Are crossdresser more sensitive???

[AKAMichelle]

I have always felt like I was much more in touch with my feelings than most men. I knew that I understand more of the feelings of females. While I still find myself being a jerk at time, I do speak a little Venutian.

Many times during movies I end up crying even though my wife isn't. Last night was no different. We were watching the "Curious Case of Benjamin Buttons". Toward the end of the movie, I had a hard time not crying. Just those little tears not the balling.

Every since my wife has seen the lowT commercials, she has been blaming it on that. I don't feel like that is it at all. I have always felt more sensitive.

Is it the crossdressing or something else? Does anybody else feel like me?

[Alice Torn]

Yes! More sensitive than most of the women i have dated, or known. I can be a jerk at times, too, and way too self absorbed.

[deja true]

Are crossdresser more sensitive???

Gosh! We certainly hope so, don't we?

If you mean more emotional, I think yes prolly!

If you mean more intuitive, I think maybe sometimes!

If you mean better able to match tops and skirts, I dunno!

(I love those not-so-subtle Low-T commercials, (what a hoot!) as if the majority of couch potatoes know exactly what the heck they're referring to. But what happens when the workplace and amateur sporting groups institute mandatory drug testing! LOL!)

"Got Low T?"

[Sarah89]

Depends on what context,
I can say really "insensitive" things that would cause me phyisical harm if I said it in the wrong crowd :p.

Not that I usually mean it , I usually just say insensitive stuff to be controversial, but I digress.

Somtimes I think im over sensitive when it comes to certain subjects, and the complete opposite in other subjects,
but I dont think the over sensitive stuff has anything to do with my crossdressing , It might be , but I doubt it , - thats for me of course, everybody is different.

[Erika_girliegirl]

i find myself to be very sensitive at times:) i find i get my feelings hurt when i shouldn't but i don't mind being femme more:) everyone like my new pictures:)?

[AmandaM]

From being around here, I think it's safe to say, over-sensitive! LOL

[wetlook crossdresser]

Yes I think you are right. I am 57 years old and have never felt better it seems. I am more sensitive now and more intensely involved with expressing my feminine side. My anger and temper of my adolescent life seems to have largely dissipated and instead the rapture, love, and tears of sympathy and joy are stronger. Perhaps its our hormone balance changing with age with less testosterone and more estrogen (I don't do hormone therapy). I suppose the wisdom of age and experience teaches us a lot about ourselves and the people around us, but with this knowledge comes confidence and a feeling to express oneself with less restraint. The chains burdening us from our past fears can rust away with time and we become much more aware and sensitive of our feelings, how we treat others and how other people behave. I celebrate this sensitivity for it makes me understand and appreciate people better and if it is considered a feminine attribute, I am grateful for having it.:D
Cheers!
Chris

[Alaceann]

I find that I cry easly with movies and even when reading somethings.:o

[Mary Jane1]

More sensitive ...or just less macho, or a combination of both and them some.

I do think we are much more aware of the emotional and subtle(for lack of a better word), world around us. As far as beng jerks on occassion, as a group we're probably quicker to recognize and regret it when we are.

It's funny you mention the movies. As I've grown through this whole process - the curiousity. exploring, understanding, etc and finally over the last few years completely accepting and embacing womanhood, I've noticed little things like that. Like you describe - not balling, but tearing up. I never did that before and I'm over 50 now. Don't know why - I guess it's just one of the many emotional releases women seem to find naturally. As I get closer to being that woman, I suspect a lot of emotional taboos like 'men don't cry' are going to surface and be rejected.

You're not alone in these feelings, I feel it too, but I don't know if has to do with crossdressing per se, as much as that feminine part of my gender makeup, and the cd'ing, crying and overall sensitivity are all a result of that feminine influence on my gender.

[Alice B]

I've always been that way. Now I have an excuse.

[AKAMichelle]

Has anyone ever seen that this increased with age? Now at 49 I am more in touch with my feelings, but I don't necessarily think I am more sensitive. Just more aware of it all.

[sissystephanie]

As Alice said, Yes and now we have an excuse! I have always been that way, quick to tear up at tender scenes in movies, etc. My dear late wife used to say it a very charming part of me that really showed my feminine side! I think she was right!!:love:

[Gabrielle Hermosa]

I'm not sure if it's related to crossdressing, but I am very sensitive. Too sensitive. It was something I had to work very hard on evening out in my life.

