I am so lonely

[loardata]

It is 4:11 in the am when i am writing, very typical start to the day. Wife and 6 year grandson asleep in the bed next to me. I may get to be alone all night with her maybe twice a month. We have been married 21 yrs and for the last year i have not even underdressed. My wife has never been the touchy feely type, except for rubbing my shoulders to see if i was wearing a bra. I am so in need of human, loving touch i could just SCREAMMMMM!!!!!. Don't get me wrong, i love my wife soooo very much. What am I to do? I now know why some men cheat, but i will never do that, I also know why some end it all, but I won't do that.--- Michille

[Deborah Jane]

I think you need to talk to your wife Michille, you need to explain to her how you're feeling right now. It sounds to me like you could be on the verge of depression, talk with your wife, tell her that you need to feel loved, tell her what you've told us.

I hope you can get through this :hugs:

[Joanne f]

Hello loardata,
I agree with what deborah jane has said , you do need to talk to your wife and tell her how you feel which i do understand can be very difficult for a lot of people and she just may not realise how much you are missing her affection , so please tell her soon .

[TGMarla]

I'll third the motion. Like the song says, we all need a little human touch. The very reason people get together in the first place is to fill that same void. We need interaction, touching, to be touched, to be loved. Otherwise, our relationships become rather sterile and empty. I suggest you get counselling, both of you. Your wife may well be at a stage in her life when sexual interaction has become less of a physical/emotional need for her, and she may not realize that it is important to you. Talking about it is the first step. And this talking must be in a loving, understanding way, not a bickering, arguing, shouting, accusation match. Put your love first, and allow the conversation to follow.

[TSchapes]

You may want to consider marriage counseling. I suggest this so that you will have a third person to help guide the two of you to a workable situation. May I also suggest a specialist that concentrates on sexual matters.

-Tracy

[crossdrezzer1]

give her what she wants in the relationship and she will return the favor

[wendy360]

Been there. Ex wife went to bed with youngest daughter and I slept by myself. Your 6 year old grandson should be sleeping by himself. You both need marriage counseling. This is not a healthy situation. My ex didn't care until I walked out the door and of course then it was all my fault.
Good luck

[celeste26]

This is a sure sign of depression there really is no doubt about it. Some sort of counseling is immediately needed even if its only you going since it seems you are the one who is feeling the effects and if your wife goes with you that's even better. Please promise all of us that you will go as soon as you can. Or sooner.

[Angie G]

I agree wiih Deborah I must talk to your wife It's the only way things will get better Michelle. And don't put it off hun.:hugs:
Angie

[loardata]

Girls: I've tried talking to her bet all she does is get mad and says what can "she" do about it.I know she loves me in her own way she just does not know how to show it. So her we are 230 in the am in southern il, my wife and 6 y old g-son snoring peacefully a few feet away. Maybe the problem is me, the same scenario can be peacefull the the next is irratating:brolleyes:.

[Samantha43]

Maybe try talking to her one more time about how you feel, and what your needs are. As you are talking, suggest marriage counseling to her. That may help her get an understanding of how strongly you feel about the way your relationship is.

I hope you get it all worked out.

[Trip_rockcity]

Ah shame.. that must be horrible.. try taking her out on the most random date you can think of and be spontanious.. when you with some one all the time.. by reinventing your self.. your other half also reinvents her self to.. (worked for me a few eyars ago).