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claire2454

10-13-2009, 02:20 PM

SallyjoCD

10-13-2009, 05:54 PM

Oldest of 6. Always envious of the pretty things my sisters got to wear. Now I have prettier things than they do.

Karin9

10-13-2009, 07:29 PM

i am the oldest of three! :)

Stephenie

10-13-2009, 10:47 PM

Middle Boy/Girl, two older and two younger, But there is a possibility that one of the older ones might CD. But have been out of touch with whole family for many years

Tina2

10-13-2009, 11:21 PM

Oldest of two (me and my sister) with a single mother.

I've often wondered if my desire to crossdress comes from differences in how we were treated.

I got clearance clothing from K-Mart while my sister had a $50/month budget for clothes (in the late 80's). My mom would tell me that girls clothes cost more.

Since my mom was single, she would say I was "the man of the house", but I didn't get any authority with that. I was supposed to keep my sister out of trouble, but my sister would say "you're not my father" and my mother wouldn't back me up.

If I hit my sister I was warned that I was going to grow up to be a wife-beater, but if my sister hit me I was expected to take it because I was a boy and I was older and bigger.

I was taught to open doors for women and stand up when they stood up at the table and a bunch of other old fashioned chivalrous behavior, but there was nothing in the other direction about women giving respect to men.

Randee

10-13-2009, 11:46 PM

Hope this doesn't blow your theory, but I think being born into a family with three older sisters that was so poor that I had to wear hand-me-down clothes til I was 12 probably had something to do with it. <g>

No, seriously, I was the oldest too. You may be onto something.

JenniferRose

10-22-2009, 11:50 PM

I havnet heard this before, but I am the oldest so there could be truth to it.

Danielle H

10-23-2009, 04:36 AM

Yet another oldest here, with a younger brother and sister.

Second most common seems to be the youngest child, but not a lot of middle kids.

Audra Sinclair

10-23-2009, 12:46 PM

I have never thought about it but I am also the oldest. I have three bothers and two sisters and I am the only CDer as far as I know. They all know about me but it does not seem to be a problem. I do look a lot like one of my sisters when I am dressed. I think my mom may have had an influence on my dressing. My being the first born boy and she wanted a girl. I have been told she dressed me occassionally as a girl. I don't remember.

sharynPA

10-23-2009, 01:31 PM

I'm the baby, youngest of 7, 5 boys and two girls.

ginafaye

10-23-2009, 02:42 PM

older sister,big tomboy.two older brothers that died as infants,and me ......i often wonder at that small tender age because of my moms loss at not having a girly girl,and the grief of lossing two babys i was somehow her proxy of a girly girl. no real memories of any thing ongoing, just small things i remember from time to time........coments?

pickles

10-23-2009, 02:49 PM

Hmmm, I'm the oldest but I only have 1 sister.

Meg East

10-23-2009, 02:51 PM

Oldest of three, and the only crossdresser.

Kitty Sue

10-23-2009, 04:18 PM

Oldest here too.

Heather Phillips

10-23-2009, 05:06 PM

I am the youngest of 7, 5 older brothers. I am the only who dresses in the family.

sometimes_miss

10-23-2009, 07:22 PM

Considering the sheer number of us who are deep in the closet, it would be a very hard theory to prove.

"There are lies, damned lies, and statistics".
Benjamin Disraeli

Janine cd

10-23-2009, 07:30 PM

I'm the first-born son with only a younger sister. I have always wished that I was an older sister.

Jennifer Giovannetta

10-23-2009, 07:56 PM

Oldest sibling here. Just a younger sister.

IamSara

10-23-2009, 07:59 PM

I am the oldest of 2 boys. I am the only one that crossdresses as far as I know. :)

Illusions Of Amy

10-23-2009, 08:20 PM

Oldest of four here, though I don't think anyone in my family has any suspicion whatsoever of my CDing desires... just my good friends. So hey, it could be possible someone else is hiding it too - I'd love to know about it if that's the case!

