Getting Older

[ruthie801]

As I get older I find that my urges to be Ruth are getting stronger does anyone else feel the same?

[Joni Marie Cruz]

Joni raises her hand.

Hugs...Joni Mari




As I get older I find that my urges to be Ruth are getting stronger does anyone else feel the same?

[Lorileah]

Yep.

[Deborah Jane]

Yup, me too

[Lisa Golightly]

Well I committed to transition at 38... Does that count?

[Cindy J Angel]

O yes Iam derss now and could not wait for the week end to be over so i could . i just love it

[karynspanties]

Yes, the older I get, the more I want to live as Karyn. I know it will never happen, but the urge is getting stronger.

[TerriM]

When I turned 50 I found the need to dress became even stronger. Now at 60 I feel my wanting to dress is at its highest peak.

Yours Terri

[Annette_boy]

yes I am 24/7 now
Hugs and Kisses

[TommiTN]

In a word, YES! As we age our testosterone production diminishes, leaving our estrogen levels proportionately higher. Add to that a history of dressing plus the stresses of male life (not so say that GG's don't have stress, too) and the ingredients are in place.

[Karren H]

I can't really say for sure.. Yeah I'm older and yeah I'm crossdressing more that in the last 3 decades but the resolution of my unknown medical condition is mostly to blame for the reawaking of my hobby..

So if your telling me that it gets worse that this as I get uber old....... I might as well just sign up for SRS right now!! Lol

[TxKimberly]

Yup

[Joni Marie Cruz]

What Tommi said. As we age testosterone level, which was probably at or near the break even point for girls like us, otherwise why would we have had these feelings all this time, tends to go down and the good stuff takes over. Of course there are so many other factors and variables that figure into it as well. Anyway, never a dull moment.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[Sigrid Cutie]

yes, and now at 34 i'm starting to transition.

[RWillow]

Yup

[Sarah Doepner]

Count me in. I don't get the chance as often as I'd like, but the desire is much closer to the front of my mind now than it has been in the past.

[ruthie801]

Testosterone level !!! funny thing about that my doctor has a thing about it, says that its heathy to have a high reading, so he checks for it in normal blood test. Guess what mine is very high for a man my age. He says it explains my high risk behavior when i was young. He doesn't know about Ruth so what do you think about that Tommi. Can't figure it out.

[Tina Dixon]

OK truth is no, hardly dress at all any more, the needs just not there, am I going to just give it up? No to that also, it's been a part of my life to long now.

[TommiTN]

Testosterone level !!! funny thing about that my doctor has a thing about it, says that its heathy to have a high reading, so he checks for it in normal blood test. Guess what mine is very high for a man my age. He says it explains my high risk behavior when i was young. He doesn't know about Ruth so what do you think about that Tommi. Can't figure it out.

There's always an exception! :doh: But, you have the history working for you.

[Ronah]

Some would say that I am old at 80, but the pleasure of being Ronah gets stronger every year. To the future - whoopee

[denise-x]

In a word, YES! As we age our testosterone production diminishes, leaving our estrogen levels proportionately higher. Add to that a history of dressing plus the stresses of male life (not so say that GG's don't have stress, too) and the ingredients are in place.

What testosterone....heehee

Yep I am a full time femme...:kiss:

[bethw]

Absolutely. And i agree about the testosterone. That and having had my prostate removed(cancer). I guess that makes it even lower. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise I'm alive, 2 years cancer free and very happy.

[Patricia1]

As I get older I find that my urges to be Ruth are getting stronger does anyone else feel the same?


Testosterone level !!! funny thing about that my doctor has a thing about it, says that its heathy to have a high reading, so he checks for it in normal blood test. Guess what mine is very high for a man my age. He says it explains my high risk behavior when i was young. He doesn't know about Ruth so what do you think about that Tommi. Can't figure it out.

Quite frankly, I've been on fire for the last couple of years. Wow, it's hot in here.

I also have a high testosterone level but I also have a high DHEA level (a precursor hormone, which can become T or E, as needed). My body appears to be a battle zone. Love is a battlefield, you know & I'm loving where I'm at.

[Alice B]

Count me in with both hands raised.

[Miranda09]

Yep. That seems to be the trend with me too. :)

[Desiree2bababe]

No, much to my chagrin, the desire to be Desiree seems to be fading.....now perhaps if I had that bod I had when I was 20........

