What's it like to be dating a man?

[Seras]

I'm really intrigued by the idea of going out on a date with a man and being pampered and treated like a lady, but at the same time I'm quite scared and insecure of doing so.

Can anyone describe their experiences of being out with a man and how it went? How did you feel and how did he treat you?

Hope to hear some replies.

[Sheila]

Why are you intrigued?

[Sarah...]

Well, don't forget that it's like dating a woman. If you are attracted to the person (whatever their gender) then you will get the usual feelings associated with that attraction. And those feelings will generate the usual resultant human behaviour. And then you take it from there. It will come naturally, or else you should be dating someone else. Go with the feelings I say.

Is it a long time since you have dated?

Sarah...

[marla01]

Well, don't forget that it's like dating a woman.

While there is some truth to this, I would also suggest that the social interaction can make it hugely different. Dating is a social interaction, and we interact in a dating environment quite differently if we are a man or a woman. I find dating a woman as a man to have a very different chemistry than dating a man as a woman.

Then there is the interesting experience of dating a woman as a woman (I've not tried man as a man).

I find each of these quite different experiences unique and fun.

Marla

[LeotardMan]

About 10 or so years ago when I was not sure if I was gay or straight I dated a man that I met while I was wrestling him. It was simple I was the woman in the relationship, he would open doors for me on dates, bring me flowers, and other things that made me feel like a real woman. Hope it helps.

Geoff

[windycissy]

Depends on the guy...there are a lot of creeps out there who just want to get off, but if you're patient and lucky enough to find a sensitive man who is truly fascinated by you as a person, it's the most wonderful experience in the world to develop a relationship, with you as the woman, letting him take charge of where you go and what you do, reveling in how he treats you like a lady in front of other people, and the wonderful satisfaction that comes when a man finds you attractive and is turned on by you, and being able to please him.

[Alicia_lynn419]

Though I've never dated a guy, (and don't know if I actually could), the thought does intrigue me. But I have learned through life, some fantasies are better left that, than reality. Still... it would be fun to have the experience....

[Emily01]

Though I've never dated a guy, (and don't know if I actually could), the thought does intrigue me. But I have learned through life, some fantasies are better left that, than reality. Still... it would be fun to have the experience....

my sentiments too. i have fulfilled some fantasies and the results were mixed. a step such as this. for me at least, would probably not go nearly as well in real life as it would in my imagination where everything is perfect and unblemished.

[kellycan27]

It's totally awsome! I have no qualms about my sexuality.. I like men. All of those things that a man does for a woman... I enjoy. A big ,strong, handsome,macho,masculine guy makes me weak in the kness. :daydreaming:

[Dalece]

I have dated a few men, And as long as there is no Hanky Panky going on it was very nice treated me like a lady had dinner and things. As far as the other things I won't tell, not the type of girl to kiss and tell. But it is a great feeling of being treated as a woman and WOW. But do watch out there are some out there that all they want is to get in your pants to be nice about it.

[Cindy Lynn]

Getting all the attention is great. You get to ride in the passenger seat and relax. And when you give yourself to him you think you died and went to heaven.

[StevieTV]

You won't know until you try it. Start with a simple date, with no expectations. As others have mentioned, when he's a gentleman it's a terrific feeling being a woman. If he's a jerk, then pepper spray him and run.

If everything goes well, and you want to go "further"... have him shower while you go change into something more comfortable.

[windycissy]

You won't know until you try it. Start with a simple date, with no expectations. As others have mentioned, when he's a gentleman it's a terrific feeling being a woman. If he's a jerk, then pepper spray him and run.

If everything goes well, and you want to go "further"... have him shower while you go change into something more comfortable.

Sheesh, I can't imagine asking my date to take a timeout for a shower when we're getting into each other...and as for changing into something more comfortable, I kinda like asking him to undress me...oh well, to each her own!

[SuzanneS]

To be honest, I've wondered the same thing. Not to hijack this thread, but until I found this site I always thought my alter ego would be confined to the privacy of my house....but it seems that maybe my alter ego may have a chance to show herself. I haven't dated in a few years now(been too busy), but when I did I treated my dates like royalty, I guess it would just be nice to have the favor returned to me.

Suzanne

[MsJanessa]

Sheesh, I can't imagine asking my date to take a timeout for a shower when we're getting into each other...and as for changing into something more comfortable, I kinda like asking him to undress me...oh well, to each her own!

absolutly---the time for his shower is before he picks Me up---while I'm changing into something "more comfortable" I want him waiting in very eager anticipation---not washing his armpits--how he waits is something that I will decide when the time comes.

[windycissy]

absolutly---the time for his shower is before he picks Me up---while I'm changing into something "more comfortable" I want him waiting in very eager anticipation---not washing his armpits--how he waits is something that I will decide when the time comes.

Right you are...in my experience, by the time you get back to your place, he is going half crazy with excitement over that secret in your panties, asking him to take a shower would be so cruel!

