Plateaus

[windycissy]

This thread is inspired by a question recently asked by a friend of mine: Do you think your dressing will ever become "normal and boring"?

For me crossdressing has been a series of plateaus. At first just dressing up was a total thrill, and I was content to dress in the confines of my hotel room. Eventually I got the courage and chops to go out, which was a whole new level of excitement, now if I were to sit around in a dress I'd be bored to tears. Shopping for women's clothes, going to museums, etc. was wonderful, but a little lonely. So the next plateau came from meeting other crossdressers, each new adventure was a thrill, doing zany stuff I would never have imagined, like going squaredancing on a whim after a friend and her wife told me about it at lunch...my next plateau? Dating men, very selectively, being the woman on a date is amazing and learning how to be a woman to a man is a whole new level of excitement....where will it end?

[TommiTN]

Unless you go the full monte (SRS) it sounds like you've pretty much been there, done that as far as CDing goes. We can't have a period or get preggers which would seem to be about the only things you haven't done.:D

[Annemarie]

Perhaps with marriage and living the rest of your life as a woman with SRS or not ?
That is if you want to abandon Bob mode permanently.
It is true though that like a drug, your next "high" or achievement in Cding never seems enough.

[Sarah...]

If you have a male mode, do you get dressed in the morning and just sit around in man clothes? Probably not. You do stuff in the house and you go out and do stuff. So if you are dressed en femme why would sitting in the house be any fun? It's a simplistic view but one which I hope makes my point.

I'm not experiencing plateau or thrill behaviour or response and I think that's because I get dressed in the morning and just get on with the day's activities. I have no male mode anymore - that was a falsehood - so I fill my hours with being the best partner, father and businesswoman that I can be. And then in my time off I participate in the same interests that I always have done, except round most people I don't have to pretend to be male anymore. Which does get me some funny looks at work and out and about, I must say :heehee:

Sarah...

[Ruth]

"Normal and boring" is a new idea for me as regards CDing. Sorry to state the obvious, but I CD because I like it: if I ever stopped liking it, I'd stop doing it.
So the minute it became boring, I'd be moving on. Maybe rubber, or S&M, or something involving jello and whipped cream... the possibilities are endless.

[windycissy]

Don't get me wrong, it's still a thrill every time I put on my makeup and get dressed. In fact, I think I enjoy the llittle mundane things that are a part of a woman's everyday life more, knowing that there are special moments like going out on a date to spice up my life from time to time. Like today, I put on a skirt and top and did busywork alll morning, then went out shopping so I could make dinner tomorrow night for the man in my life, shopping for two is way more fun...

[kellycan27]

I think it's a bit different for us TS's who are full time. It does get ...well not as boring as say routine. I still enjoy getting all dolled up, but I can just as easily slip on a pair of jeans and a tank top or something. i don't get dressed to the nine's to go to the market of mall for a few minutes. My motto is... if it takes longer to get dressed than to complete the errand....it's not worth the effort LOL

[tricia_uktv]

I'm now at a different stage in my dressing. I have pretty much done it all before so to a certain extent the fun has gone out of it but in a sense I'm in a happier, much more relaxed place now. I still love being Tricia!

[windycissy]

I think it's a bit different for us TS's who are full time. It does get ...well not as boring as say routine. I still enjoy getting all dolled up, but I can just as easily slip on a pair of jeans and a tank top or something. i don't get dressed to the nine's to go to the market of mall for a few minutes. My motto is... if it takes longer to get dressed than to complete the errand....it's not worth the effort LOL

You are wise beyond your years, girlfriend! Although, it doesn't take any longer to throw on a skirt than a pair of jeans, assuming you've shaved your legs...tonight I was the belle of the ball at the free cocktail reception at my hotel, one guy handed me a plate and another guy held the door for me when I took my glass of wine back to my suite...it pays to be the only woman in the room showing a little leg!

[Michelia]

Are you out full time? Can you do it?

[kellycan27]

You are wise beyond your years, girlfriend! Although, it doesn't take any longer to throw on a skirt than a pair of jeans, assuming you've shaved your legs...tonight I was the belle of the ball at the free cocktail reception at my hotel, one guy handed me a plate and another guy held the door for me when I took my glass of wine back to my suite...it pays to be the only woman in the room showing a little leg!
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true, it doesn't take any longer, but it's nice to have the option. And jeans are more comfortable when you're running errands. You don't have watch how you sit, or who's looking when you bend over to pick up that needed item on the bottom shelf. LOL

[windycissy]

Are you out full time? Can you do it?

Full time? Not yet, my longest stretch is like 4 days...my next plateau?

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Lord, I sure hope not - I really don't think that will ever happen - especially

after having to spend 10 years in exile

JoAnne Wheeler

[sometimes_miss]

For some of us, it's not necessarily boring, but it is, or it feels, normal.

[Patricia1]

When I first went to Hawaii, more specifically to Maui, more than 20 years ago, I was completely mesmerized, overwhelmed by its stunning natural beauty. I've returned about 10 times since. Although I am still attracted by Hawaii's many treasures (I would have to be if only because of the 12 hour plane ride), the first blush was the one that really grabbed me.

I've been dressing for more than 40 years. I wouldn't say I've plateaued so much as ebbed & flowed. Now that I'm home 24/7 and my attention is focused I'm enjoying my femininity more than ever. Familiarity has bred contentment. Routines usually wear on people, but they are anchors also of normalcy. Since there is no power on earth to move me from myself, I have no choice to be me not matter how routinely.

Malama pono (Hawaiian for "Care for yourself")

[windycissy]

No question about it, that quiet contentment with femininity will never grow old, no matter which plateau we have ascended to...today I went shopping, it's so familiar now to feel the fabrics and hold them up against myself before deciding whether to try something on, I will never lose that fascination! Being able to go out and try on cute clothes makes all the sacrifices and butterflies in the stomach worth it, at least to me.

[Phyliss]

About a month or so ago I posted the question "Is that all there is?" in which I wonder if there is more than just getting dressed. I suppose I've reached a plateau of sorts. The daily routine of things. Get up, get dressed, get luch box, go to work, repeat five times, do stuff around the house on weekends. Repeat entire routine again.
While I may not be totally enfemme each day, I am wearing all ladies clothes and sometimes makeup. So yeah my dressing has become normal for me. Boring, not so much. Just can't beat the feeling of slipping on a pair of stockings, or fastening my bra.

[Michelia]

Maybe I should just slow down. That way I never reach any plateaus. Maybe I should set a limit like going out enfemme once a month or so. That is way too little. Twice a month?

[windycissy]

Maybe I should just slow down. That way I never reach any plateaus. Maybe I should set a limit like going out enfemme once a month or so. That is way too little. Twice a month?

I don't see any need to slow down, just make sure you treasure every little step towards femininity, and when you reach a major milestone, celebrate!