My little man, my son

[Ediosa]

Last night I got dress after I place my son to bed. I got dressed 100%, including getting my toe/fingernails done. Prior to moving to our apartment I told my son that he might see daddy wearing clothes not worn by men, but it's okay and daddy like to wear those clothes and that nothing is wrong with it.

Well after last night I left my nails completely painted bright red. Well, he's the one that wakes me up to make him breakfast(he's 7). I got up and right away he noticed my red nails. Of course he got curious and asked about them. I told them I felt like painting my nails and that was all. He said "ok daddy", and that was it. Nothing else. I kept my nails painted red all day to clean the apartment, cook and we both played tag and nerf guns(shooting each other with the guns, quite fun). Nothing, other than my nails were pretty. My little man is so cool.

Are you kids like this if you allow them to see you sometimes?

Elizabeth

[Teri Jean]

My kids are adults but the grandson is 4yrs and smart as a whip. This will be my undoing if he seen me so that will have to be the closet door when he and my daughter move in for a while. I could be wrong but he would not keep that secret long, he would be accepting but very talkative. Keli

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

I don't have any kids but I think it's very cool that you're educating your son to the realities of crossdressing and not trying to "protect" him or anything (note the quotes). This is the perfect time to be honest with him, too. He looks up to you. Whatever you show him as normal, he'll learn and take as such.

Crossdressing is perfectly normal (as we all know), but most people are taught that it is not, and then the troubles start for us. Your son will grow up knowing the truth about you and so never having his mind filled with the crap that society would put in there had you not been open and honest with him. I really commend you on this! :)

[Angie G]

My kids never knew or will that ever.:hugs:
Angie

[JulieC]

Are you kids like this if you allow them to see you sometimes?

My young kids decided on a lark to have mommy paint daddy's nails (top and bottom). I took the fingernail polish off later that night, and left the toenail polish on for many days.

We're raising our kids to understand that transgenderism is normal, and nothing to be afraid of or to criticize. However, we're not intentionally letting our kids know that daddy likes to wear women's clothes. There's a few reasons for that; it'd be hard on the kids if schoolmates were to find out because they didn't do a good job keeping daddy's secret, secret. It'd also be bad for my job if they were to accidentally out me, and they are frequently at my work place.

[Angel.Marie76]

Last night I got dress after I place my son to bed. I got dressed 100%, including getting my toe/fingernails done. Prior to moving to our apartment I told my son that he might see daddy wearing clothes not worn by men, but it's okay and daddy like to wear those clothes and that nothing is wrong with it.

Well after last night I left my nails completely painted bright red. Well, he's the one that wakes me up to make him breakfast(he's 7). I got up and right away he noticed my red nails. Of course he got curious and asked about them. I told them I felt like painting my nails and that was all. He said "ok daddy", and that was it. Nothing else. I kept my nails painted red all day to clean the apartment, cook and we both played tag and nerf guns(shooting each other with the guns, quite fun). Nothing, other than my nails were pretty. My little man is so cool.

Are you kids like this if you allow them to see you sometimes?

Elizabeth

I'd certainly search through the forum for 'children, or kids, family, etc' among other things to read all the different stories on how some folk's kids have or have not been told or have experienced them dressed. I myself told my son (now 11) last Oct. about my dressing, and I know several other people here have all different ranges of child ages. My son's been doing okay for the most part, but I'm seeing that I wished I had come out to him sooner. With him now asserting his presence and really looking to carve out his niche in school, he sees dad's dressing (right now) as a possible embarrassment if exposed to the public at large.

That particular age is certainly a little easier (IMHO) to expose them to transgenderism. Hope he continues to support you as he grows!

[Veronica75]

I have just started dressing again after a LONG layoff... on Saturday it was just me and my boy who is about to turn one at home. He went down for his nap, which is usually three hours, so I figured I could dress, quickly, for a while. No sooner did I finish getting ready then I heard him crying, so I went to pick him up and give him a bottle. I got a look at myself in the mirror carrying him and thought WOW-- I look like a mom! A nice moment.

Unfortunately I am 100% closeted, so probably no letting him know unless things change, but he will be taught tolerance and understanding towards all people. Maybe he'll have subliminal memories...

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Don't be surprised when your son starts telling others about you


JoAnne Wheeler

[Ediosa]

I will admit that I am not afraid if my son starts telling people about me. Right now, my brothers and sisters know about me, my ex-wife know, and a whole lot of cousins. The rest, I am not scared. They are not my friends and are just people who will probably never be in my life again. Therefore, I won't worry. My son and family accepts me, that's all I need.

[occdresser]

i do not tell my son anything that entails crossdressing, but i know someday, some halloween i will certainly be dressed in front of him. when that day arrives then we will talk about it. my son is 8.:daydreaming:

[tricia_uktv]

My view, for what its worth and having told the kids (it is a UK view).

0 - 10 they will be receptive
11-18 leave well alone
19+ Should be accepting
65+ Make your own choice.

I told my twins when they were 15 (WRONG) and it took a year to get over it. They are now accepting though don't want me to dress locally which I accept.

Told me eldest when she was 18. No problems

But everybody is different!

[Michelia]

My kids know and have known for quite a while.

No, the secret has not gotten out and really I do not expect it to through them. They know it is in their own best interest to keep it quiet, although they both are convinced they can deal with the consequences of it getting out. I rather not see that yet. They know there are parents out there that would not let their kids come over if they knew. I have never crossdressed when other kids are over. Nevertheless, I have been out with my son crossdressed and he loves it. He is now 9. Even though we pick out venues close to home and in his school territory, we scope beforehand. I am sure there are rumors out there, because we have been in stores together and some of these are in the neighborhood and family owned. But it has never gotten back to us.

I am so glad I have done things this way. They are both very open minded and understanding and mature about different people. I do not have to hide. I do not have to spend time away from them in order to dress. My girl comes to me for advice and loves that her stepdaddy buys girly stuff for her and will help her with her hair or make up. She loves cute stuff her mom refrains from getting her. My son actually epilates my back for me and has done braids on my hair. He does a great job!

I could go on and on. The most important thing is I do not have to lie about anything to them. They trust me totally. And it is mutual. They tell me everything. And it is so much fun sometimes!

Whatever negative things people may think or say about this is their problem. Little can they imagine the benefits. Of course, it does depend on your lifestyle and relationship with your SO. Neither my ex or my SO have a problem with it.

[victoriamwilliams1]

Well when my child was younger she would go to sleep and I would get dressed and change when she woke up. A few time I decided not to change and at the time my child was 1-2 years old and I will say that I was not well received by my child and up to about a year ago my child remembers Victoria. And that was 4 years ago when I dressed. I stopped when my child was able to communicate because I am not out to my family or spouse.

[girl_in_pantyhose]

I don't have any kids but I know quite a few people who work in the child care industry. They tell me that the kids who are accepting of all have a better chance at being a productive citizen, live longer due to less stress caused by fear of others, live happier lives, and are those people that everyone wants to hang out with. I wish i knew where my friends found this info so i could pass it along to you.

[kathrynjanos]

That's a great way to present it to them. Just present it as no big deal. Helps a lot.