[Kelli Michelle]

Since I am married, I have never been on a date with a man, but the fantasy is there. I have been out to a couple of restaurants with a few of my gay male friends, and they were very attentive and protective. I found I liked the experience. Maybe you could start that way, going somewhere with male friends, not as a date.

I have had some guys hit on me (are they blind?) and suggest dinner, etc. My take on most of them was that were posers, asking for dinner, but expecting something in return, if you know what I mean. That's the key. If you want the sexual experience, you can. But be very careful, make sure people know who you are with, and meet in a safe place. If you want a regular date, with no expectations, take the time to get to know the guy. It may take a while to get to know his intentions, but in the long term the experience should be better. Just my :2c: worth

[Mistybtm]

It's totally awsome! I have no qualms about my sexuality.. I like men. All of those things that a man does for a woman... I enjoy. A big ,strong, handsome,macho,masculine guy makes me weak in the kness. :daydreaming:

I could have not said it any better:D

[_Michele_]

Seras... You have to try it! I feel, it's look like a big trill for you... So go for it! :heehee:

Me, I'm totally in love with woman and nothing can change that... I can't ever think about going out with a man, but it's me with my personal feelling about it! When I do clubbing with my girlfriend, many guy's cruising us arround the bar, ask for dancing or talking... It's cool, I feel attractive, I feel pretty, but it stop there to tell you the true! :heehee:

[docrobbysherry]

I've often wondered how it would feel to a CD, to be with a man. :brolleyes:
Without learning all the intimate details!:eek:

U ALL sound like so many ROMANTIC women! Why am I NOT surprised?:)

[MaryAnn40c]

Like most who have posted here I dated a guy for about 4 months and had a blast. We did go out at first to clubs,then dinner,shopping and just hangging out. He treated me like a women was easy to talk with,was respectful and a great lover. There was never any problem with sex we both knew what we wanted. Our time spent making out was great but there was so much more to our dating that sex was second place. When we were together I was always dressed as a women(I wanted it that way). But as allways a good thing came to an end(he moved far away).:2c:

[StevieTV]

Hey, I like a fresh smelling man. That's why he showers.

[Kate Simmons]

Some interesting comments. For some the fantasy never ends it seems.:heehee: Social interactions are what we make them, nothing more or less.:)

[Tonya-Anne]

Every one is right, it really depends on the guy. I have dated many men, most have been gentleman, but i have met the typical jerk too. I guess the thing that turns me off the most, is if it is a guys first experience in public with a girl. I have found some guys have this anticipation, but then when they are presented in public, the begin to have second thoughts about what people might say.

I love when a guy holds my hand, opens doors and just treats me like a lady, as opposed to a guy who is just trying to fulfill his fantasy about being out with a tgirl.

Its best to get to know him on line and phone chatting first, then you will get a better read on the kind of person and what he wants.

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Do men really treat GGs like that anymore - is that just a fantasy of ours -

more importantly, do today's GGs even expect or want that kind of attention


JoAnne Wheeler

[kellycan27]

Nice guys do. They treat you with respect and kindness.

[Taylermade]

It is scary actually and I quite frankly was extremely nervous. Remember when you choose to meet a guy, you have no idea what exactly he will do or how he would react to the actual situation.
You hope that you can select one with good persona, manners, etc. But again sometimes it's hard to pinpoint those values via online and even in person.
But you hope for the best and learn to take risks too.
It is one thing to say that you can handle, it is another to actually act on it.
Some guys realize that when the situation does come about in real life, that it is not as they expected and/or they cannot actually handle it. I perfectly understand. I think it takes alot of courage to take out "girls" in what I like to call big time public environments. However, there are those guys who can handle and handle it with class and confidence.
Those were my thoughts when I first let a guy take me out.

But when you get to that point that you are confident in yourself and comfortable with the idea of letting guys take you out, it is great feeling. There are some really nice guys out there and of course a bunch of @sswipes.

[jasmine87xoxo]

I had mixed reactions my first and only relationship with a man.
It started out great, but the bad parts made me distrust guys for a long while and even question my dressing all together for many months.
I have learned that it was just one bad relationship and who knows I may try it again in a bit.

[kellycan27]

Hey, I like a fresh smelling man. That's why he showers.

How about just a fresh........ man?:heehee:

[msginaadoll]

It can be an intersting experience. Its different to have someone hold the door open for you, to be brought flowers instead of bringing them. Even to to have a guy order for u on a date. It kicks things up on the feminine notch a bit. Mostly it depends on the guy and what type of person he is. Also people are more likely to be respectful out in the world since there is a buffer, in some ways maybe be more accepting or even think you are a female.

[ReineD]

Yes it does depend on the man. My ex was taught to always open doors and let ladies go in first. He always paid for dinners and such. He bought me flowers, jewelry and clothing for gifts. If there was danger looming ahead in the form of unsavory characters walking on the street towards us, he would put himself between them and me. It did feel nice and I felt protected. But, he was also possessive in negative ways and over time he began to see me as chattel. Our relationship became unequal.