[Denise01]

I am hoping to go full time within a year, hope that answers some of the questions

Denise

[lori m crawford]

i thank that as we git older we have a better look on life an things like being cd-ts an dont have to look like a 20 yr old no more i am 57 an i like dressing as like that i thank at after 40 some yrs you like me you just come to turms with you how you do it is you not what ever body wonts you to be

[kateyliz]

I have no desire to be Ruthie, but Kathy is getting demanding about having her time in charge. Hugs, Kathy

[sissystephanie]

What does getting older mean? IMHO, age is only a state of mind. Therefore, even though my children say I am 77, I believe I am only 37!!:)

Now that my wife has passed away, I spend more time as Stephanie then before. So I will raise my hand (left one, can't put my right one up that high!) and say yes the urge is stronger. No desire to be a woman, just like to dress like one!:love:

Ronah, you go girl!!

:hugs:

[Sharon B.]

Yes, here to often think about in five years of selling out and moving some place warmer and more friendly toward CD's, TV and other transgender individuals. Should that happen then I would like to live it 24/7/365 a year and just throw out anything that would remind me of being for a male.

[Rachel05]

Absolutely, it has sneaked up on me big time recently

[Ralph]

As I get older I find that my urges to be Ruth are getting stronger does anyone else feel the same?
Not at all. In fact, I have *never* had an urge to be Ruth.

ralph

[deborahtg42]

I totally agree, as I get older I find that I am crossdressing more and more whenever I get chance.

I find myself thinking a lot of becoming Deborah * full time and could easily see that in my future, although not 100% certain.

My wife disapproves of crossdressing full stop, so if I went that route it would mean a divorce first before any female hormone treatment.

* as others have said other names, not Ruth though sorry, lol, dont get me wrong it is a nice name

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

As I get older I find that my urges to be Ruth are getting stronger does anyone else feel the same?

Naa. As I get older, I don't find my urges to be Ruth getting stronger. :heehee:

Sorry, couldn't resist. :)

Honestly, yes. In the last several years, I've found my need to express/explore my feminine side become more intense. When I came out to my wife last year, I was literally to the point where I couldn't keep it in anymore. I had to let it out, have it in the open, and BE Gabrielle (in full makeup, etc.) rather than just dress up in private from time to time when my wife was out.

Just last night I was chatting with Mrs. H. and explaining that my long term goal is to be able to be Gabrielle a lot more frequently than I can now. I'm even planning on working a career around being able to dress when I want to... whether or not I can achieve that is another thing, but that is my plan.

I wish I could have been exploring my feminine side YEARS ago!

[linnea]

Definitely--I have felt stronger and stronger desires to dress and spend time as Linnea as I have gotten older. It does not seem to be dissipating either.

[Keely]

That sure fits me.

[charlie]

Hello Ruth!
Yes, I'm 59 and want to be feminine and dressed all the time now. It used to be just right dressing and going out 4 days a month. Not anymore!

[Annie D]

Yes, you can check my name as one whose urge to dress is getting stronger but I think that I am not as inhibited as I was when I was younger plus the fact that I no longer try to be as macho as a male anymore. Maybe it is a drop in testesterone but I really don't care; I'm having too much fun being Annie as much as I can.

[Jacqui]

I can honestly say that my urge to dress was never as strong as it is now, beginning with the big "45" and now staring at the bigger "50." That partly explains why I never told my wife. It was never anywhere near where it is now (back in my 20's-30's early 40's).

Can it be that as we lose our hair, lose our boyish looks, that cd'ing gives us the opportunity, not only to look attractive, but to take 10-15 or more years off our look? For some of us, are we not fooling ourselves when we see a younger, more attractive person staring back in the mirror be-lieing how other people perceive us?

If men had the same options as women do for improving our looks, covering up our deficits, de-aging our appearance, would some of us still have the need to cd?

[Jeannie]

I vote yes. Every year it gets stronger. I am going to retire next year and I plan to be dressed for as long as I can get away with it.


Jeannie

[AmandaM]

I find myself fighting off more depression the older I get. It is stronger, but less sexual. Maybe I need some estrogen for relief.

[BLUE ORCHID]

At 66.5 yrs. just like fine wine it just gets better with age
especialy now that I am retired and the fringe benifits more
time to go shopping and more ORCHID time.
I guess that would be a YES.
.
.................................................. ......thanks............ORCHID

[lari]

Yep Me To

[Aubrey Green]

Absolutely Ruth, for me I have found it much stronger since I am a single emptynester now. Aubrey has always wanted to make herself known, but she is becoming extremely more demanding the last few years. The evil temptress!!! :daydreaming:

[briannad]

sometimes the feeling is overwhelming and I have taken steps but nothing that cannot be overcome (except I will never have a beard)

[Mona]

That's happening to me also. Now I'm awash in the 'good stuff'!

