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Lori Robins
06-11-2009, 08:11 AM
Hiya girls, this is a combination of a few different threads. The main ones that inspired me are the one about wanting to dress more as you get older and the others about coming out to family.
I have the urge to dress more but have less opportunity as I don't have anywhere to get ready. I underdress most days and at night sleep in a nightie. But this is not enough, I want to dress more around the house and get out shopping etc. I used to have a few opportunities when the girls went to their fathers every second weekend but now that has stopped and we have one girl all the time. I have to take time off work now if I want to dress. There has been a few CD club meetings that I have wanted to attend (Friday nights) but have been unable to because the kids are around and I can't get ready. I also can't afford to get a hotel room everytime I want to dress.
I live in a brady bunch relationship with my partners three kids (boy 19 girls 16 and 10). My kids (girl 23 and boy 22) have left home. I have discussed the idea of telling the kids but my wife won't let me. I can understand the implications about the kids not handling it well but I feel it is unfair and a bit of a lose/lose situation. I think my kids have a bit of an idea but it is not talked about.
I get very frustrated at times, but don't want to stuff up my relationship and family life just so I get my own way.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Holly
06-11-2009, 08:37 AM
Perhaps your wife can arrange to take her girls out (shopping? movie?) those evenings you need some time to get ready for your meetings.

LisaM
06-11-2009, 09:16 AM
A number of the CD clubs in the states provide a dressing room for those who can't dress at home----I don't know if your club does the same.

sissy meg
06-11-2009, 09:47 AM
Lisa,

I see you are from the Chicago area. Do you know of any CD clubs in the area?

Thanks,
Meghan

Miranda09
06-11-2009, 12:07 PM
I guess this is were compromise must come into play. I can understand your wife's opinion here with her kids and it's something you'll just have to live with. However, as Holly suggested, maybe she can take the kids out shopping on occasion so you can have some time to yourself to do whatever you want.