I finally blurted it out...WHY

[Rhonda480]

I was shopping in Myrtle Beach while in male mode and trying to keep it low key. I saw some pretty things and a pair of bright pink panties, that I just had to have. I had a nice sales girl that really wanted to help and three others that stood off to the side not paying any attention. The sales agent kept trying to find something to match what I had in my hand, but of couses it was not the right size (my size). She finally asked my wife's size and I told her size six and she is. She asked to see the panties and quickly told me these would not fit her they were too large. I told her I knew that and they were not for her. Well what size is your girl friend she said with a sly smile. Of coures I immediately told her I was married and my wife would not allow a girl friend. She then had a strange look and I just had to tell her they were for me. "Of course they are" she replied and I really do not think she bellieved me. I do not know what came over me, but I could not let her believe I was lying and I found my self tying to convince her that I liked to dress. I finally told her that I was wearing panties right that minute and she immediately looked at my butt. I pulled my pants tight so she could see the VPL. She then walked over to the other sales agents and they all came at me. I almost ran screaming from the store. One SA wanted to see the panties, took me by the arm into a changing stall, told me to show or she would call the manager. I did, she shut the door, I got fixed and walked out to smiles all around. They all scurried looking for things that fit, holding it up to me, smoothing it across my butt...I think just to get me excited. I declined everything but the panties, paid with my debit card because I was so flustered. Now they have my name and could probably cause all kind of problems. As I left I was afraid I was being followed and that everyone was looking at me carrying my bag of panties. I am not sure I can do it again. I think I am back to mail order status.

I wish I could be like TXKimberly and a lot of you other girls that "get away" with dressing. I can't even get away with it when I am not dressed. Anybody want to tell me why I blurted it out. Is that a desire to want someone else to know and why did I not let her think I just had a girl friend?

[Christina Horton]

I think you want to be out. Don't be afraid , next time you go to a store tell the SA that your looking for something for yourself and they will say something like ok whats your size and bend over backwards to help you. You might get looks but what would that hurt. The won't take your name and brodcast it so don't worrie. You'll find it more fun shopping in person them on the net. Just have fun with it and enjoy the strange looks people will give you , look very close in there eyes and you can see there minds picturing you in whatever your looking for , it's very funny. remerber that all they are there for is to HELP YOU. Have fun . HUGGS :hugs: :canada:

[CharleneT]

Take a deep, deep breathe and slow down a bit. Just shop for you and if it comes up, tell 'em that is what you are doing. I would avoid trying to "prove it" to them. Shopping should be easy and fun !! Really, if the situation went as described, the SA's should all get a long talk from a manager. When the one asked you to prove it, I would have either run screaming from the store or explained to the SA that "proof" is none of her biz.

[Kayla Shadows]

Hey,If you are really getting them for you,why not.At least youll get some help.If they were that eager to hold things up and find what fits,I wouldnt be questioning if I was going back.If they had nice clothes that is.If they are cool with it,thats really good.

She really said show me though?..lol.Id be like,what?..how bout you show me..no?..exactly.Now let me try my clothes on...lol,show me.excuse me?

[docrobbysherry]

I AM a closet CD! After 10 years of dressing, and 4 years of becoming Sherry, I felt I MUST TELL SOMEONE!:doh:

I think it has to do with carrying around a secret that is SO VERY IMPORTANT to us. It's like we're leading a double life. And if you're an open and honest person, that's just NOT a comfortable thing for us to do!:eek:

[sadie67]

:thumbsup:y

[TGMarla]

Was it really necessary for you to explain yourself to her and go on so? Why not just assume it's natural for you, and let your dignity mold her thoughts on the situation. She may have never come across a crossdresser before. (Say that five times real fast!) So it's not surprising that she reacted as she did. I just wonder about your reaction to her.

[Karren H]

Unbelievable that she wouldn't believe you.... Personally I don't try to explaing myself to anyone.... and at the stores I frequent no one even asks any more... because they know and I could care less....

