Given the choice

[dee-liscious]

Hi..apologies if this has been asked before.
If you could take a pill that would stop your crossdressing urges..would you? After much thought I think I would.
I do get a huge amount of fulfilment and pleasure from my dressing but it also causes a degree of guilt and self questions? Hmmm....Its a tricky one! x

[Sara Jessica]

Since the dressing thing is simply a reflection of who I am and not something that I do, I'd have no interest in such a pill to stop dressing.

[Jenniferpl]

I would pass on the pill. Being feminine has made me a better person. I would not change anything on this journey. If I could only have big boobs and high check bones, I would be all set.

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

No, I would not take the pill.

I grew up hating myself and living half a life. It was only in embracing my feminine side that I finally learned how to love myself and life and enjoy a full existence.

It's not easy being this way in a society that is not accepting. It can even be dangerous. But I would never want to give up this part of my life. I love being a crossdresser. I love the happiness and joy it has brought into my life. I love being who I am. I love being able to exist on both sides of the gender spectrum at will (or at least when time allows).

I honestly can't imagine a life without my gift. The thought of being without it seems like such an empty existence. I never want to feel empty again. I love being a cd and I love my life.

Somehow, even in my dark years of self-loathing, I knew I didn't want this to go away. I kind of wished it away, and yet didn't want to be without it at the same time.

I believe your guilt, dee-liscious, is caused by the fact that you have yet to accept yourself and embrace who you are. I felt the guilt of dressing up until I accepted myself. I accept who I am. My wife knows about and loves Gabrielle. I truly do love my life as a crossdresser. The dark beast within me turned out to be the most beautiful part of my life.

I think of it as a gift, and I thank God for it. Maybe I hated my gift for most of my life, but I am so thankful for it now. I would never take a pill to eliminate that which has brought me so much joy and fulfillment. I only wish I learned how to accept myself a lot sooner in life. Better late than never though, right? :)

I understand some people wanting the pill though. I know it would make life easier and less complicated for them. I bet if society wasn't so unaccepting and not-tolerant of transgendered people, there would be a lot less guilt among people like us - and only a celebration of who we are. My two cents, anyway. :)

[msginaadoll]

I will have to say yes. I know my dressing has caused pain to others as well as myself. if I could take a pill and I would stop having the need, yes I would.

[dee-liscious]

Great response Gabrielle.
Think you are right...its the "wouldnt life be easier if I didnt dress" feeling that comes through strongest. You are also right I guess I havnt fully accepted my gift. Society also tells me to "be a man!". I do love my femme side though, its a big part of who I am that I cant change. Oh heck...pass the make-up box....lol x

[Mary Jane1]

I will have to say yes. I know my dressing has caused pain to others as well as myself. if I could take a pill and I would stop having the need, yes I would.

I agree, in that it would prevent the potential discomfort /hurt to others close to me. But knowing my feminine self has allowed me to see and understand so much more, - of myself, of life and prople in general. I would not want to give that up.

I'd much prefer finding a pill that would make society more understanding of me /us. We're not the ones with the problem here.

[trisha59]

I would not take the pill. I have never had any guilt with my crossdressing and I dress in the privacy of my own home. So I see no point in taking a pill that would stop this enjoyable activity

[Yvonne York]

No way - nothing wrong with me dressing with the fullsupport of my wife

[JoAnne Wheeler]

NO - absolutely not - I want to enjoy my feminine side - I'd rather take a pill

that would stop my having to return to my male side

JoAnne Wheeler

[Patricia1]

That would be a bitter pill indeed. NO!

[BLUE ORCHID]

No pills needed life is good.
.................................................. ..............thanks............ORCHID

[Phyliss]

It's taken me too long to get comfortable with and accept myself as I am.

To toss all of that effort with one pill, I think not. Besides I've got too much money tied up in my clothes.

[Karren H]

I'd take it in a heart beat!!! To be "normal" would be sooo much simpler.. whether it be 100% male or 100% female this jumping back and forth is really wearing thin... Don't get me wrong. I love crossdressing... and embrace it because I really have no other choice!!! It's that or be totally misserable!!

