Patrice
05-15-2009, 03:18 AM
I'm happier than I have been in a very long time. Ive let my fem-side out permanently and its the best thing Ive ever done, I wear what I want, when and where I want. I present myself as the Human Being I really am, not an artificial construct made to fit the role of 'man'. The vast majority of my friends are accepting, my family is glad I'm finally happy and at peace with myself, and non-discrimination policies and laws prevent my employer from interfering (I follow the non gender-specific dress-code scrupulously and keep my nose clean in all other ways).
But (isn't there always a 'but'?)
Life interferes, and I'm having to delve into the local housing market in search of a place to call my own, for the first time in my 39 years no less. I'm looking for an apartment.
The conundrum I'm facing, and the reason I post here, is this: Do I search for said housing honestly as myself or 'man-up' to get my foot in the door and let the lingerie fall where it may after I have a history as a reliable rent-payer?
Laws here in Oregon prohibit discrimination based on gender-identity in housing, but as we all know this is only as strong as the proof you can bring. Credit-issues (I couldn't get a $50 loan with 2 kidneys and a cornea as collateral) prohibit me from approaching the rental-agencies most likely to respect said law, so to the private individuals I must go.
I truly believe that its always best to begin a cash-based relationship (or any relationship really) in honesty, but an element of doubt always persists (card-carrying-chapter-founding cynic here). I cant help but wonder if my desire for honesty may be a hindrance here.
Any advice would be appreciated, particularly from those who have faced similar situations.
Thank you for reading my words
But (isn't there always a 'but'?)
Life interferes, and I'm having to delve into the local housing market in search of a place to call my own, for the first time in my 39 years no less. I'm looking for an apartment.
The conundrum I'm facing, and the reason I post here, is this: Do I search for said housing honestly as myself or 'man-up' to get my foot in the door and let the lingerie fall where it may after I have a history as a reliable rent-payer?
Laws here in Oregon prohibit discrimination based on gender-identity in housing, but as we all know this is only as strong as the proof you can bring. Credit-issues (I couldn't get a $50 loan with 2 kidneys and a cornea as collateral) prohibit me from approaching the rental-agencies most likely to respect said law, so to the private individuals I must go.
I truly believe that its always best to begin a cash-based relationship (or any relationship really) in honesty, but an element of doubt always persists (card-carrying-chapter-founding cynic here). I cant help but wonder if my desire for honesty may be a hindrance here.
Any advice would be appreciated, particularly from those who have faced similar situations.
Thank you for reading my words