Compliments...

[JennyS.]

So, Tuesday... I took the day off. Got dressed to go to my friend Erika's. I decided to go the long way and stopped off at a convience store. Went inside and was happy that there wasn't anyone there except the clerk. She told me that my skirt was pretty as I checked out. Then, there was an older man selling jewerly at the side of the rode in the parking lot. I drove over there and started looking at the items. The man came over and starting talking to me and I used my best female voice. Next thing I know, a man and woman drive up to where I was standing and the man said something like "I just wanted to come over here and tell you how pretty you are." I said 'thank you so much'. Then they drove off. The man selling the jewerly told me the same thing, I thanked him and left.
Question... Did the couple in the pickup truck recognize that I was a CD and were being kind... Or, do GG's get that often? I would like to think the latter (although I've never stopped to tell a GG how pretty she is... I'd just think it.).

[Sonia Greene]

Hi Jenny.....I've been out dressed a few times....bought things in shops, and asking for help. I also had a nice chat in my best girlvoice with a young woman charity collector, and another kindly asked would I like her to take my picture, as she saw I had a camera in my hand. (I was about to use timer) She was lovely, and so obliging.
But I've not had compliments --or insults yet, when out yet, but for your info I once stopped a young woman in the street and asked her what perfume she was wearing, as it was sensational!
I believe she felt flattered, and told me what it was............that's the nearest I can get to your thread! Sonia

[Plasibeau]

On some are occasions I've even gotten catcalled. Then there have been other times when men have complimented my outfit, but that seemed more like a club secret handshake. Unfortunately most of the time is seems like derisive stares and the like. Good on you for on getting complimented though!

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

Question... Did the couple in the pickup truck recognize that I was a CD and were being kind... Or, do GG's get that often? I would like to think the latter (although I've never stopped to tell a GG how pretty she is... I'd just think it.).

I don't know. I think some men do simply compliment women though. My wife gets it frequently when she's out and about by her self (she also gets flat-out hit on). I don't compliment women (strangers) because I fear they may be uncomfortable with it or think I'm hitting on them.

On the surface, it seems like you were simply admired and complimented for how you looked. If you passed, then it was the ultimate compliment. If you were read and still got complimented, then you were still given a genuine compliment - you looked good enough that the guy had to tell you so. I doubt that was just a polite move. I'd give someone I know a polite compliment (even if I didn't believe it), but I would not give a complete stranger a polite compliment.

I'd say you should be very happy with what happened. I'd be on top of the world if that happened to me!

[Paula TV]

I only been out once, and got a few compliments, but if you mean by passers-by, then only once but it was hilarious! I got a "WOOOOOOOOOOO" from, what i think was black guys passing by in their car. Probably because i was wearing something quite daring, and thought i was real girl.

[Karren H]

Awesome.... How come I never get compliments?? sigh......

[SuzanneS]

Awesome.... How come I never get compliments?? sigh......

Awww, Karren!:hugs: I'll give you a compliment or two and I'm sure there's alot more girls on here that will also. I think you look great and I love reading what you have to say! I really mean that, too.:battingeyelashes:

Suzanne

[msginaadoll]

Jenny, you look so pretty in your pics it is too hard to say. They could have thought you were a GG. Or could have thought you were a lovely CD- some guys do appreciate those. And as for you Karen-STOP IT. You are a lovely lady and bet you get compliments all the time.

[jenna_woods]

very nice, yes I have got compliments on my outfits while being out in public, mostly from men but a couple times women have said what a nice outfit I was wearing,

[KarenS]

I routinely give compliments to women when I have an opportunity. I only give them when I can be truly sincere. always make it a point to make sure they know I'm not hitting on them by saying "I'm married so I am not hitting on you but, you are..." or "If no one has told you you are pretty today you are hanging around with the wrong people - even my wife says so."

I think it is important that people hear honest compliments that are clearly non-threatening and clearly not a come-on.

I wish I could get one on my looks as a gurl but two things hinder that, 1) I don't feel like I pass well, and 2) because of 1, I am very reserved and cautious about "getting out". do get compliments about my legs frequently in blogs where a picture or avatar is present.

[Karren H]

Awww, Karren!:hugs: I'll give you a compliment or two and I'm sure there's alot more girls on here that will also. I think you look great and I love reading what you have to say! I really mean that, too.:battingeyelashes:

Suzanne

Awww Thanks Suzanne!! Your too kind....

but no one ever stops me in the mall or in the stores and gives me any compliments!! I must be doing something wrong? lol

[JennyS.]

Next time I see you in the mall... I'll make it a point to stop you and give you all the compliments you deserve! You are a lovely lady and people are most likely just intimidated by your beauty.

[JennyS.]

I don't know. I think some men do simply compliment women though. My wife gets it frequently when she's out and about by her self (she also gets flat-out hit on). I don't compliment women (strangers) because I fear they may be uncomfortable with it or think I'm hitting on them.

