When and How to tell my folks?

[Daniel1977]

My Dad thinks i have a dressing fetish, when he mentioned that he knew he was his typical jerk face bigot self, I tried to tell my mom once but the disapoinment in her face stopped me.

They are living on a sailboat the last few years, I don't see them that much.

I feel like I owe it to my mom to tell her how I feel and how this is part of me, that I've hidden this my hole life. I should also tell her my plan to deal with it.

Question, is it ok to tell her over the phone or email? Or should i give it an other try in person?

Could you tell me how you did it?

I'm 31 now so I feel a bit silly even talking about it with my folks.

[Carole Cross]

I recently came out to my family and I told them personally. Before seeing them I downloaded some informatoin fron the internet which I felt gave a fairly accurate account of who I am and my reasons for transitioning.
I was quite suprised at their very positve reaction, especially when they admittted that it was a bit of a shock, although they knew that I had something troubling me for the last few months.
You need to be positive about what you tell them and try to tell them straight out that you are transgendered, you may need to explain what this means, and what your intentions are. I cant say what their reaction will be because everyone is different. Good luck and I hope it goes well for you. :hugs:

[Daniel1977]

Update, I couldnt wait so i called up my mom and told her.

Wow, she told me I should do whatever I need to, "All we want is for you to be happy and heathy" she said and "whatever happens you will always be loved" So yay acceptance.

[Alison010274]

Awesome Daniel, glad it went well for you!
I still dread the day I drop the bomb on my dad. While there is always a possability, I dont see it going over very well. Only time will tell...

[Joann Smith]

Think I am going to video record my comming out to the family....Because its gonna be very very interesting... so i better get all thier reactions on cam...the cops may need it to help locate my body..

Joann

[Heatherx75]

When I come out I'm doing it over the phone. And I will do it from over a thousand miles away, from the city my father never wants to see again for the rest of his life. And I will tell it to my mother first. That is all I have figured out so far. It's not like I was physically abused or anything, but my father says horrible things about the gays- things that are indicative of a deeper repressed issue that I don't even want to think about. And he has guns in the house. My mother on the other hand, has tried to reach out to me about my trans isssues before , but I wasn't ready to talk yet.

But congrats on your own coming out, Daniel, that's great. Didn't mean to go on too much about me.

[Carole Cross]

I was very scared about telling my father as I was sure he would go mad and possibly throw me out of his house and maybe not want to see me again. I was very suprised by his cool reaction as he didn't seem bothered by it at all. I have since heard by my stepmother that he thinks it may be his fault as to why I am transgendered and have been asked to take a picture to show him on Sunday.
I would say to anyone who is scared, to come out because you will feel so much better and you may be suprised by the reaction you get, Oviuosly there will be some who give you a negative reaction, and if you think that may happen, to try and get their views on the subject.