Since my first counseling session I am

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

Both excited about transitioning and also deathly afraid. What I mean is this, my therapist thinks that I'm very comfortable as Kimberly and does not think it would be a problem providing a letter for HRT. But she'd like to see me for the next several months before actually providing the letter. So hopefully I will be on hormones by June time frame.

I am excited to start, but also afraid to tell people that I am transitioning. My children know of Kimberly and my dressing but don't know my full desire to fully transition. I want to start HRT first before telling my children and others and most importantly I want to wait till I have physical manifestations (Developing breast's) of my true gender, before telling my HR dept that I will transition.

I would like to know if anyone else had these mixed feelings prior to starting HRT? And also how did you tell your loved ones, specifically brothers about your impending transition and how did they react to it? Kimberly :battingeyelashes:

[GypsyKaren]

I just flat out told them with no sugar on top. This may sound cold, but I figured it this way: I spent my entire life doing without so they could do with, and I always put everyone else first and me at the bottom of the list, so I decided that it was now my time to do for me,and if anyone had a problem with me because of it, then "hey, it's been a pleasure, y'all take care and it was nice knowing you." Just speak from your heart, loved ones have a way of surprising you.

Karen :g2:

[Sharon]

My tongue was three-quarters of the way down my throat when I anticipated telling my family -- which I did individually -- and I was worried sick at some of their possible reactions (I was confident that a few would have no problems at all). I don't have any brothers, but I do have a grown step-son, two brothers-in-law, and three grown nephews, however. Unfortunately, the step-son has decided that he doesn't need a step-father any longer, and I never got along with one brother-in-law anyway, but everyone else has been marvelous in their reactions.

[Chibi~Cthulhu]

haha kimberly im looking at a june timeframe for my hrt too, grats hun :p

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

Karen and Sharon, always look forward to reading your post's, they have so much truth to them. And Chibu, congratulations too on starting your HRT in June, we will have to keep in touch. :battingeyelashes:

[Kaitlyn Michele]

You should talk to your therapist about it, but as best you can, you can control the info....i told people is a very specific order that i had hoped would work and i was lucky that no one broke confidence....as i went down the line i probably had about a dozen sessions, mom, dad, sis, friends, etc...in that order hoping that i would get a build up of support and confidence??

can you think of one or two people that you trust and would be accepting and even happy for you?

...and don't worry it will probably be quite a while before you can't hide breasts..at ages like ours they arent likely to grow as fast or large..you never know tho..

[Carole Cross]

I haven't yet started on HRT, hoping to get a referrel from my doctor on wednesday, but I am planning on telling my immediate family on Saturday. I am travelling 120 niles to speak to my sister and mother, then I will drive all the way back to tell my father. I am not sure when I can tell anyone else but hope to tell most before I start HRT and transitioning. I believe it is better they know before I start anything and I know who I can turn to for support IMHO. They will not be able to convince me to stop, I have made my decision and I will see it through. :)

[Kimberley]

I dont think I would wait to involve the HR Dept. I would get them involved up front so they can be proactive in the process. They wont feel like they have been sandbagged and can learn then set up seminars for education etc.

Just my thoughts for what they are worth.

:hugs:
Kimberley

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

I would probably start with my two kids, then my uncle, but they live far away. I believe that a neighbor, her name is Judy would be a good supportive person to talk too. I believe she knows I crossdress and has probably seen me walking at night, so I may venture to talk with her to have someone near me who I can talk with in person..

As far as work is concerned I think I may take the advice and talk to my HR dept when I go on Hormones, rather than waiting for my breast's to manifest themselves later. That would give the HR manager time to plan trainings with the managers and other departments before I actually come out as Kimberly.

I will definitely be talking with my therapist on these feelings and thoughts on April 8th. I thank you all for your caring advice and loving concern. Kimberly :battingeyelashes:

[Sejd]

first of all, you don't have to get permission to be who you are. the fact is, that you are probably a wonderful person male, or female. My second point is, that we all make the same mistake when we begin to live as females. We all have this urge to tell everyone about ourselves. When I look back on my transition I wish I had done it differently. I wish I had told nobody and just done what I needed to do. (execpt for my partner - duh). I believe that when people see you change, THEY will ask - or not. The bottom line for me is, that it is really not that interesting!!!!! you are who you are, who you have always been, how you came to this planet, as a woman in a male body. I don't think the butterfly ask if it is allowed out of the cocoon. Just take it one step at a time and enjoy you own journey, and let the rest of the world spin their own tales.
My 25 cents!!!!
Good luck.
Sejd

[Linda Z]

i like what Sejd said.

Linda Z

[Kimberly Marie Kelly]

My desire to transition, her name is Tammy. She's been a friend of mine for over 12 yrs+ and to say in a nutshell she is very happy for me and supports me completely. So now I have the beginning's of a support system besides my children and the many friends here on this site.

Makes it easier to go forward when you have friends that accept, support and encourage you. :battingeyelashes: