Began the "new life" last nite....

[Sherry-Stephanie]

Well as my other posted informed starting the process of becoming single I went out to one fo the gay clubs last nite since it appears that's the place Stephanie will be heading to...definateley won't be like the biker bars the soon to be "ex" is heading to....

I got there and had the fourtune of meeting one of the main CDers who makes that club her "home base" of sorts....bought her a drink and proceeded to tell her about me starting with the fact that I am also a CDer....we proceeded to hang around (more like took me under her wing) with each other for the rest of the eveing. She introduced me to a number of her friends including some knock out gorgous Tgirls...she made me feel extremely welcomed and comfortable...

She's 6' and with heels she's in the 6-3 6-4 range...and she was in a killer LBD...a hot looking lady to say the least....she gave me a boost of confidence because I'm 5-11 and she looked fine with ehr hight so I think I'll be fine with mine...not a problem of me thinking I'll be standing out like a sore thumb...

She was really good about me asking her a number of questions about her Cding from nails make clothing eetc etc....she's areal hoot as well. So she wanted Stephanie to come up tonight so she is and we're meeting around 8PM there....

This club was anice mix of people...gays bi couples,straights, lesbian etc....and it's on the upscale side as well...not what your 'gay club" concept is...

I met one guy who might be back tonight to meet Stephanie....
So tonight Stephanie is going to have her first real "coming out"...and I suspect it's going to be very enjoyable....

Now all I have to do is decide what to wear..LBD??? Jeans, skirt...?? Oh so many choices for a girl....

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Congratulations - sorry to hear about the end of your marriage - wear a dress - I love dresses more than anything, skirts and sweaters are second - enjoy being a girl.

I love you Sister.

JoAnne Wheeler

[TGMarla]

Happy trails, Steph. I hope it's all good for you. :battingeyelashes:

[Chloe' Buffington]

WTG Stephanie I was in that possisition 2 yrs ago and it worked for me so I just know you will be alright too. your journey has just begun. :love:

[Kathi Lake]

Stephanie,

Allow me to be the overcautious, cup-of-cold-water to the face "old biddy" type which you may not want to hear from right now.

As the late, great Fred Rogers would say, "Hi neighbor, can you say rebound? Sure! I knew you could." :)

One day, you're told that it is over with your wife. The next you're going to a gay bar talking about going back and having an enjoyable "coming out." My advice? Slow down there, turbo!! Right now you are in a very vulnerable emotional state. You're not thinking with your head or your heart. Please excuse me for saying this, but right now it seems you're acting like a guy who is thinking with his b***s only.

If this is truly your wish - if this is truly your path - then it will still be there waiting for you in a few weeks. A month. Give it time and consider all of the possible complications. Filling your life with activity, no matter how much fun it may seem, is not going to replace the grief that you have to work through first.

We're here to talk, lend a shoulder to cry on - whatever you need. Just ask.

Kathi

[immike]

Well as my other posted informed starting the process of becoming single I went out to one fo the gay clubs last nite since it appears that's the place Stephanie will be heading to...definateley won't be like the biker bars the soon to be "ex" is heading to....

I got there and had the fourtune of meeting one of the main CDers who makes that club her "home base" of sorts....bought her a drink and proceeded to tell her about me starting with the fact that I am also a CDer....we proceeded to hang around (more like took me under her wing) with each other for the rest of the eveing. She introduced me to a number of her friends including some knock out gorgous Tgirls...she made me feel extremely welcomed and comfortable...

She's 6' and with heels she's in the 6-3 6-4 range...and she was in a killer LBD...a hot looking lady to say the least....she gave me a boost of confidence because I'm 5-11 and she looked fine with ehr hight so I think I'll be fine with mine...not a problem of me thinking I'll be standing out like a sore thumb...

She was really good about me asking her a number of questions about her Cding from nails make clothing eetc etc....she's areal hoot as well. So she wanted Stephanie to come up tonight so she is and we're meeting around 8PM there....

This club was anice mix of people...gays bi couples,straights, lesbian etc....and it's on the upscale side as well...not what your 'gay club" concept is...

I met one guy who might be back tonight to meet Stephanie....
So tonight Stephanie is going to have her first real "coming out"...and I suspect it's going to be very enjoyable....

