Just Call Me Scarface

[Persephone]

This weekend my spouse and I took a spontaneous RV trip to Las Vegas and out into the surrounding desert. Great fun! Especially the casino hopping en femme.

On the last day I was working on the motorhome, which was taller than usual because we were on a hill. I came around the back and WHAM! I ran straight into a corner of a slideout with a force so great I was knocked backwards onto the ground. Don't even know if I was unconcious or not (I don't think I was) but my forehead began to bleed rather profusely.

I guess I was lucky, another inch lower and I would have lost my left eye.

Anyway, this has left me with a couple of problems and I really need the considerable brainpower of this group to think up solutions.

As some of you know, I live a dual life here in my town, going out both en femme and en drab. I really can't go all one way or the other without some "issues."

My spouse and I have concocted some possible stories for if I get "caught." Our basic premise is that I have a twin sibling of the opposite sex. As a matter of fact, my "twin brother" is her spouse.

That could probably work, particularly with those who only know me en femme and don't have much history on me.

But right now, "both of us" have large matching bandages on our foreheads; and there is a likely possibility that "both of us" will have matching scars, perhaps for 6-months to a year, perhaps forever. Maybe, once the bandages are off and my forehead is basically healed, I can cover the scars with concealer and bangs, but that's going to be some time down the line.

People may not notice an over the hill girl or guy enought to "put 2 and 2 together," but two identical people walking around with two identical bandages? People with bandages on their heads get noticed.

I really can't give up my dual lifestyle and am really in a deep funk about this, so I throw myself upon the collective wisdom of this group. Suggestions?

[Deedee Dupree]

I'm very sorry to hear about your accident. .

The immediate problem is tough, and my suggestions are a stretch...How big are the bandages? White? First thing that comes to mind is big floppy hats(or other styles) of varrious colors and maybe a head scarf (if it's not to hot) may give you a little cover in one mode or the other making sure the misdirections are very different in either mode. Or maybe you can find some flesh colored cloth that could be fashioned as a temporary overlay to cover the bandages to draw attention away... making the bandage appear different. BIG shades.

Dunno about the twin story idea. could work. An obvious solution is to take your crossdressing out of town, if there is no other way... that could be expensive or not practical.

The scars will take a year or so to fade if you don't need plastic surgery after the initial healing. MU as you know will take care of a lot of the redness..

Sorry I have nothing else to offer.

dd

[Dressing Jill]

wow good luck with that one.

[BLUE ORCHID]

How about the awning support arms there aways good for a group laugh
around the campground one of these days I will remember that there
up there.
They will give you a good blackeye too.
.................................................. ..........ORCHID

[Jessica Who]

There is a rapper named Nelly, and he wore a band-aid on his cheek, as some sort of tribute or "hello" to a member of his family, I think his brother.

You could say that you are both wearing the bandage as a tribute to your father, who recently had eye surgery. Or something along those lines. Good luck :hugs:

[Super Amanda]

Do you interact with people that you know face to face when you're dressed? I mean do people you know, see, and interact with you while dressed, and not realize who you really are?

What I'm getting at is if you come face to face with someone you know, they will most likely know that it's really you, IMO.

I kind of seems like the scars or bandages won't matter at that point, ya know?

[trannie T]

Thank God you missed all your vital organs!

[dilane]

I gashed a 1 inch chunk of my forehead some years ago.

It was stitched up, and I simply removed the bandage after a few days and was able to wear bangs over it. I also put a bit of makeup on it after it had pretty much sealed up.

Incidentally, it left no discernable scar, I can't even find it now. The forehead has a good blood supply, I was told, and can often heal very well on its own.

-- Diane

[Sally2005]

I did something similar too and required some stitches. Put vitamin E on it to help healing and reduce scaring. After healing, it may not be noticed. In female mode you can hide it with makeup. Maybe you can say you were joined at birth and the result was a scar on both of you... not sure how many people would buy it though.

[Tracii G]

The forehead does heal quickly thats true.Just may have to wait a while to let your other side out.Sorry you got hurt.
Side note while in combat I had a bullet graze the brow ridge above my left eye and I was suprised how quick it healed and how little scaring there was.

[Persephone]

Do you interact with people that you know face to face when you're dressed? I mean do people you know, see, and interact with you while dressed, and not realize who you really are?

What I'm getting at is if you come face to face with someone you know, they will most likely know that it's really you, IMO.

I kind of seems like the scars or bandages won't matter at that point, ya know?

Yes, Amanda, there are people who know me "face to face" when dressed, but they know me as a woman, without any suspicion that I'm anything else.

And yes, there are also people who only know me "face to face" as a man.

And there are a small number of people who know me in both modes, but I'm not worried about them.

And I spend a lot of time hoping and praying that members of each of the first two groups won't be in the same room with me at the same time!

Does that explain it?

[Persephone]

O.K., so in "girl world" my friends and I are paniced that I'll be left with a horrible, unsightly scar.

Today I went out to lunch "as a guy" with one of my guy friends. After he inquired about the bandage and I told him what happened, I said, "And I'm really afraid it will leave a scar."

He gave a grunting laugh and said, "So who cares! You might as well use up your body before you die."

And we wonder about the differences between the genders?

Thanks to everyone for their support and suggestions, especially Deedee and Sally for their great ideas!

[Super Amanda]

And I spend a lot of time hoping and praying that members of each of the first two groups won't be in the same room with me at the same time!

Does that explain it?

Perfectly! :)

[Missy Tanya]

I have a camper with two slide outs, one on each side. I have walked into more that I would like to admit. I have came up with an cheap easy head bumper cushion. I cut four, foot long pieces of pipe insulation, the foam type with the slot cut in the middle to wrap around you plumbing so it doesn't freeze. I just slide one on each corner, then my head and any others just get a scare when they walk into the corner.

As for your situation with telling people whats happen, I just tell them the Ms whacked me again for smarting off. If they saw my other personalty with the same mark, I would just tell them she hit my sister too, for laughing at Ms hitting me. Might work, maybe. Most people don't pay enough attention to note who had the bandage or not.

Too Funny though, sure brought back some memories about all those bumps on my head. No wonder I like wearing wigs. They cover up my scared, bumpy, balding head.

Tanya

[Ralph]

You could say that you are both wearing the bandage as a tribute to your father, who recently had eye surgery. Or something along those lines.

Maybe you can say you were joined at birth and the result was a scar on both of you... not sure how many people would buy it though.

Honestly, sometimes you people crack me up.

ralph

[Persephone]

I have a camper with two slide outs, one on each side. I have walked into more that I would like to admit. I have came up with an cheap easy head bumper cushion. I cut four, foot long pieces of pipe insulation, the foam type with the slot cut in the middle to wrap around you plumbing so it doesn't freeze. I just slide one on each corner, then my head and any others just get a scare when they walk into the corner. Tanya

Thanks Tanya, I was thinking of doing that. I'd bought some cushions that were supposed to be for that purpose, but it turned out they were to be permanents mounted and I never figured out how I was supposed to close the slideout after mounting them.

In addition to the pipe insulation, I'm thinking about adding some streamers to make it clear that the edges are there. Maybe even cones on the ground. Definitely don't want to do it again!


Honestly, sometimes you people crack me up. ralph

I completely agree with you, Ralph! But in this case I cracked myself up.