[Rhonda480]

I think the most shocking things today was why I wanted to prove that the panties were for me. The other shocking thing was how willing I was to drop and show the purple panties I had on. In fact that may be the most shocking...I am almost sick to my stomach thinking about it. But is was almost an out of body experience.

Ever since I have been here Karen and TXKimberly have been an inspiration.

[Angie G]

Don't stop shopping Rhonda it so much fun I think I would have loved the girl falling all over me.:hugs:
Angie

[lynn27]

Rhonda,

DO NOT feel bad about how you feel. It is only natural for you to have others know you really are. It is tuff going thru life hiding this thing... What is wrong with a few strangers knowing the real you. Take it as a positive experience. It should make disclosure to a loved one that much easier...:hugs: lynn

[trannie T]

I love telling sales associates who the clothes are for. If they make the mistake of commenting on my purchases I tell them who will be wearing them. One sales associate mentioned that the two bras I was purchasing had two different cup sizes, I said that one benefit of being a crossdresser was that I could choose my own breast size, I think she is still hiding in a dressing room making gurgulling sounds.

[sadie67]

i've had similar experience recently only it was over a pair of shoes the SA asked if they were for me i just died :o

[JenniferR771]

I told a thrift store clerk years ago. Now I tell them all the time. Most are fine with the idea. Some more neutral--or rather cool--so I don't deal with those. Last week, I told a young girl clerk I was a cd. She said, "OK."(Hinted unfriendly to me). Later in same store I explained that I was a cd to a 45 yr old clerk, and asked if they had pantyhose. "Oh, of course, a crossdresser HAS to have pantyhose! They are over there, next to the shoes. And footless tights in bright colors are on the back wall."

[rlars1]

i think you blurted it out because you are a person of integrity and honesty and would rather have your name in good standing with fidelity to your wife than worry so much about whether perfect strangers know you dress. You were very brave and honesty and integrity are very important traits.

[sometimes_miss]

I think we want to tell because deep down inside, we want to be liked for who we really are. There's so much scorn in the world today, and we all know that so many people in the world think we're weird. So is it really too much to hope that some will be nice to us once they know, instead? For whatever reason, I think you gambled and won. I don't think you have anything to worry about as far as them knowing your name or address or credit card number. And you might certainly have done us all proud by not pretending to be buying them for someone else. I just wish I could be that brave.

[Nicole Erin]

I believe this story, yep, every word of it. Yes ma'am, I ate it up like candy.
:brolleyes:

[sissystephanie]

Unbelievable that she wouldn't believe you.... Personally I don't try to explaing myself to anyone.... and at the stores I frequent no one even asks any more... because they know and I could care less....

Pretty much the same for me! At the Nordstrom's that I generally go to, the SA's always ask me if I want them to set up a dressing room for me. BTW, that is a ladies dressing room although I am very definitely a man wearing women's clothing. The SA's at the local VS store are also always very helpful.

Be glad they know you are a CD. They will be even more helpful next time you shop there. Remember, they want to make sales, not chase potential customers away! Your own attitude is what counts. Be like Karren and I, and just don't care what others think................!!

[BillieJoe]

I've really only had two bad experiences in my 40 plus years of buying femme clothes in stores. One was in a Lane Bryant store where one of the SAs blurted out real loud in front of a line of customers (some men) that were checking out, "Hey, nice dress! I saw you looking at that same one last week. I sure hope it fits you. Bring it back if it doesn't fit". The second time was at a Wal-mart where I was checking out. As the saleslady started to pick up my purchases to ring them up she began to notice everything was for a female. I think she could somehow tell that everything was for me. She went from bubbly and effervescent to cold stone sober and vitriolic. She began treating my purchases with great disdain and began throwing my things into various shopping bags. Her looks could kill and I heard her say something under her breath of a derogatory nature. Not wanting to draw any more attention to myself I hurried out of the store.

