Would YOU ? ? ?

[bobi jean]

As most of you know, I am able to (and do) dress while I am at work. Everyone involved with this job, knows that I crossdress here and each has seen me at least once. I, in the last two days, have been asked by two of the girls (GG's) that also work here, to go out with them. Each of them had asked me individually. This morning while talking to the second one about going out, I said that one of the others had already asked me too. So, she makes a phone call and now, we are (the three of us) in the planning stages of ME going out DRESSED with them. They want to purchase the outfit for me to go out in. We are planning a trip to LIPS, a lounge here in San Diego (I've heard good things about the lounge but have not been there) that apparently has crossdressers and/or other MTF gender benders (for a lack of a better term) working as waitresses and drag shows (again for the lack of better term). They want to do this within the next two weeks. Hell I'm already nervous. These girls are both young (younger than my youngest) so I am naturally concerned (a little) about the outfit they "get" to choose for me. I asked about stipulations and recieved an immediate "ya don't trust us" ! ! I said "no" but that didn't fly either.. So My question is....... If you have extremely limited experience in Public, have been offered an amazing opportunity like this, but have absolutely no say in what you are going to wear, not even the heels, WOULD YOU DO IT???

Just recieved a phone call. They are on a mission it seems... Now one of the girls that is going to work for them has agreed to come in really early to help do my make-up and hair for the OUTING. but I have to agree to go out with her at another time..... O M G ! What have I gotten myself into???

[Lorileah]

To quote Montgomery Gentry "Hell Yeah!"

Carpe diem girl. This sounds like a blast and is fairly safe since you have your posse. I am so blinded by this I don't see the downside :)

[carhill2mn]

If these girls are good, true friends, why not? I doubt that they would want to deliberatly embarrass you. If you really do not like what they choose for you to wear, you can still refuse. It sounds like a potentially great night out.

[Persephone]

Relax and gopher it!
http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y53/sandylewiscares/gopher.jpg

[cindym5_04]

I'd be completely up for it. That sounds like a blast!! Actually I'm also pretty much the submissive type, so I'd love a situation like that where I had no control.

[bobi jean]

A bit of an edit to my post...
I have every intention of going out (from the instant the first one asked) with these two, and the others too, if they want to tag along. I am nervous about their pick of clothing tho. they are so young!!

[TommiTN]

You're kidding, right? Girl, if you don't do this you will regret it for the rest of your days! See if you can get them to bring a second, more conservative outfit for you to wear if you're uncomfortable with their 1st choice.

[bobi jean]

You're kidding, right? Girl, if you don't do this you will regret it for the rest of your days! See if you can get them to bring a second, more conservative outfit for you to wear if you're uncomfortable with their 1st choice.

A fab idea, I hadn't thought of that. Lets see if it works!!

[Miranda09]

Go for it gurl and have fun. What an amazing opportunity! :)

[AllieSummers]

Bobi Jean,

Girl, why are you even asking us this question? I bet it is because you're tying to make the rest of the gurls here jealous. :)

Ok, since you asked here is my answer: HELL, YES!!! :)

How many times in your lifetime are you going to have to young GGs wanting to pamper you? This is going to be a real adventure for you. I love going out dressed but half of the fun is the rush I get by going out and pushing the boundaries of my experiences.

This is not only going ot be fun for you but it will also be a challenge, exciting and something you'll remember for the rest of your life. :)

Don't worry about the clothes. I'm sure they wouldn't do anything to embarrase you. What they pick out might not be what you would pick but you still need to go with it. I've found that some of my best looks are things I would never have dreamed would look good but once I had them on they were perfect.

I dress really young for my 44 years but it makes me feel like I'm in my 20's and if I can hold on to that feeling for the rest of my life I'd be happy. :)

Take pictures and be sure to share them with us...

Kisses,

Allie

P.S. I would go with your blonde wig. I think it makes you look much younger and if you are going to have to wear young clothes you need a young hair-do. :)

[Cary]

Hell Yeah!:)

[jennCD]

...without any hesitation!

