I just can't wear lingerie in guy mode!

[KateSpade83]

I just can't wear lingerie in guy mode! It's bad karma, voodoo, etc! I went shopping one weekend and I felt like wearing my nice latest designer Felina Bra & Panty set. No breastforms, just a shirt and loose sweatshirt covering it up and there just seemed no way to tell I was wearing a bra & panty! But as I left my house to go to my car I saw new Fillipino neighbors and maybe some of them were considering to be friendly with me but then one of them says, "BRA!" - Ok, I'm thinking, how did he sense this when it's not visible / there is absolutely no bra bulge on me!

So all I have to say is, lingerie is bad karma for your GUY MODE! And I later felt uneasy talking dude weightlifting talk to the Barnes & Noble Salesman after I bought some weightlifting books!

Yeah, sometimes you just want that feeling you're wearing a nice Wacoal or Felina or Calvin Klein bra & panty set!

Has wearing lingerie in guy mode been Bad Karma to you?

[curse within]

I just can't wear lingerie in guy mode! It's bad karma, voodoo, etc! Iwent shopping one weekend and I felt like wearing my nice latest designer Felina Bra & Panty set. No breastforms, just a shirt and loose sweatshirt coving it up and there just seemed no way to tell I was wearing a bra & panty! But as I left my houst to go to my car I saw new Fillipino neighbors and maybe some of them were considering to be friendly with me but then one of them says, "BRA!" - Ok, I'm thinking, how did he sense this when it's not visible / there is absolutely no bra bulge on me!

So all I have to say is, lingerie is bad karma for your GUY MODE! And I later felt uneasy talking dude weightlifting talk to the Barnes & Noble Salesman after I bought some weightlifting books!

Yeah, sometimes you just want that feeling you're wearing a nice Wacoal or Felina or Calvin Klein bra & panty set!

Has wearing lingerie is guy mode been Bad Karma to you?

It could have been mistaken and his accent may not have help , he could have been calling you BRO OR IN SLANG BRAA!!... I sometimes call my friends BRAA.

[Karen564]

Bad Karma??, Nope, I dont think so anyway, and I need to wear a bra all day Everyday & of course panties to match...

But as to what happened to you, the only thing I can think of is maybe your bra strap was peeking out near your neckline on the sweatshirt...OR your sweatshirt was white & the bra showed through that way..

Sometimes,,,, Sh*t just happens....:straightface:

[Julieanne]

I don't much care for it either. It seems some ladies wear female undies most/all of the time and, which is fine and works for them but is not for me. I tend to be too aware of my undies and that adversely affects how I behave. I'm always wary of being discovered, similar to your worry with your neighbors -- it seems very unlikely that they could detect anything different about you, but the worry that they did takes enjoyment out of the experience.

If what you gain by wearing your undies is undone by your worries, then it does not seem worthwhile to do. I often wear my lingerie under my clothes when I work outside around the house, sit on the porch, walk the dog, etc. In winter I even wear my breast forms since they cannot be seen under a bulky coat.

Good luck,

Julieanne

[Karren H]

Maybe some therapy is in order? To work through this lingerie problem you seem to be having! :)

[Teri Jean]

I have not had any effects, negative, to wearing my bras and panties and I work in a very macho envirorment. This summer though I may drop the bra when out in a "t" shirt. Then again if I find a comfortable one that is soft and lite who knows.

Keli

[Miranda09]

Yea...I know. I can relate!!!:)

[mannph]

The only reason why i can't wear lingerie in male mode is that I can't concentrate on work when I am wearing lingerie under my clothes.
:brolleyes:

[Tina Dixon]

When I go through a spell of not finding the time to dress up wearing panties seems to get me though, a small fix if you will, but I don't seem to have your problem.

[Rachel Morley]

Under-dressing ... bad karma? Gosh, I'm sorry to hear that that's how it is for you but for me it feels like the complete opposite.

I feel horrible if I'm not in my normal underwear of bra and panties. I just don't feel right without that comforting feeling of my bra on me. I know that last sentence sounds a bit weird but it does feel odd to me nowadays not to wear a bra. Bad karma .... not in my case it's not.

[AshleyCDFL]

It could have been mistaken and his accent may not have help , he could have been calling you BRO OR IN SLANG BRAA!!... I sometimes call my friends BRAA.

I'm going to agree with Curse and assume they were referring to you as Bro (or Bra). If they had said bra, they would have been laughing and you would have known for sure. It's hard to get away with wearing a bra in south Florida (tshirts year round and all), but I always wear panties and although it's on my mind, there is no way anyone else would know...

[linnea]

nope.

[Jenniferpl]

Bad Karma? I hope not. I wear bras and panties a lot during the winter. How some one can tell I am wearing a bra under a sweat shirt and a heavy winter coat is beyond me.