Interestingly enough my sister (the youngest) has quite a bit of a male personality in her while at the same time being naturally attractive and outgoing in a more typical GG way. I think she could seriously hold her own in baseball-related arguments with the most prominent ESPN anchors and commentators in particular... it's scary! I'm glad her wardrobe's a lot more toward the casual side than being overly girly, which made the temptation of raiding her closet a whole lot less strong than it might have been otherwise. It's always been funny to me that I love the thought of wearing dresses and skirts quite a bit more than she does, as she only reluctantly wears them on special occasions. Hmm... bi-gendered parallels?

samanthatiedup

10-24-2009, 03:45 PM

I guess there is some truth to that. I am the oldest out of 2 brothers and one sister, and I love crossdressing.

Jonianne

10-31-2009, 05:32 PM

Oldest of 3 also, but like a previous poster said, the oldest is more likely to respond to this thread anyway.

charlytuna

10-31-2009, 05:58 PM

I'm in the middle have sisters and brothers older and younger one each

joyce483

10-31-2009, 07:55 PM

have an older sister and brother and a younger gay brother.

StayceeCD

10-31-2009, 09:17 PM

Oldest out of 5... 2 Brothers and 2 sisters... Only CD as far as I know!!! :)

Billie Jean

10-31-2009, 09:21 PM

:2c:I hate to blow that theory out of the window however I am the youngest child and am the only crossdresser in the family as far as I know.Me too. I don't think either of my brothers dress and they don't know about me. My sister used to catch me every now and then when we were teenagers, she wasn't supportive but never told anyone. Billie Jean

serinalynn

10-31-2009, 10:00 PM

I am an only child and then my parents were married 10 years before I came along. My mother had me baptisted in a girls baptismal out fit because she liked the white lace. :daydreaming:

TonyaV

10-31-2009, 10:35 PM

I am an only boy between two girls.

LoriFlores

10-31-2009, 10:49 PM

Oldest of three. Guess my fate was destiny...

HollyStorm

11-01-2009, 12:41 AM

oldest of 4.

This is a long thread, and i haven't gone through it so this may have been brought up:

There was a scientist i saw on a news show I saw a while back who speculated that when 2 sibling are born close together within a year apart, the second sibling is more likely to have fem qualities because of excess amounts of estrogen in the womb. I have a gay cousin who i think might also be transgendered who is only 10 months younger than his older brother. I know CDing isn't the same thing, but its all in the same amazing ballpark. Just some thoughts..

Teranika

11-01-2009, 02:52 AM

I'm the oldest too.

krisinpink

11-01-2009, 07:35 PM

Oldest of 4
Boy Girl Girl Boy

Heather_Marie

11-01-2009, 07:42 PM

I am an only boy between two girls.

Looks like we have something in common me too.

susant

11-01-2009, 07:58 PM

Yes there may be a trend here. I am the oldest of 5. 3 brothers and 1 sister and to the best of my knowledge I am the only cross dresser

VictoriaP

11-01-2009, 08:38 PM

I am the oldest son of three boys. I wonder about this theory but it sounds kind of hokey to me. I have been dressing since i was a young boy. As far as I know neither of my siblings are into Cd'ng.

Vanysh

11-01-2009, 11:00 PM

:2c:I hate to blow that theory out of the window however I am the youngest child and am the only crossdresser in the family as far as I know.

Yeah, but are you the oldest boy?

I am the oldest son in my direct family, with one younger brother.

Natalie de Valley

11-01-2009, 11:35 PM

Oldest of 5, 3 sisters and 1 brother

Catina

11-02-2009, 01:00 AM

I'm the oldest of 4 brothers and 2 sisters. ;-)

aggi123

11-02-2009, 06:08 AM

Not necessarily the oldest, but I inherited at the age of nine when my brother died. Coincidentally that is also when it all started for me.

Vicky Peters

11-02-2009, 08:40 AM

I am the oldest of 3, 2 brothers.