[Kate Simmons]

Actually no. It would have to be a conscious choice to stop in order to have any real meaning. A pill will not do that.

[Joanne f]

It is tempting to say yes but then when i think about it a bit more it has to be a big no , and just find a pill that everyone else could take that would make them accept me :GD:

[Teri Jean]

No, but the pill to be female full time might be intriging. I am who I am for both traits and therefore I would be giving up some of my personality or sole with taking one or the other.

Keli

[DoreenR]

The answer is No. I enjoy who I am and there is nothing more satisifying then those nights I get the hair, makeuo, and outfit perfect and go out feeling like a million dollars.

[luv2x-dress53959]

I would not take the pill because I have not guilt from crossdressing...

[Patricia1]

I'd take it in a heart beat!!! To be "normal" would be sooo much simpler.. whether it be 100% male or 100% female.

Karren - You're apparently "normal" no matter how you present. If you took that pill you'd be less "normal".

[gretchenD]

No,I enjoy my lifestyle

[kelly1469]

no way! - i love dressing fem! (wish i could do it more often!)

[Karren H]

Karren - You're apparently "normal" no matter how you present. If you took that pill you'd be less "normal".

Then I could change my name to Abbie Noirmall!! :)

[Ruth]

I've never thought about it before, because I guess I just don't think along those lines.
But whereas the CDing does take its toll in many ways, it has also given me much pleasure, and, when you get to the bottom of it, it's part of who I am. To modify my personality by taking a pill does not feel right to me.
It would be barely justifiable if my activities were doing harm to others, but since they are not, no pill.

[Christina2008]

If I was in a serious relationship that wasn’t going to work with me CD’ing I might take the pill. At the present moment however I live alone and it’s so much fun to dress whenever I want while at home.
On the other hand, I would save so much money if I stopped. Buying clothes and shoes is so addictive and fun, I guess that’s why I don’t want to stop.

[Kaz]

If I was in a serious relationship that wasn’t going to work with me CD’ing I might take the pill. At the present moment however I live alone and it’s so much fun to dress whenever I want while at home.
On the other hand, I would save so much money if I stopped. Buying clothes and shoes is so addictive and fun, I guess that’s why I don’t want to stop.

This got me thinking, Christina! I have been in a serious relationship, wife, kids etc... for years and my CDing was very limited, with big abstinences, purges, the lot! No-one ever knew and the few gafs I made I covered up okay. When my girls grew up and I could see my life and relationships changing, I finally accepted this would never go away and accepted Kaz as who she is, embraced her and welcomed her into my life. But now it gets expensive!!! And it easily gets out of hand! :heehee:

I would never have taken the pill, back then, as I thought I could control things okay. Would I take it now... no. If it was causing problems for my wife and kids? Still no. I would want them to accept who I am now, and whilst I still haven't officially "come out", I am reasonably confident that they would accept it - though not confident enough to do it!!!!! :D

The other pill I have thought about a lot... the one that would make me female... and I have thought about that a lot over my life. No... I have enjoyed being a guy, a husband, a father... all that... wouldn't change that for the world. But being Kaz I think is now about exploring the side of me that I have suppressed for so long...

Guess no pills then! And damn I do need some new outfits for summer!!! And I am getting bored with my hairstyle.. short or long? Maybe a complete new look? Fun fun fun! :heehee:

[Paula TV]

No, definetely not. The fetish doesn't run my life, and i'm only able to crossdress few times a year. Plus, i think being more feminem and in touch with your feminem side has made me a better person, and thankful i'm into it, as i don't have the aggression of some straight/gay men.

[darla_g]

Definitely not, my dressing does not infringe on anyone else.

[tricia_uktv]

Wow, no way. I'm enjoying myself now more than I have ever done in my life. It helps that the guilt has gone though. I'm a free and a better person for doing it.

[Mary Jane]

No, I don't think I would go with the pill. My wife would love it but I do enjoy the dressing and see no reason to want to stop it. It might make life less complicated but I am satisfied whth the way things are now.

