JenJenNumber9
05-13-2009, 12:52 AM
Asking for some advice from my trans brothers.
Last weekend, I met a cute guy at a lesbian bar. I say he but first let me describe him.
He was born female. He dressed in exclusively male atire. He did not have any jewelery on and his eyebrows were an unplucked ungroomed forest of hair. My intuition tells me he is a transguy. But, he has no facial hair, his voice is not low, and if he is trans I don't think he is on T. He referred to himself as Alex and when he gave me his number, it was Alex not alexis or alexandra. His hand writing was also very dude like. I could not tell if he was binding. The bar was dark and his clothes were baggy.
This next observation may seem odd but it was his reaction to what I suppose was my feminine (and probably somewhat flirty) body language that gave me the feeling that he may be trans. He leaned back, spead his legs wide, and adopted strongly masculine body language and posture. He maintained this (without apparent affection) for the rest of the time we were talking.
So, anyway, we are going to meet again and I was wondering if any of the guys around here could give me some insight into some clues or ways to probe conversationally before I have to make a choice on pronouns.
Having read on this board how much pleasure and pain some of you guys receive when someone uses the right pronouns, I want to use a pleasureable and validating pronoun; hopefully casually spoken as a given.
I think he is trans however if he is really a dyke, I guess caliing him a guy would be veiwed as offensive.
So guys, what do you think ? How can I tell ?
Last weekend, I met a cute guy at a lesbian bar. I say he but first let me describe him.
He was born female. He dressed in exclusively male atire. He did not have any jewelery on and his eyebrows were an unplucked ungroomed forest of hair. My intuition tells me he is a transguy. But, he has no facial hair, his voice is not low, and if he is trans I don't think he is on T. He referred to himself as Alex and when he gave me his number, it was Alex not alexis or alexandra. His hand writing was also very dude like. I could not tell if he was binding. The bar was dark and his clothes were baggy.
This next observation may seem odd but it was his reaction to what I suppose was my feminine (and probably somewhat flirty) body language that gave me the feeling that he may be trans. He leaned back, spead his legs wide, and adopted strongly masculine body language and posture. He maintained this (without apparent affection) for the rest of the time we were talking.
So, anyway, we are going to meet again and I was wondering if any of the guys around here could give me some insight into some clues or ways to probe conversationally before I have to make a choice on pronouns.
Having read on this board how much pleasure and pain some of you guys receive when someone uses the right pronouns, I want to use a pleasureable and validating pronoun; hopefully casually spoken as a given.
I think he is trans however if he is really a dyke, I guess caliing him a guy would be veiwed as offensive.
So guys, what do you think ? How can I tell ?