JamieOH

11-02-2009, 02:01 PM

I am a middle Child. Older Brother, Younger sister. I have always, as far back as I can remember enjoyed sneakin her clothes, and tryin em on. We went to a catholic elementary school too. So those cute little school girl clothes, I got to wear them.. nice... I still love to wear them.. But, yeah, I think for me, I know i didnt get much attention growing up, it was always what the oldest or the baby wanted. But I dont think that had any bearing on why I dress.. I think I just have a little something extra in the chromosome dept. That makes me feel the need to follow what society deems feminine. The same as any girl growing up, watching what means to be a woman, and wanting that.

jacques

11-08-2009, 05:59 PM

hi,
I am the oldest of two; I started wearing my sister's tights when I was eight.
Luv Jacques

glynnis

11-08-2009, 07:53 PM

Im the youngest in my family and the only crossdresser as far as I know.

bridget jones

11-08-2009, 07:58 PM

Well I'm the middle child,older brother,younger sister.I actually wore my neighbors panties and camisoles before moving on to my mothers and sisters under garments.I gradually moved away from Moms things and focused on sis's lingerie and Prom/pageant dresses of course I used their shoes and make up till I got my own...

Heather_Marie

11-08-2009, 08:02 PM

I'm the oldest of three. girl, me, girl I have heard of this too on a new broadcast and I cannot deny it I am the oldest boy.

MsJanessa

11-08-2009, 08:08 PM

oldest of four

AmberLynn

11-08-2009, 08:16 PM

Oldest of 3 1 brother 16 in december,1 sister 27 in jan,30 and a crossdresser :hugs: interesting thought the oldest being the most likley to cd

Bonnie Lawrence

11-08-2009, 10:49 PM

I am the oldest in my family of origin, too. I wonder if being the not-so-macho oldest son of a macho oldest son, whose father (my grandfather) was a macho oldest son, influenced me to admire and eventually emulate the women in the family?

Wendy Green

11-08-2009, 11:53 PM

I'm the youngest by 11 years. I was the "oops". Already had 3 boys and Mom really wanted a girl.

BellaWolf

11-08-2009, 11:57 PM

I'm the oldest of two boys

Bikini Babe Claire

11-09-2009, 12:08 AM

Im the youngest of 3 boys:)

Daphne Renee

11-09-2009, 12:35 PM

I am the oldest but I only have 1 sister and no brothers.

abigailf

11-09-2009, 01:16 PM

Wow! 317 posts. If Ihad the time, I would go through all the posts and add them up.

I am the youngest of 3 boys and two girls. I suppose my parents had 2 and a half of each.

Emily_lngstn

11-09-2009, 04:44 PM

2 sisters and 1 brother, I am the youngest. I know my brother doesn't crossdress, but more and more I think he might be gay.

Kaz

11-09-2009, 04:59 PM

Oldest of three - one brother and one sister... maybe I bonded with my mother too much? Maybe my Dad didn't do the role modelling right? Maybe it's genetics...?

Hope the responses give some data!

Would love to know the answer!

Fab Karen

11-09-2009, 05:18 PM

I hear there's a correlation that men who regularly buy women's clothing tend to be crossdressers. Far more likely to be true.

briannad

11-09-2009, 06:26 PM

out of 4 children I am number 3, youngest son (2 older brothers) and sister is the baby.. but what do I know, I am an airline pilot and a magazine said Pilots are usually firstborn... lol I can never get it right

Rianna Humble

11-09-2009, 06:36 PM

I hear there's a correlation that men who regularly buy women's clothing tend to be crossdressers. Far more likely to be true.

I think that one is mainly true of men who buy the womenss's clothes for themselves to wear :doh:

Alice Green

11-09-2009, 10:13 PM

Its interesting but I would have to say it's a hypothesis and nothing more. I have an older brother who as far as i know doesn't cross dress and really isn't the type that would, I am his exact opposite and I have had a basic course psychology and I would have to say there is a much deeper reason for why it is we do the things we do.

lavistaa62

11-09-2009, 10:37 PM

Oldest and left-handed here. Anyone put together a graph of this?

Aeval

11-10-2009, 12:25 AM

Wow...oldest of two sons here...this is getting a bit odd...

reres

11-10-2009, 07:13 AM

oldest of 4 and the only to CD :)

interesting

scarlett

11-10-2009, 07:23 AM

oldest of 3 boys here. As far as I know ( and I'm pretty sure) I am the only one who dresses

Gunda

11-19-2009, 09:52 PM

Only child here.

I have read that oldest boys, only boys, or male only children seem to have a propensity to cross-dress but I haven't really cooked the statistics to know for sure. I think you have to factor in alot of random data like parent-child relationship, environment, and - most importantly perhaps - individual temperment to get a more accurate view of developmental causes for cross-dressing. While birth order is interesting, as this thread itself has shown, the oldest boy=CD correlation likely isn't the 'be all, end all' kind of explanation we are hoping for.