[Joanne f]

You can always tell from the back if someone is wearing a bra,

[Deborah Jane]

I don't wear lingerie in guy mode either, but it's got nothing to do with bad karma, voodoo, or any other crap
It's because i just don't want too, simple as that!!!!

[Joanne f]

I don't wear lingerie in guy mode either, but it's got nothing to do with bad karma, voodoo, or any other crap
It's because i just don't want too, simple as that!!!!

I am in Shock :eek::strugglin:confused2::censor: WHAT NO PANTIES

[Phyliss]

I couldn't NOT wear lingerie in "guy" mode, unless I went out and purchased some "tighty whitey, or (eeeewww) boxer shorts. I don't own anything BUT lingerie for underclothing.

Fact is, some of my best sales have been made while wearing panties, bra, and stockings. ( under my outer clothing )

[Alaceann]

I allways wear panties & pantiehose ,feel naked without them on. In the winter I also have on a bra but now the weather is getting warmer I'll have to stop wearing my bra for the summer, except at night to bed. No bad karma, just joy!!

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

I don't under-dress, so no.

I prefer to be completely dressed in female clothes, or not at all. I don't like the in-between thing - it feels weird.

[Alice B]

I always wear panties and sometimes thigh highs under my pants if it is cold enough. Have even wore then to play golf, but never anything else. Any form of a bra would show and it would not be good.

[Emma England]

What is the problem with wearing a bra in guy mode?

Even if it is noticeable through your shirt.

If you like wearing womens underwear, then just admit it to anyone that asks.

[Patricia1]

It would be bad karma & wicked joo-joo if I COULND'T. Gotta have "my things about me" (Maureen O'Hara in The Quiet Man).

[Nicole Erin]

I but then one of them says, "BRA!" - Ok, I'm thinking, how did he sense this when it's not visible / there is absolutely no bra bulge on me!...
Has wearing lingerie in guy mode been Bad Karma to you?

Kate, interesting you bring this up
See when we feel self-aware about something, it bothers us and anything reminds us of it.
You were probably just worried that someone saw or knew so when he said "Bra" you just assumed he was talking about your undergarments...

I don't know, it is like when a little kid is scared of the dark and they think every shape in the dark room is a monster. Or maybe like the gloom and doom sayers who think everything that happens is the beginning of the end. Or if we are out and don't pass en femme, every laugh we hear from anywhere, we assume it is about us [most times probably not]

See when something is playing on the mind, the mind has an amazing way of correlating everything to whatever it is thinking about.

You didn't have bad karma. You just assumed he saw it. I mean how many things could "Bra" mean anyways? More often than not it is just a stupid slang word that men call each other like "Bro" or Brother".

Think nothing of it. ;)

[Jolene]

Bras work well for me under a sweatshirt or a loose fitting top. I would wear a bra all day everyday but my biggest fear is running across a " Hugger " type person. There would be quite a reaction and a lot of explaining to do so I wear one when I can. :)

[Jenny Beth]

I know where you are coming from on this Kate but I wouldn't call it bad karma. I don't mix the two in part because I wear a bra everyday and often find myself subconsciously pulling my bra straps to a more comfortable position. If I were to do this in front of the guys my secret would be out in a flash so I only wear a bra at home.

[PretzelGirl]

Bras work well for me under a sweatshirt or a loose fitting top. I would wear a bra all day everyday but my biggest fear is running across a " Hugger " type person. There would be quite a reaction and a lot of explaining to do so I wear one when I can. :)

Funny you should say this. I went out recently with my wife and had a bra on under a sweatshirt. And as karma would have it, we ran into a hugging friend. Not thinking fast enough to say something like I have a twinge in my neck and backing off, I lowered my arms to force him high. Of course he patted me in the center of the back anyway.

Didn't get a reaction and never heard anything from him, so I guess I survived that one but it did get me to prepare for that in my mind again. I will probably become known as the guy with the bad neck! :D

[Karen564]

It could have been mistaken and his accent may not have help , he could have been calling you BRO OR IN SLANG BRAA!!... I sometimes call my friends BRAA.

I think this makes more sense and most likely all it was..
You just heard bra because you were so self conscience about having it on..but most likely he said bro not bra...if he said otherwise he would most likely razzed you badly on the spot about it...

Doesn't this make better sense to you too now??

[KateSpade83]

No people ... I wasn't imagining or mistaking words... The guy clearly indicated that he sensed I had a bra on and in no way was he using the word "Bro" instead of bra because there was a negative connotation to the words that were said!

I'm telling you! Crossdressing is bad karma and it is the source of ruin in my life! I am trying to be an Ex Crossdresser but I'm so entrenched!