:)
jenn

[Janet Bern]

I would do it in a minute. You only live once and you would regret it if you didnt. Life is too short.

[Seamus_Jameson]

Go for it, definitely.

Just be sure you are comfortable with their intentions first. (Make sure they want you as one of the girls, not as their "freak-show" friend.) Sorry to be a downer but sometimes girls, particularly young girls, can be quite mean, unintentionally. If they genuinely seem to like you, have a ball!

[Nicole Erin]

Depends on the job. If it is some hot nasty physical job then I am not going to ruin outfits or be uncomfy.
BUT - if it was one of those "sit on your butt for 8 hours" jobs, then yeah, probably would dress en femme all the time. I already have a bunch of woman clothes I never really get to wear anywhere, so why not?

My old job I did go in on Halloween en femme, people were fascinated, even though they already knew. I have never seen so many silver dollar eyes in my life. :heehee:

[Dressing Jill]

I am so jealous. What an adventure.

[StevieTV]

Sure. Taking chances is what makes life great...I'm not talking about the Celine Dion album.

[EllenCD]

Bobi Jean, this sounds like a real opportunity for you to join in the Trans scene here in San Diego. I have been to LIPS and the food and entertainment are adequate. Be prepared to join in the entertainment as many of the skits they produce enlist audience participation. If you are uncomfortable with this maybe a different venue would be more appropriate for your first outing. In any event I hope you have a great time and meet a bunch of nice people!

[RachelDenise]

Hello? Are you dreaming? Yes, do it!!! And enjoy it to the max.

[linnea]

WOW!! This is exciting! It's the sort of thing that I dream about. Have a wonderful time. And I hope that it's just the beginning of more going out to lunch, etc.

[joank]

Of course you go but set some ground rules so you do not end up in a compromised situation. You drive and meet them or one goes with you (control the escape routes). Have a fall back plan and scout your area, no surprises. And tell us all about it. Sounds neat.

[bobi jean]

A. G.(one of the girls) relieved me at 1:00pm.
she came to work early to bring a blouse :)to me, and talk about us going out. IT IS DATED:D. Unless something comes up, the three of us are going to "Lips" on May 29.2009. I have been informed that I will be allowed to wear the heels I bought last weekend, a pair of 5.5" black, ankle strap stiletto's, so this bitch won't be doing any dancing.. I will have my make-up done by a Mary Kay rep, (god mother of A.G.), the girls are going to do my nails (fingers and toes) before we go and I will have to get my wig done a few days early or I will just buy another one. oh god, nerves don't fail me now...........
I asked her not to let K.L. get to nasty with her choice of clothing, she just laughed. cutting a long story short (just a bit) We decided that K.A. would pick out the bra, panties, nail polish and things like that and that she (A.G.) would pick out the outer wear. Just to be fair and not allow the girls to spend a lot of money on me, I gave each one $100.00 bill and said 'HAVE A BLAST", I WILL WEAR WHAT IS PURCHASED FOR ME. (STUPID OR WHAT?). I believe that both of these girls honestly do like me enough to NOT embarrass themselves by what I am wearing. Besides, I'M THEIR BOSS...... A.G. gave me permission to post a pic of her with me at the house, and I will try to get the same from K.L. in the morning when I see her. Then I'll post some, just to let you all know that this is not just a dream. IT IS ACTUALLY GOING TO HAPPEN.
OH MY ! ! ! WHAT HAVE I GOTTEN MYSELF INTO.:daydreaming::daydreaming::daydreaming:

[MissConstrued]

OH MY ! ! ! WHAT HAVE I GOTTEN MYSELF INTO.:daydreaming::daydreaming::daydreaming:


Oh, I dunno... the second-wildest fantasy of most everyone on this forum?