[CharleneT]

I think the most shocking things today was why I wanted to prove that the panties were for me. The other shocking thing was how willing I was to drop and show the purple panties I had on. In fact that may be the most shocking...I am almost sick to my stomach thinking about it. But is was almost an out of body experience.

cut yourself a break here hun ! So, you had a reaction to their bad behavior. Don't worry, just go out the next time and it will be different and fine and fun :) Enjoy your shopping experiences ;)

[Erica A.]

I enjoy going to my favorite wig salon, en femme. I like seeing the reaction of the other customers when I pop my hair off to try different styles and colors. :eek: The shop owner is quite familliar with me and gives me excellent suggestions and service. She tells me that a large portion of her business is from CD'ers and appreciates our business. :worship: -Erica

[suchacutie]

My wife and I were in an Atlanta Payless. Her size was in one aisle, mine in another. I had just commented to my wife that there were a number of shoes I'd love to have and she replied it was vacation and she thought I should get what I liked. Now I really like heels and I klew I wouldn't be pleased with myself if I just went crazy. I had only been dressing for 4 months at that point.

All this is going on in my head when without thinking (I was alone in the aisle) I took a pair I liked, slipped off my loafers, and put them on (in full male mode!) and I'm walking around looking in the mirror. I walked well in heels right from the beginning. With my back turned, an SA came around the corner, and as I turned to her she said, "they look good. Are they for you?".

Ok, that got me out of my pink fog! I was speechless. I hadn't prepared for it so I just didn't know what to say.

I think that's 99% of it. Prepare yourself. Think about this situation and how you want to handle it so that you don't need to make it up on the spot. Will you tell the SA they are for you (and no knuckling under to threats of telling someone else in the store, since that's just a hollow threat, or at least uselsss)? Will you pay with cash or not? Will you say one thing close to home, another if in a city where no one knows you?

I think the key is preparation. Then carry out what you've already decided.

tina

[Sally2005]

I would say those girls would be in a load of trouble if you reported what they did, but I guess you were a novelty to them, at least they had fun helping you and nothing really bad happened so just laugh about it and put it down as one of those character building experiences you will always remember. Next time, show her yours only if she shows you hers!

[AKAMichelle]

I wish I could be like TXKimberly and a lot of you other girls that "get away" with dressing. I can't even get away with it when I am not dressed. Anybody want to tell me why I blurted it out. Is that a desire to want someone else to know and why did I not let her think I just had a girl friend?

We all had the point in our lives where we were scared to death to walk out the door. It is a hard time to walk out the door and even harder to tell someone close. Being a crossdresser is hard to understand. I know that I finally got to a point that I don't care what someone thinks of me while dressed. You need to let times like this roll off of your back.

[MissConstrued]

All this is going on in my head when without thinking (I was alone in the aisle) I took a pair I liked, slipped off my loafers, and put them on (in full male mode!) and I'm walking around looking in the mirror. I walked well in heels right from the beginning. With my back turned, an SA came around the corner, and as I turned to her she said, "they look good. Are they for you?".



"No, they're for my friend Bob. He wears the same size as me!"

[mannph]

most times, salespersons think i am buying for my wife. A few times, the sales person winks and says something like, "tell me, are they really for you?" That is always a thrill.

[Sammy777]

Anybody want to tell me why I blurted it out.
Is that a desire to want someone else to know and why did I not let her think I just had a girl friend?

Simple:
You would rather be known to them as a CD then as someone who
would/is/could be cheating on his wife.

Call me anything you want, except for a cheater. :D

[Satrana]

SAs would never act in such a manner, this is a fantasy like so many panty threads. Women taking control, CD being humiliated, standard fare. Cannot believe so many people have fallen for this.