Best,
Gunda

SamathaCD

11-23-2009, 04:02 AM

I'm the youngest son here. Don't think my oldest brother is a CD, but haven't noticed anything.

crusadergirl

11-23-2009, 04:19 AM

I'm the oldest boy just one brother

sarahnme

11-23-2009, 09:34 AM

I am the the first child and first male of 5

laura_09

11-24-2009, 11:53 PM

I am the oldest of 4 with 2 brothers and 1 sister

Charlotte Sometimes

11-26-2009, 01:57 PM

I am the oldest as well.

LauraL

11-26-2009, 09:04 PM

I am the youngest of two males. My brother is 7 years older. I started trying my mother's clothes at an early age and am now independently expressive in my 60's.
LauraL

Michelle Lynn A

11-27-2009, 12:00 AM

I Am The Oldest Of 5 3 sisters and a brother and i am also left handed. Very interesting

minalost

11-27-2009, 02:04 PM

Oldest of three. One each younger sister and brother - I'm sure neither crossdress.

Stockingface

11-27-2009, 02:34 PM

I've never heard about the theory but I fit in that box. I'm the oldest and only crossdresser from my family. I do believe my uncle from my mother's side was the oldest also of 7 kids and he was a crossdresser also.

Robyn2006

11-27-2009, 05:33 PM

The oldest son more likely to cross dress, really? I'm the youngest of 3, having two older sisters who were complete teen glamour girl role models for me. Following in their footsteps seemed far more natural than tossing a football or anything else expected. Seemed that this would be a common thread for most crossdressers, but like so many things in this crazy life, there are no easy answers. If there are, could someone please tell me?:heehee:

Robyn

dianne63

11-28-2009, 08:28 AM

must be something about it I am also the eldest of three brothers pretty sure neither of them crossdress

Dianne

shorty82

11-28-2009, 08:52 AM

...The study had something to do with first male births not getting quite as much of a testosterone hose down en utero during the final trimester as subsequent births of male siblings...or some such thing. Really, getting old bites.

Hugs...Joni Mari

I can believe that. For instance I've always had light-colored body hair.

I'm the oldest of two boys and AFAIK the only one that crossdresses. I did have a lot of female influence growing up as my mom & dad were divorced though the women in my childhood weren't the most feminine (rarely wore dresses for instance, have one female relative that's a tomboy and wears skirts only if she has to and hates it then).

I'm also a lefty!

Spacey

11-28-2009, 09:10 AM

I'm the oldest to my sister, two stepsisters, half sister and two half brothers. This is a very interesting theory. I can't believe the responses so far. Very intriguing?

charlen

11-28-2009, 09:12 AM

oldest of 4 three boys one gril only cder:daydreaming:

Mollyanne

11-28-2009, 09:28 AM

I have a younger brother and I have been dressing since I can remember(that goes back a long time sigh sigh)) Interesting theory but I really don't think its valid!!!! Personally I truly believe that we are "wired" before birth due to either hormonal changes within our mothers' body or a temporary emotional situation that initiated our need to crossdress. Actually I feel much more comfortable:) when I am dressed as a female and want to remain that way.:battingeyelashes:

Mollyanne

black leotards

11-28-2009, 03:33 PM

Ah so, that would explain it! :heehee:

I am the oldest of 4 and I do play dress up :-)

Nicola2876

12-22-2009, 03:37 PM

I'm the youngest of three boys. Don't think my brothers cd but they might

MissAmy

12-22-2009, 04:38 PM

I'm the youngest with 3 other brothers. No sisters.

norcd2008

12-22-2009, 06:13 PM

I'm the youngest by about 14 years so I suppose I was almost an only child growing up in the house.

Tiff Rivera

12-22-2009, 06:16 PM

Maybe its a just a coincidence, but I'm the oldest of 3 boys!

Caity

12-22-2009, 06:17 PM

I'm the youngest of three.

serinalynn

01-15-2010, 04:19 AM

I am an only child and I crossdress

msniki48

01-15-2010, 06:10 AM

I am the Oldest of three. YOunger sister and the youngest is my brother.
hmmmmmm

Let's take a poll!

