The feelings when presenting as male on the internet

[Kayla Shadows]

When you are on website that you present as male(myspace,facebook,etc.),does it give you any weird feelings at all? Sometimes I just feel very strange being there.It could be knowing that I have not come out to everybody there yet and Im holding a piece from the person I am talking to.After all,the way I am sitting here right now is not a reflection of the picture on that page.I know that just in itself I dont like that picture but, the interaction with people is something else that makes me feel awkward.There is a whole side of me missing in conversation.It feels like a half truth page and I hate it sometimes.

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

I've pretty much ditched most of my male accounts. I know what you mean though.

I don't feel like that guy though - the man I have to be in the outside world. He's a front I have to put on in order to assimilate into society... mainly for purposes of holding down a job and keeping the peace with my neighbors.

I had to live my whole life being that guy and still have to much of the time for the reasons I just mentioned. I have little interest in continuing to do so online.

I've been slowly fading out my man-presence on the internet. My old website stopped getting updated a long time ago. I leave it there for those who still enjoy what I offered there. The message forums I used to frequent in guy-mode rarely get visited by me now. I've contemplated creating new accounts as Gabrielle, but honestly don't have the time for much net-socialization these days, so I tend to do most of it here among my sisters. :)

I often wonder if anyone misses Gabe. He never really disappeared all at once (online), just faded away... and still pops in to (whatever account) if/when necessary at times.

[Nicole Erin]

I have two site I ever visit that I present as male and yes it feels akward. Both are car forums. I don't really care though cause I go there strictly for tech assistance so my personal life doesn't come to play.

[Carly D.]

When I get a phone call and am in the middle of dressing either for taking pictures or for just wearing, I sometimes answer if it is someone I know (mostly family) and talk to whoever.. up till the phone ringing I am thinking about the next shot and what pose I'm after and then the phone rings and I get lost.. when I am on my male myspace site or facebook or whatever I can lose track even if I'm not dressed.. one time on a game site I was in a rut and needed a win and the person, I'm gonna say it was male, asked me M or F and I said F.. he instantly fell for me and I did some dirty talk to help him out.. the timer ran out, I had the lead (barely) and I won.. he I think won as well as he started calling me his girlfriend.. yuck, but I have been there only twice in the past two years so I think he might be gone on to his next haunt.. yuck.. never mind.. deleted...

[jennCD]

I'm not really bothered about that since it's still all just me. My FaceBook profile presents me as part of the me I am that most everyone knows, which is basically the same as my Jenn profile online here and other places which presents me as the person you all know.

It's all just me and I'm well past denying any part of my life. I own it all up to this point, even the stuff I wasn't too happy about while growing up, which made me the person I am.

:)
jenn

[Jenna Stunned]

This is an interesting thread. Very recently, Ive been questioning my online presence. As of right now there are 3 sides of me I supose. Real John, Online John, And Jenna. Now all of them are much one in the same, With minnor discrepancies. And as time goes on, the line seams to blur more and more.

But I never feel weird on whatever site Im on. Or what game Im playing, Beacuse whatever Im doing. Im not pretending to be anything that Im not. I have many sides, And many ways to display them. As of right now, I do most of my online time as jenna. {If that makes sense}.

[Deborah Jane]

I never think about whether i'm presenting as male or female, either here or on the car forums i'm a member of.

I just present as myself, after all, thats who i am :)

[gretchen2]

I just always feel awkward. Too many drugs in my teens and twenties.

[crusadergirl]

Yeah it is kinda weird. I do feel like i'm hiding something from everybody on my male profiles but really its the same on the female one. Its like only showing half of your life on each page.
Just all in one would be good for sure.

[PretzelGirl]

To me, there are a couple of ways to look at this.

First is just the way I act and carry myself. I feel I am fairly consistent on this. I am "me" and should be me all the time. If I start getting out, I could see "me" evolving, but I should still be consistent.

Then there are the non-"me" items such as account names, Facebook pages, etc. With the exception of a female named email account, everything else is in the male name. That is how I conduct business, that is how friends and family know me, so that is how it needs to be in my eyes given how I am leading my life. This also helps to keep me from being confused on who I am presenting as at that particular time. We hear from some here who have slip-ups. I have seen one person here sign with her male name apparently unintentionally. So simplification is my way of worrying about whether I will have one of these mistakes or not.

[iwearstockings]

blimey.. there are several pictures of me in drag (various parties) on my facebook page but just imagine if my dressed pictures made it on there. Hmm..I just have no idea what my colleagues would say! I guess it would soon be yesterdays news. Some of my bosses know I'm kinky because a package containing leather items got opened by one of the directors ( he has the same first name) His secretary brought it to my desk simply folded shut and the mother of all knowing looks. You'd think the seller would package something like that a bit better and label it properly( forgot my surname)