[Maid Barbara]

I always shop in male mode.
I find in the U.K. that the sales assistants leave me alone. I often buy shoes and at the checkout they'll say that if they don't fit your wife then bring them back, so I just tell them thanks, but I've already tried them on.
I was out with my ex girlfried once and she found a gorgeous pair of strappy sandels so we asked the SA for a pair in size 4 and another in an 8. We got a puzzled look from her when we both sat down and tried them on.
All in all I've never had a bad reaction in a shop although I do feel uncomfortable with male SAs, not for any particular reason though.

All I can say is just go for it, they want your money in their till, and as much of it as possible.

Barbara

[cindym5_04]

1) I don't know how believable this story is. It's very questionable because of the "show me" thing. I've never known any SA's to pull something like that. They very well could have been in A LOT of trouble for that. I wouldn't have shown anything and just have let them call the manager. What would he or she done? You asked for underwear in a certain size- you have that right.

2) A key piece of information is missing IF the story is true. Was the SA that you showed your panties to hot?

[cindym5_04]

BTW- aren't these types of stories supposed to have something like "when we went into the fitting room and I showed her my purple silk panties, I could tell that she was getting a little hot herself. She reached out to feel the fabric with one hand while sliding her own pants down with the other..." and then continuing on with some elicit sex scene?

[Nicole Erin]

"No, they're for my friend Bob. He wears the same size as me!"

hahahahaha ah h ah hhahah hah :D Sounds like the best response. :thumbsup:

In before the mods say "No better response can possibly be made so this thread is done".

[Desiree2bababe]

Heck, that was a door opening. Shoulda walked right in and had fun. They evidently were game.

[beenherelongtime]

does sound fishy, i certainly would not have gone into the dressing room, i would have told her to put her hand down my front and see for herself. again what could the manager do, if true they could be very young and foolish, they could lose their jobs, they could have been inquisitive. you have the right to buy panties, shoes, or anything else in your size. good luck in future, don't let this stop you from shopping for your own pleasure.

[Rhonda480]

There was no one there that was hot...including me. The panties were microfiber and not silk and there was nothing that brought a smile to my face. I am pretty sure I was being laughed at, more after thinking about it all day today. The SA did not go into the stall she stood holding the door and shut is when she got a glimps...there was no sexual touching or suggestion of any sort. I'm pretty sure I was a laughing stock yesterday, today and tomorrow.

Thanks for all your comments and encougement but I can't see me doing that again.

[simonestrt]

I remember buying a long nightdress from Marks and Specner and the casher said as i was paying for it "They feel lovely on dont they" I said yes i no what you mean then smiled

[TSchapes]

"No, they're for my friend Bob. He wears the same size as me!"

:lol:

I've got to remember that one!

But honestly, women go into men's clothing sections and buy clothes for themselves, it's just men's lib is what we're practicing! When I go into the Avenue store in drab and present my Avenue charge card (yes it's in my drab name), they figure, oh you've done this before! :confused2:

-Tracy

[Dalece]

I did my shopping when i first restarted and out thru mail order. Now completely out like TX, and do all my shopping dressed as a woman. It is great. Where i go like Dress Barn, Debs or the malls the people who work there know how I am and they always see me and not say him. Theu refer to me as a her. even in conversation. That first step is scary, after that it gets easier. and you can do it. where all here to help you and each other.

[Jilmac]

Don't be so hard on yourself Rhonda, perhaps those SA's gained enthusiasm once they found out the panties were for you. You might be pleasantly surprized if you have the courage to go back in that store and talk to the same ladies who served you the first time. They might just be on your side and willint to help you in your ongoing feminization.

[Lori A]

I may have mentioned this incident in another thread, but I'll tell it again here if you don't mind.

