In Touch

[JoAnne Wheeler]

Yesterday, I went to Church and Sunday School - I wore one of my favorite pink shirts with a white tie that has pink and lavender on it - in Sunday School, two of my favorite GGs came up to me and told me that I really looked good in pink and that they thought that was my real color (that I looked best wearing pink)

Then they said, It's good to see that you are really in touch with your feminine side. I then told them, I am in touch a whole lot more than you can imagine.

What do you think ?

JoAnne Wheeler

[TGMarla]

I think the assumption that a man wearing pastel colors means he's in touch with his feminine side is a textbook example of how screwed up society is with it's gender biases. Men should be allowed to wear whatever they want, and in any color they want. Women can; no one says boo about it. But men have painted themselves into a macho corner, and as a result, if you go around in a pink shirt, everyone assumes you're in touch with your feminine side. Ridiculous!

On the other hand, you are in touch with your feminine side, and you wore those colors because of this. So I guess I'm full of beans.

[vivianann]

Tell them that you will meet them for lunch or dinner at a restaurant, and show up to meet them at the restaurant while dressed enfemme. I did that and it was a wonderful experience, and now I meet with the church ladies occasionally for dinner at a local restaurant when I am dressed enfemme. The ladies just love Vivian.

[Annie D]

If you really said that you are more feminine than you can imagine, you have opened the door to questions on their part. If I were you, I might go out and purchase another shirt in another pastel color like lilac or peach and coordinate the tie as well. Then see if they compliment your choices again. If they do, reinforce your original statements of "more than you can imagine" with perhaps something like, "privately, I feel more relaxed in a much less than masculine mode/color" or something like, "I love these more feminine colors, I would love it if the three of us went shopping to find some alternative styles and colors for me?" This might lead in a direction of more acceptance.

Additionally, you might purchase something of a more feminine nature and bring it to church with you and then privately ask them if this top would be appropriate to wear to church. If they said yes, wear it....if they said no, then don't but at least they would better get to know who you are.

Let us know what you decide or plan on doing.

Good luck!

[Kimmy55]

Personally I think you did the right thing.I would slowly keep pushing the envelope so to speak.

[nancyish]

I was crying at my mother's funeral and somebody said i was in touch with my feminine side.Have men done this to us ,or women,not to blame anyone but what does grief have to do with gender?.

[gennee]

That's wonderful of them to compliment you on your taste. I'm sure that you were floating on air.

Gennee
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I think the assumption that a man wearing pastel colors means he's in touch with his feminine side is a textbook example of how screwed up society is with it's gender biases. Men should be allowed to wear whatever they want, and in any color they want. Women can; no one says boo about it. But men have painted themselves into a macho corner, and as a result, if you go around in a pink shirt, everyone assumes you're in touch with your feminine side. Ridiculous!

On the other hand, you are in touch with your feminine side, and you wore those colors because of this. So I guess I'm full of beans.

I agree with you, Marla. I wear pink shirts and I love purple also. I never had a phobia about such things.

Gennee


Yesterday, I went to Church and Sunday School - I wore one of my favorite pink shirts with a white tie that has pink and lavender on it - in Sunday School, two of my favorite GGs came up to me and told me that I really looked good in pink and that they thought that was my real color (that I looked best wearing pink)

Then they said, It's good to see that you are really in touch with your feminine side. I then told them, I am in touch a whole lot more than you can imagine.

What do you think ?

JoAnne Wheeler

I would attend church dressed but my wife won't go that far. She is accepting up to a point (better than nothing). When I visited another church (usually empty during mid-week) I stopped in to pray. I was wearing a skirt and blouse. I felt that I was being my real self and not a phony.

Gennee

[Tamara Croft]

I was crying at my mother's funeral and somebody said i was in touch with my feminine side.Have men done this to us ,or women,not to blame anyone but what does grief have to do with gender?.What's being in touch with your feminine side got to do with crying because your mother died? seriously... :rolleyes: You would be rather cold hearted if you didn't, men DO cry you know, has nothing to do with being feminine, it's called having feelings... jeez...

[Danielle Gee]

I'd smile and take the compliment as it was intended....In good faith!!