On the surface, it seems like you were simply admired and complimented for how you looked. If you passed, then it was the ultimate compliment. If you were read and still got complimented, then you were still given a genuine compliment - you looked good enough that the guy had to tell you so. I doubt that was just a polite move. I'd give someone I know a polite compliment (even if I didn't believe it), but I would not give a complete stranger a polite compliment.

I'd say you should be very happy with what happened. I'd be on top of the world if that happened to me!

Trust me, it felt great! It was completely out of the blue... So yeah, I was totally surprised by the compliments from the couple, then the older gentleman. Hmmm... Now that I think about it, the wind blew my skirt up and I'm sure I showed more than I intended. Yikes!
Erica tells me I'd easily pass, but I am still not sure and scared... But, getting braver! With the compliments I got the other day, it makes it easier to go out and experience the world as Jenny.

[vivianann]

I have been through the same thing Jenny, I get compliments all the time when I go out enfemme. Karren H, you are pretty and I cannot believe you do not get compliments, I used to live in Pittsburgh many years ago and I know the peaple there can be more reserved at times. I hope to get to Pittsburgh soon and we'll have to cruise the malls there and see what happens.

[Karren H]

Next time I'll wear my piink steelers jersey!! Lol.

[JulieC]

Awww Thanks Suzanne!! Your too kind....

but no one ever stops me in the mall or in the stores and gives me any compliments!! I must be doing something wrong? lol

Try high sticking them first? :)

[JennyS.]

Try high sticking them first? :)

Forgive my ignorance... But, huh?

[Karren H]

Try high sticking them first? :)

I have to get a bigger.. longer purse... wonder if Easton makes pink stick bags??. If so I need to get one.... and a pink Penguins jersey!! Lol.

[Sally2005]

I don't interact much when I'm out, but the ones where I've been close to people I've been almost pushed over (shopping in goodwill) by other women going for the clothes rack and I count that as passing because it was more like a competition than anything so in a way that is a complement to be accepted as any other woman shopper. Another time while looking at the shapewear in sears a guy was checking me out from behind a display rack and I looked up and I smiled at him and he gave me a big embarrased grin and ran away. I got the double toot of someone's horn while out walking on the sidewalk. All are flattering, but I always wonder if they suspected anything. I suspect not because first impressions are strong. Othertimes on the same outtting I've gotten frowns or panic looks (like how do I deal with this person) but never any outright negative comments. These can be either being read or could be a not dressed up to fit in or I did not smile enough. These seem to be most common from older or inexperienced store clerks. Most people, however, just don't seem to even notice me...and that's common in guy mode too. ...and when I think about it, I don't get complements while in guy mode too much, but people talk to me if I look happy and some frown so...it could be that it what you experience is normal...and it depends on the environment you are in and no so much anything too personal.

[Leanne2]

Karren, Would you rather have a compliment as a woman or a hat trick in a hockey game? Decisions decisions. Leanne

[dilane]

It's great fun to get compliments!

Occasionally a woman will say something like "nice sweater" or "nice outfit" in passing, or chat me up in an elevator. Once in awhile (ok, like once a year!) a man will approach me in public and give me a compliment or chat me up. I also note getting the up and down look from other women, with the eyes pausing at my legs :) When the security guards greet me in stores that have them, I usually notice their eyes resting somewhere further up :)

In your case, you were passing. From looking at your pix, you seem to have a femme facial structure, you lucky girl! If you have a small chin, smallish nose and flat forehead, things are much easier. If you also are small boned and not too tall, you've hit the jackpot.

Yes, you should go out more, learn how to walk the walk and talk the talk. It gets more and more enjoyable if you are lucky, brave, and hard-working enough to escape from the T-ghetto of safe places.

[SherriePall]

Jenny -- If your avatar is any indication, I can see the compliments coming your way. And yes, gentlemen do compliment women. I have known quite a few gentlemen who complimented every pretty woman. And, if they weren't pretty, they would always find something to compliment the woman on.

And, Karren, I'm sure the compliments would come your way, too, if you didn't always carry your stick with you and tell everyone that Dennis Bonvie was your hero.

[JennyS.]

Thank you gals for even more compliments! All of you are so beautiful inside and out and you make chick like me feel really good.

If you feel like complimenting me some more.... Yay! But, I'll compliment all of you because you all deserve it.

[Magickman]

"Your boots are fabulous," said the (young female) cashier at the lumberyard. "I just love them."

The boots in question are Nine West, 3 1/2" wedge heel, black suede.

This happens often.

[Miranda09]

That's a great story Jenny. I'd say you looked good enough to get that compliment sincerely! One experience I had was before I even got into the CD activity. I was dating someone and we stopped for dinner. It was dark, in a booth, and my hair was fairly long then, almost shoulder length. The waitress came from behind me and said.."what can I get you ladies tonight?" Then she noticed my moustache. My girlfriend at the time thought that was histerical!! So did I actually. I think subconciously I also took it as a compliment.