[Chiana]

As I get older, I can't remember. Seriously,CD'ing has been a very strong influence on my life since pre-school. I know I was bolder when I was younger since I did many things then, that I don't have the nerve to do now. The big advantage of older age for me is that I now I have a whole lot more neat fun toys and more opportunity to play with them. So I wind up dressing pretty often now. Virtually every day, as a matter of fact. I think if my situation had been the same 40+ years ago, I am sure I would have dressed everyday then, also.

[Christa001]

Yep,me too:battingeyelashes:

[BillieJoe]

Yes, I do feel that way. I want to experience it all and it seems that time is running out very quickly for me.

[LACD]

Yes the urge gets stronger as I mature. But with work, family etc. the time for me has been very, very limited. Hopefully this weekend I'll have some quality girl time. Anyway, the forum is always here. It'the next best thing. thanks everybody for just being here.

[rickie121x]

So far there has not been a single negative on the urge to crossdress becoming stronger as one gets older. And it is true for me also.

Early in this thread there was a notion here that as testosterone levels decrease, that desire to dress would become stronger. Actually that is disputed in a number of experiences where with androgen and testosterone depressed and with enhanced estrogen levels, that the desire to dress actually decreased. And that was true for me also.

What I read out of this is that we mature, we become less dependant on what others think of us, and so we are able to pursue our inner drives more comfortably, without fearing criticism as strongly as before.

:2c:

[O2B Barbara]

Quite frankly, I've been on fire for the last couple of years. Wow, it's hot in here.


Don't you just hate those hot flashes!

I for one am trying to make up for all the lost time in years past when I purged, denied or jsut didn't understand!

[Lilly 40C]

It's a big yes from me. Can't seem to be girly enough these days.

[Bobbi Em]

I don't know that the urge is getting stronger, but the reasons to not go with it are getting weaker.

My kids are grown & gone. I'm single. Ibsen & Kristofferson wrote "Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose"...I've got lotsa freedom these days, so why not? And I feel fortunate in my singleness now, because I'm basically content, and don't feel the need to settle for any woman who won't love the both of me's.

Bobbi

[Janet Bern]

I agree that as we get older we tend to dress more and become more into our female personna. My guess is that our production of testesterone falls off and the female comes out. Then again we arent macho assholes.
Janet

[Lori Robins]

I do to Ruth, but how does that work coz we are junior members so we can't be old!!!

[Crissy65]

desie increases with time 60 now who knows

[Renae Word]

I to have stronger urges. Although I am now retired and have more time to find out who I really am. The best part is SS doesn't care either.

[susie d]

Seems that way to me, can't do it too much!

[Stephanie Michelle]

Actually I have never had the urge to be Ruth:). But at 52 I am definitely getting stronger urges for Stephanie Michelle.

Stay to to yourself,

Stephanie Michelle

[Susan Dee]

And me.

More often, and for longer.

Susan

Just a minute though - who are you calling old :)

[samanthascd]

Me too. Just doesn't seem to happen as often as I would like it to for one reason or another !!
Luv Samantha.

[JeneeDavis]

Ditto here.

[sherib]

I'm 67, yes I feel the need to dress more often. If I don't have tome to dress I'll wear my low heels, ear rings or something. Just to feel the sensation.

[Joanne Curl]

I have to agree. The older I get, the more I think about being Joanne. I think out my fem side all the time and wish that I could do more to femininize myself when I'm in drab-

[geri-tg.]

My CDing is now a major part of my life.I enjoy it more and it is so very important in making my life as wonderful as it is. I feel blessed.:)

[Jan W]

Tick the 'absolutely yes' box for Janny

[Carly D.]

Not so much to be Ruth.. but to be Carly, yeah, I mean.. it's a freedom feeling to feel like dressing and doing so and feel so ALIVE!! when dressed this way..

[susan fuller]

I dress all the time and want to more and more. Love being in a dress as much as I can. I wake up and put on my bra and panties first thing. Love being a girl and it just gets stronger every day.

[paulaN]

Paula says me too. It started getting worse with age, and it got worse when I got sober 5+ years ago, which put me at 47, now at 52 and divorced 6+ months ago. My desire has really gone through the roof. So age,sober,divorce, I'm in the fog all the time now.

[rickie121x]

I believe that the desire to dress is now wholly included in my life, who I am, and who I would like to be. It used to be that it was something to feel guilty about, to hide, ...to be ashamed of - even though it was a lot of fun!