I've learned ways of dealing with the strong emotions though. There are tricks to shifting the mind out of one mode (or emotion) and into another. Very helpful to an overly sensitive person like me. Wish I could have mastered these tricks when I was en emotional wreck of a teen!

There is good to being very in touch with one's feelings. It helps relate to what others are going through (if difficult times, etc.). I've become a good shoulder to cry on as a result.

It's really too bad that guys are taught to just "suck it up" and "be a man" and "don't you dare cry", etc. I wonder if that's why a lot of men have anger management issues. They hold everything inside and it becomes like a compressed air tank that has been over filled and ready to explode. God forbid men show feelings. That might unravel the fabric of the universe. :rolleyes:

[Teri Jean]

Michelle,
I have been that way as long as I can remember, touchy feelie type of guy. I had asked this question back a year ago and Found the consensus was it has nothing to do with CDing but can make one point in that direction.
As far as the getting more pronounced as we get older I would have to say mine has a little but then for me the years of water under the bridge and the loss of my wife of 34yrs has added to the emotional thing. Can I be "bitchy?", you bet and with the new nails I would be careful, this cat can scratch LOL.
Seriously though we all have a different level of emotional triggers and it does not have anything to do with our life style, wish it did.

Huggs Keli

[Aubrey Green]

I am quick to tear up in either very sad or very happy moments of a movie. I think maybe we are showing our heart, and the fact that sometimes the little things do matter to people.
The ability to keep from having those moments is there, but needs some concentration to keep from welling up. I lost my dad in March, very quickly and unexpectedly to cancer. My mom instructed us to not cry in front of my dad, when visiting. As I watched my dad take his last breath, I wanted to, but did as my mom asked us kids. It was hard, and I had my moment when driving home.
It shows you actually care. :daydreaming:

[MissConstrued]

Are crossdresser more sensitive???

F*ck No!

What I mean to say, of course, is that while I've noticed that some members here are tightly-wound little balls of nerves and emotions, let's not paint everyone with that broad brush. For me, playing girl sometimes is an outlet to balance extreme masculinity. :D And it's just plain fun... why the hell would I want to sit around crying?




Toward the end of the movie, I had a hard time not crying. Just those little tears not the balling.


Who doesn't enjoy a movie with a jolly good balling in it? Or even several ballings? :devil:

[Rebecca Jackson]

I've always been overly sensitive too. I attributed it to being more in touch with both my feminine and masculine sides and not trying to fit the stereotypical macho image. Sometimes I wish I wasn't so sensitive, but I'd rather be too sensitive than not be sensitive enough.

[Miranda09]

Yes...I definitley feel I'm more sensitive than the average male. From what I have read so far here, I think many of you feel the same way in some manner or other. For me, why this is so has always been a mystery. Other than growing up in a house full of women, with no father around, I always wondered if it is more about chemistry and biology than sociology. Don't know yet.

[Joni Marie Cruz]

You betcher sweet tushie I am! And I'll kick anybody's butt who says I'm not. So there.

Hugs...Joni Mari

[linnea]

Although sensitivity seems to be a common attribute of women, it is certainly not their exclusive domain, and I don't think that it is gender-specific. Our culture has encouraged expressions of sensitivity in women much more than in men. I think that, for the most part, it is learned.

[VeronicaMoonlit]

F*ck No!

What I mean to say, of course, is that while I've noticed that some members here are tightly-wound little balls of nerves and emotions, let's not paint everyone with that broad brush.

Quite true.


why the hell would I want to sit around crying?

From one tightly-wo8und little ball of nerves and emotions, you don't that's for sure. :-)

Veronica
Rondelle (Ron) Rogers Jr.

[SusanCACD]

I have always been more sensitive than my brothers, in just in the last few years I don't hate myself for it.

Susan

[Alana65]

I don't think it's necessarily BECAUSE of the CDing, but I do think that I've always more "in touch" with my feminine-side than most males. And as far as sad movies are concerned, no matter how many times I've watched GHOST with Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze........I'm ALWAYS in tears at the end. :cry:

And recently I'd recanted a story to a friend about a dog we had in our family for almost 15 years.......we had to put her down because of cancer that had progressed too quickly to save her. I got all teary-eyed before then end of the story.......and she (the dog) has been gone for more than 11 years.

