I finaly told someone face to face

[Amiad]

Its a bit of a mislead beacause we were introduced here, but I met "Debie " for lunch today and I finally got to look another man in the eye and say "I crossdress and I like it". I have had a makeover so I have been "seen" but never been willing to take the chance and speak to someone openly about crossdressing. I wish to thank Debie for taking a chance and meeting me, it was liberating but also set a new bar for me, tonight I have decided that my next step will be to tell a male friend (someone that does not crossdress) that I crossdress and hopefully it will turn out as well as it did today.

Debie, thanks again.

It only took me 34 years (I'm 47) to take this small step....lets hope the second one wont take as long.

Ami

[kynw08]

I stepped up and told a female roommate not long ago.....holy mess that was unnerving.

[Christina Horton]

I have pretty much told everone importint to me so I am at the end of the long stair way. For me 38 39 on the 27th this month I would say since I told my mom and dad in 92 that my 17 year walk down the stairs was allmoust at a run. Within the last 2 years it has been a sprint. All most broke a leg LOL. I think if you tell you male friend if he is a true friend he will still be a friend. If he can't handle it he's not a good one. Good luck and tell us how it goes.

[vikki2020]

Had a 'sort of, kind of" experience a while ago---I had some prints made from Photobucket, to be picked up at Target.Young girl at the counter, and she opened up the pack and spread the pics out on the counter and said "do they look OK?"They were probably just waiting for me to come in and get them!{ I am in drab} Oh well, what can you do? We looked at the pictures! She had a giant smile on her face:) I'm glad that I picked out only "good ones"!She doesn't know me, but then again, she does!

[gwen cd]

Told my dog, He was't to bothered with all of that.

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

Good for you, Amiad! :)

Maybe the first step was a small one, but that's how every journey begins. You seem off to a good start and I'm sure you'll make the next step work out. Whether or not it goes well will depend a lot on how you tell your friend. Just remember - you're sharing an important part of your life with your friend, NOT some "condition" or affliction you suffer from. Remember to tell him in that light and I'm sure his reaction to it will be more positive. Make sure you know how you want to present this to him before proceeding.

Let us know how it went. Good luck. :)

[Sarah 777]

The first person I ever told, apart from my then wife and my subsequent g/f was my very good GG friend called Jackie. She wasn't at all phased, and told me all about one of her mechanic friends who always wore tights to work. She asked me what I wearing, which was a red thong, and after a quick flash of each others knickers we went for a walk and had a really lovely chat.

Sarah x

[Alice B]

Told a daughter in law a couple of weeks ago. She was cool with it and had already suspected it.

[Carole Cross]

I came out as TS to my parents a couple of months ago fearing the worst and to my suprise they gave me thier full support. Now a lot of members of my wider family know and so far I have not had any negative feedback so I feel very lucky that I have such an understanding and supportive fanily. :)

[TSchapes]

You'll find it will get easier and easier. And you will become more at ease with yourself.

The only CD I've met where both of us were in boy mode was TxKimberly. I introduced myself to her the morning on the last day of SCC. This was after we were both in girl mode for a couple of days. And she told me not to do that again! LOL I think I scared her!

Like Christina W, I've told a lot of people. I used to keep a list of who I told, but I just gave up!


-Tracy

[linnea]

Congratulations. A very big small step.

[Anna the Dub]

I came out as TS to my parents a couple of months ago fearing the worst and to my suprise they gave me thier full support.

You are so lucky Carole. I told my parents a few years ago I was TS and they freaked, especially my Mother. Today, as far as she is concerned, it doesn't exist, I am her son and that's that. So when I go home to Dublin I have to playact and pretend to be a male for a few days. Not the easiest thing to do but I do it to try and keep relations with my family.Unfortunately, my Da now has Alzheimers and doesn't really know who I am anymore so I was never able to resolve anything with him. Not had any real support from family except 2 sisters in law and 2 nieces.

[Trip_rockcity]

Amiad ~ thats so cool! im proper happy for you.. i know the feeling.. big time.. the trick is to not take the negative reactions personnaly.. so for me as Gemini that was a trcky one to learn.. my god am i talking about star signs now.. what a drag...hehe.x

[Xenia]

Told my dog, He was't to bothered with all of that.

You're so lucky.....I told my cats, and one was totally cool with it, but the other one won't sit in my lap anymore. :)

But seriously.....good for you, Amiad! I've only told my wife, and while she's been unfailingly supportive, I don't think it's possible for her to really understand. Must be pretty dang cool to be able to just sit down and chat with someone who shares the same experiences. Maybe someday, when I get Xenia fleshed out a little more fully.....

[firststepnow_whynot]

i had a delivery for some furniture during a weekday. i came home and laid out all the clothes i wanted to wear after the delivery was complete. but i decided to wear a teddy and then put on a T shirt and denims. Looked myself in the mirror and i could see my T shirt bulge up due to the padded cups. this was noticeable though. i put on the button on the Tee so that they wouldnt notice the straps from any angle, but that infact accentuated the bulge :-). if i let the button off, then there was a possibility of my strap showing from an angle. i was in two minds whether to remove it before the delivery ppl came. but then i heard the bell ring.

i made up my mind, instead of undressing - involving removing tee shirt and denims, taking off the teddy and then wearing shirt and denims, i said, what the heck.. lets go for it. i however removed the button to reduce the bulge. i could take a chance and have my strap showing instead of my bulge.

the delivery man came in and two guys brought in the furniture. i stood in the same room, however, i had my arms crossed so that it is not apparent. the guys assembled the furniture for what in my mind was an enormous time ... about 30 mins. they did not notice anything wrong.

at the end, the guy explained everything and handed me the documents to sign off on. i took the pad and held it with one hand and signed with the other. For what was small time, i was conscious of the bulge and i was hoping he wouldnt notice. at the same time, i was standing there almost naked in the sense that my bulge being out there with nothing to hide or no going back.

it was all in my mind though. the guy left soon after and i dont think he noticed. but unbeknownst to him, he was the first one there when my bulge (and in turn me) were out there with no shield, no excuse....

i felt soo free after that and felt so woman..ly. now i wish if he would have just noticed, chuckled even in surprise, or controlled a smile after noticing and knowing it, it would have been worth a lot.

realize now that it must be such a beautiful thing for those who have come out and wear female clothing openly and being treated like a woman... i think i will continue to take such small steps to get to this end state...:-)

[Teri Jean]

Amiad,
I did this some time ago with a very small group of family members and a couple gg from work. But I have met a wonderful sister a couple hours drive away and we have been great friends ever since. In fact we got together this past monday for an evening.
Susan is a great sister who listens and gives great advice. Enjoy your new friendship and the next step in your journey.

Keli

[Debie]

Hi Ami

You are very welcome. Thank you for meeting with me. I really enjoyed meeting you and I hope we will be able to have many more chats. I am so new at actually talking with someone as well, but the more I do talk the easier it gets and the better I feel.