I wouldn't second-guess them. Trust me, there are plenty of girls out there who like putting Barbie's clothes on a life-size Ken doll. :heehee:

[Deedee Dupree]

Exactly what you want to be in. :lol:

[joann426]

what are you waiting for any body wood ask me i wood do it in a heart beat

[Miranda09]

If you want me to stand in for you, just let me know!! :)

[Kathi Lake]

Gee, should you do it? That question requires a lot of calm, rational thought where you would weigh the pros and the con - what am I saying?! Heck yes you should go!!

I'm sure you know these girls. I don't believe that their intention is to embarrass you. They just want to have some fun. I believe that it will be an incredible night. I think the clothes they will get for you will be very cute. I'm mid-to-late forties and most of my wardrobe is pretty staid. Lately, I've started spicing it up a bit. Try it. I think you'll agree it's fun.One more suggestion - you may want to wear two pairs of control-top pantyhose to control the, . . . ummmm, . . . top. :)

Kathi

[Shelby]

You're their boss? If this works out well for you, make sure they get a great review. By the way, are you hiring?

[Intertwined]

They want to purchase the outfit for me to go out in.
Free clothing? that would already have me sold...!

They want to do this within the next two weeks. Hell I'm already nervous.
Too funny, I have never heard of this place till today, and I may be going there this Friday night.

So My question is....... If you have extremely limited experience in Public, have been offered an amazing opportunity like this, but have absolutely no say in what you are going to wear, not even the heels, WOULD YOU DO IT???
hmm . . . .

Let me think . . .

:OMG:YES ! ! !

Just recieved a phone call. They are on a mission it seems... Now one of the girls that is going to work for them has agreed to come in really early to help do my make-up and hair for the OUTING. but I have to agree to go out with her at another time..... O M G ! What have I gotten myself into???
Sounds like to me, you have some Terrific friends (coworkers) that Like you for who you are, not what you wear, but, it also sounds like they want to have fun dressing you up, in part, its fun for them, part because they like you and want you to have fun.

[Tracii G]

DUH!! Of course you should.

[Mollyanne]

If your nerves fail you I'll be your stunt double!!!!!!

Mollyanne

[Desiree2bababe]

heck yeah!

[Megan70]

Do It without reservation. It will be an experience of a lifetime. DEFINATELY wear thr blonde wig. You look so much more attractive and younger and feminine in it. Its more believeable than your brunette ones.
Megan

[bobi jean]

Well, I made it thru the night and into the A.M. without giving anything away at home.
We do have a slight change of plans now. We are going out on June 5 not May 29. K.L. realized that there is no home game that Friday and that is going to be my reason for staying out late.
last evening I said that A.G. had given permission to post pic's, well K.L. gave permission this morning so here are the girls.. SORRY about the quality, they are security photo's and a quick once thru. we will be posting more "posed" pics later, so please be patient with me.. (ALL THREE OF US HAVE AGREED TO BRING CAMERAS FOR THE OUTING)....
The first two are of A.G. and the second two are K.L.
The white blouse is the one that A.G. brought in for me yesturday. Just had to try it on.
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K.L. was actually trying on one of my heels in one of the pictures!
God damn you have big feet. "thats what she said....

[kristinacd55]

Sounds like your gonna have a great time, I second the blonde wig too! :)

[luvlysublisa4u]

Lucky.... bring your camera and an extra pair of stockings.

[Patty]

Have a great time and take pic's :hugs:

[Sharon B.]

If you are already dressing at work then what is the big deal about going out with them.
Any one of us here would gladly go in your place.

[5150 Girl]

See'n as how they want to take you to a place yo know is TG freindly, I say do it. Go to Park Place, pass go, and colect $200...
I seem to think they have found a trophie freind to go to palces like this with.
Now if hey were wanting to take you to a biker bar, I might smell a setup.

[Ediosa]

I am grinning ear to ear. I would do it in a heart beat.

