Being Honest

[Rachaelb64]

Hi everyone, I do apologize for not being, life just seems to get in the way lately :)

Well I have been venturing out once more into the big weird world of dating. With no much success, first couple of dates are fine then I mention my CDing and all the running and screaming starts.

Well, since about Feb, I've e-mailing this young lady, got on quite well in our e-mails then we started texting and she was quite keen to meet up we live about 40mins apart. I don't know way I did it cold feet, disillusion with the world of dating, who knows, but I e-mailed her explaining I was a CDer.

Things went quiet for a while. Then to my surprised she e-mailed me back asking if I was pulling her leg, answer no, then another e-mail, with loads of questions, which I duly answered.

Then she asked if I still wanted to meet up. So last week we meet up. More questions, thanked me for being honest. Then she said she would to meet up again. We agreed to go slowly on the CD front she not ready to meet Rachael yet. But at least she willing to give me ago (her words not mine).

So here to being honest

Rachael :) x

[Annie D]

I think that you are on the right track and I admire you for being honest. Now that she knows that you are a CD'er, I would put your female self on the back burner until she asks to see her. Show her all your female traits in your male mode. I think that you will be pleasantly surprised with the outcome. Good Luck!

[gretchen2]

Well here is what Judge Judy would say, you do not have to have a good memory when you tell the truth. Way to go and good luck with this new girl.

[Shelly Preston]

Good Luck Rachael

I hope you honesty leads to a wonderful relationship :hugs:

[AlannahNorth]

That is great! Maybe you have found a winner... something I look forward to one day.

[Joni Marie Cruz]

Good for you, Rachael. Better honesty upfront before things become more involved than revelations and regrets later down the road. I wish you both the best. Good luck.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[Karren H]

Hats off to you!! Your definately doing it the right way!!

[az_azeel]

good on you Rachael.. after i split with my ex-wife i decided that i will be honest about the crossdressing from day one in a relationship...it worked ...alexis and i have been together for over five years now and it just gets better... i wish you well and hope it goes ok.. ;)

[TSchapes]

Being a CD kept me from dating for a long time. Why would anyone want me? So I understand. Like I've said before, you don't have to bring it up on the first date, but sometime before it gets too serious, it should be brought up.

Congratulations, and I hope it goes great for you and your new found gal!

-Tracy

[Rita D]

Rachael-
Congrats! As Stan Laurel once said To Oliver Hardy, when Hardy asked Stan why he told his wife the truth: "Honesty is the best politics!":)
Even though Stan managed to mangle the adage- he also hit the nail on the head! Best of luck to you in this new relationship.

[Miranda09]

Very smart move Rachel. I hope things work out for you. :)

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

...We agreed to go slowly on the CD front she not ready to meet Rachael yet. But at least she willing to give me ago (her words not mine).

So here to being honest

That's exactly the way to do it, Rachael. In fact, in my opinion, up front honesty (before the relationship gets serious) is the ONLY way to do it. Anything less than honesty is the kind of misleading stuff that leads to relationship troubles - it's not limited to being a crossdresser, as I'm sure you're aware. (And yes, I got married before telling my wife, but did come clean last year and things worked out well.)

Trying to find the right woman isn't easy or fun, but you've got to be honest up front. If your intent is to potentially find a long-term partner, you had better be open and honest about who you are. It's not exactly first-date disclosing material, but when you feel the relationship begin to go somewhere.

I applaud your devotion to honesty and I know you will eventually end up with a good woman who loves ALL of you, rather than just your man-side. In the end, the honest approach will pay off, even if not with this one. I hope it does work out for you though. Keep us posted! :)

[MissConstrued]

Show her all your female traits in your male mode.


Actually, this would be a good time to demonstrate the requisite male traits. Confidence, strength, decisiveness. As sissystephanie says, be a man underneath. As long as you can do that, in her mind, clothing becomes irrelevant to your character.

[5150 Girl]

Honesty up front, prevents trouble latter!

[FluffyPersian]

As sissystephanie says, be a man underneath. As long as you can do that, in her mind, clothing becomes irrelevant to your character.

Yep, this is what women want to see.

[Rachaelb64]

Thanks everyone :0

Well I must be doing something right, because we are about to go on our 3rd date :D

My lady friend even made a joke about me not nicking hers shoes after on passed comment on how nice they were :)

Rachael :)

[Brenda456]

That, is seriously cool. I hope it works out.

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

Well I must be doing something right, because we are about to go on our 3rd date :D

That's awesome, Rachael! :)

Here's to the 4th, 5th, and many more dates!

:drink:

[Sara Jessica]

That's awesome, Rachael! :)

Here's to the 4th, 5th, and many more dates!

:drink:

I'll drink to that as well, cheers Raechel from across the pond, more good luck to ya!!! :)

[DanaR]

I have found that it is easier to remember the truth, instead of which lie you told.

[Rachaelb64]

Well tomorrow the 3rd date so I'll let u know how it goes :)

[Trycia]

Rachael, please do let us know how it goes!

[Rachaelb64]

Well the 3rd date came and went, spent the day together, lunch, talking walking, joking etc. Had fun time :)

So time comes to say good night and she says to me 'So do want to make us offically together' Of course I'd 'Yes'

So I am now in a relationship, :)

Rach x

[Anna the Dub]

Hey, good for you. Hope it works out for you both. x

[lesley jay]

good luck Rachael with the 4th,5th,6th,7th.....dates.you see honesty pays off which is great as there will be no suprises later on.good luck i hope it works out the way u have dreamnt that it would.well done girl,always nice to here about a success story.

[BeckiB]

Great thread..A bit of well needed sunshine on this forum. Congratulations and I hope it all works out well for you.

[cindym5_04]

Congrats on the relationship. I'm sure one of the things that she appreciates most is that you were honest and upfront with her.

[Rachaelb64]

Thanks everyone :) As you can figure I'm walking around on cloud nine at the mo :daydreaming:

Mind you there is this little voice in my head going 'Oi! Numbty! Don't screw it up' lol :doh:

Honesty is good :)

Rach :)

[JulieC]

Well the 3rd date came and went, spent the day together, lunch, talking walking, joking etc. Had fun time :)

So time comes to say good night and she says to me 'So do want to make us offically together' Of course I'd 'Yes'

So I am now in a relationship, :)

Rach x

Chaching! Congratulations! Woohoo!!!!!!

[deborahtg42]

Hello Rachael,

This is great Rachael, I wish you all the best

By the way, don't worry you will not mess anything up.

[ggtracy]

I wish you both the best of luck. You did a great thing, being open and honest with her up front. You gave her the time/space needed to let her decide whether to pursue the relationship or not.

She decided you were worth it. You were brave and confident and she will never forget that. Take it from me, once a GG decides to enter a relationship with a CDer, we are loyal and supportive. :love: