Ashley_1962
05-20-2009, 07:53 PM
I had a lot of time to reflect during a recent solo trip to Montreal (see my other post in the out and about section for more details), and as part of this reflection I finally came to terms with a few things; the first being by sexuality and the second being the need to tell my close friends about my crossdressing. The main thinking behind the decision to 'come out' is that I realized that I did not want to continue to hide one of the primary reasons for my wife and I separating - it just does not seem honest to me, and also isn't really being fair to her to have to continue to skirt the issue any longer (pardon the pun..).
So, I took the big step and told one of my best male friends over this past week-end. After a great day of golf with him and a few other friends, I told him the truth about my crossdressing and bisexuality. I think his initial reaction could be described as 'shock', but after a few minutes after the initial shock wore off he asked most of the standard questions.. but at the end of the conversation, most importantly he said that he would continue to be my friend and would support me however he could. I know I had a few tears in my eyes at that point.. I also told my xSO and my daughter about sharing this with him and was also a blubbery mess when I informed them.. :).
That evening I sent him a note of thanks and a recent picture of 'Ashley' (he said he wanted to see).. he replied today indicating that he still plans to be my friend and is continuing to process what it really means. Most importantly he has said he will still golf with me (and hinted that maybe even with me as Ashley..) but that I would have to continue to use the men's tees.. DAMN.. I was really looking forward to playing from the 'ladies' tees.. :straightface:
I am now planning on informing a number of other close friends (male and female) over the next few weeks. I am keeping my fingers crossed that they are all as understanding and supportive.. but do expect a few bumps along the way.
Just thought I would share, and would love to hear about your own 'coming out' experiences - both good and bad...
Ashley
So, I took the big step and told one of my best male friends over this past week-end. After a great day of golf with him and a few other friends, I told him the truth about my crossdressing and bisexuality. I think his initial reaction could be described as 'shock', but after a few minutes after the initial shock wore off he asked most of the standard questions.. but at the end of the conversation, most importantly he said that he would continue to be my friend and would support me however he could. I know I had a few tears in my eyes at that point.. I also told my xSO and my daughter about sharing this with him and was also a blubbery mess when I informed them.. :).
That evening I sent him a note of thanks and a recent picture of 'Ashley' (he said he wanted to see).. he replied today indicating that he still plans to be my friend and is continuing to process what it really means. Most importantly he has said he will still golf with me (and hinted that maybe even with me as Ashley..) but that I would have to continue to use the men's tees.. DAMN.. I was really looking forward to playing from the 'ladies' tees.. :straightface:
I am now planning on informing a number of other close friends (male and female) over the next few weeks. I am keeping my fingers crossed that they are all as understanding and supportive.. but do expect a few bumps along the way.
Just thought I would share, and would love to hear about your own 'coming out' experiences - both good and bad...
Ashley