Children worries?

[Byanca]

Being a mom is a big part of being a woman for me. It's probably the most defining aspect(in my opinion)

If one did not become sterile taking hormones i'd consider keeping the bits if I started physical transformation. But as you do I'd gladly be rid of them, so I see absolutly no reason to keep them. But that they in a way is(supposed to) be able to make a child is what has always held me back. Now that I found out you can store the sperm it changes things for me.

I don't do things halfway. One pill, and I would be committed. I could never stop halfway. And I would not regret it, this is one of the few things I am sure of. The only thing I have regretted in my life(and I've done a lot of stupid things) is not seeking help when I was a kid. But I had the same ideas then as I have now. I want to have my own kids, I suppose it is the mother instinct. And it is breaking me apart.

Storing semen, and doing the transition seems more and more like the solution that will fix all my worries. It wouldn't be so bad if I never got to use the sperm and not get the baby. But at least the possibility would be there. How to make it happen, two mothers, another female to bring it to this world etc I look at as a huge problem, but certainly solvable if I really wanted to-not at all on the level of the GID problem.

Thoughts?

[NiCo]

Yes i agree with you, but it isn't just a mothers instinct, it's a human instinct.

When me and my partner started the whole process of having my eggs blah taken blah and fertilised with a sperm donor, and she would carry the child, i was so happy.

My whole life i wanted to be a dad, wanted a wee lassie so she'd be daddy's wee princess, but a wee boy also so he'd pass on my family name and bloodline. My wee Prince. Seeing my sister producing children with no apparent effort (LOL) and my big brother becoming a father to a wee girl, it made me jealous. But as it goes, my sister, the oldest had her kids followed by my brother who is the second oldest, it felt right for it to be my turn...god forbid my little brother having kids before me, it was not going to happen!

Me and my partner hadn't been together very long but we had known each other for over three years, but when we met for the second time round which was when we started our relationship, she knew me as a different name and i knew her as a different name (and after chatting blah blah, we actually found out and it was a big shock, lol) so we knew we'd be together forever, she refused to carry "a randomers" baby and wanted to carry my child so we did some quick thinking and got the process started. When she found out she'd concieved we were so happy, not many people knew etc, but we lost the child after 12 weeks and it has killed us inside.

I thought that if that ever happened, we'd do it again and again until we had our child but we haven't been able to, we argue a lot but we know it's just because we are hurting, no one can expect us not to!

I do agree with you though because i'm sorry, i woldn't be able to bring up another man's child unless i walked into a realtionship with a woman and the child was already either growing inside the mother or born. I raised a kid when i was 15, my sister's child when she had cancer and it was the best thing i have ever done. It was then i said i would want a baby of my blood. Not Joe's down the street or Mark's up North, NO, MY BLOOD!

We have started chatting about children again, her little cousins come to stay over and it's horrible in a good way cause i can't sleep, i go check on them in bed every half a minute and pace the floor wondering if they are okay, if they wake up i get them into our bed and tell them stories till they get bored of my shit and fall asleep, it's awesome!

Many people would see me unable to, at the moment, look after a child because of the way i act, but that shows that they are ignorant to assume i would act that way in front of a child. Never.

I hope one day you can have a child of your own, maybe my day will be soon, it may be expensive, but a child is priceless in my eyes, and many other peoples eyes too.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

My doctor is ts, and she stored her sperm to raise children.. Make sure you have enough!! lol...

and by the way, i have kids...they like having a daddy too, so consider their welfare as well...

you said "another female to bring into this world"...what if its a boy?

[Byanca]

ady-Thank you! Wish you the best! Hope you can make it. I'm sure you will make a wonderful father. I think when one wants to, one have a good foundation laid out.

micheletv-It was another female to bring it,the child, to this world. With it, I meant sex and gender regarding the child.

Sperm? lol, Hope It does not take to much, half of a small spoon is it. Maybe it is not even working, that would be ironic. So this will take some work, if a lot of it is needed. But hard work usually give good pay :)

[Diane24]

Someone casually mentioned to me early in my trasition if I had thought about getting married as a girl, and what about children? I was young and single-minded and thought little more about it. But within a week or so the thought came back after my therapist mentioned that I might soon become infertile. So, I found a Sperm Bank (in NYC) and made some calls. The result was that I did go and put away a sample of my sperm. Flash ahead about 8 years, I'm fully a woman (well, nearly so!) and married to a wonderful woman. We had talked about having children and she was aware of my "frozen assets." Long story short, we have a beautiful daughter who is truly ours.
So, my advice is to "get thee to a Sperm Bank!" You too can be a Daddy/Mommy with your SO!
Love,
Diane

[Byanca]

Diane and Ria
That was what I was wondering. Is a beatyful story Diane, like a fairytale come alive, thanks for sharing :)

not all worries....but the one most..worrying. It will make it easier for my family as well. If they think I still can have a family, and I can make them understand why this will make it more realistic to come true, bizarre as it may sound, I'm sure things will work out just fine. As I know they are worried for me.