A Broken heart

[loren]

I have lost the one person that meant everything to me.And why? Lies and selfishness.Im posting it in this section,just as advice.When you have someone that loves you,please dont ruin it with selfishness or dishonesty.I did everything possible and more to support,and love,and in return my heart is broke,and while he gets on with it not caring less,im struggling to deal with the hurt and loss of someone i loved with all my heart,seems im going through the punishment for his selfishness and dishonesty,so please take leaf and see this as what it can do:hugs:

[sara_also]

My heart goes out to you..I know that I am one of the luckiest people in the world, because I have a wife that loves me and I never have to lie or deceive her.
Keep the faith in yourself..I wish you happiness in your future no matter where it will lead..

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

I'm sorry for your loss, Loren. :sad:

Lies and selfishness are the cause of many (most?) broken relationships & broken hearts, regardless of lifestyle.

The pain will fade and your heart will grow strong again in time, I think you know that. I always hated when people told me the same when I got my heart broken... but it's true. The sting of a heartache is one of the most unbearable things anyone of us faces in life. I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain, but that will only come in time.

I guess all I can offer you is a :hugs:

I've had mine ripped out before, too... several times. I know the pain so very well. I'll spare you the details of the terrible things I once did to myself to try and deal with the pain.

Try to take it easy. The pain you feel now will someday be replaced with love once again. :)

[Holly]

Loren, words fail me. :hugs: You know how to reach me if you want to talk.

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Loren

I am sorry to hear despite your best efforts your heart is still broken
It always seems to be the dishonesty that causes most problems

I know not much can help right now but I will give you these anyway :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

[Sheila]

Loren go follow my old story hun .......... there is a thread in here from me on the break up of my CDing relationship ................ I thurts god knows it hurts at the time ................... I wish for you the happiness I have now found :hugs:

[kellycan27]

So sorry for your troubles. I think that it's really wonderful of you in the midst of your sorrow to try and reach out so that others may benefit from you tragic experience. Kudos
Kelly

[loren]

thankyou all for your kind words,but please see this as a deterrent for being that way.I supported, loved,and respected,and put up with a lot into the bargain,and at times it wasnt easy taking on everything about him.But i loved him enough for no matter what.All i wanted in return was love and honesty,i guess that was asking too much:hugs:

[Kayla Shadows]

Im very sorry to hear Loren :( I dont even know what to say :(
big :hugs: for you

[Teri Jean]

Loren my heart goes out to you and wish you the best. I wish I could take away all your pain and make things right. Please accept my heart felt wishes for you.

Huggs Keli

[Tamara Croft]

:hugs: you know we're all here for you :hugs:

[Jilmac]

My heart goes out to you Loren. I know exactly how you feel because I lied to my wife about my dressing, made promises I never kept, told her I was cured of dressing, I broke her heart but she stayed with me until she passed away in 2007. I have many regrets, I know I could have done things differently but I chose the cowards way out. I justified all of it because she didn't approve of my dressing. Now I have a SO who knows all about me and my dressing, I don't have to lie anymore, and I feel better knowing I can be up front with her.

Please accept my deepest sympathy for your heartbreak.

[Alana65]

thankyou all for your kind words,but please see this as a deterrent for being that way.I supported, loved,and respected,and put up with a lot into the bargain,and at times it wasnt easy taking on everything about him.But i loved him enough for no matter what.All i wanted in return was love and honesty,i guess that was asking too much:hugs:

You're wrong Loren......that was not asking too much. You put your heart and soul into the relationship, and you deserved it in return. Just because you didn't get it, doesn't mean you failed.......your partner failed.......and I'm very sorry (for the both of you) that it happened. :love: & :hugs:

[Patty]

:hugs: Loren so sorry :hugs:

[Karen564]

thankyou all for your kind words,but please see this as a deterrent for being that way.I supported, loved,and respected,and put up with a lot into the bargain,and at times it wasnt easy taking on everything about him.But i loved him enough for no matter what.All i wanted in return was love and honesty,i guess that was asking too much:hugs:

Loren,
I'm so very sorry to hear of your heartbreak, even though I don't know what happened in your relationship, but asking for love & honesty is never too much to ask..

:hugs:

[Nena]

thankyou all for your kind words,but please see this as a deterrent for being that way.I supported, loved,and respected,and put up with a lot into the bargain,and at times it wasnt easy taking on everything about him.But i loved him enough for no matter what.All i wanted in return was love and honesty,i guess that was asking too much:hugs:

No you were not asking too much! Please do not think that about yourself. Make no mistake about it. You deserved better and you deserve better in the future. I am so sorry that this has happened to you :hugs:

I hope that you will continue to take advantage of the support system here where you are loved.

Nena GG

[sissystephanie]

thankyou all for your kind words,but please see this as a deterrent for being that way.I supported, loved,and respected,and put up with a lot into the bargain,and at times it wasnt easy taking on everything about him.But i loved him enough for no matter what.All i wanted in return was love and honesty,i guess that was asking too much:hugs:

Loren, I am truly sorry for the way things turned out for you. But you did noting wrong! You are an exceptional person, as a supportive GG! It is never too much to expect love and honesty in any relationship. Especially if it is a marriage relationship. I have "preached" that theme on this forum for some time.

I told my late wife about my CD activities before we married, and she not only accepted me but also completely supported me for the 49+ years we had together.

For you;:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[loren]

Thankyou everyone for your true supprt and kindness.
I thought as i was accepting and supportive in every way possible, there would be no need for lying.It was wonderful to see his self confidence grow,but unfortunately it grew so much ,that i became a convenience more than anything else.
Although im feeling completely lost and extremely hurt and angry right now,i realy do appreciate you all here.I can't talk to my friends and family as they dont know about his 'personal' life,and ive no intentions on revealing his 'secret' to anyone, thats not my place to do so.Thankyou all,i will ofcourse be remaining to come here and chat with you all,from i first came to know about him, being here has been detrimental to me.Im moving on i just wish my heart didnt hurt so much:hugs:

[JoAnne Wheeler]

I am so sorry. Thank you for the heartfelt advice. I wish you the best.

JoAnne Wheeler

[Gisele]

So sorry for your loss dear.

[deja true]

...All i wanted in return was love and honesty,i guess that was asking too much:hugs:

Of course it wasn't asking too much.

For some the acceptance from a loved one makes them a better and more sensitive and generous person.

That route comes from the absolute necessity of trying to become a whole and complete human being...that can be happy with themselves and be a friend and helpmate to the ones we love.

For others, it makes them more self absorbed and liable to take advantage. Such is the selfish nature of almost all compulsions and addictions...

Some of us are addicts...slave to our needs.

Others of us are searchers...looking for the love that sets us free to be at one with our natures and our lovers.

Thank you, Loren, for recognizing that among the others here and not condemning us all for the mistakes of one confused soul.

You'll always have our

respect & love,

deja

:<3:

[Jonianne]

I'm so sorry Loren. Thank you for your courage in being here and sharing. You are heard. I wish your heart wasn't broke. Be good to yourself.