When you go....

[Gina_C]

My thread is about what happens if you ever fall off the perch (God forgive) and you have not told your SO or your wider family about your CD.
Who is going to discover your stash of clothing etc and how do you expect they might react.
Is this a worry or do you think "if you're gone, you're gone".

[Shikyo]

If I'm gone for good, I can't see how finding a secret stash of anything could really become something to worry about. I'm not there anymore. My family, SO, friends etc. they might be surprised by it, but it's not like they could do anything anymore. What has happened has happened, unless you're planing to come back to life I don't think there is going to be any consequences of having a secret stash like that. They might realize that absolutely everyone has a secret they aren't talking about to other people, what this secret is might never be seen in the daylight.

[Teri Jean]

Gina, I have thought about that for a couple years and started a journal that I keep handy so if something ever happens to me the kids will understand a little better how I came to this life and how much I love being Keli. If they find out beforehand then there is a section of other issues I can never talk to them about.

Keli

[Barbara918]

It's not much of a problem for me. I've outlived most of my family and haven't been in touch with the others for quite some time. Also, my friends and neighbors all know I CD; the only people who don't know are coworkers. At any rate, I plan to be CD'd in the casket.

[Ricki S.]

I don't worry about that, but actually kind of find it sad that they might never know about such a fundamental part of me. I like the idea of a journal and maybe a few photos left behind.

[Georgia Rose]

My wife knows but my kids don't. My worry is not so much when I'm gone but we have a history of dementia in my family so what happens if the old brain is not working properly and I insist I'm a woman and on wearing female clothes, etc. As my wife would say well you won't know cause your convinced your a woman! Bit of a shock for the children, grandchildren etc. though.

[TGMarla]

Well....that would be either one helluva yard sale, or the ladies in the family are going to have some kind of hen fight over my rather too extensive wardrobe! Oh, to be a fly on that wall! :D

As for me, I'll be dead. So I won't really care much about the fallout.

[Carol A]

I don't worry about it as my wife has me covered, now if she passes before me then I will have to rethink the problem. :doh:

[Chrissie P]

I came close already.

I had a heart attack in a town 5 miles from my house. I decided to drive home to "think about it" and stopped at my office (7PM) and ditched my carry on bag in the dumpster. WHILE HAVING A HEART ATTACK. Geez. I never made it home, it was so intense, and the ambulance picked me up at the office.

[TSchapes]

I thought about this even though my wife knew at the time. However, not too many other people did. So if both my wife and I went at the same time and they found my stuff, well I wrote a letter. I posted it on my blog here:

On a Serious Note... The Surprise Letter (http://tracyschapes.blogspot.com/2008/03/on-serious-note-surprise-letter.html)

I still have this letter with my stuff, just in case...

-Tracy

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

My thread is about what happens if you ever fall off the perch (God forgive) and you have not told your SO or your wider family about your CD.
Who is going to discover your stash of clothing etc and how do you expect they might react.
Is this a worry or do you think "if you're gone, you're gone".

I used to worry about this before coming out to my wife. I often considered leaving her some kind of note explaining what she'll find and why, and asking her to only open it in the event of my death. We have enough respect between each other for me to trust her with something like that.

The other thing was I'd be dead. It's not like it would have any long lasting psychological affect on me if she found my stash after I passed. :heehee: I would feel bad for her confusion though.

But I came out to her last year. All is well. She knows all of me, and she loves all of me. When I die, she will miss all of me - the guy, the gal, and everything else I have been to her in our years of marriage. Nothing to discover that she did not already know now.

On a side note, I've asked her to try and hook up with another crossdresser should I pass. Hey - there are enough cd's out there in need to a woman who will love them for who they are and stuck with a woman who only loves half of them. She does enjoy my cding, and would enjoy another's as well (assuming they're otherwise compatible). Hopefully, if I pass before my wife, another cd will find a good, loving relationship with the former Mrs. H. :) Seriously - I'd rather her move on to another cd than a non-cd. She knows that.

[sissystephanie]

My dear wife proceeded me 4 years ago. My daughter knows, my son does not. Guess it will be up to my daughter to explain. I will be in my cozy casket, so won't care at all! Boy, will my sister-in-law have fun with my wardrobe! She is the only one in the family who could wear my things! In fact, she already has taken a few of my clothes thinking they were her sisters! What could I say? "No, you can't take that dress, It is mine, not Jean's!" I think not!!

[Lorileah]

I'll leave a link to here so you all can explain it :) Please be kind and tell them how wonderful I was Thank you

[Samantha43]

I don't worry about it as my wife has me covered, now if she passes before me then I will have to rethink the problem. :doh:

:yt:

[Carly D.]

These entries like this are freaky.. I was just thinking about this very thing again.. this is like the fifth or sixth thread in a row.. like deja vu or something.. anyway yeah, I think of this every now and then.. and today i was doing something and thought what would happen if I just suddenly slipped away as it were.. I fell like I should have an explanation for what they would eventually find in the tote with my clothes in it.. I did have a fifty page document explaining why these clothes were here and all that was relevant to me by way of my writing and sites across the internet.. one day I opened up the file folder that it was in and started to read it and was surprised at how bored I got with reading it.. I then edited it down to five pages and then two months ago shreaded the rest.. I feel like i need something to explain it.. but then there is the feeling that once I'm gone why should I care.. sometimes you don't get a chance to explain everything..

[Sarah Doepner]

I'll leave a link to here so you all can explain it :) Please be kind and tell them how wonderful I was Thank you

I like this. I'll include it with the "serious letter". My bride knows and I don't think my kids will be too surprised if they find out. I've started thinking they might be offended that I didn't share this information with them before I shuffle off this mortal coil. That may be my next job.

[PretzelGirl]

They will find:

Sue's Last Will and Testament

I give all of my dresses to cousin Sara as she will look good in them

I give all of my shoes to my sister Kate as she has great taste in shoes

I give my boobs to my brother John as I have my suspicions

[BeckiB]

Just add a line to your will. Something like " oh and btw I am a crossdresser!". I think that should bring everyone up to speed pretty fast

[Misty is Kindafem]

[QUOTE= Seriously - I'd rather her move on to another cd than a non-cd. She knows that.[/QUOTE]


Such sweetness.

Only the pain we all share can give us compassion like this.

I'm proud to be counted among you ladies.

-Misty