[bobi jean]

Thank you all so much for your encouragement and concerns. NO, no-one is going to take my place, however any one wanting to join in on the fun, you are welcome to do so. Just walk in and say something like "HEY BOBI, WHERE THE HELL ARE YA"? I WILL ANSWER...and I can almost guarantee a really fun time.... It will be the first time for all three of us. We (I) will post pics as soon as possible on the following Monday (if i survive)......

[xAnne_Mariex]

What a great opportunity, hope you enjoy it.

I'd jump at the chance of something like this :daydreaming:

[mklinden2010]

Just go.

Practice the whole deal first - shoes, makeup, purse, talk. You want to be easy with the basics so you don't trip and break your neck or something.

Just go.

Once someone gets in their head that you "need" to do something the best thing to do is humor them. This will open more doors for you and it will put a check mark next to that list you keep in your heart.

Just go.

Gotta live your life.

Just go.

And, take some more pictures when you do!

[dennisGTS]

Saying and doing are two different things...

I say yes, I'd do it if I were you! But there is a possibility I'd take back my 'yes' if I were ever actually presented with your situation...strange how that works sometimes...

[Angie G]

I think you can Handle a younger girls outfit hun. Just enjoy the date with 2 young chicks.:hugs:
Angie

[sandra-leigh]

Well, I made it thru the night and into the A.M. without giving anything away at home.
We do have a slight change of plans now. We are going out on June 5 not May 29. K.L. realized that there is no home game that Friday and that is going to be my reason for staying out late.

That's the one part of this that would make me hesitate. Are you planning all this without the knowledge of your SO? If so, then I know that if it were me, going out for an adventure like that without the knowledge of my SO would be crossing the trust line for me.

Before my wife knew about my dressing, I used to lie or creatively misdirect her on my reasons for being late (e.g. because I'd wanted to visit the monthly meeting even if it meant I could only stay 10-15 minutes and still get home without things seeming too odd.) But it was the lies that were making me sick at heart -- of course I was worried sick that she might leave me over the dressing itself, but the lying and selective truths and hiding were eating me out inside and I made up my mind that I was going to tell her the truth. I don't care if people laugh at seeing me wear a skirt, but I do care greatly about my honesty and ethics.


So for me, I would tell my wife and ask her if she minded. If she replied along the lines that "She doesn't care
what I do about my cross-dressing lifestyle", then I would know that that is code for her disapproving, and I would cancel. (And then she'd get upset with me for canceling -- when she says "I don't care", I'm in a no-win situation with her, but I lose less by not doing what-ever it was.) If she said that it would be okay with her, that I should go out and have some fun, then I would consider going ahead. But my wife is under a lot of strain lately with her mother's illness, so in my circumstance I would leave open contingency plans in case that particular night happened to be a night where my wife needed me to be home as her husband.

But honestly, my wife would probably have problems not so much with me going out for a night with some GGs, but rather with the fact that the GG are young and probably pretty and enthusiastic: my wife doesn't like me to have friendships with younger or attractive women, as she is a bit insecure that I might fall in love with them. It's a boundary we have negotiated in our relationship, and I try to respect it: respecting the boundary is a lot easier on our marriage than trying to explain that "Nothing happened, nothing is going to happen!"

[KarenS]

Is this a trick question?? Are you testing me because you noticed I wear blond from time to time? YES I would!

Did I pass the test?

[suchacutie]

until you needed a "cover" for staying out late. Then all my red flags went straight up!

Be careful...come out of the pink fog...get rid of the need for a cover.

Then go back into the pink fog and have a great time.

:2c:

tina

[Sally2005]

Sound's like great fun, except you should let your SO know you are doing a team building event with the staff...even if you don't fill in the specifics...like maybe it was a surprise you didn't know the details in advance... I don't know your situation, but having several office people who will talk about it and having photos floating around it is bound to come out sometime. I would jump at the chance to do something fun like that though! And, if you are not really out...you can just make up a story about how you made one too many sexist comments in the office and they called you on it and dared you to try it for a day.