[Angie G]

Not me I love dressing and my wife has no big problem with it.:hugs:
Angie

[CD Susan]

No, I most definately would not take such a pill! Many years ago when I was not accepting of myself I would have though. However, now that I have learned to accept and embrace this part of me I never want to give it up. I get a great deal of satisfaction and enjoyment expressing my feminine side and want to continue doing it for as long as I live.

[curiouslooker]

Hi..apologies if this has been asked before.
If you could take a pill that would stop your crossdressing urges..would you? After much thought I think I would.
I do get a huge amount of fulfilment and pleasure from my dressing but it also causes a degree of guilt and self questions? Hmmm....Its a tricky one! x

Yes and no.

I would only because of the social stigmatism that goes with it. If there wasn't such a stigmatism and it was not looked down upon then no.

A person does not choose to desire things that cause him/her grief and discomfort.

[sherib]

The only way I would take the pill is, it would have erase my mind completely of the times I got dressed. I would have to have no knowledge that I every was a CD. Now if the pill transformed me into a perfect woman, sign me up.

[curse within]

Yes I would, do you have one? You holding out or something? I do wish there was such a pill.

[TGMarla]

I'm split on this one. On the one hand, I love dressing as a woman. I take it far enough to say that when I dress, I completely emulate women. Obviously, I enjoy it to a great extent, or I wouldn't put so much effort into it. It's that part of me that fervently wishes I was actually female, so that this whole thing wouldn't be crossdressing, it would just be getting dressed.

But on the other hand, if I were actually female, I would likely not love wearing dresses as much as I do. It would long ago have become something mundane, just another way of getting clothes on.

But this imaginary pill would take the transgendered part of me away, and make me no longer long and pine for my feminine desires. Look, I don't know what it's like to not feel this way. Would it be better to not feel like this? I don't know. So I'm not sure whether I'd take it or not.

[Megan70]

I will repeat my answer as it was then and as it will remain today:

In a heartBeat!!!!! But unlike Karen Hutton's reply or Amandachick, I am dead serious and its no lol matter. I never asked to be born a transvestite. I have no self pride in it.. Now before people jump all over my ar$$, I will tell the forum once again to the chagrin of 99% of those here. It is a curse and always has been.(to me!)

Sure I've had the fun, sexual, emotional and narcistic thrills that all have mentioned here. I'm very passable and have been going out publically for 40 years with both my wife and myself. But even with all of that... I wish I would have never asked for this as a young boy or adolescent this way,It has caused too much pain in others (i.e. my wife) due to my uncontrollable narcissim and selfishness.
Now before people jump on me or post replies, e-mails or PMs I just ask that you allow this as an expression of MY opinion of my life, and it is no judge for others;this forum is a support and open Op/Ed page for just such opinions. All of ours!

At age 14 I was a hairsbreath away from an adolscent suicide on a cold wet winter night as a result of this torment., a story written on one forum section months ago. So to answer the question directly SURE... give me the pill, the shot or the drink and make it happen instantly with no previous memory of it of unnecessary purging.Ok,,, let the slings and arrows come forth...... I have my chain mail on.
Megan

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[Deborah Jane]

Why take a pill to remove a part of my personality?

Being Debs is part of who i am, not the major part maybe, but it's still a very important part and without it i wouldn't be who i am :)

[curse within]

I will repeat my answer as it was then and as it will remain today:

In a heartBeat!!!!! But unlike Karen Hutton's reply or Amandachick, I am dead serious and its no lol matter. I never asked to be born a transvestite. I have no self pride in it.. Now before people jump all over my ar$$, I will tell the forum once again to the chagrin of 99% of those here. It is a curse and always has been.(to me!)

Sure I've had the fun, sexual, emotional and narcistic thrills that all have mentioned here. I'm very passable and have been going out publically for 40 years with both my wife and myself. But even with all of that... I wish I would have never asked for this as a young boy or adolescent this way,It has caused too much pain in others (i.e. my wife) due to my uncontrollable narcissim and selfishness.
Now before people jump on me or post replies, e-mails or PMs I just ask that you allow this as an expression of MY opinion of my life, and it is no judge for others;this forum is a support and open Op/Ed page for just such opinions. All of ours!