I think that would be interesting!

hugs

msniki48

KarenHiller

01-15-2010, 09:35 AM

I have one older sister, so I guess I still qualify as the oldest boy.

Karen

utah beauty

01-15-2010, 10:25 AM

I'm a middle child, but I am TS ...

Samantha_Smile

01-15-2010, 11:55 AM

LIKETODRESS2

01-15-2010, 12:37 PM

I am the youngest of 4 boys. Or should i say 3 boys and a girl that not manny know about

Erica2Sweet

01-15-2010, 12:40 PM

I'm the youngest of four.

I can't say I've ever heard that theory. The more common one I've found is the scenario where the boy as a child was consistently surrounded with more female influence than male. I find that holds true for several TG folks I know.

missygatv

01-15-2010, 12:40 PM

I'm the oldest.. so that holds with me. However, years ago I was with my only brother and his then girlfriend when they had a fight in front of me and she said something about him wearing her panties... I never did have the rest of that conversation with him....

Paige Valtieri

01-16-2010, 06:44 AM

I am the oldest out of four with two brothers and one sister, but I did spend the majority of my younger years around females (and a lot of teenage girls).

Tisha Ann Ryan

01-16-2010, 11:48 AM

I am the oldest of three brothers. I am also the oldest son, of the oldest son, of the oldest son. And birth order does matter in many families, and is especially true in mine.
Tisha

Terri Semes

01-16-2010, 01:36 PM

I am the oldest of 3.

chris80

01-16-2010, 05:55 PM

I am the oldest of three boys, no sisters.

LucyLuck

01-16-2010, 06:21 PM

I am the youngest of 4 sisters of about 15 years, they had grown up and moved out by the time I came along.

LeeBe

01-16-2010, 08:12 PM

What an interesting read... I am an only child, but I am left handed, so I am not so sure as to where I fit in this puzzle. As for being left handed, I am a strange mix of left and right. Throw left, eat left, cut right as well as bat, golf right. Maybe it makes it easier to button femine tops!!??:)

angelfire

01-17-2010, 12:10 AM

I'm an only child as well. Made things somewhat interesting, I guess you could say.

chinagirl

01-17-2010, 12:24 AM

I'm the oldest boy too - well oldest child because I have a sister and no brothers. I can't help thinking that there can't be a statistically significant link between oldest boys and the probability of crossdressing, but I would like to see a study done. :2c:

Ms Deidre

01-17-2010, 06:25 AM

I am sure somewhere there has been a studydone on thisor thereis an ongoing one. I am the youngest of 4 but having 3 older sisters I would guess I may qualify here as the oldest and only boy.

KarenHiller

01-17-2010, 10:49 AM

Im the oldest boy!!!
I have one younger brother.
Its weird too, because thanks to some genetic head****, Ive always looked more like my mum than my dad.
Same body type, skin type, even down to humour.
Seems our clothing choices have lots in common too eh? :heehee:

Again, I'm the only boys, so I'm also the oldest boy, and while my older sister is physically a lot more like my father, I'm petite and slender like my mother.

I'm the youngest of four.

I can't say I've ever heard that theory. The more common one I've found is the scenario where the boy as a child was consistently surrounded with more female influence than male. I find that holds true for several TG folks I know.

Other than my father, I was always surrounded by women and girls, and I had an aunt I adored who liked to paint my fingernails. Mom never seemed to mind, and as far as I know, never told her to stop.

ILV2DRESS

01-17-2010, 03:05 PM

Well I am the oldest boy but the youngest of 5. 4 older sisters and ME!! I have been dressing since I was little 8 or 9 maybe as long as I can remember..

Tina L.

01-18-2010, 08:15 AM

I am the second of four boys, not sure if my older brother is a cd like me glad that i am though.

Danielle76

01-18-2010, 12:44 PM

Hmmm...interesting. Never heard that before. I'm the youngest of my siblings, so I don't count...

