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Sandra
05-23-2009, 05:03 PM
Even though Nigella is 24/7 and has been for just over 4 years, she still like’s to have the re-assurance from me that everything is ok, because of what happened quite a few years ago which you can read about here (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showpost.php?p=610477&postcount=1)

At first I couldn’t understand why, after all I am fully accepting and support her 110% and we sorted the problem out years ago.

She told me that even though I’m like I am, she just needs to know every now and then, not by doing anything major or saying anything, but small things like putting something out for her to wear, occasionally buying her things that she doesn’t know about so………

Why do you want/need re-assurance from your SO? and what does your SO do to make you feel that things are ok.
gretchen2
05-23-2009, 05:38 PM
Like most SOs they need to hear I love you to feel secure in the relationship. Just like me when I am dressed I need to know that everything is ok and I am still loved. I am insecure and sometimes confused about my dressing and the reassurance makes me feel more grounded with our relationship. I personally know that it is difficult for my SO sometimes and I do not want to loose her, so I need to make sure that she is still here. I don’t know if that makes sense, I just need to make sure that’s all.
Sophia de la luz
05-23-2009, 06:30 PM
What I need for re-assurance is for my clothing choices to be ordinary. No big deal... and if I'm looking nice, for her to mention it... which she does.
PretzelGirl
05-23-2009, 06:36 PM
Why do you want/need re-assurance from your SO? and what does your SO do to make you feel that things are ok.

I do look for reassurance every now and then with my SO. The reason I do it is my SO is a stuffer. She tends to bury everything inside instead of discussing it. So I do check with her on a lot of things in our life, dressing included. I don't want things to swing to far away from her comfort zone on any aspect of our life.
linnea
05-23-2009, 10:48 PM
Re-assurance is nice in any relationship, I think. I tell my SO that I love her even though I know that she knows that I do. And I tell her every day. She doesn't need re-assurance that frequently, I'm sure (nor do I), but I think that it's nice.
What you're talking about probably needs to be occasional and somewhat random (insofar as you can "plan" random).