At age 14 I was a hairsbreath away from an adolscent suicide on a cold wet winter night as a result of this torment., a story written on one forum section months ago. So to answer the question directly SURE... give me the pill, the shot or the drink and make it happen instantly with no previous memory of it of unnecessary purging.Ok,,, let the slings and arrows come forth...... I have my chain mail on.
Megan

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Last edited by Megan70; 08-02-2008 at 05:30 AM. I can honestly say my heart goes out to you ..I feel the same way I never asked for this and I have been just taking it day by day .. Maybe some day it will be cured and the curse is lifted although it's never to late it would be nice to know that others would not have to live their lifes as I did, secretly ashamed.

[Carly D.]

I would take a pill that curbed it a bit.. I really like the way certain clothing feels but there are times when I am in the mindset of cross dressing when I know I should be concentrating on any number of other things.. or wanting to buy these tights or pantyhose or taking a risk in a store while shopping with family members I might stop and look at some heels that are fantastic looking.. I have even found myself looking at tights or pantyhose while my brother was just a few feet away.. so sometimes I would like to take a pill that would reduce my wanting to cross dress.. of course coming off of it would be like being run over by a dress supply truck...

[StaceyJane]

I've given the thought of taking such a pill some thought and I have realized that the answer is no. Crossdressing hasn't been easy for me and I'm still in the closet and scared of anyone I know finding out.
But
This is a big part of who I am and I have come to terms with the fact that being fem makes me happy and if given the choice I would much rather become more female than give it up.
Maybe my gender issues are a curse but it's a curse I've lived with my whole life and I have accepted it as part of who I am.

[Ricochet]

Give me the pill, please.

If my wife had even a little desire to see me somewhat en femme, my answer might change, but probably not.

[Sasha Anne Meadows]

My wife loves Sasha Anne. I am so happy living as a girl and I would never give that up.

[Nattastic]

I bet if said pill was actually available, there would be more takers than have listed a "no way" reply. This pill is not available, and as such I think its great that so many would say they wouldnt change - thats a winning attitude.


For me however, its just not practicle and it complicates things alot. I'd rather I didnt have the urge to be honest.

I've come out to many as well, all with great results. Still. I'm not sure its rewards are worth all the B.S. (pardon my french)

No side effects were mentioned, to be fair either, so we have to assume that taking said pill would ONLY take away our desire to dress en femme. I pride myself on many aspects of my personality that I dont doubt are wrapped up in the feminine somehow... Losing all or some of those would surely make said pill less attractive, but assuming again that I only lose the desire - then yes please!

Who wouldnt want to be comfortable all the time in their own skin?!!!

[pink femme]

How about a pill that would make you a girl :daydreaming:

[Marsha K]

How about a pill to give to others to totally accept our crossdressing.

[RylieCD]

YES, I do enjoy being me. I have learned to deal with my TG side. However I can not be me unless I am alone. so there is a decision be me and alone or be me with friends and family. So if a pill was avilable to help with that I would Highly consider it.

[TJ Tresa]

If I thought my crossdressing was hurting my loved ones, then yes I would take the pill. However I have a wonderful wife who accepts it, and enjoys our girl time togather. So no under the present circumstances I would say no.
Something to think about, should someone acctually invent such a thing.

[Nattastic]

LOL!!

(Pink Femme and Marshas` answers)

:)

[krisinpink]

Yes.


Having said that, it's not because I hate myself, or have shame over dressing, or any of those sorts of things but if this hobby/habit/lifestyle could be removed that simply, I'd do it.

-Krissy


Conversely, if I could take a pill and become the woman I feel I am, and have pills to jump back and forth, I'd do that first, (then over and over and over) but this is certainly a much more selfish (and more pharmaceutically challenging) thing to wish for.

[Mary Morgan]

No I wouldn't take that pill, but I would be interested in a pill that would make our society a little less judgmental and a lot more compassionate of others. I know, I know ...