Super Amanda
05-21-2009, 09:52 PM
Over the last few months I have came out to just about everyone in my life, friends, and family. I have had remarkable success so far, as I have not had a singe negative reaction. I want to share my story.
I've been going slow, however, and that's working for me. After being laid off from my job last year, my 5 year old son and I moved to my parent's house, where my 28 year old brother lives as well. I first told my Mom last March, and she took it great, even giving me some new makeup she didn't want! I spent a few mornings with her around the house as her Daughter, explaining myself as best as possible.
The next step was to tell my closest friends and family. Thanks to the marvel of the Internet, I was able to blog on myspace about myself. I included a Wikipedia link to "transgender" and basically wrote a tell all, about how long I've felt this way, trying to "cure" myself, purges, the whole nine yards. I was able to tell my older Brother and his wife,(who kinda already knew, thanks to my ex-wife), my best friend (Latino gangster type from LA, tats everywhere) and a few others who were on my friends list.
Everyone was so supportive, even my ex-wife!, I asked them if they could let other acquaintances know about me, if they wanted. I changed my myspace profile to reflect myself more accurately, putting up some pics of me throughout the years.
So I pierced my ears, and by the time they healed, I was spending all of my time at home as Amanda.
It's so great having my family's support. For so long, the burden of secrecy was on my shoulders. For too long, I worried about what others would think.Coming out, for me, has been greater than any therapy I could ever receive.
I'm still going out in public in boy mode, for now anyway. I'm still building my wardrobe, and need quite a few things. But tomorrow my Sister-in-law wants me to take her to where I find my "cute clothes", and she was awesome telling me I look better than lots of "real" women, and "if they stare: f-um!".
It's not like I haven't been out in public as Amanda, but now that I'm out, it feels..different. I'm more self conscious now it seems. Maybe because now I realize that being a woman all the time is lots of work, and my beauty regime can be very time consuming. However, I am getting my routine down a bit better. Makeup application time is reducing, while my skill is increasing.
My next step is on the 29th of this month, I see my Doctor, and want to see what she can do for me as far as referrals go. I want to start hormones so we'll see what she thinks I should do, health wise.
My weight is also an issue. Right now I'm at 235 lbs, Down from 275 before I came out. I want to be at around 160 or so, I am 5'11" btw...
I just wanted to share my story so far with everyone. I have learned much from this site, and the wonderful people on it. My success in coming out, in a sad way, can be attributed to all of those before me who struggled and found things out for themselves, the hard way. To the unnamed many, I thank you...
I've been going slow, however, and that's working for me. After being laid off from my job last year, my 5 year old son and I moved to my parent's house, where my 28 year old brother lives as well. I first told my Mom last March, and she took it great, even giving me some new makeup she didn't want! I spent a few mornings with her around the house as her Daughter, explaining myself as best as possible.
The next step was to tell my closest friends and family. Thanks to the marvel of the Internet, I was able to blog on myspace about myself. I included a Wikipedia link to "transgender" and basically wrote a tell all, about how long I've felt this way, trying to "cure" myself, purges, the whole nine yards. I was able to tell my older Brother and his wife,(who kinda already knew, thanks to my ex-wife), my best friend (Latino gangster type from LA, tats everywhere) and a few others who were on my friends list.
Everyone was so supportive, even my ex-wife!, I asked them if they could let other acquaintances know about me, if they wanted. I changed my myspace profile to reflect myself more accurately, putting up some pics of me throughout the years.
So I pierced my ears, and by the time they healed, I was spending all of my time at home as Amanda.
It's so great having my family's support. For so long, the burden of secrecy was on my shoulders. For too long, I worried about what others would think.Coming out, for me, has been greater than any therapy I could ever receive.
I'm still going out in public in boy mode, for now anyway. I'm still building my wardrobe, and need quite a few things. But tomorrow my Sister-in-law wants me to take her to where I find my "cute clothes", and she was awesome telling me I look better than lots of "real" women, and "if they stare: f-um!".
It's not like I haven't been out in public as Amanda, but now that I'm out, it feels..different. I'm more self conscious now it seems. Maybe because now I realize that being a woman all the time is lots of work, and my beauty regime can be very time consuming. However, I am getting my routine down a bit better. Makeup application time is reducing, while my skill is increasing.
My next step is on the 29th of this month, I see my Doctor, and want to see what she can do for me as far as referrals go. I want to start hormones so we'll see what she thinks I should do, health wise.
My weight is also an issue. Right now I'm at 235 lbs, Down from 275 before I came out. I want to be at around 160 or so, I am 5'11" btw...
I just wanted to share my story so far with everyone. I have learned much from this site, and the wonderful people on it. My success in coming out, in a sad way, can be attributed to all of those before me who struggled and found things out for themselves, the hard way. To the unnamed many, I thank you...