But I didn't purge because luckily all my clothes can go to a wife!

[sissystephanie]

No people ... I wasn't imagining or mistaking words... The guy clearly indicated that he sensed I had a bra on and in no way was he using the word "Bro" instead of bra because there was a negative connotation to the words that were said!

What else did he say that was negative? How close was he to you and how tight was your swearshirt? Unless the straps actually were showing, or the bra could be seen under the tight shirt, there would be no way for him to know! Methinks you are overreacting!! Maybe because you think you would like to quit being a CD, and this could be an excuse.

I know a number of Filipino's and some of them call me Braa, and the way they say the word it sounds an awful like Bra!! And yes I have worn a bra around them! I wear lingerie almost all the time, in drab or enfemme! I'm a Crossdresser, what else would I wear?:love:

[KarenS]

The only reason why i can't wear lingerie in male mode is that I can't concentrate on work when I am wearing lingerie under my clothes.
:brolleyes:

I can relate to that. I often have been finding myself underdressing to work but after one or two days feel it is simply too distracting. It doesn't stop me but I alternate more frequently.


I just can't wear lingerie in guy mode! It's bad karma, voodoo, etc! ... but then one of them says, "BRA!" - Ok, I'm thinking, how did he sense this when it's not visible / there is absolutely no bra bulge on me!

Have you tried a sports bra? I recently tried one. The shoulder straps (if visible) look more like a men's tank-T but it feels nice accros the chest. The shoulder straps usually cross in the back also so they don't slide off the shoulders.

[karynspanties]

Nope no way, I underdress everyday. I only wear a bra with my forms, but I do wear a cami or a full slip tucked into my pants probably 5 days a week. I could careless about who notices. It's their problem, not mine. I mean, I do not try to be obvious, but if I decide to wear a cami with spagetti straps that are noticable under my shirt, then they are noticable. Once you take that stance......a whole new world opens up.

[2b.Lauren]

Nope no way, I underdress everyday. I only wear a bra with my forms, but I do wear a cami or a full slip tucked into my pants probably 5 days a week. I could careless about who notices. It's their problem, not mine. I mean, I do not try to be obvious, but if I decide to wear a cami with spagetti straps that are noticable under my shirt, then they are noticable. Once you take that stance......a whole new world opens up.

Me too. I may not wear a bra daily because it can be a bit more obvious on me, but I will wear a cami or tank type top most days. I always wear my panties daily. I know many people have a big problem with underdressing and to each their own. I just feel for me it is necessary to take advantage of any time I can wear my lingerie. I don't get much girl time, so underdressing is helpful in that way.

[Karren H]

You can always tell from the back if someone is wearing a bra,

Not if you wear a business suit or a sports coat! And the guys at work think I just like to dress up to impress everyone even on casual Fridays!!!! :)

[Fancynancy]

I wear lingerie daily.I have been underdressing daily for year and it meets my femme needs. In winter I wear a bra and panties or girdle and sometimes pantyhose.Now that it is warmer a cami and panties are in order.I have had a couple of close calls , but that won't stop me from underdressing.nancy

[KandisTX]

Crossdressing is not evil, nor is it Bad Karma, nor is it the work of satan. It is a part of who we are as people, and once we are able to embrace that aspect of it, we are more able to accept ourselves. Not until we accept ourselves can we expect others to accept us for who and what we are.

Kandis:love::rose2:

[CD Susan]

If you were wearing a bra that didn't show bulges under a shirt and sweatshirt I seriously doubt your neighbors detected it. I think if they suspected that you were wearing a bra they would have said more than that one word. I have been underdressing for the past 40 years and have never encountered anything like this! Since you are so paranoid about being outed maybe you should give up crossdressing.

[karynspanties]

Have you left your apartment dressed as a woman to go bike riding? I know you said you have done this before. Maybe they saw you leaving dressed and that's what they were trying to say? Don't know, but if you were wearing a sweatshirt, I doubt they knew. It has to be something like them seeing you enfemme before.

[JenniferR771]

Kate, don't feel bad--sheet happens. I know the feeling. I was secretly wearing panties, pantyhose, and a bra under my boy clothes as I was going (with permission) to a crossdressers get-together that afternoon and night. No logic here. My wife made me throw out some dresses and heels and more. It was warm so i had to take off my heavy sweatshirt. When done (I was angry) she thanked me and gave me a big hug for careing about our relationship. BUT...I didn't want to hug, because I thought she would notice the feel of a bra under my shirt or the straps that had fallen down around my shoulders. I guess she didn't notice. What luck!

[Sallee]

I agree with you I will wear panties alot butI can't where a bra in drab even a double A one it just doesn't feel right. But panties not a problem I wouldn't say bad karma maybe just not right or paranioa on your part