Tallie

01-18-2010, 02:30 PM

I am the older of two boys. I am not sure if my brother CDs but I am beginning to suspect it. Every year he comes up with great Halloween costumes and then sends photos to me. This past year, he was was dressed as a woman. I asked him leading questions that would open the door so that he could tell me if the clothes and wig were his. This is the first year he has not replied about his "costume." I'd be happy if he does CD because we would have more to talk about. :)

vetobob9

01-18-2010, 08:22 PM

cross dressing is genetic in some cases because it runs in families.

Being Paige

01-18-2010, 09:41 PM

I I have an older brother and a twin brother (younger) I'm pretty sure I'm the only cd.

lilithciel

01-18-2010, 10:31 PM

I'm the oldest of three!

~Lilith Ciel~

Janet Bern

01-19-2010, 10:20 AM

Well here I am. Oldest and CD.. go figure
Janet

lauraabdl

01-19-2010, 10:35 AM

Oldest boy of six kids 3 brothers and 2 sisters, boy(me),boy,girl,girl,boy,boy.
Only CDer of the bunch as far as I know.
Laura Lee

WendyH

01-19-2010, 11:00 AM

I'm the oldest of two.

Vickie_CDTV

01-19-2010, 06:12 PM

I haven't read about the older child being more likely to be a crossdresser, but I read years ago somewhere (TG Tapestry I think) that male only children are far more likely to be crossdressers. I have no idea if that is true, but I am an only child and a crossdresser. There is no known history of tg behavior in either side of my family, I am the only one as far as I know.

NoraTV

01-19-2010, 10:22 PM

I am the oldest of 3.

lavistaa62

01-22-2010, 11:10 AM

Well this self-selected subset of the CD community certainly confirms the theory :battingeyelashes:

kellyanne

01-22-2010, 01:47 PM

Hi everybody, I'm new here and was reading something on a website a while back where this guy said that its usually the oldest son out of the kids who is most likely to crossdress. Well, I am the oldest son out of 5 kids in my family. I have 3 sisters and 1 brother, I am the oldest of all 5 kids. I started dressing when I was around 11 years old and still dress to this day. I am now 36 years old and can't seem to stop. I don't remember what website I was on, but I thought it was pretty interesting that he mentioned the oldest son being the most likely. He hit the nail right on the head for me.

Leah
try search terms like : birth order and sexual orientation etc

My searches find most sexuality birth order research is on male homosexuality and
trans-sexualism with little on crossdressing/ transvestism.

There are various schools of thought on the birth order effects on sexual orientation.
Different studies find different things and I would take all of this with metric tonnes of salt.

A common belief was the more older brothers a man had - the greater his probability of being homosexual. Other studies refuted this. Interestingly, little academic interest seems to exist on lesbianism and birth order.

Regardless, the studies that do exist are not controlled ,not scientific, rely on self reporting which can't be substantiated and they have very small numbers . Futher, be sure to look at the date of the study - much of this malarkey is 40 + years old from an era where anything but a wife and a white picket fence was regarded as mental illness - this includes homosexuality,trans-sexuality and transvestism.

Modern medical thinking holds such views to be biased and not based on science.

All this combines to form very,very,very weak scientific conclusions - so please do not think - OMG That's Me ! LOL

Here is a link from the National Library of Medicine, NIH:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1626369/

you can search for others use transvestism, crossdressing etc as search terms

Oh and - I am the baby of the family.

cheers

Loni

01-22-2010, 04:25 PM

i am the oldest "boy"...but not the oldest child. does that count?

my mom only had two kids my sister and me. one year apart.

not to change the thread... but due to "family problems" i am now my moms only son...and daughter:heehee:

great times to be had.

.

ladyboy_jessica

01-22-2010, 05:33 PM

I'm the youngest. I have three older brothers. All of them married, with me being the only single/unmarried one.

Madilyn A.

01-22-2010, 06:16 PM

I am the yougest with an older brother. I had always thought the older son took after the father and the younger son took after the mother. Seemede to work that way for us................Madilyn:daydreaming:

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Marcie4you

01-23-2010, 05:42 AM

I'm the oldest as well, go figure....

kimdl93

01-26-2010, 01:03 PM

not the way I know it. I'm the second youngest son. From what I know of birth studies, gender differences of all kindsare more common with younger male siblings. there's some interesting research on that subject.