The first time I went into VS in the Jonesboro, AR at the mall shortly after it had opened, I went with my wife, daughter and her future ex husband. They had all been in there once before and had to literally drag him.
One of the SA's (probably a coed) approached and asked if she could be of assistance. My daughter came right out and asked her what size panties she thought that he would wear.
She, with a shocked expression, ask if my daughter were serious. Which said "Yes!"
She walked away to ring another customer out then returned and asked again and received the same response. Then she asked why?
That's when I asked her if she had ever worn mens cotton briefs, they were very uncomfortable! Shocked her again!
I then said in fact that I was myself wearing panties right then. Could have knocked her over with a feather. She wanted to know why, again I said they were a hell of a lot more comfortable, not to mention fun when playing around. And she should have her significant other try on a pair and see if he didn't look and feel sexier in them than in mens underwear.
We picked out 3 pairs and looked around a bit more but their stuff was a bit pricey. But we, (my daughter, wife and myself at least) had a lot of fun at Don and the SA's expense, so it was worth it.

[amy canada]

Were these SAs upset that you're a CD? From what you said, it sounds like they were okay with you, and they wouldn't bring other clothes for you to try on, so I don't know why you'd be so upset for shopping there. Heck, I'm willing to bet that they'd be more than helpful if you were to shop for stuff there again. You should be grateful that they accept CDs there.

[Teri Jean]

You are proud of the fact that you love these things and why not. The other side is some women find out you dress they are fasinated and want to see for themselves. Fun and exciting isn't it. Hahaha

Keli

[Mistybtm]

[quote= Anybody want to tell me why I blurted it out. Is that a desire to want someone else to know and why did I not let her think I just had a girl friend?[/quote]

I think you wanted to let them know you were not cheating on your wife:2c:

[Empress Lainie]

In reading these threads and seeing the good or bad experiences had by the CD's on here, I sometimes feel like maybe I shouldn't be here. I live 24/7 as female, my ID says F, and I have never had ANYONE question my gender. I talk with other women everywhere, including the ladies room. I take clothes into the women's fitting rooms to try on, like I did 3 times today, and no one ever questions my femininity. I was with my gf tonight, the one that was so unable to handle seeing me turning into a woman and who slapped me, stormed off, and didn't talk to me again until 5 months after my full transition.

At the time that incident with her occurred I still didn't even know I was truly female and was showing it more and more.
I am now her best girlfriend and tonight she said I really was born female in everything about me and in the way I act.

To tell the truth reading your travails makes me feel a little guilty that I (lucky me) have it so easy. And really I am not bragging, but I do truly feel for anyone that has to endure the pain that some of us do at times.

I learned the hard way to not say anything about being TS except to new people I feel I can trust. I did that yesterday to another 74yr old woman discussing things that had happened to me, but only after we had a 20 minute conversation and she was accepting me as a gg.We then had a discussion regarding the situation with the City of Las Vegas and my firing because being transgendered was "inappropriate conduct." Letters were sent yesterday to the mayor, city manager, and human resources asking why it was inappropriate for a tg woman to introduce herself as such, wear a wig and skirt, as that was the substance of the complaints I was fired for.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Think on the bright side - once they realized that you were a crossdresser,

they bent over backward to wait on you and to sell things to you

Did you ever consider that ?

JoAnne Wheeler

[CharlotteW]

Well, I was going to start a new thread about a similar subject but It's no big deal so I'll tag it onto this thread if thats OK.

I visited a radio ham friend today as he had a small job for me to do. Another radio ham had decided to visit him also, so there were three of us sitting, drinking coffee and chatting about a new aerial he wants to erect.
The question arose "will the nylon affect the signal from the aerial" (he was talking about nylon cord to support the aerial), I quickly replied "I don't think so, my aerial works just as well when I'm wearing my tights".
We all laughed but I think I just outed myself to two friends. They know I go to some rather 'iffy' parties, which probably doesn't help my cause.

Oh well, never mind eh:o

[Fab Karen]

"show me or I'll call the manager" - even if a saleswoman wanted to see proof, she wouldn't say such a thing. IF this dubious story is true, they were having fun finding things that you might buy. No indication was given of violating the law and using your personal sales data against you. And btw I have done tons of shopping in boy-mode & never run across such events.