDing is best left up to those with good skills in covert operations.

[Crystal Alberta]

If by "purging" you mean throwing out my femme things with the intention of giving up crossdressing, then never. I got rid of my things once or twice when I was still living with my parents and heading off on extended trips (several months long) where I didn't want my stuff found while I was away, but I don't really count those occasions as I always intended to start up again as soon as I got back.

Crystal

[PretzelGirl]

I have been blessed to never have any doubts. Might slow down a bit, but the engine always gets going again.

[Ashlyee Paige]

1 time when I had first gotten married. Was only a few nightgowns and hose, nothing special, learned alot though, NEVER again! :>

[iwearstockings]

3 times. never never again.

[shannonFL]

Three, maybe four times, last time was about 10 years ago. Beyond that now, self-acceptance took a long time, wasn't easy, I don't think it is for many of us, the struggle for me today is how "her" life co-exists with "his"
normal world.

[Tomara]

Several times over the years , my mom found and disposed of my things a few times when I still lived at home , and I purged everything myself about 15 years ago thinking I could live without cross dressing in my life , WRONG !
Since then I have accepted that cross dressing and my femininity is a part of me that I should enjoy , I am much happier and comfortable with it all now , I just wish I still had some of the clothes that I disposed of.
Tomara

[Lara Smith]

Three.

[jolanda_trav]

never...

[Leslie Mary S]

Never. But when you need to puge try selling to other CDer here or over on Evil Bay.

[bobbie anne]

At the end of Jan I packed up everything and took it to Goodwill store. I kept my panties as I will never stop wearing them and a skirt. I feel I do not wish to be a woman or look like one. I am a guy who likes to wear a skirt for comfort. We have been in Arizona for the last two months and my wife wears sun dresses everyday, I commented how lucky she was to have the free flowing dress while I was stuck in shorts that want to rip me in half. she has no problem with me wearing a skirt in private in our back yard. So I bought a nice skirt that blows with the breeze, and sitting here indoors with the wind blowing in the window. If only society would open up and let us enjoy this in public. At 80F+ I would love to be outside. Looking forward to this summer when I can wear it at home in our private back yard. Hope some of you read Dear Abbey last week on the artice from Joe who wears skirts out in public, he had a lot of possitive response not only from men but women.Bobbie Anne

[serinalynn]

I have Never purged. I just don't buy as much, I already have enough for the next year or so.:thumbsup:

[Jamee]

Twice. But like a lot of you I regretted it. I swear on my pumps
that I will never purge again. The last time I thought about doing
it I locked my trunk up and hid the key. By the time I was over
the "urge to Purge". I remembered where I put the key. Now if I
could only remember where I put my car key!!!

[Samantha43]

I have never purged. I have always been comfortable with who I am and am very fortunate to have a wife that is accepting and supportive. I met her when I was barely 19, and she has known since the beginning.

I still have my 80's clothes.....all of my mini skirts and shoulder padded tops. Now all I need is an 80's party to attend.....and a big hair wig!!!:D

Hmmmm, I wonder if those mini skirts still fit.....

[sherib]

So many times I can't remember.

[NewDresser]

I have not purged yet but I often think about doing it, thinking I might get sloppy one day and get caught by my roommate.

[Tamera]

Purged 3 times. No more however I am on a fast tran and there ain't no stoppin me now...
Hugs,
Tamera