[Jaclyn NM]

Who knows, but maybe we are more sensitive, and if so, what's wrong with that. I know I have always been emotional, and for many years tried to hide it to protect my "masculinity", what a joke! Recently my father-in-law passed away, and I was one of the pall bearers. Well I'll tell you, that I brought three hankies, and used all of them, and it doesn't bother me a bit. In fact most of the female attendees were with me, and we were consoling each other. And again I say, what's wrong with that! We felt sorrow, we expressed it, and we comforted each other. It seems to me that if there was more of that going on by everyone (male or female), this world would be a much better place.

[docrobbysherry]

Altho I WISH CDing made me more sensitive, it doesn't!:sad:

I'm STILL an insensitive jerk! Dressed or not!:Angry3:

And I've been crying during the HAPPY moments in movies ever since I can remember. AT LEAST 50 years before I even THOT ABOUT CDing!:eek:

I don't consider crying "sensitive", just mushy!:brolleyes:

[Sarah Doepner]

My wife thinks I am. However, there are more times when I am oblivious to the most apparent needs of others, or even become a complete jerk. It comes and goes, and when I dress en femme I pay more attention to how I behave. That usually makes me a bit more sensitive.

[Gina_C]

Like many posts I cry at movies, not just at the sad bits but also at the happy endings, beautiful photography, beautiful soundtrack etc. It doesn't have to be at movies either, a kind gesture for example can do it also.

I am sure my SO notices. There's only so many times you can blame it on hay fever.

It does appear that age has made me more sensitive, or perhaps it is life's experiences.

[DanaR]

I've always been very sensitive, my daughter says I'm more sensitive than anyone she knows. I regularly cry at movies, and I almost cried at my granddaughter 6th grade graduation today. It doesn't seem to matter whether it is sad or happy, I'll cry.

[Sheila]

nope not in my opinion, it is the person not what they do that makes them kind,caring, sensitive, understanding or an .....A$$hole ..... and that goes for either sex gender ..... but like I say just my :2c:

[Lisa Golightly]

Some are and some aren't... and I've met an awful lot of them. Some are even quite misogynistic... Go figure!?!

[izzfan]

I can be very sensitive, too sensitive at times . It's just a shame that I hardly ever show it when I'm in "bob mode".

[Pattie O]

Ditto Chris!

Well said

Pattie:daydreaming::battingeyelashes:

[Marisa_M]

Absolutely yes.
Since we have more feminine features than the average men is natural that we could be more sensitive like most of the women are.

[AllieSummers]

I don't think you are more sensitve because you are a CD. You are a CD because you are more sensitive. :)

That obviously isn't completely true but I believe I am a CD because I wasn't exposed to enough testosterone or someting in the womb. That makes me have a fem side or fem tendencies. I ended up expressing my fem side through crossdressing.

I believe gender isn't quite that black and white, male and female. There are masculine to feminine men and feminine to masculine women. You are probably a very feminine man that is sensitive. Your wife can be a more masuline woman that isn't quite as sensitive. Just because she might be more masculine doesn't mean she is butch or anything like that. Just might not be quite as fem as you are (inside).

That's just my thought...

Kisses,

Allie

[Miranda09]

I totally agree with that assessment Allie.

[KarenCDFL]

For me the answer is def a big YES! My wife tells me that is one of the many reasons she loves having a husband that is a crossdresser!

[Rachel05]

Well i certainly relate to my girl friends much better than most of the "blokes" I know and a lot of my girl friends (and I do mean friends, not partners) are more than willing to share and chat over pretty much anything with me and none of them know my secret, I don't think they do

So maybe I am more sensitive than a lot that I know!

[Mona]

I have been more sensitive than what seems to be normal since I was a child, coworkers even noticed. I'm not sure it's because I'm a CD or that it is connected other than I am drawn to beauty and feel strong emotions when love or sadness happens.

[LA CINDY LOVE]

SENSITIVE........ARE YOU KIDDING ME YOU. you all should read what we Cd's said about the Passing of Michael Jackson in the media forum......it was disgusting....and I am glad it is close.

