Atractions

[Niya W]

How do you girls deal with some that is deeply attracted to you but you have no interest in ?

[Nicki B]

Wearing a wedding ring helps? ;)

[Brina Halloween]

if the person is decent, with patience. If not decent, find some friends to have a talk with the person.

[Staciej]

Say ty but im seeing someone thank you for the intest tho and sorry im not available at this time. Hope you find someone as great as yourself.

[Aubrey Green]

Alot of that has to do with wether it is a casual someone or someone who is close to you. The casual one can be dismissed with with a thank you, but I am not getting involved at this time with anyone. If it is someone close to you and they know of your transitioning, they can be easy to talk with or very difficult. If they are close to you just to maybe start something, they may feel hurt and then you do not know what to expect, probably some anger, which is never fun or good. If it is someone you are close with that respects you for your transitioning, it will be much easier, to say that this change has put alot on your plate and it is not the best time to get involved, and if they are a close friend, they will respect that opinion and remain your friend. Alot of things can go wrong depending of who this person is in your circle, but you have to use tact and honesty in either case.
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[Eriee]

It sucks, and you feel like shit afterwards, but I found out that telling them up-front works the best. I always try to be really nice and understanding... But, it seems when you want friendship, and they want a relationship, and you tell them no, it alienates them. At least in my personal experience.

[kellycan27]

Be kind, but if the person persisits,just tell them matter of factly, that you are in no way shape or form interested. Some peple can take a hint,others have to have a building fall on them. :straightface:

[Diane24]

The guys and gals who were attracted to me over the years changed from my college days to my "mature" days. In college I seemed to attract a lot of attention from gays, both male and female. I mostly turned them off (nicely!) but have had one gay guy who I liked (strictly platonic!) and he pretty much kept the others away. I did finally hook up with a wonderful woman who not only helped me through my SRS and the following recovery time but is my life partner (and someday my spouse).
I think it helps to have someone you more or less are "going with" that will keep others from being attracted to you or "hitting" on you. Of course, some attention is good for the soul!

Love,
Diane.