[sandra-leigh]

And, if you are not really out...you can just make up a story about

Humans are pretty variable and we've had posters report a wide range of reactions to their spouse finding out that they cross-dress. Typically, the spouses that aren't immediately disgusted (for what-ever reason) that their husband dresses as a woman, go through a period of anger and distrust and feeling betrayed because their husband was lying to them for years. Rebuilding that trust can take... well, a few years of hard rebuilding is commonly reported, a decade to 15 years of trust-rebuilding is reported by some of the members, and other members have reported that 20 or more years later the wife asks for a divorce because the trust never managed to get rebuilt (not over the CD'ing itself, but over the breach of trust.)

There isn't one answer for everyone: we've had good sincere members who have worked hard to be open with their SO's, and their SO's wanted an immediate divorce, or immediately "separated while still living together", unable or unwilling to handle the situation. But in the reports I've read here, the feelings of being betrayed and lied to have, more often than not, been reported as having been stronger than the opposition to the cross-dressing itself.

I don't know if the original poster has an SO or is just sneaking out on the kids or the live-at-home parents (sorry, I haven't gone back to review previous postings): if there is an SO, then unless the SO is unusually understanding and forgiving, there is, it seems to me, a significant chance that the SO would view a hidden excursion of this kind as being tantamount to a "one night stand", especially if the original poster dances closely to a "pretty young thing", the more so if it is one of the women from the office. Wives often fear office affairs, and secretly going out "on a date" to a club with some of the young women from the office is, when discovered, likely to trigger a large raft of fears and outrage.


About a year ago, I happened to meet a woman who was very enthusiastic about going shopping with me, taking me out as a woman, improving my "passing" ability and so on. I was flattered, of course, but I totally declined doing anything with her, as I knew my wife would greatly disapprove. I probably could have fit in one such evening without lying to my wife, who happened to be out of town that week, but to me breaching a marriage promise "knowing I won't be caught" is slimy. The kind of person you really are is, IMHO, determined by what you are willing to do when no-one is watching.

[audreycd]

I think my heart would rush in my chest, but I would sign for it without any hesitation.
And you might find interesting to see what two girl like them would find suitable to you. May be you will find a new style ^^

[bobi jean]

Its been a couple days now and things are starting to come together quite nicely. We do have a couple changes from the original plan, but nothing too dramatic. I've already mentioned the date change, but since then we have also re-located the event. we will be going to "The Flame". One of the girls (L.L.) hairdresser is a performer there so we decided to go there. The reservation is set and it is front row and center:D. Gotta feeling I'm gonna be the center of attention,:daydreaming::daydreaming::daydreaming:: thumbsup: at least for a few minutes. He (the hairdresser) will also accompany me Tuesday to go wig shopping. I've decided to purchase another wig for this occasion (i'll get another blonde one for those of you whom so strongly encouraged me to wear the blonde, maybe just a shade or two darker tho). I don't know, He is the hair and make-up artist for this outing so I will leave it up to him....as long as it is some shade of blonde. He has also agreed to do a make-over for me the day of the event. There will also be more GG's and L. L.'s husband (gotta tell ya, I was a bit hesitant about him) in attendance. There will be myself, A.G., her mother and sister, K.L., L.L. and her husband. No one I don't already know and they all know I crossdress and have since before any of them were hired. Oh, and just to ease any concerns about safety, mine or theirs, I have made arrangements for a "distant" chaperone (he and I are the only ones that know) to be there also. Hopefully it will be impossible "NOT TO HAVE FUN". We even have designated drivers set up.:thumbsup:

I can not wait until I can post my very first out and about thread..... I wish we all could just skip the nest 12 - 13 days.

[Abby]

You are in heaven and don't know it. Enjoy..
Let us known what happened.:battingeyelashes:

[Christina Horton]

Bobi do you have a SO and does the SO know your going out. This really concerins me Hun.