You would think that we as Cd's would be more understanding of others....but we are not, lets take a look at another thread that was close call "the worst CD" someone thought it was fun to dump on another CD.......but that is what we do eat our own.

Looks take a look at some of the things that Cd's have said about GG in some of our post " that they are jealous and need to get over it", "they feel threaten by us Cd's" and "it dose not take much to out dress a woman today" and I am sure I left some out.

You would really think that we as Cd's would show more acceptance and understanding
of others......but when given the changes we Cd's can be none acceptance and none understanding just like those who do it to us.....in others words we are no better then those who dump on us and put us down for being crossdressers.

LA CINDY LOVE

[dawnmarrie1961]

Michelle, those feelings of sensitivity were there all along, even when you aren't cross dressing. They aren't male or female. Sensitivity is not just a gender trait although it is often mistaken for one. This is because of the Marlboro man persona that so many men are forced, but society, to emulate. In other words "Guys aren't allowed to feel anything." unless it is of a sexual nature.

Most woman feel that sensitivity is strength not a weakness in men.

[suchacutie]

My sign is cancer (my b'day today) and I'm supposed to be "sensitive", and I've sure fought that all my live, astrological sign or not. I'm probably too sensitive and sometimes don't put my priorities first as much as I should...

nonetheless...

the whole point of our approach is trying to be a part of the other gender, and that requires us to listen and pay attention to what they are saying and doing. Most would say that alone is being "sensitive" but I would us the word "empathetic". We are trying to understand thought and actions and motive...which comes across, rightfully so, as empathy.

which came first? I think they just go hand in hand!

tina

[Deborah G]

I have worked for male bosses who were more sensitive and understanding than the female counterparts (No, I have no knowledge of whether or not the males were CD's). With that said, I believe it is has more to due with how confident or comfortable one is with who they are personally than with strict male/female or CD.

[boy2girl31]

Just the fact that we know what women go through to look good, I believe makes us more sensitive than "normal" men. Personally I think that I have liked "becoming" a girl for so long that I tend to think like one and therefore am almost as sensitive as the "average" woman.

[Linda Laman]

Of course we are more sensitive. That's why we are CDs.

[VeronicaMoonlit]

Of course we are more sensitive. That's why we are CDs.

<stifles laugh>

Are you sure about that? There are CD's here don't seem to care about much other than how full of sexy sexyness they feel in their sexily sexy whatever, and don't seem to be in any hurry to tell their SO. There are others that where their wifes stuff...without her permission. There's plenty of non-sensitive behavior here, even from those who claim their CDing makes them more sensitive, and I'm not holding myself up as paragon of "girly sensitivity" either.

It doesn't take long to figure out who's really "empathic, sensitive and nice" and who's just playing the usual games of trannies trying to one up each other on "who's the girliest of the gurls"

Veronica
Rondelle (Ron) Rogers Jr.

[MissConstrued]

<stifles laugh>

No need to stifle.... It's a crock of scours. At least I admit it. If wearing makeup made me less of a jerk, you could bet makeup on men would be all the rage in the feminist magazines. :daydreaming:




those who claim their CDing makes them more sensitive

Mmm, well, wearing a bra too long does make my nipples a little sensitive....




usual games of trannies trying to one up each other on "who's the girliest of the gurls"



Perhaps the most ironic penis waving contest of all.

Tee-hee! Giggle! Fail.

[Tamara Croft]

Are CD's more sensitive? this has to be an oxymoron right? more like... self centered and vain... (not all, but a lot!)

[Honeygirl]

I notice I apologise to people alot for example; if I bump into someone in the store even if it is their fault. I am very aware of other's selfishness and I am definately senistive to that! We went out for a work's dinner and the bill came to me and another to work out, I noticed three people who had eaten three courses and drank accordingly, but at the end of the evening got very coy about putting their hand into their wallets/purses. One person even put in less than they should have and then....had the nerve to take more money back!

This may not be the same thing as what was originally intended in this thread but in man-mode I would have not worried too much about anything, but in 'femme' I was seething! LOL:heehee:

I feel many of the same feelings as above posts, but this is also one slightly different way I feel sensitve as a girl.

[leotard fan]

i can just talk about me: i´m more sensitive and intuitive than the other men or some women. but not so emocional.