What an improvement - and it all came free (!) with age. I didn't have to buy anything, subscribe to anything, or go to therapy - it just came along with age.

And I feel so nice inside. I wonder if this gentle and secure feeling happens with everyone, not crossdressers, as they too age?

Anyway, it's a good thing. :daydreaming:

[flacindycd]

The older I get the more I strive to become more passable and femme .

[pattyv]

Definitely stronger from 10 yrs ago, and since I came to this town 2 weeks ago.

[luvlysublisa4u]

urge is definitely stronger with each passing year. in a pleasant coincidence, i get better with the makeup as time goes by....

[Gisele]

Oh HeLL yea.

[Jilmac]

Yes!

[Jan Michell Collins]

I don't feel older when I'm dress maby thats why I dress as often as I can even though I just don't have the time I wish I could devote to JMC as I want !!!!!!!!

[NoraTV]

I think that in my case it is because that, over the years, I am more and more comfortable as a woman.

[Misty is Kindafem]

Ruthie,

You are one hot tamale. Your avatar looks like Meg Ryan.

-Misty

[Lisa Golightly]

It's actually Helen Mirren...

[AmberNation]

yes

[Gina_C]

The older you get the great the urge and the greater the ability to pass hence the confidence which increases the urge..........

[Meg East]

I am now 59 and find myself spending more and more time dressed up. Part is probably a reaction to stress caused by work and health issues. Also, I think I spend less time wishing and more time doing. We ain't getting any younger.

[BeckiB]

Who's getting older? I am pleasantly holding at 39! LOL

[tonya2]

"A lady never tells" but oh yes, stronger erges and more often.


Tonya:daydreaming:

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Absolutely - time is fleeing - the urge is stronger by the day - live as though this could be your last day

JoAnne Wheeler

[SusanCACD]

I dunno why, but heels are much more "normal" for me thses day.

Count that as a yes, me too...

Susan

[Jaclyn NM]

Yes, Ruthie, without a doubt my urges are stronger then ever. Last year I was diagnosed with prostate cancer, which was advanced, so I went ahead and had surgery. Thank God they caught it before it had advanced beyond the prostate, but it was close. That being said, ever since the operation, my desires have increased, and I have given in to them. In fact I confided in my wife of 35 years, and while initially supportive, she has cooled a little. She doesn't like to see me dressed, but is okay with me buying my female clothing, as long as I wear it when she's not home, and I'm okay with that, at least for now. Whether my stronger desire to dress is a result of my age (63) or my recent bout with cancer, who knows. The fact is my desires are strong, and I'm not going to deny them.

[danacd50]

Very definitely yes......

[Jannette H]

Me Too, I wonder what getting older has to do with it ?

[Danielle Gee]

I feel the urges more strongly now, but maybe it's because I've acheived an understanding with my wife. It's really kind of cool when she says "I'm placing an order with the Mary Kay lady....Do you need anything?"

[sami1952]

i notice that too a while back.

[Taylor186]

My desire was very strong in my mid-40s--while closeted. In my early 50s I came out and started going out. But, I have to say my need to dress has decreased (but not disappeared) as I enter my late 50s.

I think I sublimate some of that need by reading/discussing/viewing the many interesting trans resources freely available on the internet.
.

[shayleetv]

My CDing increased when I reired at 62. It seemed I wasn't in control. I blamed it on the fact I had too much time on my hands. Before retiring I worked on the average of about 55 hours a week for my employer. They did'nt appreciate what I had done for them either. All that time I had needed to be filled. The void got filled with pleasure. When it got out of hand my shrink reeled me in and my wife set up some rules, just to steady me and give me some structure. No more kid in the candy shop.

[DanaR]

I'll raise my hand too.

[ssandy]

Ruthie you are beautifull and maybe that is why your fem side is winning...

[docrobbysherry]

I'm a senior, and have NEVER YET wanted to be Ruth!

Now, if u had, " Sherry", THAT'S a different matter entirely!:eek:

[rexy]

yep !!! count me in too !!!:love:

[LA CINDY LOVE]

I started dressing at 45, and now at 50 Cindy is on a roll...I am not sure if my game as gotten better or I am just getting older.......I feel that it is both.

LA CINDY LOVE

[dawnmarrie1961]

As we get older we get wiser. We cast off all those preconceived assumptions about identity that we had been grappling with for so many years and come to terms with ourselves. Call it the our "age of enlightenment"!

Wouldn't it have been wonderful if we could of had this enlightenment years ago? We probably weren't emotionally ready for it then.

[5150 Girl]

I don't know about an increased urge, but, I find myself careing less, and less about what others may think about it.