AliceXXX

01-28-2010, 12:35 PM

I'm the oldest, this thread should have a poll

Kellie Day

01-29-2010, 07:48 PM

Oldest of two sons.

But there's another variable I'd like to see controlled for. My father was much older than the mean (>50 years) and my sainted mother somewhat older (>35 years). Anecdotal evidence connects these parameters with being gender enhanced.

Anybody else with an older mom and pop here?

jill_cd_girl

01-29-2010, 08:12 PM

I'm in my mid thirties, and I am indeed the oldest child (I have a brother, no sisters)

Jacqui

01-29-2010, 10:23 PM

that nobody will read this...but I have to say it anyway:

Common Sense: When a couple is having their first baby (who will eventually be the only or the oldest), what sex does each one secretly wish for?

As a father of a first born, I was secretly rooting for a boy, so that I could teach him baseball, golf, fishing and other manly activities. (ok, I yield to stereotypical thinking)

I'm not sure and never asked my wife, but I could easily imagine the opposite for a woman hoping to have a daughter as a first child. Yes, I know, "as long as the baby's healthy."

So, I had a daughter. And had I known at the time of birth that she would turn out to be the person she is now, I would have said, "to hell with a son."

I did try to teach her how to play baseball, how to golf, how to fish. And, although she tried and was moderately successful, I didn't push her and I have no regrets.

I can attest that my mother wanted a girl and I sensed this at a very early age. It is supported by pictures in scrapbooks of my early life.

So, in my case, what my mom really wanted, I wasn't.
In my efforts to please my mother, did I finally become the daughter she never had? Maybe not all at once, maybe over time. Maybe like a young child learning a second language more easily than an older child or adult, did I secretly learn/try/want to become what my mother wanted most?

You don't have to answer. But you're right, my answer is, "Yes."

I am the oldest of 3, left-handed, stressed-out, cd-tg-ts? and I think that the scenario I described can contribute to an edge of the oldest boy having a proclivity towards CD.

VtVicky

02-03-2010, 01:01 PM

...someone did read your post. Good points and well said.

I concur with the belief that transvestism, especially the fetishistic type, is more a learned behavior than transgenderism, which I suspect is more of a condition of birth. (As, I believe, is homosexuality.) How we learn it is an interesting question. Some times it is more obvious than others. But, a careful review of ones early years, seen through the prism of "Learning Theory", may give some insight into the etiology of the condition. And, not just to "fix" it. I know where mine came from. And I thoroughly enjoy it and have no interest in changing.

And, yes, I am the oldest of 4.

Hermione Simpson

02-04-2010, 04:15 AM

I'm the youngest of 5, I've got 3 sisters & a brother, & has far as i know, i'm the only one who CD's

gabimartini

02-04-2010, 05:30 AM

I was very intrigued by this theory the first time I read about it. After all, I am also a first-born in my family. Could there be a pattern that helped explain CDing and let us understand a bit more about ouselves?

It got me going all over the place, but unfortunately, I came back empty-handed. I was not able to find credible evidence to back up that theory anywhere, even though empirical data seems to uphold such perception.

One can see that by simply asking around. Take this thread, for example. I went through all 395 posts to date and 222 of the respondents are first-borns (only children excluded). I've done this before in a different forum and results were similar.

Obviously, it doesn't mean that ALL CDs are first-borns, but for some reason there seems to be a weird trend pointing in that direction. I've always taken dressing to come from a genetic pre-disposion in our brains. In my view, that should distribute CDers more equally along the order-of-birth curve.

However, if this theory holds, proving that a majority of CDers are indeed first-borns, could it mean that dressing is psychologically acquired/induced in early childhood? Could it be the combination of genetics and psychology?

Wish there were more research on this.

Lee51964

02-08-2010, 11:22 AM

I am the oldest of three boys

Katie Ellen

02-08-2010, 11:57 AM

Oldest of four. Two brothers, one sister.

Don't know if my mother influenced me to be girlie, but my dad sure did push me to be more boyish. Not sure if this was a reaction to something my mom was doing or if there was something else?

I have no idea what that could be, but I remember over hearing many conversations by adult family and friends. The topic always seemed to be addressing what was best for me. Like I had some "special" condition or something.

Maybe I read more into it than there was, but I'll never know since my parents have been gone for many years.