CD Regression

[Misty G]

A few years ago I was out and about on a regular basis. Going out dressed, shopping, to dinner, dancing, etc. Then my wife and I moved to Raleigh, NC. where I dressed at home all the time but very rarely got to go out. Due to my parents age and health we moved back to nowhere Alabama, where I only get to completely dress on rare occasions. I under dress everyday but to me that don't count. Seems like I am going backwards and miss going out.

Is there anyone else in this position if so what did you do about it

[Alexandria9919]

Yes I am in the same boat. I had just come out to my wife about my crossdressing. She had accepted it and even bought me a few things. She dressed me up a couple of times. I was so excited I just couldnt stand it. But then my step daughter and grandson moved in. I dont never get to dress anymore expect for my under garments. And again I feel like I have to hide it. Even with my wife cause she dont like the idea of me dressing with them in the other room:sad:
I have really havent done anything about it so I cant really answer your question as what to do but I do know how you feel

[Deidra Cowen]

I went through something simular. For about three years I was totally free to dress and do as I want. Went out all the time and frankly I lived as a chick from Friday afternoon till Sunday night! Being in a big liberal city like Atlanta the neighbors really did not pay too close attention and I just came and went as I pleased.

Anyway my kids moved back in with me from my Ex's house. My son did not know I was a CD so I went for like 6 months just dressing once a month or when I could due to the kids both being gone that night. I really got depressed and it showed me what the girls that are not free due to marrage, kids, small town, etc go through.

Anyway finally I told my son and he is fine with me dressing, like I said my daughter had known for a while. So now I dressup when I want to, mainly Saturday nights. I don't go all weekend like I used to since they have friends over and I have to be Dad! So it worked out in the long run.

Then in a couple of years both will be off to college and I might go back to those wild days of dressing all the time...well at least weekends.

[Julogden]

Yeah, not too different from my story, except I'm now free to dress again, but can't seem to get back into it like back in the old days.

I was a member of the Chicago chapter of Tri-Ess going back to the mid-1970's but didn't attend meetings until 1985 when I moved into the city of Chicago. I began attending meetings regularly at that time, and became more and more active with going out, and in 1992, I moved to a new apartment where getting in and out was easy, and I went nuts for a few years, was a member of the Chicago Gender Society too, which met right near my place, went to lots of functions, plus I was out at bars at least once a week, usually more, sometimes as much as 4 or 5 nights a week. I was having a great time.

Then around 1997, my father's health began declining, and I began spending more and more time at his place, the house where I grew up, helping him with stuff and just keeping an eye on him, as he got frail fast, heart problems. He kept getting worse, and I was spending more time at his place than at mine, so in spring of 2000, I moved back in with him, and my gender-related stuff was boxed up and I did my best to put that part of my life out of mind, as my dad needed my help full-time then, as he had been diagnosed with lung cancer on top of the heart problems. My only contact with the community was on-line forums for a long time.

He made it to age 90, passed in spring of 2004, at which time I was then free to dress again, but my health was not the best, never felt very good (still don't), dealing with depression, and had gained a lot of weight, so most of my clothes didn't fit any more, plus the experience of watching my dad slowly slip away had aged me in mind and body.

Since then, I've tried to get back to where I was mentally before my dad's health problems began, but I've failed so far. Dressing fully, i.e. makeup and wig, is a rare thing for me now, haven't done that in well over a year. I'll still wear the clothes that fit, around the house anyway, but haven't been to the local support group meeting since 2007, if I remember correctly.

Still trying to get myself worked out, but it's so hard to do.

Carol

[TommiTN]

I'm in a similar situation living in a small town in Tennessee. I don't go out here because most of the folks just wouldn't understand, bless their hearts. So I joined a support group in Atlanta to be with other girls and get out and about. It's only once a month but it sure beats being stuck in the closet. The group has several members from Alabama who are good friends of mine. My suggestion is to find a support group that will afford opportunities for you to let your inner girl out regularly.