Now all I have to do is decide what to wear..LBD??? Jeans, skirt...?? Oh so many choices for a girl....
My 2nd life began about 23 years ago,when I walked into mothers closet&began dressing
in her clothes.For many years,I secretly entered her closet each day,after she went to work&started trying on her dresses&shoes.I got bolder&took a fresh,unopened pkg of
pantyhose out of her drawer&put them on&then began dressing in mothers short mini
skirts,silk blouses,all of her business suits,her short skirtsuits&all of her pantsuits,with a
pair of heels

[Jenny Brown]

Now all I have to do is decide what to wear..LBD??? Jeans, skirt...?? Oh so many choices for a girl....
So Shazzam! Hocus~Pocus! Now you're a "girl" ? Is that how this works?:doh:

[Kathi Lake]

So Shazzam! Hocus~Pocus! Now you're a "girl" ? Is that how this works?:doh:I think she means that now that she is unattached, there is nothing "tying" her to her formerly male role and she can now spend much of her time as a girl.

Kathi

[Sherry-Stephanie]

Kathi...all I mean here is what am I going to wear tonight....how am I going to dress....I am dressing to go to a club...to meet some new people...and they get to see what Stephanie looks like...I will probably be received warmerly than I have with the wife when I do the "well how do I look" thing???? Not sure how I want to dress...jeans skirt or LBD....

Now am I rushing out and thinking with my "ba**s???? Probably not since I don't have a working mojo that goes with them....

All I'm saying is this....I am venturing out into a new envioroment ....and it's probably not going to be the "straight world"...if only because dressing tends not to be classified as a "straight" activity and I don't see many Moose Lodge nites advertised for "Cder's Nite Out"....

Am I looking to engage in any activities sexually or other wise???? Probably not but then again fi it happens so be it....

Am I grieving???? Not happy about this but I'm not crushed by it either....disapointed that what I once thought was a rock solid never can be crushed relationship came down so easy....

But on the other hand I will be getting a few things in return that I've longed for....so now I'm not in grief in this....saddend, wish it didn't have to be this way, but realize it's another person's decision and not mine...

I'm a big boy...been down this road before so I know the bumps...and I've survived several more intense splits before and I think my wife and I will handles this a lot better.....

[Billijo49504]

Best of luck on the new life's highway. And I'm glad you are getting some support from someone..:hugs:...BJ

[Andrea's Lynne]

Good luck and Godspeed, Sherry-Steph!

[debbeelee1]

Life is short Sherry-Stephanie! Follow your heart and enjoy life!

[Starr]

Stephanie, that would not have been Ginger that you ran into last night would it? If so i know the club you were at.. have been there but been a while.

[Sherry-Stephanie]

Starr....Bingo!!!! your the winner...come and collect your prize....

She's a hoot....had a great tiem talking to her....I was going to head back up there to see her tonight and let her meet Stephanie...

But before I went a mile and was out of the neighborhood the wife called me in a total panis and I had to go back to the house...I posted what happen under the Marriage Thread....

So do you know her or jsut know of her????

BTW Starr..welcome to the family....

[Eowyn]

I am so envious of you. I am a recent out of the closet CD. I am now in the process of a divorce after 25 years and it is really tearing me apart. I am in counseling for my "problem" and my counselor makes me feel soooooo good about myself even though I am not a good person. Good luck to you and I hope to meet you someday.
sincerely,
Eowyn






Well as my other posted informed starting the process of becoming single I went out to one fo the gay clubs last nite since it appears that's the place Stephanie will be heading to...definateley won't be like the biker bars the soon to be "ex" is heading to....

I got there and had the fourtune of meeting one of the main CDers who makes that club her "home base" of sorts....bought her a drink and proceeded to tell her about me starting with the fact that I am also a CDer....we proceeded to hang around (more like took me under her wing) with each other for the rest of the eveing. She introduced me to a number of her friends including some knock out gorgous Tgirls...she made me feel extremely welcomed and comfortable...

She's 6' and with heels she's in the 6-3 6-4 range...and she was in a killer LBD...a hot looking lady to say the least....she gave me a boost of confidence because I'm 5-11 and she looked fine with ehr hight so I think I'll be fine with mine...not a problem of me thinking I'll be standing out like a sore thumb...

She was really good about me asking her a number of questions about her Cding from nails make clothing eetc etc....she's areal hoot as well. So she wanted Stephanie to come up tonight so she is and we're meeting around 8PM there....

This club was anice mix of people...gays bi couples,straights, lesbian etc....and it's on the upscale side as well...not what your 'gay club" concept is...

I met one guy who might be back tonight to meet Stephanie....
So tonight Stephanie is going to have her first real "coming out"...and I suspect it's going to be very enjoyable....

Now all I have to do is decide what to wear..LBD??? Jeans, skirt...?? Oh so many choices for a girl....