My SO and I treat one another with equality. We take turns holding the door for one another and sometimes we go in side-by-side doors at the same time. We buy flowers for one another. We take turns paying for dinners. When we go out dressed, I tend to play the man's role more and open doors for her. I also tend to be the one stepping in the line of danger if we see gangs of men walking towards us.

I haven't dated many men, but among the younger generation (my sons) I've noticed they take the traditional male role and pay for the outing. I am sure when they go out with a girl they feel in charge because they think the girl likes it that way. I am surprised to see in this day and age that it is still a tacit understanding that the man should be in charge. I am guessing the younger women still enjoy feeling they are taken care of.

[noeleena]

hi... i would like to pose a ?? or two . concerning ..a andro .. some detail married for over 36 years . have our own grown up kids 30 to 35 two lads one lass . have 6 grand kids.. not married now that was anuuld last year . we . jos & i live just as two women..in our own home ... okay i am 61 will be 62 this coming aug .. could i have an other friendship .... how do i think male or female or both. how should i think ...i live as just a women. * would i wont a friendship .... things that go through my mind ... oh yea ... the sex bit .. for me is a non event it wont & cant happen ...
So if a guy chated me up as you say ... ,,,thinking ,,,, what would i say ... knowing what they wont ..... .. i have 5 women in my life jos.. our daughter.. & 3 grand daughters .. allso 5 men our two sons & 3 grand sons .
Some how ......i dont think the ???...... will come up . & i am not looking for an other freindship .....hmmm....... oh well just me thinking out loud ..
...noeleena...

[Deb The Brunette]

I've been out with quite a few guys over the years (Oi !! no I'm not a tart lol) and dating guys is great as a cd/tg and I much prefer to be out and about with a guy than a girl to be honest...... but enjoy the company of ggs too of course... the guys tend to be really attentive and kind to you (if you have the right ones of course) but do remember, especially those of you who are of a nervous disposition that when you are out the guy has to deal with the same problems as you do with prejudice etc etc etc just by being seen with you (if you get read)

I like being out with guys as they are a bit of protection in many ways...sort of makes you feel a little more secure than when you go out with a gg friend or the such like .... but obviously that's great too

Just a silly little thing but thought I'd mention it anyway and I guess everyone reading this thinks it's sort of irrelevant but just my personal take on it ...I haven't really got what I'm thinking over very clearly really


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[Paige Philips]

This is absolutely fascinating-thanks for posting this topic. I am saving all the replies to re-read. I'm very glad that I'm not the only one here who understands the logical result of being as feminine as you can be...To be honest, I don't understand why anyone would bother, otherwise.

[kellycan27]

Hey, I like a fresh smelling man. That's why he showers.

Hey girl.. haven't you heard there's water shortage?.... Shower together, save water!

[Marilynn]

Something to consider: I once read an article by a drag queen - it may have been online. She said that she only went out with obviously gay guys. In the past she had dealt with "straight" guys - admirers? - and never would again. The gist of it was that they think that they want to do it, but when the time comes and they do the deed, they can have regrets and freak - in a violent way. That certainly fits the pattern of a lot of gay-bashing.

My take-home message from that was to be sure that the guy knows what he's getting into, and isn't a rookie experimenting on you. As it is, I'm not interested in men, but the same would be true of other CDs.

[Kaz]

Yes it does depend on the man. My ex was taught to always open doors and let ladies go in first. He always paid for dinners and such. He bought me flowers, jewelry and clothing for gifts. If there was danger looming ahead in the form of unsavory characters walking on the street towards us, he would put himself between them and me. It did feel nice and I felt protected. But, he was also possessive in negative ways and over time he began to see me as chattel. Our relationship became unequal.

My SO and I treat one another with equality. We take turns holding the door for one another and sometimes we go in side-by-side doors at the same time. We buy flowers for one another. We take turns paying for dinners. When we go out dressed, I tend to play the man's role more and open doors for her. I also tend to be the one stepping in the line of danger if we see gangs of men walking towards us.

I haven't dated many men, but among the younger generation (my sons) I've noticed they take the traditional male role and pay for the outing. I am sure when they go out with a girl they feel in charge because they think the girl likes it that way. I am surprised to see in this day and age that it is still a tacit understanding that the man should be in charge. I am guessing the younger women still enjoy feeling they are taken care of.

This is such an important point it should be new thread?

I fantasise (as we do) about what it would be like as a girl... am I a lesbian? whatever... the reality for me is "en femme" I like the idea of what the male stereotype could bring, but the reality is that I don't feel attracted to men? I am attracted to the idea (in feminine mode) and can get obsessed about certain things, but the bottom line is that is the whole female thing that I am attracted to...

But the power relationship is interesting and something I hadn't thought of, at least in my CD "interests".

In my married life I have played the role that life seemed to deal me, and responded (I thought) to my wife's wants and needs... which included "being a guy"... kind of weird to know this isn't what was required... maybe this screwed upness about gender is why we are here?

Discuss...:love: